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writes:I've begun to be suspicious of my boyfriend of 2 years. We haven't had any problems in the past although I have been cheated on by a previous partner. Our sex life has slowed right down, we only really have sex after a couple of glasses of wine now! He doesn't text or ring me half as much as he used to even though he is currently unemployed and has lots of spare time. I wrongly looked at him email and saw one from Adult Friend Finder.com... I asked him about this and he claimed it was junk. He just seems to have changed from a romantic attentive guy into some one who doesn't want to pay any attention to me. Does this mean he has found someone else? Thanks
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (12 August 2010):
 All those symptoms are very commonly associated with depression. How has your boyfriend reacted to being made unemployed? Most men attach a huge amount of their self-esteem to their jobs / careers & the loss can easily be highly undermining. & if he's feeling depressed that would also provide an explanation for the whole ‘Adult Friend Finder’ thing. Most depressed people carry out self-deprecating behaviours.
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (12 August 2010):
It doesn't mean he has found someone else? i mean it could be a number of things! who knows only he can tell you the truth. and you know him better then anyone when it comes to your relationship! but as far as the Adult.com how is it junk? it's on his pc he drug it out from somewhere! i do agree w/ you i would want to know where he is going w/ all of this too! confront him w/ it and if he gets upset about it thats a red flag! specially only when you are asking him a question! so make sure when you do ask don't accuse just ask him why don't we make love like we use too! and that you feel like ya'll are drifting apart? and ask him is it something you need to worry about because you do love him! and you at least deserve and honest answer!! and that if hes falling out of love w/ you, are your sex life! is maybe to him boring ask him what can we do that your open for suggestions! and that you do want your relationship to work but he has got to want it too! because you cannot do it alone you'll be amazed either way the reaction you will get from just a decent conversation because you are being a lady about it and concerned and honest i mean how can he back out of that one!
Best Wishes 2 u both!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Not necessarily. The romantic lust stage usually wears off round the 2 year mark so could be just that. Why don't you try and spark things up in the bedroom and see what happens.
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