I'm skinny and eat unhealthily. What should I do? And guys, do you naturally prefer more well-rounded girls?
Q. Hey, I saw a similar question earlier and it got me thinking. I'm gonna be really blunt, I'm veery skinny. I weight around 100 lbs, I'm 5'9" and I'm 14. I eat rather unhealthily, I get my twiggyness from my mother. Also, I have many MANY other frie...
A. 28 December 2011: Personally, I prefer girls who have a little more shape, but certainly not to an unhealthy degree. But overall, you should not be so concerned with it at your age; instead your focus should be on simply eating healthy and maintaining a no... (read in full...)
How should I move on from a 2 year relationship?
Q. this will be long but please take time to read. I badly need an advice right now :( -------------------------------------- last week, I broke up with this guy whom i dated for exactly 2 years. we broke up because he doesn't make an effort a...
A. 28 December 2011: In your post, you said this: "i feel like its also my fault because when we broke up i said: 'sorry if i focus my attention to someone during our break time since its my way of moving on.'" If my girlfriend of two years said that to me befor... (read in full...)
Should I follow my religion or just enjoy being young?
Q. I go to a Roman Catholic school and In Religious Education we were discussing sex before marriage. everyone in my class was saying that they can't wait to have sex and are not waiting for marriage, but for some reason, I want to wait. I am not a ...
A. 28 December 2011: Let's just set religion to the side for one moment; let's say regardless of what you believed, do you want to have sex? If you still don't, don't feel pressured by what your peers are saying and continue behaving as you would. Sex is definitely ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation okay if you're saving your virginity for marriage?
Q. I am certain on not having sex before marriage as I am a christian, but I masturbate... I know its dirty and i shouldn't do it but I just love it and I can't stop, I maybe do it at least once a week. Will god forgive for masturbating since I am ...
A. 28 December 2011: Masturbation is perfectly natural. Its a basic desire built into the core of your biology. Sex is ingrained into our psychology, physiology, biology, brain chemistry, and natural processes of our bodies. In the last few centuries the ch... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship and I still like him! please help!
Q. Okay (the story is going to be long sorry), but I really have a lot of feelings for this old friend and we tried to go out over the summer, but in that time, I got a lot of mixed signals from a friend we had shared and I was told lies.(like the guy ...
A. 28 December 2011: Don't waste your time waiting around for someone who may never be available; you're only setting yourself up for disappointment. Try your best to move on and focus on you. Its straight forward advice, but its honestly the best.... (read in full...)
All communication stopped after I said "when can I see you again?"
Q. So I hooked up with a girl after a night out, she came back to my house, self explanatory what happened next, she took my number and she left the following morning. We had texted a little the next day and I think I made a big mistake by slipp...
A. 28 December 2011: Its a sort of unspoken rule that the guy waits around 2 days to contact the girl again. I don't know how this rule started or if I even agree with it, but that's kind of the way it is; its supposedly a good medium between seeming needy/desperate ... (read in full...)
He can't have loved me like I thought! Is he a loser?
Q. Me an my x broke up 3 months ago. I have never heard off him since. I did cheat on him, but i was drunk and it meant nothing. He changed his number. He cannot love me like i thought because he would have wanted to sort our problems out. Is it time ...
A. 27 December 2011: After reading all the responses, I'm just beating a dead horse, but no, he is not a loser. You clearly wronged him by having sex with someone else, even if it "meant nothing" and even if you were drunk. The fact still exists that you cheated on h... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea or too soon to make a move for her?
Q. I have been talking to my friend who I met at college last year we have never been best friends but recently I have helped her through a break up with her boyfriend and now a month later she is back to her normal self. She says she's over him a...
A. 27 December 2011: Well, the final decision is up to you, since you know her better than we do, but I'd say that a night out for New Year's Eve is a good place to start. Plus, there is no harm in using this "outing" as a way to test the waters, instead of a real ... (read in full...)
Should I see this other man? I don't want to hurt my FWB!
Q. Hi everyone a bit of a complicated question here I am in a fwb sort of thing with a man I would like more with but he doesn't feel the same way being going on for 9 months now just recently I met one of my 5 brothers friends who keeps flirting with ...
A. 27 December 2011: If you're just FWB, why did you agree to not see anyone else? That's basically the definition of a relationship... Honestly, you'll have to choose one; continue with your FWB, or start seeing this other guy. If his feelings really mean that... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe that the S.O. could never be anyone's best friend
Q. This isn't much of a question, but a remark on relationships. As time passes, with the accumulation of personal and anecdotal experiences of my good friends, there is a social expectation that has become more and more untrue. You often hear pe...
A. 27 December 2011: I think the problem with your view on this one is that you're fitting the idea of "best friend" to a list of criteria that doesn't necessarily apply to anyone but yourself. Also, the premise of actually limiting friendship to those criteria is a ... (read in full...)
I'm the bread winner in the relationship, couldn't my b/f at least be good at sex?
Q. Back in high school, my boyfriend was the quintessential nerdy fat kid whereas I was the shy punk chick. Now a days, he is still a bigger fellow compared to my still smaller physique. He's 6'1" and 250 lbs whereas I'm 5'3" and 115 lbs. But he is the ...
A. 27 December 2011: Maybe I'm being blunt, but the way you talk to him and talk about him is quite startling. You say that you care about him and that he's the sweetest guy, yet its obvious you have a lot of disgust for him over something he can't really control. ... (read in full...)
How do I make this work? He claims to hate women!
Q. Hi, i'm 22 and currently dating a guy who is about to turn 29. I have know him for two years and he has been trying to get me to go out with him, but i had a boyfriend and when i became single, questioned going out with him because he seemed too ...
A. 27 December 2011: I understand that he's been treated poorly in the past, but that does not give him an excuse to treat you this way, and you should let him know it. The majority of relationship issues can be solved through communicating with each other, and this is ... (read in full...)
Sex before a relationship? Yes or No?
Q. whats everyones thoughts on having sex before relationship? yes or ney? is it lust or love? does a girl who wants sex before relationship love that person? inputs?...
A. 27 December 2011: Its a "nay" for me personally. I need to develop a relationship before considering sex. It hasn't always been that way and I've had a few one-night stands, but having experienced that, I've realized it definitely isn't for me. ... (read in full...)
I suspect she's dating someone else
Q. Hello people! Recently I started talking a lot with this girl I met through one of my friends. We have been together a lot and we hung out 2-3 times a week. I told her that I was interested in dating her because I liked her and would like to fi...
A. 23 December 2011: Sorry, something with her has changed. Though she may have agreed to get to know you better, she doesn't seem to be interested. I'd move on and concentrate your energy somewhere else.
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to ask me out?
Q. There this guy i like we talk and lught together all the time he tell me that he enjoy time we spent together and always smile we am in a bad mood he always try to make me smile do you think his intereted and should i ask him out or wait for him to ...
A. 23 December 2011: There is no rule that says the guy needs to be the one to do it; go for it! If you feel that you two could have a lot of fun on a few dates, make the move and ask him.
Some guys are a little more shy about asking girls out. I say take the reig... (read in full...)
Confident and Carefree People, How do you do it?
Q. By all of the people I know I am considered to be a really funny guy and really talkative person who is very confident. Which around people I know I am but when meeting new people despite usually trying to be talkative I let nerves get the better of ...
A. 23 December 2011: Well first off everyone is usually somewhat nervous when meeting someone new, but the fact that you at least try to have conversations with them shows a lot, since most just avoid trying to get to know them altogether. But overall, here ar... (read in full...)
Evolution V.S. Religion & a Close-Minded Chistian Boyfriend
Q. As someone who was raised as a catholic Chistian, I never thought too much about what my faith meant to me. I Began dating a very Chistian boy (a mix of Baptist and conservative) I whent to catholic school so I knew and understood quite a bit of the ...
A. 23 December 2011: "Can I really call myself Christian if I dont take all of the bible stories 100% litterally?" Now that is the question for the ages isn't it? Haven't you noticed that through out history, as our society has developed, we've discarded more a... (read in full...)
How do I give my experienced boyfriend a blowjob?
Q. ok i really want to impress my boyfriend my giving him a bj but i don't know how because i've never done it. His Ex girlfriend gave him a bj but he stoped her because he said it didn't feel right and her teeth hurt. so please help guys, i din't ...
A. 23 December 2011: 1. No teeth. This does not feel good. Its like someone is scraping the skin off your soul. If you have a smaller mouth, this can be tough for some girls, but try to avoid as much teeth to penis contact as possible.
2. Don't suck it like a s... (read in full...)
I don't think my b/f is attracted to me or anyone!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, we moved in with each other about 6 months ago. The problem is I just don't think he's attracted to me. I don't think he's attracted to anyone! He doesn't seem to take any interest in anything ...
A. 23 December 2011: Does he work? Being on the computer 14 hours a day does not sound healthy. Don't get me wrong, I love the internet and spend a good amount of time looking up dumb videos or playing games with friends, but I also do a lot of other things during my ... (read in full...)
I've decided to break up with my Bf. Should I wait until a week or so into the new year and just have a peaceful x-mas?
Q. I have decided to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years because I no longer feel right in the relationship. I made this decision finally yesterday after lots of thought over the past few weeks, so it's not a spur of the moment thing and I am not ...
A. 23 December 2011: Some people differ on this. I can see the argument for waiting until after the holidays, but honestly (personally) I'd rather be broken up with before.
I mostly say this because I went through a break up directly after Christmas before, convenie... (read in full...)
Pet names to call your boyfriend?
Q. Hey girls....what are some good cute pet names that you call your boyfriend? And also..what's a good birthday gift for a guy? ...
A. 23 December 2011: Guys will respond differently to pet names, but I've been called typical ones (Baby, Babe, Honey, Stud) and some that aren't too typical, especially towards guys (Gorgeous, Care-Bear, Beautiful). One girl used to call me "Blue" because she'd always ... (read in full...)
First crush! How can I hold myself back?
Q. Long story short, i am 14 and i think i may have my first crush. Ive never had a boyfriend and well i think i'm ready for one, i do know this isn't the only oppturnity open to me and yes i will still concentrate on schoolrswork and this little ...
A. 22 December 2011: I'd just like to say that you are being very smart and mature about your first crush. You seem to be very self aware of your thoughts and emotions. That being said; you're young! In high school you're going to have crushes and you just happene... (read in full...)
Have you ever gotten to the end of your teenaged years and realized you didn't do anything?
Q. I'm actually quite annoyed at myself, i'm 19 and i don't feel like i've lived my teenage life to the fullest! I haven't slept with anyone.. STILL. I haven't experimented or at least tried one drug, something even small such as weed. I haven't had a ...
A. 22 December 2011: I had a religious girlfriend in high school (meaning no sex, no drugs, no rock and roll). Though I cared a lot for her, we never did much. While our good friends were drinking, smoking, and having lots of mindless sex, we stayed modest and ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are?
Q. This might seem like a funny question, but when do you think is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are ?. Should you wait until you actually become sexually active with them, or should you tell them before that ?. I ...
A. 22 December 2011: A lot of people are still virgins at your age and its nothing to be ashamed of. If your relationship develops to the point of sex, and you feel you want to have it with that person, you should probably tell him you've never done it before so he ... (read in full...)
Are we just friends or are we more? Should I make a move and tell him again how I feel?
Q. Ok, so to make the story short I am a 24 year old college graduate with a good job, raised as a roman catholic, believe in God. My guy friend who is 25 years old college graduate and no job when out for a couple of months during high school (it was ...
A. 22 December 2011: Well, it sounds like he's just an extremely shy person (but a good guy) that just can't bring himself to take things further. At this point I say, if he's handed the reigns to you, take them! From what I've read, it sounds like you both really ... (read in full...)
I'm generally a nice person but when I get into a relationship I change! Is it possible to change my personality?
Q. This has worried me for a while. When people meet me they think I'm a really nice person, I'm always super happy, energetic, laugh a lot and am up for everything. People think I'm 'nice' but then when I get into a relationship I change, and I become ...
A. 22 December 2011: Think of it as your heart's own security system. When the threat of getting hurt is small (you're single and just having fun meeting people), you can be yourself, laugh, make jokes, and find entertainment in almost situation. When you get i... (read in full...)
What does this dream about the boy I like mean?
Q. Okay i had this dream about a boy i like, i dont really know what that means, i would really like to know and ill tell you about the dream. i went to my family's house and there was an apartment by it so i went over there and i had family there, ...
A. 22 December 2011: I tend to answer a lot of the "what does this dream mean" questions in a similar way. Basically, dreams themselves mean nothing; what it does mean is that he's been on your mind a lot, or at least recently. Its always best to step out of the ... (read in full...)
Is beauty a blessing or a curse?
Q. Do extremely attractive people have a more difficult time maintaining a relationship? With all their options and the multitudes drooling over them does it make it more difficult for beautiful people to stay in a relationship....
A. 21 December 2011: Physical beauty has only been a blessing to me. It makes single life wonderful as you often get women wanting to buy your drinks and giving you attention at bars/clubs. It makes relationships fun as having your partner being very physically ... (read in full...)
Finding that special someone at 17 but I can't
Q. Hey what's up you awesome guys, and ladies. I hope you people are having a good break from the holidays. Anyway, let's get into the topic. PLEASE NOTE: ONLY Matured People / Experience People answer this. Boy Or Girl. Also, I'm 17, my birthday was ...
A. 20 December 2011: This may sound typical but: You're still young. You have a lot of great teen years ahead and (if you choose) an amazing college experience down the pike. Girls will come into your life and go, as will friends, and during that period of time it is ... (read in full...)
I feel distant towards my boyfriend! Its getting worse, Please help!
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 years. Lately, as in the last year I have felt distant from him, and it gets worse everyday. When I try to sit down and talk to him he either gets mad and says he hears it all the time or he'll laugh and say he's tired ...
A. 20 December 2011: I'm sorry to say this, but your relationship is abusive. Maybe not in the physical sense, but when he refuses to speak to you while texting sweet messages to other girls, and threatens to leave if you do so much as ask him to talk about your ... (read in full...)
What does this dream mean?
Q. Ok last night I dreamt a girl I used to like was acting like she liked me. By this I mean she kissed me on the cheek and she was really flirty we've never spoken but we both know who each other are. Could anyone tell me what this means or could m...
A. 20 December 2011: Forget about what you felt when you were dreaming; what do you feel now? Do you think you have any lingering feelings for her, or have you moved on?
Dreams can be random. I've had a lot of strange dreams featuring a lot of different people f... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to start going to the gym but I am worried I wont find her physically attractive if she loses weight, Please help!
Q. My GF was started is thinking about going to the gym with her sister because she invited her to go. I love her very much and I would never leave her and stand by her no matter what, but her going to the gym scares me a bit and i have a few questions ...
A. 20 December 2011: People are attracted to different body types, that's nothing to feel guilty about. If you like her bigger size, you should make sure she knows that you find her sexy just as she is. However, what wouldn't be okay would be preventing her f... (read in full...)
Depression+Weight Gain=MORE DEPRESSION
Q. about 5 months ago when i was told i wasnt aloud to talk to my boyfriend anymore i got very depressed and gained some weight. i didnt think it was that much at 1st but now im realizing, since its winter, that some of my pants and coats are really ...
A. 20 December 2011: I agree with all the talk about "healthy" weight loss. Like many things, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about becoming more active and/or losing weight. There are certain things you need to take into account such as your metabolism,... (read in full...)
B/f has hot body I want him to go shirtless!
Q. My boyfriend has a hot body and he rarely takes his shirt off. I want him to go shirtless more often. How do I get him to go shirtless more often?...
A. 20 December 2011: Just tell him. Whenever my GF would tell me I had a hot body, my clothes would fly off in seconds. People tend to have egos; if you give them confidence and reason to believe they're exceptional at something, they'll show it off. Same goes ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new guy....is he just a rebound? Should I wait for her, or move on?
Q. So its been about 6 months that me and my ex broke up from our 3 and half year relationship. We started talking and hanging out about 2 months ago.. I found out she started going out with this guy about a month or 2 after our break, what hurts is I ...
A. 20 December 2011: Been in a similar situation. The ex and I started getting really really close again over the summer, even though she was somewhat seeing someone else. My advice: get out now.
Seriously, you'll save yourself a load of pain. As of now, she's en... (read in full...)
I am no longer religious, but the girl I am interested in, is. Is this a bad road to go down?
Q. For 4 years, I attended a small private Christian college and in my last year, ironically enough, I slowly became an atheist. Well fast forward 8 months after graduation and I'm just working day to day and seeing friends on the weekends. Most ...
A. 20 December 2011: Thank you everyone for your responses (except for RAINORFIRE; I'll get to you in a second). I will give a follow up on the situation. I'm sure I will see her sometime after the holidays, and hopefully then we will have time to lay it all out. I ... (read in full...)
I like my friend's ex boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. I really like this guy, he’s lovely, we get on so well and we really like each other. Problem is, he’s the ex boyfriend of one of my best friends. For months I’ve tried to ignore it thinking that it was just a crush that would go away but it hasn’t ...
A. 19 December 2011: Well, you've already talked to him about it, so the next logical step is to talk to your friend about it.
If you're 100% honest with her, hopefully she'll give you some sort of response. The next issue is, what do you do with her response... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this guy, but the possibility of being just another one of "those girls" is really starting to scare me
Q. I'm almost sixteen, but before you start judging me and my situation based on my age, just know that I am a lot more mature than some people. I've had the opportunity to have a boyfriend in the past, but this is my first one. He is everything I ...
A. 19 December 2011: Well, there are a few things to think on here:
1. People have baggage. Its a bit different in high school, since a lot of teenagers are entering relationships for the first time, but as you move forward in life, you'll find that no one has a "p... (read in full...)
My crushes always like my prettier friends
Q. I like a guy, who is a friend of mine. But, I think he likes one of my other friends. Neither of them knows I like him. I won't tell them. My friend is so much prettier than I am... she has great hair (I have thin, ugly hair), green eyes (I have ...
A. 16 December 2011: There has to be more that sets you apart from these other girls. Do you have any talents, play any instruments, or play any sports? Do you sew, cook, design, draw, paint, sculpt, garden, or sing? Do you know a lot about politics, history, or ... (read in full...)
Let's just be friends....
Q. Hello lovely people :) I am having a little rant here, because I truely do not understand the thinking behind this statement "Let's just be friends". Say you have been on a number of dates over a month or longer, you feel things are goin...
A. 16 December 2011: Some people are like that, both guys and girls alike; this issue isn't gender specific. They don't like the idea of committing to a single person, so they enjoy the excitement while it lasts, then pull away so that they keep their options open.
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Boyfriend cheated with multiple girls
Q. Found out my boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls from my area Including MY BEST FRIEND. His defence was " technically we're not in a relationship its more of a friends with benifets thing " He introduced me to his family as his girlfriend, birthday ...
A. 16 December 2011: The best option is a simple one:
1. Get him out of your life. He doesn't give a shit about you if he's going to cheat on you with several other women. Don't talk to him, don't listen to what he has to say (he has nothing relevant to say anyw... (read in full...)
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