Boyfriend cheated with multiple girls
Q. Found out my boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls from my area Including MY BEST FRIEND. His defence was " technically we're not in a relationship its more of a friends with benifets thing " He introduced me to his family as his girlfriend, birthday ...
A. 16 December 2011: The best option is a simple one:
1. Get him out of your life. He doesn't give a shit about you if he's going to cheat on you with several other women. Don't talk to him, don't listen to what he has to say (he has nothing relevant to say anyw... (read in full...)
He did not invite me out! Why is he acting this way?
Q. To cut a long story short. I have fancied this guy in university for a year now and although we haven't talked much through the year, we went on a dinner date a couple of days ago. We got a bit drunk after dinner and I went back to his and we ki...
A. 16 December 2011: I agree with ChaliceODamnation, not so much the anonymous response.
There are several reasons he may have not invited you out:
1. You haven't made it clear to him that you enjoyed your time together the other night. If you really did, you ... (read in full...)
Pretty girl....
Q. HEY.... a problem.. this girl from India is THE most beautiful person you'll find in the world. Brown eyes, Silky straight brown hair, fair skin, perfect height, pinky cheeks and rosy red lips. HA the problem is 36 guys out of 41 in our class have ...
A. 16 December 2011: I know this sounds cliche, but it still holds merit and is some of the best advice I can give; be yourself. Let the other 36 guys make idiots of themselves trying to compete for her attention. Sure they may start out seeming like nice guys and ... (read in full...)
Guys! What are the motivations, excuses, reasons, justification for men who are cheating?
Q. I'm trying to better understand motivations for men cheating. So all the men out there... IF your woman is very attractive, always sexually available and ready for you, gives you massages, regularly cooks meals, works and pays her own sh...
A. 16 December 2011: Its actually been statistically shown that the number of women who think cheating is okay, or have actually cheated is strikingly close to that of men. Cheating does not discriminate; scumbag people are scumbag people, no matter what gender, race, ... (read in full...)
It's Driving me crazy, I cant get hold of my boyfriend! Am I Over reacting?
Q. My boyfriend who i'm in a ldr with has ignored my phone calls all day. He phoned me last night and was fine. Today I try calling him 3 times and he hasnt answered. I know he has no credit to call or text me back. But its driving me crazy that I...
A. 16 December 2011: You're overreacting. Like you said, you talked to him last night and everything was fine. Do you have your phone on you every minute of the day? Don't you do other things during your day where you can't be at your phone? Or maybe you're just not ... (read in full...)
Too many issues and she thinks its all me, please help. I believe shes the one.
Q. hey guys, ill try not to do a novel :) this will be a question that may need some agony aunt devotion . i will appreciate answers to my full extent, i promise. so.. my girlfriend of over 2 years now hates me, here are our issues: my gf says i ...
A. 16 December 2011: You both are simply too different to live in harmony. This seems to be obvious enough. A lot of people have differences, sure, but some people learn to be with each other and let those differences go. Your girlfriend doesn't seem to want to do ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure now because my boyfriend said I needed to "tone up" to go from being an 80 to 100!
Q. I am obsessed with becoming thinner than I am. Although I know that the way I am made, it is impossible for me to be tall and thin, I want to be thinner. I am 130 pounds and 5'5 so my height places me at a disadvantage, but even though I'm very ...
A. 16 December 2011: Cerberus sums everything up quite nicely, but I'll throw in my comments just to reinforce some of the things he said.
You will never be happy with your body through changing your body. You will ONLY be happy with your body through changing... (read in full...)
I've become close to this guy, could it be something more than just friends?
Q. So, for the past few weeks there's this guy that I've become real close with. We have one class together and in a short one we just have become he best of friends. Sometimes I think it's more friendship an I don't want to get myself thinking like ...
A. 16 December 2011: Yeah he's definitely trying for a rebound. He's likely feeling unloved and lonely after splitting up with his ex and is trying to fill it in any way he can.
For now, don't take the bait, but continue to be a good friend. If he does really l... (read in full...)
Ex cheated on me saying it was a one night stand, I find out now it was a friend and he is dating her!
Q. This may be long but advice and motivation from anyone would be really appreciated! So just a couple months ago my bf of three years confessed to me he cheated on me. He told me it was some random girl he hooked up with a party and I believed...
A. 16 December 2011: I'm very sorry to hear that. I personally know how it feels to not only find out that your significant other was cheating on you, but also that in the end, they didn't really feel that guilty about it. It definitely isn't easy and I remember the ... (read in full...)
I have an eye infection and can't wear makeup. Should I not go out clubbing?
Q. Honest question, i'm going out tomorrow but I can't wear eye makeup with an infection I have at the moment. I've never been clubbing without makeup and I worry guys will think I look ugly without it, I don't know whether to go out and just have a ...
A. 15 December 2011: I'd agree that guys (at least the mature ones) like girls to look more natural, as in not so much makeup and product all over themselves. I'm personally turned off when a girl approaches me with a shotgun of makeup everywhere.
Again, that's m... (read in full...)
Double booked! Who do I choose to meet?
Q. I accidentally made two agreements on the same day, Friday evening. At first I thought I only had a group of friends to meet, and then another friend of mine called to remind me about a meeting I had planned with her. We were supposed to discus ...
A. 15 December 2011: Well, when you think about it, you did, whether you remember it or not, make obligations with her first. Certainly I'd be a little upset if someone who was important to me, with whom I needed to discuss something of importance with, asked if they ... (read in full...)
I don't like it when I see my b/f and friend together! They used to date each other
Q. I don't really no wat to do anymore in regards to my boyfriend. Every things going great but I'm having problems myself. My really good friend went out with him last year. She's perfectly fine with me dating him (all though I learned that she still ...
A. 15 December 2011: Well, first off, it was a good and mature step to tell him directly how you feel about him and your friend. Problems like these always get worse if people don't talk about them with their partner. Since you've tried talking to him without much... (read in full...)
Does interest shift this fast or is she flaky?
Q. i was hanging out with this girl for about a month, then following this unexplicable (literally, non-verbal) falling-out she started ignoring me, won't talk, and has immediately replaced me with another dude. she's 21 and i'm 27. is she that ...
A. 15 December 2011: Its likely she never thought of you as anything but a friend. Maybe at one point she realized you were more interested than she was and bolted. Its hard to know exactly when all I have to go off is a small paragraph; for instance, I know nothing ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend gets upset that I can't orgasm each time we have sex!
Q. Hi there, I'm 19 and have been sexually active since I was 15.... I've been with 3 guys and all of those I've been in long term relationships with. I enjoy sex but it doesn't make me orgasm and my clit is normally to sensitive when I'm having sex so ...
A. 15 December 2011: No need to worry, you are completely normal and women are often unique in the ways they are sensitive to sexual stimulation. Its likely he's making a big deal out of it because he feels that it puts a blemish on his sexual status. Through movies ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being bitchy?
Q. I've been really bitchy lately and its really making my boyfriend upset..its all because I've been unhappy about the place that we live in. I'm sooo fed up with our roomates! Their so filthy and lazy and they have nasty animal that they won't clean ...
A. 15 December 2011: Well, the only solution that's going to actually work is to move out. Changing something that's ingrained into your personality is not an easy task and will not happen over night. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try to change your personality; for ... (read in full...)
2 months in and I don't feel like I'm falling for her. What is holding me back?
Q. I'm feeling confused and I don't think that's a good sign... I've been dating a girl for nearly 2 months now (not long, I know). She really is lovely and we have so much in common, but for reasons I can't understand, I just don't feel like I'm ...
A. 15 December 2011: I can think of two reasons: 1. You're not really sure why you're even with her in the first place. Trust me, this isn't that uncommon and its definitely happened to me. Maybe you were friends with this girl, noticed that she started to like ... (read in full...)
I'd be a lot happier and less lonely if I had a boyfriend. Why cant I get one? Am I cursed or extremely unlucky or just too picky?
Q. I'm feeling pretty lonely and down lately, even though I have such a loving family and the bestest, funniest friends I could ever ask for. However I do seem to spend a lot of time by myself these days, and I've kinda come to the conclusion that I'd ...
A. 15 December 2011: Don't feel as though you're alone in your thoughts. A lot of perfectly normal, attractive, and fun people have these feelings about themselves, especially when there is a dry spell in their dating life. Know that you're definitely not the only one ... (read in full...)
Gf of 5 years has no affection or feelings for me, has kept me and our relationship hidden from her family and friends and doesn't ever intend telling them!
Q. Been with gf nearly 5 years now. Last 3 years the relationship has slowly died out. We have sex onece a month now ifI'm lucky, but she only does it for me. She makes no effort to participate, all she does is lay there until ive finished then ge...
A. 15 December 2011: Wow. Leave. Immediately.
Look, this is an unhealthy relationship by all means. She doesn't show any interest or love towards you and has basically admitted that she's only with you because she's lonely and thinks she doesn't have a choice b... (read in full...)
(( Guys )) What is your definition of a "hot" girl or woman??
Q. Hi! My boyfriend uses this term quite often (when talking about women.) He even said he thought I was "hot" when we met. Honestly, I was shocked because I never considered myself being that and was never called that by anyone in the past. I am an ...
A. 15 December 2011: Different strokes for different blokes.
Everyone has their own opinion of what they find to be "hot" or sexy. My dating history goes back to many different women with different hair color, eye color, facial structure, personal style, and interest... (read in full...)
Title How can I get my boyfriend to kiss me before christmas Break?
Q. Hey Everyone, Oksy so Me and My boyfriend have been dating since 12/10/11, and that hasnt been long, ive longed for him to ask me out and after weeks of my friends bugging him, he finally asked, i found out hes liked me since the 6th gr...
A. 14 December 2011: I'll have to agree with the others; initiate it yourself. If he's liked you for that long, he definitely wants to do it, but is likely shy. I understand; I grew up in an area where the first kiss had to be special and not rushed at all. I know ... (read in full...)
What would be a non-creepy way to get this guy's number?
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I really like. He's got a girlfriend, but I know her quite well (she's actually one of my good friends) and she's not happy with the relationship. She feels that they're moving way too fast, and stuff like that. She wants to ...
A. 14 December 2011: Maybe I'm missing some sort of unwritten female code, but if she's a good friend of yours and is seriously going to end the relationship, would there really be a harm in asking her about it?
Just say if she doesn't want to be with him, that may... (read in full...)
I just can't read him, it's hard to know if he likes me the way I like him or not.
Q. Hello there cupids, I shall try and keep this as short as I can. I had to come to all of you for your advice as this is driving me nuts! So basically, I really like this friend of mine, we shall call him 'bob'. Me and bob used to go to school t...
A. 14 December 2011: I'm going to say take the chance. All his mannerisms while he is with you suggest he is indeed interested. The laughing, the late night (or early morning) texts along with all the tickling and cuddling clearly point to interest.
If he's too dull... (read in full...)
Is it okay to hangout with a guy I recently met and know is interested in me, even though I have a boyfriend?
Q. The other day at work, I met a guy (not affiliated with my place of work) who seemed very friendly and genuinely nice (and cute, too!) After a little bit of talking, he asked me out on a date, to which I declined and stated that I had a boyfriend of ...
A. 1 May 2011: My gut tells me that it's a bad idea. I've witnessed too many bad things come from "friendships" like these. In the end, someone usually gets hurt. If you do really want to hang out with him, I suggest not doing it one on one. Wait until its a ... (read in full...)
It it possible we could get together again?
Q. Is it possible where 2 people who went into a relationship perfectly normal and fine, who then 3 years later both manage to get depressed get back together? Sorry let me explain that better. I met a guy online 3 years ago, we fell in love. I...
A. 24 April 2011: Don't consider him getting better to mean it was your fault he wasn't okay in the first place. Sure, the stress of a long-distance relationship may have contributed for it, but that's neither of your faults. Some people just have a hard time ... (read in full...)
What do I do with all the relationship baggage so I can be in a relationship?
Q. I've had a crush on this one guy for about three years now. Everyone(my friends, his friends) all think we should be together, although we barely talk. All it ever is is a few friendly laughs and a comment here or there. He's the only one in my ...
A. 24 April 2011: First, don't let someone's social status affect how you think of them as a person. Just because he comes from a wealthy family doesn't necessarily mean he wasn't raised with integrity. Its not his fault his family has money and it wouldn't be fair ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been going through a crisis in life and is unsure about her feelings for me. My life has come crashing down...
Q. I am new to this forum and probably wouldn't have ever posted if it weren't for one of the most painful turn of events which might change my life forever. my girlfriend and I had been going steady since dec 2007. we were exact opposites...
A. 24 April 2011: Sadly enough, this story is a very common one :( A life crisis always brings about a different note to the people we care for, and many times when it separates us we forget just how much we love them. When the future is so unclear and seemingly ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend laugh when I do something sexual?
Q. My girlfriend is 18 and whenever we do something sexual, she laughs. I mean we're kissing and I sneak my hand up her skirt and she'll giggle. Is it that she's immature? I've had sex with other girls and they didn't laugh. ...
A. 24 April 2011: It might be new to her. She may just feel uncomfortable so she tries to ease the tension with laughter. Its certainly not out of the question to talk to her about it.
Just make sure you don't sound like you want to embarrass her or show off how ... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex want me back?
Q. Alrighty so me and some of my friends are hanging out today and among them is my ex boyfriend. He is still flirty sometimes but it is SO inconsistent. He always insults me somehow and I'm sick of it. I do have a new boyfriend (my ex's bestfriend) ...
A. 24 April 2011: I don't think that's a healthy thing to be asking yourself. Why would you want him to want you back? I know that the attention may be flattering, but you're in a new relationship now. You want to show that he doesn't run your life anymore, but ... (read in full...)
Am I doomed to be single?
Q. Hi Im 18 and a little over weight not like fat but a bit bigger and i have these friends that are so much prettier and skinnier than me. we all go out and they get all the attention even the guy i like likes one of them. I just dont know what to ...
A. 24 April 2011: Some have already mentioned, but I'd like to support it by agreeing that your weight is not the problem. Different guys like all sorts of body shapes and there are tons out there who prefer a woman who is curvier and more voluptuous. Don't worry ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone you have been in a relationship with for 5 months?
Q. I am interested in hearing other people's opinions on this- do you think it's possible to love someone you have been in a relationship with for 5 months? I have been with my boyfriend for this long but really feel like we have a strong connection. ...
A. 20 April 2011: I'd say it'd be wise to tread lightly. 5 months isn't too unreasonable; its certainly enough time to really get to know each other. But it truly is hard to know who someone really is until you've spent an obnoxious amount of time with them.
... (read in full...)
Do I need to cut my hair to increase my luck meeting girls?
Q. Hi, I've been single for nearly a year now and I want to get out there again but I don't want anything too serious as I have a very bad track record of relationships, therefore I am severely put off for the time being. I have told my friend that...
A. 6 April 2011: If you don't want to cut your hair for someone else, it could be a good idea to instill a little more confidence in yourself. This is coming from a guy whose always had shaggier hair. When it was time to get a job, I got it trimmed a good amount, ... (read in full...)
I want my fiancée back, but she has decided to move on...
Q. I was 3 months from marriage and my fiancé broke up with me. She decided to give up her life in another state and move to be with me. In a brief discussion about what she would bring from her exisiting home from to the one I live in, which would ...
A. 4 April 2011: There has to be something else that has caused her to decide to call it off. I don't think anyone can go from genuinely in love and soon-to-marry into "lets move on with our lives" in such a short amount of time. She must have had something deep ... (read in full...)
Do I have a reason to be mad at my bestfriend?
Q. Hey I have a question.. Sooo I don't have a car right now, I need one tho to start college. And now, I'm single. I've been single for almost a year. Meaning no dates no sex no talkin on the phone no nothing. But my best friend has because she has ...
A. 4 April 2011: I think you may be confused on what you actually want. You're jealous of your friend for getting laid and getting all this attention, yet when the opportunity presents itself to you, you back off? You said you got two guys' numbers in one night. ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my ex-gf acts like she does towards me. Can someone explain??
Q. Hey Dear Cupid people Sorry this is long, but it's a story with many twists! I've never been able to understand girls but my ex girlfriend has gotta be the most confusing. We were together about a year...proper in love she said things li...
A. 22 March 2011: Oh yeah, she definitely wants a reaction from you. Whether or not this is part of or outside her personality is for you to judge; it could be something that she just developed in her sadness over the break up. Either way, she wants you to be ... (read in full...)
My bf and I have done everything but have sex, and he doesn't like to talk about it. Does that mean he doesn't want to have sex with me?
Q. I am 17 years old and me and my bf have been going out for over a year now. I was wondering if anybody could interpret my bfs actions. He has me very confused. We have done everything sexually except actual intercourse. He is very shy but is happy...
A. 22 March 2011: I want to assure you that this has nothing to do with you, so don't think you're at fault in any way. Chances are he's just really self conscious about it, which is normal for a guy his age (or any guy before their first time) Being physical... (read in full...)
What does a man feel emotionally when receiving oral sex?
Q. Hey guys....I read something once that "Giving a man a blow job is like giving a woman flowers" What kind of feeling does it give a man when she wants to give him a bj? Is it just a feel good sexual act or do you guys feel a connection with ...
A. 22 March 2011: It obviously depends on the guy. Guys react differently to different things; some guys will almost expect oral, where others may really appreciate it.
Personally, I just appreciate the act of the woman opening up. I know its not the most fav... (read in full...)
Will I ever be whole again?
Q. My boyfriend for about a year and a half recently decided he couldn't be my boyfriend anymore. He is getting ready to graduate college while I still remain in school. Ultimately it is because he feels he can't do a long distance relationship and ...
A. 22 March 2011: It seems as though you're much better off without him. While you were completely committed to him, he didn't show the same respect for you and didn't seem to care about your happiness one bit. I'm sure that you were in love with him, which is why ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think he loves me?
Q. ok , so after my divorce in 2004 , me and a long time friend who was divorcing too . started to sleep together the first time once , did not see him for 9 months he called apologized and said i did not deserve that , we got to gather a few times a ...
A. 10 March 2011: Commitment is a strange thing and is often misconstrued to mean "settling." Both of you have seen the bad ends of marriage in your own ways, and while you may seem ready to find another relationship, that may not be the experience he's looking for ... (read in full...)
I'm bored and feel like breaking up
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 1 year 2 1/2 months but I got a problem. You see I love her but I get bored with her. We are in high school but it really just feels like a friendship. One day she didn't come o school and I was amazingly ...
A. 6 March 2011: It sounds like both of you aren't getting much from this relationship. I agree with the other comments. It'll hurt, but you'll both be better off in the long run.... (read in full...)
If a guy is using you, would he actually add you on facebook?
Q. Ok,if this helps,we're both 23 and he's a uni student.I'm not sure it will but hey...Anyway,my question is if a guy is using you would he actually add you on facebook-I mean,what if his other girls are on his facebok too and I contacted one of ...
A. 6 March 2011: Do you have any other indicators of you being used? In my experience, everyone adds everyone on Facebook these days, so I don't think that portion was really of concern to him. However, if you're feeling that you're being used from some of his ... (read in full...)
Overweight and unhappy!
Q. Okay I'd really like some help on this. Something that has got me down for about 4 years. I'll shoot straight into it. I'm overweight. I'm not huge but I feel it. I don't wear anything that reveals my arms (because they are gross), and i don't wear ...
A. 3 March 2011: Just keep staying active. There is no "secret" really. Aside from your body's natural metabolic rate, which you cannot control, everything else is up to you. You can maintain the calories you take in and enhance the calories you burn through ... (read in full...)
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