Can you fall in love with someone without having ever talked?
Q. Can you fall in love with someone without ever having talked to them? I am in this date site. But I am not a gold member. So I can't talk to anyone, just when gold member contact me if I like their profile I can answer. I can get over hundreds em...
A. 3 August 2013: That's what we call a "crush" here in the United States. It's also known as infatuation. No, you can't fall in love with someone you don't know - not even unrequited love - but you can certainly be intrigued by him. The language barrier and ... (read in full...)
Girls, how long do you want your guys to last in bed?
Q. How long do you want your guys to last in bed, girls? How long have your guys lasted? What's the record? Tell us about it. How long is too long and how short is too short during sex??? ...
A. 2 August 2013: Person1235 nailed this answer.
And honestly, who's looking at the clock during a romp?... (read in full...)
What can a guy do to sexually attract a woman?
Q. What can a guy do to SEXUALLY attract a woman, be it a friend, girlfriend or spouse? I mean what can he do to get a sexual spark in her, to get her mind thinking or wanting, even subconsciously, to do something sexual with him? It's easy for ...
A. 2 August 2013: Aside from just being a sexy-looking guy, you mean? Because honestly, if I think a guy is really hot, then I'm going to find the majority of what he does sexy.
Touching helps. It can be especially enticing when a guy's hand grazes my lower ba... (read in full...)
Is there a "polite" way to find and pursue casual sex?
Q. I'm not sure what this community thinks of "casual sex", but let me start by clarifying about myself. I'm a 28 year old guy, never had sex, never had a girlfriend, never gotten anywhere with a woman. What I always REALLY want(ed) was to find a ...
A. 2 August 2013: Why you can't you find a "proper" relationship? I only ask because the same things that are inhibiting you from accomplishing that are going to be the same things that inhibit you from casual relationships. Unless you go on a dating site, maybe.
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I ended the relationship because she wasn't ready to have sex, now I feel that I was an idiot.
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago. The reason for it was that she was a virgin and did not feel ready for sex. At first I did not think this was a problem but after four months I was starting to get frustrated, although I did not show ...
A. 2 August 2013: I think you made the right decision. Now she can find someone who is a little more patient with her reservations, and you can find someone who is ready to get intimate as soon as you are. Sounds like a win for both of you, as far as I can tell.... (read in full...)
My ex was rotten to me so why do I only remember the good times?
Q. So it's been three months since my ex dumped me. He's quick-tempered and abusive and never respected me while we're with his friends. We had no contact after we broke up. But every month he would call or write me messages and asked me to call him ...
A. 1 August 2013: Because you miss being in a relationship.
You need to block him completely out of your life. It'll make moving on so much easier.... (read in full...)
I lost my friend to a girl, now they're fighting. Are they likely to break up or patch things up? I want my friend back.
Q. Basically I'm just asking when couples start having arguments to the point where they think about breaking up, does that mean they are likely yto break up or will putting wrong to right make them stronger than ever then make them work? I'm askin...
A. 1 August 2013: Sorry, bud, but your friend already chose this girl over you. There really isn't much you can do about that.
I'd make more of an effort when you two run into each other to try to get things back to how they used to be. Joke around, ask him how ... (read in full...)
My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off
Q. My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...
A. 1 August 2013: I disagree with anyone who says women aren't as visual as men. The thing is, though, that every woman likes something different. There are plenty of women who like guys who are a little squishy.
You won't know until you approach them. If a woman ... (read in full...)
I've known so many men who don't look at other women, so why have I been unable to find one for myself?
Q. I have a curiousity that's been on my mind for awhile now. I've heard it said many times and read on here and other websites all men look at other women even if they are happy with their partners, it's in their genes, they are visual. You name it. ...
A. 1 August 2013: Maybe it's just the type of men you go for.
Also, just because you don't see a man staring at another woman, it doesn't mean that he didn't notice her and isn't having mental images of her go through his mind.
In any case, unless the guy i... (read in full...)
I have amazing chemistry with this girl but she won't break up with her new boyfriend. Is she just leading me on?
Q. I met a girl on odd string of events. I went out on the porch of my friends house that i now have taken up residence to chill with him while he smoked. Well i looked across the street to the house directly across and saw this cute girl i had noticed ...
A. 1 August 2013: I think the better question is why are you pursuing someone who told you that she has a boyfriend? That's a little disrespectful, don't you think? I mean, imagine that it was you who was the boyfriend and this other guy in your position. How would ... (read in full...)
How much does fat matter during sex?
Q. So! I'm going to fool around with a really good guy friend this Friday, problem is he is super skinny and I've got about 30lbs on this guy. We are of the same height. I always wear baggy clothes (I have an eating disorder and I've always been ...
A. 1 August 2013: I'd wait until your confidence is higher, unless you think you can rock it without inhibitions as you are now. If that's the case, go for it!
P.S. Stop wearing baggy clothes. People know that you're hiding fat when you dress like that. Plus, it... (read in full...)
I've tried to move on with other girls but I still love my ex!
Q. To make a long story short, I cant seem to clear my head about my ex when we broke up 2 years ago, Shes gorgeous and so attractive but its been my biggest mistake of my life, My problem is that i keep trying to make her my girlfriend again, She ...
A. 1 August 2013: Are you really between aged 36-40 and a junior in college? Not judging you if you are, but that would suggest that this girl is significantly younger than you and she's probably trying to find her way in the world as a new adult.
Hones... (read in full...)
After a night of passion he told me he isn't looking for a relationship but wants to continue meeting up for sex. I was embarrassed and hurt so I liead and said I wanted the same thing but I don't.
Q. I had a night of passion with a regular in the bar where i work. He is very nice and i really liked him. Then i met him again twice more. Im so embarassed because he said to me this morning that he hopes i dont expect anyting from him as he doesnt ...
A. 30 July 2013: How do you get your pride back? By keeping it moving.
Don't linger with this guy. Keep your head, and go on to the next one.... (read in full...)
I feel jealous because this guy gets a girl who is a virgin even though he probably is not one.
Q. This question might sound childish but it has been on my mind for quite sometime. I was dating this girl for awhile and found out she is a virgin. Now that is not the problem because I am one too but about a month ago I found out she was actually ...
A. 30 July 2013: You're entitled to like what you like.
As for how we women feel, it varies. I can't answer for every woman in the world or even just in the United States.
I personally never placed much value on my own virginity when I still had it. In fact,... (read in full...)
What does it mean if your ex continues to wear something you gave them after you've broken up?
Q. If someone you were once with still wears something you gave them when you were together ands still wears it after you aren't. Do you think they wear it because it's a reminder of you or because it's from you, or do you think they don't think ...
A. 30 July 2013: I wear jewelry, dresses, and designer sunglasses given to me by exes because I love the apparel and don't hate those exes.
The things given to me by the exes I strongly dislike, however, are locked away in boxes full of sh*t that I really ought to... (read in full...)
Does anal bleaching cost alot of money?
Q. Hi this is for men and women to answer... I know other women have this.. Dark brown round their bum hole. I think mine is a bad case. Can men see this when having sex with a woman, does it put them off? Obviously it would have to be specific p...
A. 30 July 2013: Most men don't obsess over these little things about our bodies, despite being visual creatures.
As for the cost and all that:
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=anal+bleaching+uk... (read in full...)
Do I stay with someone I am no longer in love with because its a safe option and convenient?
Q. Hi everyone, any advice given would be greatly appreciated. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 7 months, we got together at the young age of 17. The relationship was obviously a teenage fling at first but now we've grown into our adult y...
A. 30 July 2013: You know, there's nothing wrong with being single. And you're young enough that you have plenty of time before settling down and having kids.
That said, I hope that you know that no long-term relationship is going to feel magical and give you butt... (read in full...)
My friend is trying to get pregnant on purpose. Her b/f doesn't have a clue..do I tell him?
Q. My friends from school (lets call them sarah and matt to make it easier) have been with eachother for 9 years and from what I can see, their relationship is on the rocks. ? sarah confided in me last night that she has stopped taking her ...
A. 30 July 2013: Do you know any of Matt's friends? If so, I would broach the subject with one of his friends so that they can have a man-to-man/friend-to-friend conversation about it. Matt definitely needs to know, but I understand you not feeling comfortable ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has pictures of her ex in the apartment even though I have asked her more than once to take them down
Q. Ok so my girlfriend of 3 months got an apartment about just over a month ago and she put up pictures of her and her 2 year old daughter around her apartment and asked what I thought about them. I noticed a couple pics up in her room of her daughter ...
A. 29 July 2013: So, it's just pictures of her, her daughter, and one of her ex? Are you sure there aren't pictures of her other friends around as well? Because if she's friends with her ex, then I don't think it's that big of deal. Especially if they were together ... (read in full...)
My new girlfriend is very attractive and it makes me feel insecure
Q. Hi I'm a 24 year old guy seeing a girl of the same age. I fairly recently got out of a 3 year relationship which didn't work and am now seeing this new girl. This is going to sound like a strange issue but here goes... She is really good look...
A. 29 July 2013: Is the only sign that she may be insecure/have some underlying issue that she is dating you? If so, you need to stop questioning the situation. She chose to date you because she likes you. End of story. If there are other signs that she may hav... (read in full...)
What is nervous porn?
Q. Hi I'm in a six month relationship with a great guywho I recently saw has masses of nervous porn deleted from his pc in his recycle bin. He's 45 and I'm just wondering what this is? I haven't restored these files. Im worried because I have a teen ...
A. 29 July 2013: I honestly wouldn't worry about it. There are all kinds of kinky, bizarre, or sometimes down-right disturbing porn genres out there watched by all kinds of people. It's all just fantasy, and that fantasy rarely translates to something a person would ... (read in full...)
I met a guy on Facebook, we spoke and he seemed really interested, now he seems to have gone cold
Q. I met a guy in Facebook two weeks ago. I sent him a friend request and he accepted me. he sent me a message after he accepted my request." Hello I just want to say hi you are beautiful" and I responded to him saying hi and we kept chatting. after we ...
A. 29 July 2013: How about you meet in person?
If he doesn't want to meet in person, then you can be pretty sure that this "relationship" isn't going anywhere and it's time to start looking for love elsewhere. Preferably not Facebook since it's not really meant to... (read in full...)
We break up, make up and then he wants to break up again
Q. Ok my bf of about a year and I have been going thru things. First off he really tried to break up with me ON our 1 year anniversary OVER THE PHONE I could not help but cry and plead for him (which I know was all based on instant emotions). We ...
A. 26 July 2013: "Sorry, but how many more anvils will he have to drop on your head before you get it? He doesn't want you."
Well said, anonymous male reader.
When a relationship gets to be hot/cold like yours, it's the biggest, brightest, most obvious red flag... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian if I watch lesbian porn?
Q. i have been married for 20 years now. i find that i now like to masturbate watching lesbian porn. i especially like seeing another woman licking another woman's pantiei. when my husband and i watch lesbian porn together I want him to give me ...
A. 26 July 2013: Nope.
You can do a quick search online to find articles that will give you an idea of what your favorite kind of porn says about you. If I recall correctly, being into lesbian porn as a straight woman has something to do with craving sensuali... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me at first that he had kids even though I specified I didn't want to date someone with kids. Now what?
Q. Well I met my boyfriend online over a month ago. I specifically said I don't want someone with kids. I was seeing him for about 2 weeks when we decided to make it official then he told me he has 2 kids. I let it go because at the time I thought I ...
A. 26 July 2013: I think some of these agony aunts are being a bit severe here, calling the guy a big ol' liar and such.
I agree that the worst problem here isn't that this guy has kids. To me, what's most disturbing is that you think you're in love with someone ... (read in full...)
How do I resolve my feelings about my sexuality? Should I wait until I have my first crush on a girl?
Q. I think im bi. Not completely positive, but i will see another girl sometimes and be totally turned on. Like girls my age. i KNOW i like boys though. but i dont know how to tell my parents or anything. its so wierd. I dont really know what im asking ...
A. 26 July 2013: I'd argue that the majority of teenagers, especially girls, think that they're bisexual at some point.
There's no need to announce anything. Just ride it out. If, when you're a few years older, you legitimately want to be in a relation... (read in full...)
Is my Ex sleeping with his family that's why he can't be in a real relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid , I love my ex with all that I am made of but we went our own ways do to a lot of cheating ,fighting,and arguring.But there is one thing that I am very puzzled about I don't want to think like this but I believe his entire family ...
A. 25 July 2013: Why would you knowingly accept dysfunction into your life? You and this guy already broke up once, there's really no need to try it again.... (read in full...)
Why is it that girls who have poor self-esteem sometimes deliberately sabotage a relationship
Q. This question is about situations I've been in, but it's generic enough that it applies to a lot of situations. Why is it that girls who have poor self-esteem sometimes deliberately sabotage a relationship or do things "on purpose" to make...
A. 25 July 2013: Guys with low self-esteem do this, too.
It's because people who don't feel too good about themselves are often stuck in a cycle of self-defeating behaviors that perpetuate their low self-esteem.
There isn't much you can do about it; they h... (read in full...)
He says he can't marry me because of his parents but we are intimate. Should I stop this?
Q. Well I don't know from where do I start. I'm in a very difficult condition to be understood by anyone. My story has started one year back when I kissed him for the first time. It's not that I haven't kissed any guy before him but with him something ...
A. 25 July 2013: You want to get married. He's already that stated that he won't marry you because he puts his religious values above his romantic feelings for you.
End it because as things are now you're just wasting your time clinging to an idea that won't ha... (read in full...)
I can't get over a guy I have been speaking to online
Q. I had been talking to a younger guy on a dating site and he is the most gorgeous guy I have ever seen. He said I was very beautiful in my profile and we had a few chats. He has called me hun from the beginning and it made me feel nice. I am 47 and ...
A. 25 July 2013: Yes, forget about him. As others have said here and in response to other questions related to online dating, you absolutely must never lose sight of the fact that what happens online isn't real life until you make it happen in real life. I don... (read in full...)
How do I open myself up to others and be more social?
Q. hello I have some social issues. I'm reserved person and I it find hard to talk with people, even with people in my age. When I was in primary school (age 7-14), I was too shy. I've always felt diffrent from others, like I don't deserve to be treat...
A. 25 July 2013: "Until now I thought that I have social anxiety disorder." Why did you stop considering that? It sounds to me like you may indeed have Social Anxiety Disorder with a side of Chronic Depression. There are some steps you can take on your own, ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband so demanding at home but a pushover at work?
Q. Why is my husband so demanding at home but a pushover at work? He says things like "when I get home from work I want my dinner and a drink on the table" and "make sure this house is clean when I get home" we have 2 children and I'm heavily ...
A. 25 July 2013: He's compensating. My father was kinda the same way.
Get him to therapy so that, should the two of you start a family, your husband is less likely to be controlling and demanding of your children.... (read in full...)
Should I just be with this man not matter what even though he wants to be a female?
Q. I saw this site on the interent so thought i would message in as i dont really know who i can talk to and i am starting to wonder if it is me with a problem, rather than others. I am really worrying about my future now but i dont seem to have any ...
A. 25 July 2013: There are more than two men in the world, you know. You don't have to settle for either of the two guys that you mentioned. There's nothing wrong with being with a female-identified man unless you personally are not comfortable with it. Sounds ... (read in full...)
After she moved away, we barely talk anymore because she's always too tired or too busy or talking to this guy! Do I break up with her?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this girl now. Last year, she moved to another city with her family. She used to call and message me all the time. After 3months,she joined a college for her further studies. She became friends with a guy ...
A. 25 July 2013: Yeah, you're being too desperate. Why are you still with someone who, for the most part, isn't giving you the time of day? Do you just want to have a girlfriend, and are not willing to return to the single status even if it means clinging to this ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but all my friends hate her! What do I do?
Q. I realy like this girl but all my friends absolutly hate her. I want to keep my friends and i want to keep my girl what should i do and then to make it worse im to shy to ask her out in person and im not going to ask her out on the phone. i think ...
A. 25 July 2013: I don't think she's "the one" if you're too shy to ask her out. You don't know that kind of thing until you've been with someone for a relatively long time, are appreciative of his/her aspirations ad life goals, can fully accept his/her quirks and ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate or inappropriate for your sister to live with your soon-to-be ex husband?
Q. Appropriate or inappropriate? My husband and I were having problems. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and requested to live in the house, I said no and gave her other options. My husband and I were on the verge of separation, I didn't think it ...
A. 24 July 2013: What, are you worried they're going to sleep together?
I think very highly of my sister's baby daddy and ex-boyfriend. He's a cool guy and we get along very well in a completely platonic way. If he ever needed a place to crash as he was getting ... (read in full...)
A month ago he said he loves me, now I see a pic of him with someone else
Q. so i need some insight on what to do.. my ex boyfriend and i dated for almost 3 years..since we broke up we have been on and off..hooking up acting like a couple but not really a couple..i think he has commitment issues he keeps saying we dont wor...
A. 24 July 2013: He's your EX boyfriend. You have no right to tell him off.... (read in full...)
I've already pitched in money for a holiday and now my girlfriend is treating me like crap. I don't think I want to be with her.
Q. About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and ...
A. 24 July 2013: I have to disagree with the people suggesting that you just go off on your own for this vacation, especially if it's abroad. Maybe you're not as likely to get raped as a young woman is, but, as a young tourist, you're still a prime target for ... (read in full...)
My best male friend has cut me out of his life after his wife got jealous
Q. My male friend and I have been best friends ever since High School. We are both grown around our 30's now and we've been talking on the phone and emailing each other past years, I'am married with 2 kids and he just got married last year and a ...
A. 23 July 2013: Well, I'm sure you get the message by now as everyone who has answered your question gave you, more or less, the same response. I agree with the other agony aunts and uncles. You crossed a line, and I think you need to really take some time to ref... (read in full...)
The girl I've been dating has basically asked me to be on standby in case it doesn't work out with her ex
Q. So i have been seeing this girl for a month or two. We have had sex multiple times and tells me after the first night that she wants me to be her's. I stay the same and i go on vacation and she doesn't tell me whats going on. I come to find out she ...
A. 23 July 2013: Have you ever heard of the expression "you can't have your cake and eat it, too"? Because I don't think that this girl is familiar with that idea.
Honestly, she sounds like the type that is very dependent and isn't happy unless she's "in love" (w... (read in full...)
Guy seems to date a girl but still makes eye contact with me
Q. Hi Everyone, There is this one guy in school whom I met the first time on the train as we both came from the airport back to the dorm together. We saw each other from time to time and in the beginning, made brief gestures to say hello, either mu...
A. 23 July 2013: Yeah, sorry, but I also am thinking that you're over-analyzing here.
Even if he is looking at you, looking (and liking what he sees) doesn't mean that he's willing to actually pursue you.... (read in full...)
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