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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 4mnths, i was a virgin b4 i met him but he's had quite a few partners b4 me. Recently i have found out that ive got chlamydia. He told me b4 we had sex that he was clean, and he got tested for STIs in december b4 i got tested for mine. They tld him he only had an urinal infection and he got that treated. Im confused? Does this mean hes cheated on me? We had a rough 2mnths as he recently hasnt made much time for me. All my friends think that he is cheating on me. What do i do?
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reader, zeddiebear  +, writes (26 January 2008):
As everyone else has said. one of 2 things
1. He cheated on you and got the clap from dirty chick.
BAD BAD BAD
2. He lied to you about the test results
BAD GROSS BAD
I think he went to the doc and lied about the test since that "urinal infection" might have been the clap. and he got treated which might have been clap medicine.
Ew.
Lose him. Get better. Move on (to someone clean and honest and loyal)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 He could have got it after the test.That is a probability.
It will depend on whether you still love him or not.
If you don't love him any more, then cut him off.
But if you love him and want him , you will have to forgive him.
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (26 January 2008):
its hard to tell how long hes had this infection. he could have had it before he met you and just never knew,,maybe he was never tested, maybe he just said that to ease your mind. either way you caught it from him and now he hasnt been around ,,,,,sorry but sounds like a loser maybe you should lose him!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): Yes he could have cheated on you, unless he lied about the Doctors. Where you there for the results? Does he know you have/had a STD?
You need to talk to him about it. He's very selfish if he didn't get tested he lied to you and risked your health. If you hadn't found out about the STD you could of risked not being able to concieve children. I'd worry anyway, with or without you he's had unprotected sex and possibly got another girl pregnant whilts being with you [if he has cheated].
You deserve someone who only wants you, so if he has cheated do not take him back. You WILL find someone else, who is better than him hun.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (25 January 2008):
 If the guy gave you the clap and you haven't been with anyone else, then he either was infected when he was with you and lied about it or he cheated and got it from some other chick. If he's not making any time for his girlfriend, then he must have other priorities. Trust your heart. If your heart and mind tells you he's cheating, then leave him. He doesn't sounds like a worthy guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I don't think there's any way you could have caught this without having sex. The only person you've had sex with is him. Therefore you caught it from him.
The big question is whether he had it before he met you. If he didn't, then yes, he's cheated.
Phil
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Sometimes those test are not 100% accurate with some diseases and you should often times get tested a couple times to make sure something isnt missed during one of the tests. But it could be that he has cheated, or that he lied about the results of the test. You should definently ask him if he lied.
And has he recently been acting more distant or like he cant look you straight in the eye or been accusing you of cheating then he could of very well cheated on you these are common signs of cheating. I hope he hasnt but he may have.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Well if he went to the doc and the results really came out clean, then yeah he probably most definitely cheated on you. Obviously.
On the other hand, he may have lied about his test results and perhaps he did have something that he kept hushed about. That's another possibility.
Or maybe he lied about going to the doctor. It could be any of these three. Try to find out.
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