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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Do you have to have sex at all? I don't mean this to sound sarcastic I'm serious, there are lots of women who would be happy with a partner who doesn't want sex. Have a flick through some of the posts here.
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reader, NotSean  +, writes (12 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Moo's Mum I am not able to enjoy sex at all. So I don't know if its like your husbands situation.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (12 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the question @BeSimplyTrue
Maybe I haven't done a very good job at asking the question.
I have a slightly more feminine countenance than most men. My personality is probably more gentle than most men also.
I guess its a question about sex.
If you ask people if they feel sorry for say a physically unattractive male who has had very little or no sex in his life most people will say they don't.
But if you ask people if they feel sorry for a male who has had something that physically affects his body then people will usually say that they do.
So what is the difference? Is it just that we don't value unattractive men and then it becomes sad when somebody who is otherwise attractive is not able to have sex?
For what reasons would a person feel sorry for a person who has had physical harm to their testicles or penis?
What is the difference between my situation and somebody who is just perpetually "unlucky" in love?
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (12 August 2010):
My husband had a tortion of his testicles which means they twisted round to face in the opposite direction than they should caused by a sporting accident. (Yes it was as painful as it sounds) He had to have an operation to fix this as he couldn't ejaculate property and it made sex really uncomfortable for him. I definately don't see him as deformed in any way because of this operation and our sex life is back to normal since the op.
I guess you could look at it like this. If you met a girl and clicked with her and really liked her then you found out she only had one leg would that make you love her any less?
So many of us have things about our bodies that we don't like or are embarrased about but the right person does not care about these things.
Good luck my friend you will be fine.
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (12 August 2010):
 I don't really understand your question "In what ways to you think that this impairs my life to a level that is significant?"
Are you asking about how it affects you on a biological level? I feel like this is a biology quiz.
I'm interested in how you said it affects your physical appearance to the world. Do you mean you look different than other males your age? Or you mean you're shy and carry yourself in that way?
I'm just really not sure what's going on.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (12 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not getting many responses to this question it seems.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (11 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell that's as good as an answer as any.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Its affecting your life because you are letting it. Theres a lot more to relationships than just sex.
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