Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 25 January 2011: In all honesty, though I'm sure the questions are burning inside you, it will serve you much better to drop the entire conspiring idea and leave him out of your life.
Since it all happened so recently, yes, you will have those mornings... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 25 January 2011: Yes I think some space would be the best solution at this point. Moving on will definitely be much easier than waiting around for him. Wish you the best.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 24 January 2011: Hope he is, at the very least, honest with you in his reply :) feel free to keep giving updates. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 23 January 2011: I'm sorry to hear that things haven't worked out. At this point its hard to say. There really is no "right" thing to do. I honestly don't think there is any problem in being honest with him and telling him how you have been/are feeling. Let him ... (read in full...)
Heeeelp! Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I need advice on what to do... I've been with my boy 3.5 years now, he was my first love, first everything. I am 21. A few months into our relationship he got drunk at a party and spooned a girl he used to be intimate with...he promised nothing...
A. 16 November 2010: Sorry but this is not normal. On some level, he is not satisfied with you alone and for a reason only known by him (there could be several) he seeks the comfort of getting close to other women. It could be a confidence things (Hey do I still have ... (read in full...)
How can I make her my very close friend?
Q. I joined an academy this Summer... Recently I started liking a girl, who is one year younger than me. Gradually I started thinking about her all the time. I tried many times to talk to her, but I couldn't get a nice chance. Sadly, the summer session ...
A. 16 November 2010: Do NOT be pushy, needy, or seem desperate. That will not work out well for you. If you're contacting her multiple times a day, it gets to be a little much. I know this because my roommate is like that with all of his girl interests. He'll ... (read in full...)
I'm only asking for a happy medium!
Q. Have you ever been in love for the first time, and it is with your very first girlfriend too, and you love her so much that you would never let any harm come to her, but she never seems to appreciate anything you do for her and that is tearing you ...
A. 16 November 2010: This may sound harsh, but maybe you just aren't meant for each other. It sounds like you both have your priorities on the opposite ends of the spectrum. She enjoys the freedom of friends and apparently likes her space from you, and you come off as ... (read in full...)
Can polyamorous relationships really work in the long-run?
Q. Is there anyone out there in a successful polyamorous relationship? My wife and I recently fell in love with another woman and believe it or not I sometimes have jealousy issues over the time they spend with each other without me. they do have ...
A. 15 November 2010: My only worry is that you both have fallen for another because you're both, on some discrete level, dissatisfied with one another. I guess I am going to be "that guy" and say that love should be between two people.
You're always going to have hol... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 14 November 2010: I think there is definitely a connection between you two. Just because he started relationships earlier in the past doesn't mean that will always be his decision. I've started relationships within months after one ended, which always ended up bad ... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: A Christian dating a Muslim is the same as a Christian dating any non-Christian. You two just happen to share different world views. I am a Christian and have dated strong Christian girls as well as girls who do not believe in anything.
To me... (read in full...)
How do I show her what she's missing out on?
Q. Hey I'm really interested in this girl but I just don't know what to do. She seems really interested. We talk all the time or at least try to. I think she might be involved with some other guy but I'm not sure I was going to ask her more but how can ...
A. 14 November 2010: If she's currently involved, there's not much you can do. You don't want to be "that guy" that convinces girls to break up with their BF's because you're the better catch at the moment. It may sound like a good idea, but they may only come to ... (read in full...)
Need to focus, but not on her!
Q. Hello Everyone, I am just overcoming a bad breakup and I now like a girl who caught my interest with her personality. At first she seemed very sincere and caring which drew me in. I am not sure if she likes me back. I think she does because ...
A. 14 November 2010: Girls are always on the brain, but I recommend keeping yourself busy. Do some activities with roommates/friends. Go out more, pick up a casual sport for fun, go to the gym, etc.
Like you said, you just got out of a relationship. Now is NOT a... (read in full...)
Do you think he cares?
Q. I met this guy, We been hanging out/seeing each other for almost 6 months now. We act like were dating, But were not officialy because my age, Im almost 18 and he's 22, I always had a thing for older guys, I'd rather meet someone that cares about ...
A. 14 November 2010: First off, don't be so negative/suspicious. You've already told us that he's sweet, caring, takes you out, remembers everything you say, etc. Those are all very good traits. Just because you have had a few bad experiences and because he has ... (read in full...)
I want the relationship to be like when I was home
Q. I am currently in college about 2 hours away from home, so I see my girlfriend once every couple weeks if I'm lucky. Since I have left she texts me continuously and tells me how much she misses me. I don't have a problem with that, but it seems ...
A. 14 November 2010: This is not wrong at all, but long distance relationships do suffer from "miscommunication." You want more meaningful conversations, but its hard for her to give you that when she's only thinking about how much she misses you.
I was actually... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 14 November 2010: Yes you should be concerned, but don't be silent about it! Tell him what you saw and how you feel about it. If he can't explain his actions and does have a crush on her still, maybe its best that you aren't dating right now. Split up until he can ... (read in full...)
Guilty feeling after mentally cheating on my girlfriend!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 6 years when our relationship started to die out. She seemed to have lost interrest in me and never gave me the attention I wanted. This went on to a degree she always had herself ...
A. 14 November 2010: First off dude, you are a great guy. Don't let this guilt get to you. If anything, you still acted faithfully to both girls. Though you had feelings and time to get over your ex, you still didn't pursue your friend, because you knew you needed ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, how to interpret?
Q. Hi All, I am a girl in my twenties. At the beginning of this year I met a guy who shared a common grad class with me. At the same time he met another girl and they entered into a relationship. Although this guy had his gf yet we turned into best of ...
A. 14 November 2010: Well I have a lot of scattered thoughts about this, so I'll just label them in number form:
1. You said that you believe taking initiative in these situations hampers your reputation as a girl. Let me just say that times have changed since th... (read in full...)
A friend said my crush didn't like me
Q. I mostly hang out with guys although i have a few girl friends. recently my girl friend made me realize i had a crush on one of them without realizing it. when it told 'john' one of my guy friends he asked the guy i liked if he liked me. 'john' told ...
A. 14 November 2010: Hey now, don't over think things. Life doesn't have to be as complicated as you're letting it on to be. Don't be the one who's always suspicious of other people's intentions. If you're friend is talking to other guys, even ones who you like, let ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to go to a winter ball with another guy and I don't know what to say!
Q. Since I am in college and my girlfriend is still in high school she asked me if she could go the winter ball at another high school. I told her yes and why she even had to ask me. She then tells me since the ball is at another school she can't go ...
A. 14 November 2010: This is always the toughest of situations. As a guy, we know how other guys think and what sort of deception they are capable of. Women don't tend to see this. I've witnessed countless great friends of mine fall for the worst of guys because of ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this break up is permanent?
Q. I had the perfect relationship with a great guy who I could see myself with long term as we had the same goals and wants out of life and a relationship as well as several things in common, but it all fell apart. We used to be so happy together both ...
A. 12 November 2010: I'm actually going through the same thing right now. As much as it hurts, I've told myself that the break up is permanent so that I can move on from it while she figures her life out. Maybe someday she'll come back to me, realizing how much love I ... (read in full...)
How do you get big muscular arms?
Q. i am 17 and lets face it a bit of a weakling i have very small arms and i have tried working out but there just hasn't been any difference in the size of my arms or biceps to be precice. what i would like to know is does anyone know a way of ge...
A. 12 November 2010: Here are 10 tips.
1. You're body is still developing at 17. Some guys can start packing on the muscle at that age, some can't.
2. That doesn't mean you shouldn't weight lift. When I was 17, I weight trained every day for Baseball trainin... (read in full...)
Too fat to be loved!
Q. I met my boyfriend(ex) over a year ago... we got along very well spent almost every day together talked for hours and hours and never seemed to care about anyone but ourselves. about 7 months into he he suddenly started to pull away and i felt ...
A. 12 November 2010: As an average dude, I am not afraid to admit that I would never sleep with a size 0 or 2 woman. I love the idea of my woman having feminine curves and there are tons of other guys out there who agree with me.
Studies have actually shown that mos... (read in full...)
Am I too nice? Why do bad people only interested in sex, get the girl?
Q. I'I'm a young man, in college and I consider myself to be a nice, generous and caring person. My friend was having a house party to celebrate his 17th and during a party one night , I was introduced to "Steph". ". She is an amazing person , same i...
A. 12 November 2010: Yeah us nice guys always get the short end. Its no secret. Why? Well, alcohol is a lot of the reason, but that's not worth getting into. The other reason? The setting.
Think about it, if you met Steph at a coffee shop or at school in the hall... (read in full...)
Confused!! Am I in love with the other man, am I seeking attention or should I just try making my marriage work?
Q. What do i do? I need some major advice cus im so confused. First of all im a 21 yr old wife ive been married for about 3 1/2 yrs now and we have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. I admit i have a problem with cheating emotionally. I mean first of all i got ...
A. 12 November 2010: This is why its tough when people get married at such a young age. Basically from 18 to 21, you're in a constant state of change. Life is evolving fast around you, you're becoming more aware, more intelligent, you get to experience new and more ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him or not?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot, and it's all about really dumb stuff. Most of it is my fault, because I have a really bad temper and things make me mad very easily. We've been dating for about 3 months, but you'd think by now ...
A. 12 November 2010: You should probably end it, not because he did anything wrong, but because you need some time to sort some things out. Getting mad for no reason is common in high school relationships. People that age are full of emotion, hormones, and tons of ... (read in full...)
To Stay or Not To Stay?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 years. We don't live together (he just finished school, so that would be the next step for us very soon). I don't know if he is the one for me. My past has been the same thing with almost all of my ex...
A. 10 November 2010: Well it sounds to me like you should be able to relate with his trust issues. You said that all of his ex's cheated on him, doesn't that hint at a bit of a foundation for these problems?
You really have to look at the bigger picture. Though y... (read in full...)
I think I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i have had sex once only. and i want to be with him again. but i dont know how to tell him....
A. 10 November 2010: Guys don't want to make the women they are with feel like they are only dating them for sex. I'm sure that's why after one time he's trying to give you some space so you don't start to think that's the only thing he's after.
But tell him you'd li... (read in full...)
Is confidence really important to guys?
Q. Hey, just a quick question, is confidence really important to guys? Cause i've heard that guys are more attracted to confident girls, but im really shy and I haven't had a boyfriend in ages. How can i be more confident around guys? And is confidence ...
A. 9 November 2010: Confidence is very important, but this does not mean condescending or obnoxious. Simply being proud of the things you do, the person you are, and especially how you look are very attractive qualities.
I, personally, have trouble standing someone ... (read in full...)
Just stay down.
Q. I've cried more than I have ever cried in my whole life, I've cried so much, that I can't cry anymore. Inside I'm as dead as any corpse. I wanted to love her so much, that everything else lost relevance. She loves another, and I'm left holding the ...
A. 9 November 2010: I've been there. Hell, a lot of us have been there. A lot of good stuff has already been said in these comments, so I'll just give some concrete advice that has helped me:
Get out. Go with a group of friends and spend a night out away from you... (read in full...)
Is it strange that my boyfriend says he loves me after two months?
Q. Hi guys. This may seem like a really silly question but it's something that has been on my mind for a few days. I've been dating this really great guy for about two months now and our relationship started getting physical a couple of weeks ago. Our ...
A. 9 November 2010: They say that the brain is in a constant state of producing "feel good" chemicals during the first 6 months or so of a relationship. Things are new and exciting, and you're consistently learning new amazing things about this person you're with. ... (read in full...)
How do you get the one you like to like you?
Q. how do u get the one u like to like you..?? or how do u get a boiyfriend..?? i mean cuz i talk to my guy friends everyday and i still want to know how to get a boyfried if there not coming to you at the moment.. i mean dont get me wrong i do have ...
A. 9 November 2010: You're still young so I'm sure guys your age are still self conscious about getting close to a girl, which is natural. Honestly just be yourself and let them see the true you.
There's really no big secret that everyone has been keeping from you... (read in full...)
Am I killing the spark?
Q. Ok so Im going out w/ this guy "Josh". Josh seems cool and nice but im not rlly attractied to him...I rlly wanted a bf so i kinda jumped on the chance when he asked me out but the thing is Im just not rlly feeling it. Like the spark! Or even like a ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think right now you're dating for the wrong reasons. You already said you weren't attracted to him, and you're wondering why you missed the spark? That spark comes from both people's attractions finally connecting. When you're not feeling that ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and bored of every day. I've never been in love and I'm turning 22.
Q. I'm sick and bored of every day. I've never been in love and I'm turning 22. I'm sick of going to lectures, studying, and then coming home. Every day, nothing happens. I don't meet new people because I'm too big of a loser to go out socializing. ...
A. 8 November 2010: In case you missed the memo, geeky is really "in" right now. Just look at how our culture has changed. There's an entire generation of women that have fallen in love with the "geeky" culture whether that be through Indie films, casual video games, ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move, or is he no longer interested?
Q. I'm in a complicated situation. I recently met a man and started dating. All was going great - he was taking me out for dinner, coming over and cooking me dinner, going for moonlit walks. It was very early days but I was feeling really optimistic. ...
A. 6 November 2010: Talk to him. Plain and simple. Tell him you have a lot on your mind and ask him to meet somewhere or take a walk with you. I'm sure he'd be willing to listen. Just explain everything that has happened and open up to him. Guys don't exactly kn... (read in full...)
She was my everything
Q. What does it take to get over a 3 and a half year long relationship? She was my everything and she found it so easy to just take every shred of respect and caring for her and throw it away. i was willing to do anything for her.. And she just met...
A. 6 November 2010: That's no easy thing to get over, my friend. I've seen it many times before and I'm sure its done terrible things to your self-esteem. But here are some things my buddies have done when faced with similar scenarios. -Get rid of everything that ... (read in full...)
I want my girl back!! I'm shattered
Q. Hello, I am 22 years old and was in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 years roughly. we both loved each other like crazy. I would literally spend at least 12-13 hours of the day with her. We are both university students and go...
A. 5 November 2010: Honestly, as much as women say they want a sensitive man, that doesn't mean they want someone begging and crying in front of them. I'm not saying that as an insult for I too am a more sensitive guy who has shed some tears in front of the women I ... (read in full...)
I want to move on from her but I cant!
Q. dear cupids, my girlfriend of 7 months dumped me on monday - she claims she cant deal with it at the moment but there has been numerous of mixed feelings from her since like caring, trusting, bitchy and not interested. i would like to move...
A. 5 November 2010: Honestly, give her time by herself to sort stuff out. But I'd say while she does this, try and move on without her. Maybe someday she'll realize that you were a catch and that she made a mistake; maybe she won't. But it will only hurt you more to ... (read in full...)
Why am I so paranoid and controlling when he has never given me any reason not to trust him?
Q. Me and my partner have recently got married but i have never hated myself so much in my life! A week or so before we got married he went out with a friend for some drinks which of course i wasn't happy about because i am so jealous and paranoid! ...
A. 5 November 2010: I'm going to say one thing: He married YOU! A week before he's getting married, of course he's going to go have drinks with his buds! This is an exciting chapter of his life he's starting, and pre-wedding celebration is absolutely normal.
Again... (read in full...)
End relationship or keep trying?
Q. I am late 40's and have been involved with a man for 4 years...a comitted relationship, but we are not engaged and do not live together. We each have 2 children...older teenagers. The beginning of our relationship was great, expected to marry this ...
A. 5 November 2010: Addressing your response about his weight:
Does he have a full time job or something that keeps him busy? My girlfriend's dad, who I was referring to in my last response, was a stay at home dad and didn't work. His depression came out of bored... (read in full...)
I am not sure if I love him anymore but I honestly don't want us to break up
Q. i am 19 years old and i have been in a relationship with my bf over 2 years now. out of that two years we have been in a long distance relationship for 3 months and still going. Since recently i have been thinking a lot if i truely love my bf and ...
A. 5 November 2010: Sounds all too familiar...scary familiar almost. Anyways, just the fact that he is more than willing to stick with you, stay positive, and continuously love you even though he's not getting it back in return just shows what a catch he is. Mo... (read in full...)
I think her behavior was very disrespectful and self-centered
Q. Yesterday, I got home from work and drove to go eat dinner with her. During the dinner, she said she had cravings for ice cream afterward. I told her we can go to our usual place and get some. We walked to the car after finishing dinner, and she ...
A. 5 November 2010: Dude, I don't need to tell you that men's brains have a single focus: whatever is in front of them. We are not multi-taskers. That's a scientific fact. If our focus is one thing, everything else is drowned out until that task is complete. Let ... (read in full...)
How do I become more than your "nice guy" ?
Q. I will be 25 within the next couple months and have never had a girlfriend. I've kissed two girls and by some miracle lost my virginity a few years back, so I've had sex a total of one time in my life. I don't really go around broadcasting this ...
A. 5 November 2010: Try getting one of your good friends who are in a serious relationship to hook you up with one of their girlfriend's friends. Now I'm really not a fan of hookups either, but I think once you both know you're on a "date" they'll already by thinking ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get bored one year into a relationship? I love my boyfriend, but I am getting bored with him as well!
Q. Hey. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've only ever had two genuine, long-term relationships and have only had sex with these said people. The problem is, is that it seems like after I hit the one year mark, I just get totally ... bored of the...
A. 5 November 2010: First off, to answer about the sex; things become far less special the more frequent they become. It may feel good physically, but it can make you a wreck emotionally. Do you initiate it or does he? If he's the one always initiating (which isn't ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but physically cant bring myself to
Q. Im sort of in a relationship with someone. We have been like this for 10 months now. He's lovely and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. But he does have his moment where he turns and just doesn't talk to me, blanks me and does all ...
A. 5 November 2010: Communication, communication, communication! Does he know how this makes you feel? Do you tell him often that you don't like to see him doing those things? Chances are, if he actually knew what you were feeling, he'd try and improve upon ... (read in full...)
Guys, would this put you off?
Q. Question mainly for the guys but general opinion as well. If a girl who has never had a boyfriend and is in her late 20's, very quiet and shy, just goes to work and it easy going and doesn't have any real friends like from school or work would th...
A. 5 November 2010: In my opinion, the only thing I'd have to consider is how "clingy" that girl would become. If they got a boyfriend, chances are they'd make that person their everything.
Being close in a relationship is great, but being able to function well awa... (read in full...)
End relationship or keep trying?
Q. I am late 40's and have been involved with a man for 4 years...a comitted relationship, but we are not engaged and do not live together. We each have 2 children...older teenagers. The beginning of our relationship was great, expected to marry this ...
A. 4 November 2010: Men (and women) tend to gain weight a lot easier in their later years and sometimes the mid-life crisis depression can cause them to just not care about themselves anymore. Knowing many who suffer from depression, when they are yelled at or acc... (read in full...)
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