First I was smothering her, but now I don't care enough!
Q. Okay so I am a 17 year guy and I went out with my girlfriend for about 7 months. This is the second time we've split up. The first time was due to me "not caring", not being sensitive enough and generally giving the vibe that I didn't care (despite ...
A. 30 December 2010: Once again, I agree with dirtball. Ignore her attempts to reach to you. If her texts/messages become overbearing, it wouldn't hurt to send her a simple email stating that you think its best to remain without communication for the foreseeable ... (read in full...)
Am I rushing the situation or is he not interested in me?
Q. There's a new guy at work that I met and he seemed to like me, according to how he acts around me. Well, he invited me to his gym and i went and signed up. I signed up because I thought it would be a good idea since I liked him too. Well, we go to ...
A. 30 December 2010: First of all, congrats on finally getting that guy you've been after :) Second, no. No he doesn't just want you for sex. If he did he would have made a move a LOOOOOONG time ago. Try not to let these things concern you :) Don't over think it. ... (read in full...)
First I was smothering her, but now I don't care enough!
Q. Okay so I am a 17 year guy and I went out with my girlfriend for about 7 months. This is the second time we've split up. The first time was due to me "not caring", not being sensitive enough and generally giving the vibe that I didn't care (despite ...
A. 30 December 2010: Like dirtball said, it probably is for the best. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are very in touch not only with rationality, but your emotions as well (a good mix for a guy to have when dealing with girls) however, she ... (read in full...)
Guys: How do you deal with the break-up of a long distance relationship?
Q. A question for guys.. How do you deal with a break up? In particular a break up of a LDR? Girls tend to cry more, talk more about it but as guys genrally don't do this how do they handle it? Is there ever regret? What about contact? How long do you ...
A. 26 December 2010: When my LDR girlfriend broke things off with me I, admittedly, cried for a few hours. After that, the following week was hell. I spent almost every waking hour in the gym, trying to be "good enough," as though we broke up because something was ... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 26 December 2010: How long have you been on this no contact basis? If its been a few months at least, I'd say you are okay in taking a risk to send, at the very least, an email that he can read explaining everything. You can't really blame him for initiating the n... (read in full...)
My bf gave me a black eye. My Dad wants to meet him
Q. ok so my boyfriend hit me and gave me a black eye and i dont know whether to leave him or not because i'm kind of scared of him. My dad keep asking me to tell him where he lives because he wants to go round there but i dont really want to tell him ...
A. 25 December 2010: Yes, you should leave him. I know it may be scary, but that's all the more reason to do so. It honestly can't be any worse than staying with him. As long as your dad and brother know about him, you shouldn't have to worry; it seems they are more ... (read in full...)
She lied to me and I have no reason to trust her now
Q. ok im 17 iv been dating my gf for about a year,just today she told me something she had kept from me this whole time,it was that she played strip poker and whent skinny dipping one time a couple yrs ago (shes 16) with her friend and a guy,this ticks ...
A. 24 December 2010: People often lie to cover things up they aren't comfortable telling the other person, and obviously she was right in doing so! I'm sure when it happened, she thought she'd just let it be covered in the past; it was something that happened once and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she is taken by someone better
Q. Im in love with this girl ive known her for about a year she has had the same boy freind for almost 10 months and im afriad she might fall in love with him i have never heard her say that she loves we are not best freind because im to afraid i...
A. 24 December 2010: When I was in high school I never wanted to hear this, so I'm sure you won't want to hear this now, but: you're still so young! There's so much time ahead of you.
Just so you know, hardly ever to high school relationships make it. If you real... (read in full...)
Why am I not getting oral anymore?
Q. Hey, my bf has recently stopped giving me oral sex. I am not sure why we have been together 11 months now and when we first started dating he told me it was his favorite thing to do. I asked him what his reason was he said idk I just don't ever feel ...
A. 23 December 2010: Now that you're further along in your relationship, he's become a receiver. Next time your in bed hint to him that he needs to return the favor, or at least that you'd like him to.... (read in full...)
Should I contact him? Or are we over for good?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. Our relationship, which sprouted from a friendship lasted almost two years. He was my best friend. When he broke up with me, it was out of the blue. Our relationship was perfectly fine. But I acce...
A. 23 December 2010: I know how much your heart must be aching to get him back, but if he doesn't want it to happen it never will. Whatever it was that changed his mind, I'm sorry to say its over. You already heard he might have a new girl interest and you have put ... (read in full...)
Jealous girlfriend , my fault I hit her ?
Q. My girlfriend is bi polar and jealous. She caught me with porn and got really mad about it she wol't let me have female friend and I don't care about that because I don't want her to have male friends so we made a deal no friends of oppisite sexes. ...
A. 23 December 2010: Despite someone's obvious, obnoxious, and stressful emotional issues, no one (absolutely NO ONE) deserves to be physically abused for it. The only advice I can offer is for you to two to end things before someone gets seriously hurt. Seek some ... (read in full...)
She's gorgeous. I don't want to mess this up, if I have any chance at all.
Q. Sooo, last night at my friend's birthday party I met one of the most beautiful girls in the world. We talked about relationships, music, etc and laughed a lot and we hugged like four or five times and at some points she even held my hand and kiss...
A. 22 December 2010: Don't fret too much about the text. Text her back as if she was a friend. If she seems up to it, have a simple conversation back and forth over texts. This can allow you to get to know each other even more. If that goes well, try giving her a ... (read in full...)
I'm getting ready to graduate. Have I lost my best chances for dating?
Q. I'm getting ready to graduate college in May which is a pretty cool thing to me. However I do have some worries. I am one semester away from graduating and yet I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl (let alone more than that). And ...
A. 22 December 2010: I happen to be in the same situation. I graduate from college this May and have been newly single for a good few months now after a long relationship. I suppose a lot of me has been in panic mode, as I also fear the end of college being an end to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't feel the same way about me as I do for him
Q. What shall I do!? This is going to sound really pathetic and I'm pretty sure what the answer is going to be. Basically I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now, the thing is he does not like me as much as I like him. I get very jealous...
A. 22 December 2010: That does sound like a tough situation to be in. Ultimately, however, it takes two people to make a relationship. Both have to be giving 100% of their effort, meeting one another half way, otherwise it falls apart. If he's not in this all the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop missing the relationship I once had?
Q. How do I stop missing the relationship I once had with a girl? And also how do I stop feeling so lonely all the time? I was truly happy with this girl over a year ago, I am over her, but not the relationship and I miss the feeling of love and the ...
A. 22 December 2010: Sorry to say that you can't really forget about past relationships. When you become involved with someone, you give them a piece of your heart. They will always have it and you'll will always have a part of them. This isn't necessarily a bad ... (read in full...)
He makes sex seem like a chore!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years now. Ever since we became sexually active (3 months in), he has not been able to have an orgasm during intercourse, only during oral. And it's only during oral that he seems to really enjoy himself. ...
A. 22 December 2010: Well, to put it simply, he's lazy. Oral means absolutely no work on his end. Plus, women take a good long while to get "revved up" and I'm sure its just more effort than he wants to put in to get his "satisfaction." He finds more utility out of ... (read in full...)
Ex says nothing can change her mind about us!
Q. I need help please I'm so in love with my ex and I can't even think about living with out her right now we are just friends and talks to me like nothing happened and like me feeling sad and even crying in front of her many times I just don't know ...
A. 22 December 2010: As its been stated in other comments, and my previous one, a LOT of people have been exactly where you are. They think that no one else will ever replace them in your heart; that they were the "one" and had things another girl could never give you. ... (read in full...)
How do I go about making my next move?
Q. I've a crush on my TA for quite some time now. Throughout the semester, I'd take advantage of her office hours constantly and is always willing to help me (though I know this is her job to do so), so we know each other by name and face. We already ...
A. 22 December 2010: Well, hey, if you're the bold type then go for it. I myself am more comfortable getting to know her on a friendship level and in turn allowing her to know me better. Once we establish that deeper connection, its much easier for me to make the ... (read in full...)
How do I go about making my next move?
Q. I've a crush on my TA for quite some time now. Throughout the semester, I'd take advantage of her office hours constantly and is always willing to help me (though I know this is her job to do so), so we know each other by name and face. We already ...
A. 21 December 2010: Did you go out for that coffee yet? If not, what did she say? If yes, how did it go?
You need to really analyze how interested she might be. Is there ever any flirting, or at the very least, joking around when you're with her? Sometime... (read in full...)
Do men like lingerie or women naked?
Q. So I got some realllly cute Lingerie at Victoria Secret to wear for my boyfriend the other day and I guess the thought never ran through my head but do guy's really enjoy lingerie or are most men just all for the full blown nakedness?...
A. 21 December 2010: Lingerie is the key to teasing. The tease makes us want what's underneath even more. The question to ask is, does your guy enjoy teasing?
Some get turned on by it; some just want to get down to business. It really depends on the mood.
... (read in full...)
Does fighting make a relationship better?
Q. i have been with my 16 year old boyfriend for almost 7 months now, we dont fight at all some people say thats its better to fight sometimes it makes the realationship stronger? would anyone agree? we do have little moods with each other but not big ...
A. 21 December 2010: 1. It depends on both of your moods and overall level of maturity. Some couples can get in violent spats about absolutely nothing. Some only fight when things are serious. Which are you? Do you find yourself getting agitated over the little ... (read in full...)
Ex says nothing can change her mind about us!
Q. I need help please I'm so in love with my ex and I can't even think about living with out her right now we are just friends and talks to me like nothing happened and like me feeling sad and even crying in front of her many times I just don't know ...
A. 21 December 2010: There are a lot of those who have been where you are, including me; you definitely are not alone. I'm confident enough to say that it will get better. Slowly.
One big thing here is to stop thinking about her as "the one." The more you put her ... (read in full...)
We fight, argue and I nag. But now I'm questioning if he's a good guy. Is he?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and like we have been arguing a lot lately and i want to strengthen the relationship and so does he. He brought up the idea of marriage and a bright future. But we want to manage a way to stop arguing ...
A. 18 December 2010: Well he has been by your side for two years and has suggested marriage in the future. Sometimes peoples' tempers get the better of them. He also apologized, which shows more maturity than you think. Its hard for guys, especially high school guys, ... (read in full...)
I just want to fall in love again, I don't want to be alone!
Q. Ive recently posted about ex boyfriends and current boyfriends and rebounds and I broke up with the current boy who was a rebound (or so I think) however now Im even more unhappy, I've found I dont like being alone and all I want now is to fall in ...
A. 18 December 2010: As great as relationships are, there is nothing wrong with appreciating the time you have being single. I do know the feeling of losing love and immediately wanting it back in some form, but as you may have found out, this only leads to foolish ... (read in full...)
Maybe this relationship isn't that perfect.
Q. What do you do when you're in a relationship with someone who should be perfect for you. They're pretty much your own age, clever, funny and just generally lovely, but it's not enough, and you find yourself completely falling for someone else you ...
A. 18 December 2010: Its honestly up to you, but I'd like to point out that no relationship is perfect. They'll always be something missing (the grass is always greener, blah blah blah) I honestly hope you find someone who can meet your expectations, but if they don't ... (read in full...)
Can my wife actually lose the weight?
Q. What is a person supposed to do when they are no longer attracted to there spouse? My wife and I have been together now for 13 years, 8 of which we have been married. She is awesome in many aspects which is why I love her so much. She has ...
A. 18 December 2010: "I came to the conclusion that im stuck with a women who doesnt care how I feel"
But have you considered how she must feel? She's obviously lost a sense of self confidence, and surely it will not help to continue to nag (and even threaten... (read in full...)
I feel weird because I'm 19 and have never had a boyfriend. What can I do to change this?
Q. I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend. I personally find it weird. I know you guys are probably thinking "you're only 19, you have your whole life ahead of you to fall in love/be in a relationship/have a boyfriend/etc..." and you're probably righ...
A. 18 December 2010: Well you definitely covered all the usual bases I take (get out more, be more approachable, etc) so I guess I'll ask this:
Do you have a lot of guy friends? Almost no guy friends?
Both can contribute to it. If you're a person who knows a lot ... (read in full...)
How can I make my insecure girlfriend feel more secure?
Q. I am trying to figure out a way to make my girlfriend feel secure about herself. When I first met her, and we started dating, she seemed perfect, confident, nice, smart, beautiful, everything. The way that I love who she is hasnt changed, (and all ...
A. 18 December 2010: I've been there, man. I really appreciate a confident woman who knows she's amazingly beautiful just the way she is, and when I'm in the company of someone who finds endless things about themselves to complain about I get easily annoyed.
Seein... (read in full...)
Sometimes it just feels like he's too mature...
Q. hey everyone, i'm on my friend's account, so i'm not 16. i am 14, and a freshman in high school. Let me set the scenes here: i started dating a sophomore in august, and we fell in love almost instantly. I fell for his 'badboy' black-clothes, ...
A. 18 December 2010: Actions speak louder than words. He seems like a very violent, controlling person by nature which could lead to problems in the future. Even though he's sweet to you, how he treats others should be very important to you, because that's a glimpse ... (read in full...)
Why do some people get into relationships easier than others?
Q. I'm 23 at uni and I get depressed when I see most people in relationships at university and get into them fairly easily. I have no problem asking women out (though I used to until recently) but then I seem to struggle to get into the relationship ...
A. 16 December 2010: Don't base yourself on experience, but on your overall interactions with others. Do you have regular friends who are girls? How do you interact with them?
Its much easier to take a girl out and get to know her as a friend until you feel the... (read in full...)
I'm nuts about her and want her to know it
Q. hello cupid. I've never been in any relation with any girl. now there's this girl whom Im interested in and we do the internet chatting, but its been a couple of months and things haven't even progressed to a stage where I can even express my inter...
A. 16 December 2010: Is this friendship long-distance? As in you aren't in a near vicinity? If she is nearby, why not just ask her to hang out? It doesn't have to be 1 on 1, in fact it may be better to get your friend, who is a mutual friend between you two, to come ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say to him or even about how I feel!
Q. In my group of friends I am normally the one that sorts out the problems but I will be the first to admit that I am rubbish at solving my own. Mainly because I think it takes someone with a clear head and someone that doesn't know you personally ...
A. 15 December 2010: "For me though I have never thought about him in that way." There is your answer. Your friends are NOT you. They cannot see into your heart or your mind. You are the only one who can decide the type of person you like and how much chemistry y... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me that I can't see that he's obviously not into me?
Q. I don't know why I'm so into him and why I sit around waiting for him to call. I've been seeing this guy on and off for a few months now. Seeing is actually an exaggeration, more like saw him once and text often. I met at a party where he...
A. 15 December 2010: Well for one thing, you don't for sure what happened with him. Maybe he cancelled for good reasons? You never know. The only way you can really find out is to stop waiting around for the call. I suggest picking up your phone and calling (or ... (read in full...)
He told me not to tell anyone we were talking, then he gets back together with his ex?
Q. I'm 16 years old and told I look a lot older, last year my sister got married and I was a bridesmaid. I was standing at the bar getting a drink and my sisters friend (23) put his arm around my hip and said "your beautiful" and "I love your dress", ...
A. 15 December 2010: From my understanding of the story, he doesn't seem like the most genuine of guys. I believe one of the hardest things for young women to do is to judge a man's character by his actions rather than his words. Words are nothing more than a contract ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins and tried unsuccessfully to have sex!
Q. hello there me and my girlfriend just tried to have sex for the first time (for both of us) and after a little foreplay we got down t busness and i put the protection on and then the problem, it wouldnt go in, we are both very nearly seventeen and ...
A. 12 December 2010: Lube is helpful. I had similar issues during my first time. Its also good that you performed a little foreplay before hand. I'd suggest extending that if lubrication is the issue. It does take a little more effort the first time, but be patient ... (read in full...)
My GF has a crush on another. and I feel as if I'm her default.
Q. Hi, my gf and I been dating for 3 years. for the 3 years.. we always spoke about how no other person could replace either of us.. she promised to be with me forever and that no other guy was better than me. We were a cute couple.. and we now know ...
A. 9 December 2010: If I had a dollar for every time I've heard this story... seriously this happens so much more often than you'd think, especially with this age group in long distance relationships. Yes, you have become her "default," to put it harshly enough. ... (read in full...)
Should I get even with my ex?
Q. Hi , Here's a question for all you guys and girls. Whats the best way of revenge on an ex. My girlfriend of two years who I was extremely loyal and faithful to had an affair with two different guys. I don't mean just sex ... she was in an emotio...
A. 8 December 2010: You want to retain your dignity and pride, right? Well the best way to do that is move on. You already have your dignity and pride by letting it go. It may suck a ton right now, feeling like you should get revenge, but I guarantee you'll thank ... (read in full...)
Long distance communication problems....
Q. Hello..I've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for 8 months now. When we first met, we talked all the time. He'd text me througout the day and would call me every night. He was always saying sweet things and telling me how he felt about me and such. ...
A. 8 December 2010: I would plan on bringing it up. Guys are almost 100% oblivious to the inner workings of the female mind, so don't expect that subtle hints of what your problems are will bring him around.
I know you said that you don't want to turn it into an ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about cheating on my girlfriend, but I don't intend on leaving her for this other girl!
Q. i am cheating on my girl friend and i am feeling really bad about it.My other girl friend broke up with her guy for me and she is in love with me as well.And just to make her feel better,i ended up saying that she is the one for me and because of ...
A. 8 December 2010: The other comments sum it up. Confess and get it off your chest. Even if you stopped seeing the "other girl," and devoted yourself entirely to your girlfriend, she'd find out eventually.
Do the right thing man.... (read in full...)
He says he's going to change, but I see no improvement!
Q. hey everyone, im a little confused as usual in my complicated relationship. i dont know if i have like a problem and this would happen with every guy im with or if its just because my hearts not all the way in this relationship anymore. so for st...
A. 8 December 2010: I suppose I recommend taking a much much longer break than normal. First off, tell him everything you just typed on here so he knows exactly what it is about him that drives you crazy so he is aware of what he needs to change. Second, lay down ... (read in full...)
I have no feelings or sex drive for my 330 lb. husband!
Q. Iam so imbarrased to write about this! But iam so tired of this I really need some advise! I have a husband that weighs 330pounds. I weigh 140pounds. Our sex sucks really really bad because of his weight. I keep on asking him to loose weight in ...
A. 8 December 2010: It sounds likes you two have some problems that may take a professional to solve. He obviously is lazy and has found excuses to permit his laziness and weight gain, expressing that, "Nobodies perfect," or "The man provides, the woman looks nice." ... (read in full...)
Do most boys choose their X-Box or PS3 over their girlfriend?
Q. It seems like my boyfriend's life is playing on his xbox or ps3, I dnt understand why he would rather play on that instead of talking to me on the phone etc. Anytime I go to his house he would rather play on his xbox than me?! Is this normal? ...
A. 8 December 2010: Sometimes guys do enjoy their "game time," but sometimes it gets a little too obsessive. Express to him your concerns and get it in his head that he should put a little more effort to see you. He won't know until you tell him.... (read in full...)
Am I rushing the situation or is he not interested in me?
Q. There's a new guy at work that I met and he seemed to like me, according to how he acts around me. Well, he invited me to his gym and i went and signed up. I signed up because I thought it would be a good idea since I liked him too. Well, we go to ...
A. 4 November 2010: Nothing wrong with being good friends for now. As a guy, I realize there are those of us who will go and ask out a woman within minutes. For me, and several others I know, we appreciate starting a great friendship beforehand. Getting to know ... (read in full...)
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