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Am I attracted to my own twin sister??

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Question - (16 August 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2010)
A female Venezuela age 22-25, anonymous writes:

hi, im having an overwhelming problem.

i have a twin sister, who is the love of my life, literally. i have been attracted to her for a few months now, i would normally think, why dont you ask her out? but this is my SISTER!

i am bi, and as a matter of fact so is she, but i am extremely sure that she is not attracted to me.

i heard of this diagnosis in which you can be attracted to a same kindred member of family, like half brother, distant cousin, UNCLES even, but does it work with a full sister, let alone my TWIN sister?? i doubt it :S

i sometimes fantasise about making out with a girl, iv had many ex's, but it feels totally wrong fantasising with my sister, my own flesh, blood and FACE.

yet i am still attracted to her, what will she think of me??

my best friend told me that im still growing up, that im only feeling like this because we both been through a lot recently eg; parent divorce, and that its just because we are closer, sticking together, and this feeling will soon fade.

please tell me what she says is true?!?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010):

Don't let anyone tell you what you are feeling, or what your feelings mean. You know yourself best and only you can know for sure whether what you are feeling is a confused sibling infatuation, lust, or real love.

Take time to soul search and find where the source of your feelings lie. If you were separated at birth, or youth, there is a high chance your reaction is being caused by something called 'Genetic Sexual Attraction'

Regardless, if you truly want to pursue a relationship with your twin, romantic or sexual, you should be extremely cautious. You should discuss or attempt to find out what your twins feelings are regarding homosexuality and how open she is to the idea of Incest. If she is closed to even one it could hurt your relationship to continue pursuing her. If she is open, try to flirt with her and gauge her reactions, if she's receptive, you could try confessing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010):

I know someone who is a twin and they share the same thoughts as you do probably caused by some trauma event that has occured. If u r wanting to move on you me...or if you like the feelings...its a total nother ball game but we assume you r moving on or trying to. Are yall identical? If so that would prob make it harder. It doesn't hurt to ask advice and maybe see your school guidance counselor.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010):


I am a twin and the bond is very strong between twins. You are growing up and your emotions will be all topsy turvey at your age. You have not said if you were seperated at all, if you were then yes this probably has a heck of a lot to do with it. Please don't act on it.

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A female reader, Moo's Mum New Zealand +, writes (16 August 2010):

Moo's Mum agony auntThe twin bond is extremely strong and when you have been going through stress and trauma as you have then it's very normal for that bond to become even closer. I would think you are just experiencing a high state of closeness to your sister due to the problems occuring. Acknowledging it to yourself as you have done is the first step in moving on from these feelings. You will be fine.

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (16 August 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntI have to agree with your friend. This is most likely just the after-affects of a troubled era of your life. Just remember that who you are thinking about is your SISTER and it will pass just like every other phase in your life, no matter how strange or small.

I hope that helps.

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