He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 16 March 2011: That's good. Time heals all wounds eventually.... (read in full...)
Ready to take the next step with new BF, but nervous
Q. I ended an 20 year controlling and difficult marriage this year. it's great to be free, and I'm loving having my own house, and friends. I met a lovely man, and after a few months and several dates, he is very keen for us to sleep together. To be ...
A. 27 August 2010: I would suggest telling him a tiny part of your past and that because of it you feel extra nervous about sex with him. If he understands where you are coming from it will make for fantastic sex between you two.
Good luck doll have fun.... (read in full...)
Do you think our friendship is over?
Q. This is an issue I've had before but it has never frustrated me this much. so...i was seeing this guy for a couple months and the thing just kind of died out when he moved back home. however after he left i started hanging out with one of his ...
A. 25 August 2010: Yay for you. All the best!... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Honestly I wouldn't confront him cause if you really stop and think about it this is a waste of time it's not going to sink in with him. Write him a letter that you DONT send and tell him everything you want to say. Get it all off your chest and ... (read in full...)
Am I attracted to my own twin sister??
Q. hi, im having an overwhelming problem. i have a twin sister, who is the love of my life, literally. i have been attracted to her for a few months now, i would normally think, why dont you ask her out? but this is my SISTER! i am bi, and as a mat...
A. 16 August 2010: The twin bond is extremely strong and when you have been going through stress and trauma as you have then it's very normal for that bond to become even closer. I would think you are just experiencing a high state of closeness to your sister due to ... (read in full...)
Communication methods needed...
Q. Hi guys, Well, My girlfriend recently moved from New York To Arizona. I am stuck here in New York. Her mom never liked to see us together. She tried to separate us many times. Of course, we always got back together. Thats love. You cannot talk to ...
A. 16 August 2010: You know good old fashioned letter writing with paper and pen could work here too. You just need to write a letter and post it to a post office in another state with forwarding directions to your girlfriends house. Then when the letter arrives it ... (read in full...)
Was he just leading me on???
Q. I started a new job a couple of months ago and hit it off with this amazing girl. We got talking and we have so much in common it's unreal, she georgous and she's amazing, I started to crush on her really bad. :o( I'd flirt a lot and she w...
A. 16 August 2010: I think she does want to be your friend and not be in a relationship with you and by the sounds of it she is a touchy feely kind of girl and that is what is confusing you.... (read in full...)
Sometimes she seems off limits to me others it seems she really likes me
Q. I really care for a girl at work but she confuses me. We have been working together for nearly 7 years and have become really close. She shows all the classic signs of liking me but then sometimes when I stop by her desk she will lean back with ...
A. 15 August 2010: I think you should bite the bullet and ask her out. Then you will know one way or the other.... (read in full...)
I can't take the stress of making my husband happy anymore!
Q. I am so confused and not sure what to do anymore. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for two tomorrow. I believe that I have put all of myself into my marriage. Everything is about him, he is on a trip for his job and has ...
A. 15 August 2010: It kinda sounds like something has happened in his head. Would he go and see a doctor about this it could be a chemical imbalance causing all this.
Saying that I would agree with you it's time to move on from this man he is doing you no good and ... (read in full...)
My married man doesn't want to go on holiday together now!
Q. I have been together with a married man for over 4yrs.We have bad and good times.People have told his wife and always problems but then it sorts out.I love him very very very much.We were to go on holidays but people have again made problems for us ...
A. 15 August 2010: Sorry but when you choose to be with a married man then you are choosing to have the crumbs of time he can give you so you can't do anything. I hope you realise it's always going to be like this? ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but can't stop thinking about my ex!
Q. I'm in a happy relationship of only 2 months, the guy i'm with i can't fault. Just one problem,, i can't stop thinking about my ex. I split up with him over a year ago because of drug use but i totally fell in love with him. We were together for ...
A. 15 August 2010: My husband is fond of saying "You have to look out for number one" I always thought it was a bit callous at times but he's right. That guy was looking out for number one now you have too.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my cheating, abusive, alcoholic husband but its not that easy
Q. I'm after some reassurance that I am making the right decision. I have been married for 14 years and have 2 children. My husband has always been a drinker but for the first few years of our marriage this was limited to weekends. For...
A. 15 August 2010: What!!!!! Get another solicitor and start documenting all the things that he says and does to you in a diary. You can lock him out of the house if you want to and if he breaks in call the police. He may not be able to be charged with breaking and ... (read in full...)
Broke up, had sex with an ex, and feeling awful
Q. Well, my boyfriend broke up with me today and I'm an absolute mess. He claims to have too many problems going on to be able to do his part as my boyfriend and doesn't want me to wait around while he figures his life out, and that he still wanted to ...
A. 14 August 2010: There is probably a lot of truth to the fact you weren't mentally ready for it but also it didn't help that you threw yourself from the frying pan into the fire. Just chalk this one up to one of life's awful mistakes and put it behind you. Tell ... (read in full...)
I want to quit the relationship, I can't fight for what I want
Q. plz this my first time of fallen in love with a girl,and is also the first time a girl has ever care for me as she was my mom,we av been dating a month plus now,so her parents invite me to their house,so wen i get there i met with the mum,she gave ...
A. 14 August 2010: Because she is only 16 you don't have a lot of options I'm afraid. Until she is 18 her parents are her legal guardians and able to say what happens with her. If it's meant to be with you two then she will still want you when she is longer in the ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm stuck with her dogs
Q. My girlfriend and I have been on and off for the last 2 and a half years. She had two dogs when we meet.Shortly after our meeting she had to sell her house. (which I helped get ready to sell with her)After this she had no room for the dogs which I...
A. 14 August 2010: Give them to the SPCA. You don't need to keep them for her anymore so surrender them and someone else will adopt them. She can't kick up a stink if you do this either cause she's effectively abandoned them leaving at your place.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my cheating, abusive, alcoholic husband but its not that easy
Q. I'm after some reassurance that I am making the right decision. I have been married for 14 years and have 2 children. My husband has always been a drinker but for the first few years of our marriage this was limited to weekends. For...
A. 13 August 2010: Oh doll I do feel for you. You need a plan and here's my ideas for some plans for you.
First off don't feel sorry for him he doesn't deserve any sympathy from you from the way he's treated you. He's also abusing your children by telling them ugly... (read in full...)
How do we find a girl for our threesome?
Q. my bf and i want to have a threesome. but neither one of us has ever done anything like that. so we arent sure where to start. or how to find another girl to do this with us. where would be a good place to find another girl?...
A. 13 August 2010: I don't mean this to sound judgemental but have you really thought this through? Once a bell is rung it can't be unrung. A lot of people who have threesomes wish they haddn't because it changes their relationship. But anyway to find a girl you ... (read in full...)
Meeting up with my boyfriend's ex
Q. dear cupid, my boyfriends ex wants to meet up with us both. she was an absolute cow to him and cheated on him which lead to their break up. its been over two years since that happened and she's asked that her and her boyfriend and a few friends me...
A. 13 August 2010: If it's with a group of friends it's probably going to be ok but personally I'm not a fan of trying to be friends with ex's. I don't think it works. I wouldn't be keen to have this little meeting either.... (read in full...)
My parents are worried about me taking on my boyfriend's problems
Q. Hi everyone heres the thing my partner and i been going out for 3years well in that 3 years we had problems he has two seriouse illnesses on epilepsy n other mental illness hes takin tablets n since we been together ive seen him have a episode og ...
A. 13 August 2010: I understand how your parents feel but do you love this guy? I mean REALLY love him? Because if so then stick with him. I hope he is seeing his doctor and is on the correct medication for his problems. As far as finding a job goes if he really ... (read in full...)
My ex asked me if I was dating a girl, so I told her the truth... Was this wrong?
Q. My ex girlfriend has asked me if I'm dating somebody. I broke up with her almost two months ago after an eight month relationship. I was her first love. Just recently I started seeing a girl (lets call her Sarah). I've only been out with Sarah t...
A. 13 August 2010: You have done nothing wrong. She is your ex so you don't have to answer to her anymore. ... (read in full...)
I want my bullying nasty sister out of my life forever!
Q. hi to everyone,i have problems with my younger sister,infact the WHOLE FAMILY has problems with her.shes always been trouble ever since we were kids and has a very nasty streak,she bullied my younger brother and sister as children.she is now in her ...
A. 13 August 2010: I agree with askoldersister no one in the family should give this girl anything. Cut off all information, money, support of any kind. Close ranks around your mother as this will be hard on her. The mother and child bond is hard to break for the ... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 13 August 2010: He asbsoutely has to go back to that dark place again to sort it out once and for all and put it behind him. He has buried it and that's why he can't remember it but it's lying there hiding, eating away at him and causing problems. No body wants ... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 12 August 2010: Sexual assault is such a cruel thing and most likely to be responsible for his problems. He should have some therapy to help him get over this. Pain like that buries itself very deeply.
Good luck to both of you with patience and love I know you ... (read in full...)
Testicular trauma
Q. I don't like sex as much as I want to because I have sustained testicular trauma in early adolescence. I don't like to think about it, even if its a constant reality that even affects my physical appearance to the world. In what ways to you thin...
A. 12 August 2010: Do you have to have sex at all? I don't mean this to sound sarcastic I'm serious, there are lots of women who would be happy with a partner who doesn't want sex. Have a flick through some of the posts here.... (read in full...)
How often should I mention 'our future' or should I leave it up to him to bring it up each time?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is almost 32. We have been together for just over a year and discussed marriage from early on. I have acted totally crazy at times by being mistrusting and possessive but seem to be much improved on this front now. ...
A. 12 August 2010: As much as you can just go with the flow. I am like you too I get ott excited about stuff. Deep breathing helps me. Definately tell him you are excited about the house and looking forward to it but don't say anymore than that. Another thing that ... (read in full...)
It's important to me that he accepts my friends!
Q. I need some advice. I have been dating an older man than myself now for over a year. We both have the greatest time when we're together and both have committed ourselves to one another. We haven't told my parents yet, because my parents are extr...
A. 12 August 2010: It does kinda sound like he doesn't want you to meet them doesn't it. I think if I were you I would say I feel really uncomfortable that you don't seem to want me to meet your friends. It makes me feel like you are hiding something. Then have a ... (read in full...)
Testicular trauma
Q. I don't like sex as much as I want to because I have sustained testicular trauma in early adolescence. I don't like to think about it, even if its a constant reality that even affects my physical appearance to the world. In what ways to you thin...
A. 12 August 2010: My husband had a tortion of his testicles which means they twisted round to face in the opposite direction than they should caused by a sporting accident. (Yes it was as painful as it sounds) He had to have an operation to fix this as he couldn't ... (read in full...)
Do I let him go because I am not ready for sex or make him wait and see how genuine he is?
Q. I have been interested in my current boyfriend for a long while. Things have occurred so we couldn't have courted earlier, but now I am having doubts and confusion about whether things are moving too quickly between us. We have been dating for ...
A. 12 August 2010: Just tell him you are not ready for sex yet and would prefer to wait. You will soon know how committed he is.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a cheater or am I just paranoid??
Q. I've begun to be suspicious of my boyfriend of 2 years. We haven't had any problems in the past although I have been cheated on by a previous partner. Our sex life has slowed right down, we only really have sex after a couple of glasses of wine now! ...
A. 12 August 2010: Not necessarily. The romantic lust stage usually wears off round the 2 year mark so could be just that. Why don't you try and spark things up in the bedroom and see what happens.... (read in full...)
Why is he playing both of us?
Q. okay so my ex and i have 3 kids together and a 6 year history. we split a year ago and ever since i dated two guys and he has dated two girls but in the mean time we have still been sleeping together... its crazy but now i know i actually want him ...
A. 12 August 2010: Why do you want to be with him when he treats you with no respect? I say ditch him once and for all and move on he's a tosser.... (read in full...)
He turned his back and went to sleep right after we had sex and I'm so upset about it!
Q. Hey, well im 19 and im married, i have 1 daughter and she's 9 months. My husband is 22 and doesn't go out clubbing by himself, he's always at home with me or if i go out we go together unless i get out of work than head to the store. He's a ...
A. 12 August 2010: OK first off sex is bloody hard to get enthusiatic about when you have a 9 month old. Plus you are running round after him getting food and being organised so it's a bit like looking after 2 kids and then the big one wants more attention :-) All ... (read in full...)
I don't get aroused just from looking at women I need them to touch me, am I gay?
Q. Hi I am just looking for some feedback to see if I'm normal or if I should be concerned. Looking at a woman doesn't get me hard, if we kiss or if she gives me a massage or something, then I get hard. Just looking at them walking down the street t...
A. 12 August 2010: Hey dude you are completely normal. Some people get turned on by the weirdest things that the rest of us find strange so we are all different. There is nothing wrong with you my friend. Rest easy.... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved or appreciated any more...
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We had a good sex life until i had a hysterectomy 3 years ago. I take no hormones and most time i dont want sex, but my husband takes no inititive. He barely even cuddles to me anymore. I have ...
A. 12 August 2010: It's a catch 22 situation. Men need sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to want sex. When neither of those are being satisified both parties withdraw. One good thing if he's masturbating then he's probably not cheating. I recommend ... (read in full...)
His dad owns him!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend now for 3 years. He was 19 when we started dating, I was 18. He lived with his dad and after he lost his job and started working for him, his dad started to get very controlling of him. He gave him a curfew and set ...
A. 12 August 2010: Yep this is tricky!! I think if this guy really loves you ultimately that will be the thing to make him break away. As hard as this will be for you I think you need to get on and move away and do the long distance thing. It will sort the men from ... (read in full...)
How can I let her know that the fact that I love her is NOT a joke?
Q. I'm close friends with a girl, and for quite a while now, I've been telling her that I love her. At first, it started as a joke between us, along with the many compliments I was giving her. In the end, we were both at it, telling each other that we ...
A. 12 August 2010: Take her out just you and her and give her a piece of jewellery. Doesn't have to be over the top expensive any little token will do. Accompany the jewellery with a card saying our love started as a joke but for me it's no joke anymore. I love you ... (read in full...)
Lesbian sex!
Q. hi, i am a lesbian and i have a girlfriend. she seems to love giving me sex and i love taking it. but when it comes to giving it to her i dont seem to enjoy it. do you think this could mean i am no longer gay or dont find her attractive because i am ...
A. 12 August 2010: Perhaps you find it boring to be giving but not receiving. Can you both stimulate each other at the same time?... (read in full...)
I fantastize about ugly old dirty fat men! What is wrong with me?
Q. Hello, I feel as if I am abnormal...I am a 23 year old girl and in a good relationship yet the only thing that really turns me on is if i fantasize about much older, ugly, fat dirty men. I dont know why this is and it makes me feel like a freak. I ...
A. 12 August 2010: Fantasies are often weird and that is why they are fantasies. You are not weird you are just turned on by something different. Relax as long as it stays a fantasy it's all cool.... (read in full...)
3 out of 4 weeks every month I'm a pain in the ass!
Q. Thanks in advance. I really hope to get a response to this because I'm totally lost with whats going on here. Well, I'm completely screwing up my relationship because of my extremely unstable, uncontrollable emotions. I started to notice a pattern ...
A. 12 August 2010: I would just about bet my last dollar that this is a hormonal thing to do with your menstrual cycle. You should go talk to a doctor about this because it is almost certinally fixable.
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I didn't text her back for 6-7 hours and suddenly I feel like I crossed some kind of line by her reaction
Q. Dear Aunts/Uncles, Heres the situation. I usually text my girl every other day. We swap text message back and forth. We dont see each other much but when we do get together its on the weekends 1-2 a month. Just depends on the month and each o...
A. 12 August 2010: I spose looking at it from her side the wait was unusual and it probably was a normal reaction for her to wonder what was going on with you. If that was your normal pattern of replying she wouldn't have given it a second thought. But from your ... (read in full...)
Our first kiss was not anything like I imagined it would be!
Q. me and my long distance boyfriend kissed for the first time today,it is the first kiss ever for both of us. i didnt feel anything although i love him so much,actually the kiss was terrible,it is nothing like i imagined ..he was so nervous and just ...
A. 12 August 2010: Kissing is a sloppy old business :-) But yes it will improve. Have fun kissing :-)... (read in full...)
I need advice to help Tina!
Q. Oh goodness, where should I start? Alright well in the summer of 2009. Mine and Meg's best-friend Tina got pregnant. Tina was in a horrible relationship, abusive emotionally and verbally. Her boyfriend has issues with drugs and his mother had ...
A. 12 August 2010: Friendships do change when babies come along and that's just the way it is. Accept whatever the friendship becomes and just go with the flow otherwise you risk losing Meg altogether. As for helping Tina all you can really do is let her know you ... (read in full...)
What does this non-serious ex keep contacting me a year and a half later?
Q. Hello, about a year and a half ago I dated a guy I was crazy about. We only dated for four months and only saw each other maybe ten times. We broke up on good terms, but basically because I wanted something more serious than him. He started con...
A. 12 August 2010: This is one of those occasions where you have to be brutally honest and say to him look I like you but I'm not interested in being friends. If you want to have a serious relationship then I'd love to too but if not I need to move on.
Good luck doll... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 12 August 2010: He really needs to talk to a Doctor about this. It's almost certinally fixable but the longer he leaves it the worse it will be.... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but can't stop thinking about my ex!
Q. I'm in a happy relationship of only 2 months, the guy i'm with i can't fault. Just one problem,, i can't stop thinking about my ex. I split up with him over a year ago because of drug use but i totally fell in love with him. We were together for ...
A. 6 August 2010: I wouldn't try to be friends with him it never works. Make a complete break from him. If you are mean't to be with him he will come back to you when you both are in better places.... (read in full...)
Do you think our friendship is over?
Q. This is an issue I've had before but it has never frustrated me this much. so...i was seeing this guy for a couple months and the thing just kind of died out when he moved back home. however after he left i started hanging out with one of his ...
A. 15 July 2010: I guess a lot of girls would be worried about their new BF's female close friend whom he has slept with in the past. I know I would feel a little worried about it if it were me. If you could it would be good to talk to the girl without him there ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 July 2010: You're welcome go forth and be happy. May the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 31 May 2010: See if I was you're mother I'd be mighty worried about you right now because if your experiencing all that you can not be acting normally. Most mothers will fight tooth and nail to help their kids when there is something wrong with them so I still ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I'm starting to wonder if you actually like wallowing in misery since you don't seem keen to follow any of the suggestions put to you by any posters. Your replies are starting to sound pretty whinny and whingey. Come on dude pull your head in and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Exactly my point go to the doctor and ask them to refer you to a therapist. Tell your parents you are depressed and you don't really know why. (there are hundreds of people in this situation) You need to be able to talk to someone who is not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: So lie to your parents. Make up something that is wrong with you that they wont want to verfiy like a discharge from your penis or a urinary infection. Then tell the doctor you have had to lie to your parents and he will have to help you. You ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: Doctors can't discuss their sessions with anyone else even your parents so they need not find out why you are visiting the doctor.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Again I repeat keep away from him. He's confused and it's making him unsure how to react. May I suggest you make friends with some girls. Unlike males (not meaning to male bash here) we like to talk. We like to analyse situations from every ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Just back off from him completely and let him come back to you in his own time. Like it or not he feels uncomfortable now and he needs to deal with that in his own time and in his own way. You just need to carry on as per usual and wait ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry mate but your thinking is a little off here. You have no right to be angry at him. He said straight out at the beginning that he was not attracted to you and was straight. You need to put yourself in his shoes and realise that whether you ... (read in full...)
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