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writes:Me and my girl are ready for sex talk, about what it might feel like and what we actually do. I'm wondering how many times i need to move my penis in and out to come-is there enough friction with a condom on. also i want my girl to enjoy it.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (24 January 2008):
You heardd them all.Use a condom every time you have sex.Since this sounds like your first time and don't expect it to last that long.Just be relaxed and don't rush into penetration.Lots of foreplay and take your time.Good Luck.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 And on a similar note USE CONDOMS!!!!!!!!!
Forgot this in the first message.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (24 January 2008):
Yeah chances are you will cum far to quickly and leave her disapointed. Unless you get her almost to her peak beforehand by using foreplay and oral stuff because they can have and orgasism many times and keep going not so much with men, once you go u will stop being hard unless we keep going once ecstacy kicks in which is very had. Im still a virgin i just did research to get over the fear i fealt over my first time.
And dont be nervous when u do it, it will just make things worse. You may go limp or just perform badly. Dont rush the first time do other stuff then actual penetration most of the time because you wont be able to outlast a woman chances are. Because most guys just go way to fast and you have to either get used to the feelings and learn to hold off the release which is hard and doesnt always work. Or do what i previously stated.
Good luck!
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reader, guylovesme +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Don't come to fast and use a condom!- Have Fun
Oh one more thing, try stimulating your girlfriend before intercourse with foreplay. It might makes it easier for her to possibly have a orgasm. I don't think you should worry about yourslef so much, its alot easier for guys to reach climax normally. So try to get her really excited before penetrating her. Ask her if she's nervous and if she is try to comfort her, she'll like it
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reader, daletom +, writes (24 January 2008):
Most guys - something like 95% or more - cum far too easily, and much too quickly, the first time they have sex. A considerate partner who understands your physiology may help you have an orgasm before attempting penetration, then try intercourse after you have re-charged. This might save you some embarrassment, and save her from some disappointment.
A few guys go soft when they try their first intercourse. Don't worry - if you're with the right partner, you'll be ready to try again in a few minutes, or another day.
A condom will decrease your sensitivity but there will still be plenty of stimulation to bring you to climax. On your first time, unless your girl has plenty of experience, there's a good chance you won't use the condom correctly so think about an additional form of protection.
There are at least a dozen web sites that give good information about your first sexual experience, and many threads on DearCupid that discuss it as well. Do a little research and educate yourself about it before you try it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Geez, if you are going to have intercourse with a young lady at your age, by all means use a condom so you at least less likely to become a daddy, have to quit school, possibly get married to someone at too young an age, then possibly get divorced because it really wasn't the right lifelong love for you - then there's child support, a very expensive proposition whether married or not.
All this may quash many hopes for a good career in life.
But to answer the question, for a normal young man past puberty, not having a climax the first time is the last thing you should be concerned about, and it'll probably be real fast, as Dr. Phil says. Then the girl will wonder what the hell all the hubbub about sexual intercourse is all about, because she will very likely totally unsatisfied by it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): If it's your first time about 4 or 5 strokes ought to do it!
Phil
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