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writes:Hi everyone a bit of a complicated question here I am in a fwb sort of thing with a man I would like more with but he doesn't feel the same way being going on for 9 months now just recently I met one of my 5 brothers friends who keeps flirting with me I have found myself flirting back what do I do I don't want to start seeing this other man and hurt my fwb as we have agreed not to see anyone else but each other what do I do I feel so guilty thank you
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reader, uroboros +, writes (27 December 2011):
hello!
are you sure your fwb is not seeing anyone else but you?
don't worry you'll hurt him in any way, what u share is not a relationship, he's with you for sex only, if you feel different maybe its about time to tell him, to know his point of view?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 December 2011):
 Just saw your update… very confusing… do the two of you KNOW what FWB is about? You CAN’T CHEAT on a FWB as it’s JUST SEX…. Whether you have slept with someone or not… it’s FWB not a committed relationship.
First thing you need to do is clear up with him what the actual relationship is… IF it’s FWB he has no say in who you date or sleep with as long as you are safe about it because who you have sex with can affect him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2011):
FWB means NO STRINGS attached. It does not mean ‘going steady” not seeing others… so either you are more than FWB or one of you is lying.
If you like this new guy and see no hope for your FWB being a serious relationship I’d let the FWB know that you have met someone you wish to pursue a relationship with and go from there
So what happens if MR. FWB decides to man up and make a real relationship out of this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your great answers its a bit of a complicated fwb arrangement as we bever agreed to be fwb it just happened and also he has accused me of cheating on him even though we are not exclusive? I haven't slept with anyone alse sibce I met him btw
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): I'm with the previous posters. You can't hurt your FWB emotionally, because you're together for nothing more than sexual fulfilment. After 9 months, he's not going to change his mind about wanting more than just casual sex with you. Honestly. Save yourself the heartache and walk away now. You can't be sure whether anything will happen or not with this new guy, but at least you'll have given it a chance! You have nothing to feel guilty about, okay? :) Good luck and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): Wow, if you and your FWB have said no to seeing other people, that is a relationship. You have both made a commitment to each other, without giving it a label. So let me start with the FWB, I suggest you talk to him and make him aware that basically comitting to not seeing anyone else, that is a relationship, so if that is what he wants he has to make you his girlfriend, if not then end it. To the other man, I personally would not date any of my brother's friends, it causes too much drama. If it doesn;t work out your brother could lose a friend, even if it does work out, the dynamics of your brother's friendship with this man changes, the dynamic of the relationship between you and your brother. Is it really worth that? I have seen this within my family and always causes drama, and is never worth it, please think it through before doing anything.good Luck
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (27 December 2011):
 FWB is simply a sexual relationship, and exclusiveness is not usually part of the relationship. By asking for you to be exclusive your FWB has the best of both worlds, sex on tap with you remaining available for him only, with no emotional involvment.
How can you hurt the feelings of a man who is not interested in anything but using you for sexual gratification. Give the FWB the flick and concentrate on men who are interested in a giving equal relationship.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (27 December 2011):
If you're just FWB, why did you agree to not see anyone else? That's basically the definition of a relationship...Honestly, you'll have to choose one; continue with your FWB, or start seeing this other guy. If his feelings really mean that much to you, talk to your FWB and tell him you want to see someone else before actually doing it.
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