Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 25 January 2011: In all honesty, though I'm sure the questions are burning inside you, it will serve you much better to drop the entire conspiring idea and leave him out of your life.
Since it all happened so recently, yes, you will have those mornings... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 25 January 2011: Yes I think some space would be the best solution at this point. Moving on will definitely be much easier than waiting around for him. Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 24 January 2011: Hope he is, at the very least, honest with you in his reply :) feel free to keep giving updates. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 23 January 2011: I'm sorry to hear that things haven't worked out. At this point its hard to say. There really is no "right" thing to do. I honestly don't think there is any problem in being honest with him and telling him how you have been/are feeling. Let him ... (read in full...)
We have broken up so many times because of his cheating, I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. Hi everyone! I am young and just want some advice from someone who won't think I'm crazy lol, I started liking this boy last year and we starting going out in March, we have been breaking up on and off becausee he cheats! ( I have the password to ...
A. 21 January 2011: Short answer: don't bother with him. His attention is anywhere but on you and he's obviously too immature to be in a relationship. The thing is, relationships take a lot of effort and most people who think they want one don't fully realize how ... (read in full...)
It seems like she wants me to chase her, even though we are official!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been talking for a year and some change now, and just in September we made it official. But its like she wants me to chase her, its like she doesn't like to call or respond to my texts unless I contact her. If i don't ...
A. 21 January 2011: I agree with CaringGuy. She seems to want space and in the process she is only hurting you without a care, not even wanting to address it. I'd back yourself away from her. Tell her that you aren't getting the attention you deserve from this ... (read in full...)
I can't get a new guy because I'm too fat. I lost my ex over it. Best dieting tips please?
Q. I want to diet but if I don't satisfy my hunger, I get migranes! Also, if I'm nervous or bored my stomach growls so loud, it's embarrasing!. I want to diet because my ex refuses to say I'm hot, or sexy because I'm so fat. And I can't get an...
A. 20 January 2011: You don't need to change a thing to be confident in who you are. You will never be satisfied with yourself until you reach perfection, which let me tell you, will never come. There will always be something to fix; something about yourself that ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not 100% honest with me.
Q. Hey people I REALLY need some advice... My girfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years now and even though we had our rough periods (4months breakup) that happened almost a year ago we still are back together and are going strong.....
A. 18 January 2011: Everyone lies sometimes, but nobody lies for absolutely no reason. Lying is usually grounded in some sort of insecurity and is only done to avoid truths that may create more unwanted tension. If you have been with her 4 years, I'm certain, as you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the new love that I'm still good friends with my ex?
Q. I am 14 years old and a freshman in High School. I'm getting close to this guy who goes to another school and I think he's going to ask me out soon. I like him as well and am excited to get to know him better. My problem is that I'm good friends ...
A. 16 January 2011: It only becomes as big of a deal as you or him choose to make it. With that said, tell him with his feelings in mind, but don't linger on the topic. If he's curious and asks about why you're still friends, simply tell him that you both enjoy each ... (read in full...)
(Why) do women prefer bad boys?
Q. I've got a new question for you, inspired by another post... One for the ladies, and one for the men :) When I range my friends on a scale from bad-boy til decent, and compare it with their success with dating (not necessary including happy ...
A. 14 January 2011: Its the sense of adventure that they feel. Usually those who are bored with their own lives, or at least find them repetitive, seek some sort of solution for it that doesn't require a personality change on their part. Hollywood has continuously ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend to the Sadie Hawkins dance?
Q. Okay I have a few questions. The Sadie Hawkins Dance is soon. I have a boyfriend of 1 month, I should probably ask him correct? If I don't ask him, what do you think that would mean? If I do ask him would I have to dance with him the entire tim...
A. 12 January 2011: If you ask him: By asking him, you've made the night about you two. Kind of count it as a date night and treat him with high priority, as he'd probably do the same with you. Spend your time with him; dance together, get food/drinks together, etc. ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks I messed up, but I don't think it's a big deal.
Q. I need some advice. My wife thinks I messed up, and I think that what I did was no big deal. I was out with a bunch of work people after work. I occasionally take my team out for after work drinks/appetizers when we make a project goal. Th...
A. 12 January 2011: Regardless of whether or not it is a big deal to you, it may have been a big deal to her. You said yourself that you are in a strong marriage of 10 years, which means that most of your arguments are easily resolvable and you two get along. Even if ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me I was the best kisser she's ever kissed, when she asked me I told her she wasn't the worst!
Q. The other day my girlfriend and I were together, and we were happy and flirty as usual. Then she brought up that I was the best kisser out of any of the boyfriends she has had. Then she asked how she was, and when I thought about it in my head, I ...
A. 12 January 2011: Yeah its just a slip of tongue. It happens all the time and she needs to be less sensitive to pointless things such as that. She'll get over it eventually. Its good that you realize it was a mistake and have apologized for it. If she doesn't let ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay for bigger women to bash slim women, but not the other way around?
Q. This is something I notice a lot, and I find it very insulting. I've always been slim, naturaly slim. I have never dieted or watched my weight and I'm a healthy size 8. It seems that if a slim girl is ever to speak bad of a fat girl, they are given ...
A. 11 January 2011: Like female anonymous said, no one is really okay making fun of another. Its usually done in jealousy. The larger women have most likely felt a lot of ridicule during their younger years (think about how many overweight people are made fun of ... (read in full...)
My best friend has no shot with this guy, but I do!
Q. my best friend (Sara) likes this boy(evan) who goes to a different school than us. evan is best friends with kyle, who is dating another friend of ours, jackie. so since october (its january now),sara has been trying to get with evan, but she's ...
A. 11 January 2011: Different people will tell you that you are right/wrong in pursuing him, usually based on their personal experiences with the matter.
I'll just ask you; do you value this friendship more or a chance with this guy? Is it worth risking? Don't th... (read in full...)
What do guys look at and expect when giving oral sex?
Q. Hello ,ok i have been going out with a guy for about a month now,we haven't had sex because we realy like each other and wanted to know each other well before doing it,it's realy hard because we are both so phisicaly atracted and from what i have ...
A. 11 January 2011: Different guys have different tastes. No pun intended. As far as hair goes, it depends on what he likes. You could always ask him :)
But seriously, if he enjoys doing it constantly, he probably already likes your situation down there and just... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend to the Sadie Hawkins dance?
Q. Okay I have a few questions. The Sadie Hawkins Dance is soon. I have a boyfriend of 1 month, I should probably ask him correct? If I don't ask him, what do you think that would mean? If I do ask him would I have to dance with him the entire tim...
A. 11 January 2011: 1. I should probably ask him correct? If you are planning on going, then yes. Asking someone else wouldn't be a nice thing to do. If you aren't planning on going, simply tell him you don't feel like it and make arrangements to spend the evenin... (read in full...)
She broke my heart but how is that if we only friends?
Q. I had a female bestfriend for about 4 years which no one beleived that a guy could be bestfreinds with another girl. I wanted to prove them wrong but it didnt exactly turn out that way. When we were in school she had a crush on me and i kinda played ...
A. 11 January 2011: Be sensitive to her new relationship, but as her friend you are entitled to express yourself. Remember that at the time she poured her heart out to you, you told her you didn't quite feel the same way. I'm sure she felt rejected at that point and ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend's hairiness but he hates it!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half. There is something that bothers me but I am getting used to it. He has a hairy back and he doesn't like it but I do. And because he is a bit over weight he never takes is shirt off during s...
A. 10 January 2011: The confidence is all on him; only he can choose to get over it. But there are little things you can do to boost his self esteem. The next time you're having sex and he keeps his shirt on simply tell him you'd like it better without the shirt. If ... (read in full...)
In love with my tutor!
Q. I am seriously attracted to a male friend of mine but cannot work out whether my feelings are reciprocated, or whether he sees me simply as a friend. I am 25, he is 27. I met him about a year ago at university (he is a tutor, I am a student, I ...
A. 10 January 2011: Simply based on your description, and coming from a male perspective, I would say there is a good chance he feels something for you. For one thing, he really seems to enjoy your company and remembers the little things about you (a sign that he was ... (read in full...)
I like my girlfriend's "natural scent". Is that weird?
Q. I've noticed that I really like how my girlfriend smells. And I'm not talking perfume or deodorant, I mean her natural body scent. Like for instance when she's all sweaty after one of her soccer games I think she just smells amazingly sexy and ...
A. 10 January 2011: Don't worry about it; its simple biology and psychology. People are supposed to be sweaty during sex, so our sweat naturally releases pheromones that attract the opposite sex. Its when that sweat dries or is there too long that it actually becomes ... (read in full...)
I wonder if actions speak louder than words?
Q. Lemme start off by saying I'm not trying to sound selfish or spoiled or anything alone those lines. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I love him very much. He says he loves me but sometimes I wonder if actions so speak louder than words. ...
A. 10 January 2011: Like everyone says, yes, actions do speak louder than words, but actions such as buying you things aren't a measure of love. Guys show their care in different ways and I think the actions you should look at are plainly how he treats you and acts ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to support my girlfriend after she was raped and hospitalized?
Q. hello everyone, i seriously need your help. my girlfriend is in hospital for over a week now, some guy tried to rape her and she got physically and mentally hurt. It's really hard typing this but i don't know what to do, i wanna support her, i wanna ...
A. 8 January 2011: I'm really sorry to hear that. I have a close friend whose girlfriend had been raped by her dad as a child and it was always hard for him to know what was the best thing to say and do.
From my friend's experience, I can say that just being ge... (read in full...)
Now I want to kiss her but I don't know what to do and when.
Q. I am 13. I have a girlfriend. I have been in a relationship with her for about 6months. We hug every time we leave each other and occasionally hold hands. We have had a small peck on the lips but that was just because our friends were bugging us so ...
A. 6 January 2011: If she's a normal 13 year old girl then she is probably wanting that kiss pretty badly. But seriously, don't make it into a big deal :) Next time you have some quality time with her and you're alone, just plant one on her. I'm sure she'll respond ... (read in full...)
How do I let him know he's the only one?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for about 3 and a half years now. We always talked on the phone and texted each other, and he made it quite clear he liked me. However I wasn't very responsive to his flirty texts and meaningful things he would say ...
A. 6 January 2011: Very simply, there's no right way to tell him that can convince him; only your actions can truly show that. Maybe, in person rather than over the phone/text, you could sit him down and explain the whole situation to him (much like the paragraph you ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my boyfriend's erection?
Q. Hey, i really really need some help at the moment. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everything appart from actuall sexual intercourse. We both love each other and are ready for this. Not long ago we attempted to have sex. Usually, ...
A. 6 January 2011: I'm sure its intimidation, like The Realist already mentioned. The first time is always unnerving and I'm sure there are a million things going through his head, especially, "Will I be good enough?" Women experience this too. I had a girlfrie... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't feel like she can love me forever
Q. My girlfriend of over 2.5 years told me last night that she loved me but she feels like she can't love me forever.. sure we've had problems but we've always persevered and only actually broken up once and only for a few weeks.. what do I do......
A. 5 January 2011: There really isn't much you can do unfortunately; this is all her perception and her decision. Next time you two talk about it, which I recommend you do, I'd urge her to remember all of the great memories you've had and remind her that every couple ... (read in full...)
How can I stop hating my body? How can I ignore the media and men's opinion?
Q. I hate my body, I'm 22 and I'm done growing. I don't look like the typical woman men in my country like, which is busty (even if fake) slim waist, big round butt (no cellulite though) and kind of medium sized thighs. I'm almost all that except I ...
A. 5 January 2011: First off, I'm very sorry you feel that way. I've been around many women who I had grown close to who let their personal emotions about their bodies ruin great friendships and relationships; I urge you not to do the same. Everyone is self ... (read in full...)
Too shy to get a boyfriend... help!
Q. Okay, so I am 15 years old and never had a proper boyfriend. All my friends are dating all of the time, but I never do. They try to set me up with boys but I am very shy and turn them down. I have troubles opening up to anyone, especially my family ...
A. 3 January 2011: A lack of self confidence is very common at your age; I guarantee every single girl you know is self conscious about a list of things. You aren't along there. The trick is to fake confidence. This doesn't mean act out or make an effort to ... (read in full...)
Should I block my girlfriend's ex on my facebook... she looks at him at times?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with her ex boyfriend 8 months ago. And coincidentally i realized i know her ex and he is even on my facebook. She blocked him on her facebook to forget about him and move on... now that he is my facebook, she sees him ...
A. 3 January 2011: She already took it upon herself to block him, so there is no need for you to explain yourself; simply block him quietly. I don't see why it'd be a bad idea unless you see yourself as friends with this guy. If not, block him.... (read in full...)
Does this count as sex?
Q. so first off my boyfriend and i have never had sex. okay two nights ago my boyfriend and i were messing around on the couch (like he was rubbing himself on me but not going in) and he kind of slipped and went in maybe an inch or so but n...
A. 2 January 2011: I guess biologically you are still a virgin considering your hymen did not break.
Otherwise, I always say it depends on your personal beliefs. Some cultures and religions suggest that pleasuring one another in a sexual way can be consider... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on his hairdresser?
Q. I'm 18 years old, and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I thought we were getting along great, but yesterday he told me he had a crush on his hairdresser. He claimed it's just something stupid, and that it doesn't affect how he is...
A. 2 January 2011: Have you ever looked at another guy and thought he was good looking? Ever watched a movie with a charismatic male lead and fantasized about him? I'm sure you have. I do believe that is was something "stupid" as he claims. You both should try and ... (read in full...)
So confused, I do still love him, but I love myself too!
Q. To be honest, I do not know what is going on but I will try to explain it. Five years ago, I met this guy and we started dating. This was around 2006. We ended up talking until 2008. At that point we went to different colleges and distance was...
A. 2 January 2011: Do you want to be with him or not? More simply, do you trust him?
If you can answer those questions you'll know what to do. No matter what confusion your feeling about your past, present and future with this guy, there is always an answer i... (read in full...)
I don't understand him, please help!
Q. I'm 16 and I live in Florida. My family and I just went to our hometown in Wisconsin to visit old family and friends. My dad wanted to visit his old highschool buddy so when we got to his house, I immediately hit it off with his 16 year old son. We ...
A. 2 January 2011: Yeah he seemed to have just wanted a physical relationship when you were with him and now that he knows there's a slim chance he'll be getting sex he's not keen on putting any more effort into getting you. Its better to let it be and move on.
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Am I too close to my best friend?
Q. My friend, who is a girl, and I are best friends. We are really close and I trust her with almost everything. We have sleepovers a lot and always sleep in same bed and cuddle. Is that wrong? sometimes we stay up all night just hugging or rubbing ...
A. 2 January 2011: No, I have plenty of female friends who do that sort of stuff to each other. Its not wrong by any means. But I bet you're interested in a boring anecdote that scientifically explains why you enjoy it :D Bear with me, I'm a bit of geek when it ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but he tells me to wait until he breaks up with his new girlfriend
Q. Im still in love with my ex boyfriend, but he already has another girlfriend and it kills me inside to no that.. I tell him i still love him nd he tells me he does too but for me to wait till they break up, but its hard for me to wait and knowing ...
A. 2 January 2011: I'm going to give you some hard advice, but its only because I've been there and don't want to see you make the same mistake: don't wait for him. I've been in the position where an ex-girlfriend and I still wanted to be together and she assured ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can spend the rest of my life being sexually unsatisfied
Q. I've been with my husband for over 18 months married for almost 4 months. He is a great guy but not perfect! Sex use to be amazing but after awhile it got to the point where he only cares about his needs and has even admitted to being lazy about it. ...
A. 2 January 2011: This is something you need to communicate to him more clearly. If he really does care and want to hold up his vows to always love you, he'll be concerned with your dissatisfaction and put more effort into your happiness.
But at the same time, li... (read in full...)
Girlfriend still in touch with her ex!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months now. I found out that she is still friend with her ex. We were going through pictures on her phone and she pointed out her ex in one of the group picture with her friends. She told me that they were ...
A. 2 January 2011: As long as its a healthy friendship, there is nothing wrong with it. If she treats him just as she does any other friends she's with, I don't see why they can't still spend time together. If you've only been dating for 3 months, chances are she ... (read in full...)
Nothing ever works for me!
Q. Nothing ever works for me. I know I have issues, as I've known for quite some time. I always mess up every relationship, yes, it's always my fault. I'm 26 at this point and I don't see things improving anytime sooner. I fall for people easily ...
A. 2 January 2011: The first step with any problem is acceptance, and especially, remorse. You've clearly analyzed what is wrong, which is good, but most people stop there, thinking that simply accepting that they have a problem is enough to solve it. What they lack ... (read in full...)
Should I tolerate this madness or just call it quits?
Q. Help me. my girlfriend and I have been having so many problems. for one she had a lot of guy friends that flirted w/her on her facebook "that picture can bring a man to his knees" "I miss you, love you punkass" "those eyes I never get to see" etc ...
A. 2 January 2011: Well it sounds that you two have differing personalities that can turn into a toxic relationship. For one, she obviously craves the attention she gets from flirting. Hell, YOU met her through flirting. Its evidently become a problem; a cry for an ... (read in full...)
First I was smothering her, but now I don't care enough!
Q. Okay so I am a 17 year guy and I went out with my girlfriend for about 7 months. This is the second time we've split up. The first time was due to me "not caring", not being sensitive enough and generally giving the vibe that I didn't care (despite ...
A. 30 December 2010: Once again, I agree with dirtball. Ignore her attempts to reach to you. If her texts/messages become overbearing, it wouldn't hurt to send her a simple email stating that you think its best to remain without communication for the foreseeable ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my wife want me going down on her?
Q. My wife won't let me go down on her, I LOVE doing it and I am actually pretty damn good at it. (5 girls have told me I have given them their only orgasm from oral) I try to head down south but she tells me 'I don't want you doing that right ...
A. 30 December 2010: While oral sex is enjoyable for women, they get much greater emotional bondage created from intercourse. During the act of intercourse, a bonding agent is released within the female brain, making them feel connected to the person they are with. ... (read in full...)
New girlfriend flirts excessively and sits on laps
Q. So, I think my girlfriend is crossing some standard boundaries. We just started seeing each other. We are both into each other and she suggested we get into an exclusive relationship. I agreed. However, there has been 3 events that have turned me ...
A. 30 December 2010: I'm seeing a pretty common denominator here: alcohol. Drinks usually ruin anyone's best judgment and it sounds like your girl is a bit of a flirt at heart, yet it only comes out when her defenses are down. Maybe spend less time at parties for a ... (read in full...)
Am I rushing the situation or is he not interested in me?
Q. There's a new guy at work that I met and he seemed to like me, according to how he acts around me. Well, he invited me to his gym and i went and signed up. I signed up because I thought it would be a good idea since I liked him too. Well, we go to ...
A. 30 December 2010: First of all, congrats on finally getting that guy you've been after :) Second, no. No he doesn't just want you for sex. If he did he would have made a move a LOOOOOONG time ago. Try not to let these things concern you :) Don't over think it. ... (read in full...)
First I was smothering her, but now I don't care enough!
Q. Okay so I am a 17 year guy and I went out with my girlfriend for about 7 months. This is the second time we've split up. The first time was due to me "not caring", not being sensitive enough and generally giving the vibe that I didn't care (despite ...
A. 30 December 2010: Like dirtball said, it probably is for the best. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are very in touch not only with rationality, but your emotions as well (a good mix for a guy to have when dealing with girls) however, she ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think there is definitely a connection between you two. Just because he started relationships earlier in the past doesn't mean that will always be his decision. I've started relationships within months after one ended, which always ended up bad ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 14 November 2010: Well I have a lot of scattered thoughts about this, so I'll just label them in number form:
1. You said that you believe taking initiative in these situations hampers your reputation as a girl. Let me just say that times have changed since th... (read in full...)
Am I rushing the situation or is he not interested in me?
Q. There's a new guy at work that I met and he seemed to like me, according to how he acts around me. Well, he invited me to his gym and i went and signed up. I signed up because I thought it would be a good idea since I liked him too. Well, we go to ...
A. 4 November 2010: Nothing wrong with being good friends for now. As a guy, I realize there are those of us who will go and ask out a woman within minutes. For me, and several others I know, we appreciate starting a great friendship beforehand. Getting to know ... (read in full...)
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