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writes:My girlfriend and I have been on and off for the last2 and a half years. She had two dogs when we meet.Shortlyafter our meeting she had to sell her house. (which I helped get ready to sell with her)After this she had no room for the dogs which I took in at my house.She lived at my place for a short time till that feelapart. She has moved from a studio apartment to rentinga room to renting another room from a close friend. We are split up at this time and she tells me she wants noting to do with me any longer. She dose not have the money or space to have the dogs with her. What do I doabout these dogs that are her responsibility.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 August 2010):
 I've seen people put animals up on Craig's list, fairly successfully. That way you can meet the person and decide if you trust them and you don't have to risk that they'll die in an animal shelter.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Please think of the best interests of the dogs... I know that it shouldn't be your problem, but your ex gf has been extremely irresponsible at her poor dogs' expense.
You have to do what's right. If you take them to an animal shelter, they're likely to KILL them :'(.
It's not your fault that your girlfriend behaved irresponsibly, but those dogs depended on her and they deserve to be cared for. I think you should care for them until you can find a loving person to adopt them. I would take them myself if it were viable- I don't know you, you could live far from me, and I have to leave the country in a few months. I've taken in a series of rescue/stray dogs over the years and wish I could take in more.
I don't like to judge, but your ex gf doesn't sound like a very caring owner. She just dumped those dogs on you They're probably better off not going back to her. You sound caring and responsible because of the fact that you took the time to ask this question.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (14 August 2010):
If you didn't love her anymore? you would know what to do w/ the dogs! those dogs are an attachment for you to hang on. it's not the dogs fault that she has no consideration for anyone or anything but her'self. im glad they are w/ you they love you uncondictionally! when i went through my seperation my sister had me a bassett hound when i moved to Oregon. and if it wasn't for my dog i don't know what i would of done? hes still w/ me he's older and having complications but hes on meds, so i don't know how much longer we have together but he has been my saving grace. he kepted me motivated and busy and he loves me dearly and i him!!! please make the right choices for your dogs and not because they wer'e hers i mean how much room can they take up or eat? can you afford them? i hope the best for you 3 and maybe it's meant to be!!!
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (14 August 2010):
 I want to say don't give them to the SPCA, with the current bad economy, more than the normal amount (which in some communities, animals at the Humane Shelter are measured in Tons rather than numbers because they are euthanized by the tons) are ending up in shelters.
More than likely, your girlfriend's dogs will be put to death. Do you have NO attachment to the dogs? Do you think your girlfriend is just needing more time before she comes to collect the dogs, perhaps she is too upset by the breakup to face YOU just now?
I would give her more time, I woul consider your options as to whether or not you are just angry a her and taking it out on the dogs and perhaps may actually be willing to take on the responsibility of their care, or perhaps realize that this may be a game she is playing, she is using the dogs as an excuse to contact you at a later date, when things between the two of you have calmed down.
In other words, don't make any rash decisions, give her an opportunity to claim her dogs if the relationship is in fact OVER. If she doesn't, I would contact a no kill shelter as often they are willing to try to adopt the dogs out with a guarantee that they will not be euthanized. Or put an ad in the paper for a good home, ask your friends and family. I find that with some effort it is not impossible at all to place dogs in a good home. I myself have done it with numerous strays that have crossed my path.
Take care and good luck to you.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (14 August 2010):
 before you do any of that, warn her that you are going to do that if she doesn't take care of her dogs herself. Even so, I think you should tell her to go bring them to SPCA or to try and get them a new home another way. Put your foot down and say you can't have them or don't want them.
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reader, SweetScorpio83  +, writes (14 August 2010):
The dogs are not your responsibility. Try to work out a reasonable deadline with her to do something about the dogs and let her know what you will have to do if she does not (shelters, pound, adoption). That way if she has some part of the decision making she can't blame you and say that you were not reasonable. Though it may be hard, you will more than likely feel better about the fact that you at least tried or gave her the chance to take responsibility for her animals.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Find someone to adopt them. It shouldn't be too hard you just have to put the word out there at work, or with your friends or just advertise them.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Give them to the SPCA. You don't need to keep them for her anymore so surrender them and someone else will adopt them. She can't kick up a stink if you do this either cause she's effectively abandoned them leaving at your place.
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