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writes:Well, another question...since I'm new in this thing called "SEX", I'm so curious, I've give my boyfriend blow jobs, normal thing I know, but the thing is that I don't feel like I'm giving him enough pleasure, when he is doing it to me I'm desperately screaming and when I give it to him, he's not... I was wondering if someone could give me a hint, a clue, a tip... I don't know°!!! I'm desperate... I want him screaming of pleasure!!! help please! I need to know more about techniques, and places on his... "thing" that may help to give him real pleasure!
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reader, ryandude18 +, writes (29 June 2008):
 how about talking and telling him sexy things while you are doing it, i am sure you can figure out what.
also if u make noises then he might
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): i think guys aren't as expressive as girls when it comes to sex because they dont want to seem less 'macho' if that makes sense.
you could just ask him to make some indication whether he is getting as much plesure as you are.
hope that was of some help
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reader, mattie90  + ♥, writes (17 April 2008):
 ok you want my opinion well its not an opinion its something that my boyfriend loves when i give him head he likes it when i twist my hand up and down tight not to tight but tight enough to where it doesnt hurt him and also while his penis is in your mouth tighten your lips around his penis it makes them cum A LOT faster try that and tell me how that goes he might not make any noises he might be another guy in the world that doesnt. here 2 help
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Guys are not as vocal as girls, I would say, specially during the time of intercourse. If you pay close attention, guys tend to rely more on "conventional verbal communication" rather than non verbal communication like facial expression or in case of intercourse,screaming in pleasure. However , my boy friend does breath heavily and makes sound specs of satisfaction occasionally. There is nothing to get frustrated about this though..don't think your guys are not having pleasure if he is not screaming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): let him lick your pussy and do arotic things to get him arroused. he also might be haveing a ton of pleasure he just isn't moning. lots of guys dont mone while having sex
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reader, bad girl +, writes (29 January 2008):
If you want to make your guy scream with pleasure, you have to be the aggressor and the one doing the fucking. So my best way of doing this is to get on top of him and take control My bf is does not make a sound when he is on top
and is in control ... But when I am the aggressor (on top)
and in control ... he will moan, holler and scream like a high school girl !!!!
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I wanted to add one more thing. its true that guys don't scream out like we girls do. you can call it whatever you want, i guess i will call it a louder and more high pitched grunt then usual. I always know it when I hear it. the finger in butt trick may actually get the "scream" you are looking for.....lol! i had a fingernail break in a guy's butt once...that wasn't fun!
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (25 January 2008):
 Cherriepie has some good ideas for you. My idea was much simpler, since generally guys are not too loud (afraid of waking the neighbors...) lol. Right before he climax's light and stick a lighter under his rear. You'll get a scream. lol
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reader, daletom + ♥, writes (25 January 2008):
I was surprised when I learned that most guys become rigid and silent at climax, since both my wife and I tend to be rather vocal and animated when we allow things to happen naturally. I think the numbers are that at least half of all women are somewhat to very vocal, but only around 5% - 10% of men.
Now "scream" is not a good description of what I do, but it can be a rather loud, non-verbal, vocalization. It's not a "grunt"; the pitch is higher, it comes from higher up in the vocal tract, and it sometimes lasts long enough to be punctuated by 2 or 3 breaths. I guess you could call it a loud, extended, "moan" since I can't think of a better word.
I'm aware that I also emit various gasps, groans, whimpers, etc during foreplay and sometimes during intercourse before orgasm. I know that she appreciates these responses and uses them as feedback - just as I do with her.
I don't know if "Hornygirl" could successfully encourage her guy to be more vocal or not. I'd like to think that somebody could learn to be more vocally expressive, without lapsing into insincere theatrics - but it's a pretty personal thing with me and her guy may become too embarrassed or self-conscious if they try to deliberately cultivate that kind of expression.
But she shouldn't assume that her B/F is getting any less pleasure than she does, merely because he doesn't expressive himself like she does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): As for the no-such-thing-as-natural-screaming thing...Uh, just because you don't cry out or scream naturally during sex doesn't me the rest of us don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Interestingly enough, I've found myself in the same...erm, position? No pun intended. While it is noticable when my boyfriend is experiencing sexual pleasure, he makes no noise. He will on a rare occasion when I do my 'Super ultra-cool secret move' on him, when the sensation overwhelms him, but other than that, he's pretty silent except for talking and encouraging and such. As long as you know he's feeling pleasure, and a lot of it, your doing your 'job'. As for my Super Ultra-Cool Secret Move...hehe. You're on your own on that one. Maybe do some exploring...find out what makes him tick. Ask him what he wants most. Be prepared for surprises.
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reader, Moviefan + ♥, writes (24 January 2008):
 Guys are not very verbal about how we feel during sex, if anything we may get a grunt or whine or something small like that. Girls make more noise.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (24 January 2008):
If you want to make your guy scream with pleasure, you have to be the aggressor and the one doing the fucking. So my best way of doing this is to get on top of him and take control If you got handcuffs use them and keep him from taking over and getting on top. Cuff him to the bed posts or just behind his back; lay him down and tell him you have total control. In this position you can do whatever you want to him and don’t just get on top so quick…give him a good long tease while he’s vulnerable. massage his dick, then slowly give him a good blowjob. If he comes give him a little time to recover then start it up again ….handjob…oral again, then go for the kill and get on him and tease him with your vagina. Rub his dick on you…then slowly …so slowly let him penetrate you…but you keep total control. If he starts to hump wildly, get off him and tell him he’s being naughty!...then slowly get on him again…tease him still and take control of the fuck. You have to then really ride him like a horse. Ride him until he has no choice but to scream and cum again (you will too). I guarantee you he will love this and it’s a good way to change up roles with a guy.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Guys only grunt. It still gets me going. Lol. I actually like it when men make the softer noises that show how much he enjoys it too.
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (24 January 2008):
 Yep. I think the only way that my husband would actually scream in bed is if I were to wait until he is ready, and then tell him I dented his car... Most guys grunt - that's about it. I guess we're the peacocks in that department too!
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reader, Uncle_Phil  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Men don't naturally scream. Their voice boxes won't allow it. However, and having given it some considerable thought, a blowjob will give pleasure and chewing his tip at the end will make him scream after a fashion.
As Freddie Mercury once sang "Pain is so close to pleasure".
Phil
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (24 January 2008):
I'm not sure guys scream as much as we do... Can we here from some guys out there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): I don't think I have ever heard a guy "scream" of pleasure. I mean the "screaming" thing during sex is a concept that was made up in the porn industry. It was made up to add THEATRICS to the whole sex scene. But do animals, humans included, biologically scream when they have sex? NO. Its not human nature, or animal nature to scream when you are having sex. The whole idea of it came from ACTING. That's all it is. ACTING to the utmost exaggeration. So why doesn't your bf scream? Because he is being himself. No amount of orgasm or pleasure is going to make him naturally scream. He might grunt and moan a bit, that's natural. If you would like him to put on a show for you, just ask him to scream next time he cums. Is it going to be natural and real? Probably not.
Screaming in bed is nothing but a theatrical ploy that was invented in film that many people who learn about sex through film mistakenly think it to be how it really is or should be. But it isn't. Its film, theatre, fake. Not real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Good luck! We're all different.
Some men feel an immense amount of pleasure but they feel uncomfortable being noisy about it.
To be honest, I'm not sure that you actually want him to be screaming. I think that what you genuinely want is reassurance. You want him to let you know that he's enjoying it.
Maybe he has his own needs. He prefers having sex without making a noise. But where does that leave you?
Perhaps you could reach a compromise with him. Ask him how the sex was after it's happened. He gets to be quiet during the sex, you get to be reassured.
Better still, maybe you could think about why you need this reassurance. Do you feel insecure about your sexual performance in general? Did you get used to regular reassurance from previous partners (maybe they gave more reassuring noises?) You could then think of some possible solutions. Maybe you could try talking more openly about explicit parts of sex. Do you like it when I do this? What do you think about me trying this? Is there something you would like me to do differently? I'm sure he'll have a better idea of what he enjoys. Better than any of our guesswork...
Have fun :-D
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