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writes:So I finally broke down and decided to test out the online dating scene, and to say the least, I'm not impressed. I wasted an hour or so of my time filling out the eharmony survey... just for them to tell me I'm not an acceptable match. Great. Now I'm getting rejected by a computer. So then I go for chemistry, based on their claim that they don't turn away anyone. I should have known something was wrong when all the questions on their survey were basically yes-or-no, right-or-wrong answers, despite their claims that the survey is based on years of research in love and romance, or whatever. I bit anyway, and paid the $50 for a one month subscription. After almost a month, I have yet to get a single match that could be considered viable. I rarely get close to 10 a day, and few if any fit my basic preferences (distance, age, ect). There is no science to chemistry.com... it's no better than a free site. The matches are obviously completely random, and they don't so much as lean towards basic preferences like distance and age... let alone interests and personality traits. I've had better satisfaction with myspace. Looks like my subscription is getting cancelled before those scam artists automatically bill me for another month.I'd be interested to hear any positive feedback on some of these dating sites. Anyone have a good story? Any luck with other sites?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Internet dating is like window shopping, you know you check each others profiles,pics etc, to see if you are compatible. I met my guy 10 months ago on Smooch.com dating service, which 100% free. Some online dating companies want you to pay fees for receiving/sending messages. Which is ok for some people, who have money for that sort of thing, but I am as poor as a church mouse lol so I tried the free dating.Here are some tips for you hun.1. Always have a photo/s of yourself and do not reply to girls who will not show a pic of themselves otherwise its shows they have something to hide.2. Always meet in a public place and never ever in at a hotel or at your/her place.3. Be specific at what type of person/relationship you are looking for.4. Women love a sense of humour too, it shows that you have a great personality. Us women don't always go for guys who look like Brad Pitt and has the charisma of a paper bag (Sorry Brad I don't mean you personally) lol :DApart from what I have advised you Good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 August 2008):
 In my opinion, eharmony is way overrated and, as about the most expensive, it is a ripoff. One called plentyoffish.com is free last time I checked.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
 I have never tried internet dating, but I did make a little search for you about dating sites that are rated by users, so I'll give you the top 5:
-http://www.perfectmatch.com/hp/indexaff.asp?p=n
-http://friendfinder.com/go/g957580-pmo%20target=
-http://www.match.com/promo/promopage.aspx?trackingid=522990&Bannerid=558405&keyword=15percentoffaff&siteID=mlzu.avuYvM-OKhLB.M0oj0zjihmBdaVYQ
-http://www.matchmaker.com/ShowLogin.do?trackid=000000028603&AID=10415665&PID=2946351
-http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/g957579-pmo
All of this are rated 5 stars by users based on their experience using the website. I saw the rates for eHarmony (which was 4) and for chemistry (also 4), which kind of makes me doubt the rating system. Well, anyways, I don't think there's nothing wrong in trying them out. Good luck!
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reader, Auntie Mandy +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Yea I can understand completely, but I find that love will eventually work its course even if it takes sometime
I believe we all have a sole partner out there somewhere, we just need to look hard enough
However some people might say the dating sites work an other will say the opposite, thats life
Its just the same as my suitation, I met a guy when I went out for dinner, I think he's perfect but 1 problem, he's alreadly got a girlfriend but he send me mixed messages leaving me confused
So what do I do?
I move on in the hope of finding out if it's the right decison
I suggest u go out for the night, have some fun an get chatting it's definly cheaper an u never no what might happen
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Ok maybe you are on the wrong sites. I dont know about USA but in UK there are some great sites. My sister met her hubbie to be on fish.comdating,match.com is also a good one. Try another site and dont give up x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): hey,
yeah ive always heard dating sites arent much good, although my uncle got a divorce 4 years ago and become a member on match.com or something simple like that. he met a wonderful lady, she was gorgeous, friendly, her husbnd had died a few years previous and she only lived a 10 minute drive from my uncle, they met up in a coffee shop and now 3 years down the line theyre engaged and getting maried next august. so although i dont personally have experience, i know someone who has :D dont give up, im a strong beliver in fate, everything happens for a reason and you will meet your miss perfect one day :D good luckk x
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Hi
Well .. I was very affraid to use one of the online agencies, cause I heard about people meeting with their matches, that at the end were totaly different people than their online profiles!
I was lucky.
I met the man of my life. I was in love since the day one. We have beent together for nearly 2 years and we are planing our future together (lets keep fingers crossed .. haha).
I have to say I was one of the lucky ones. I signed up at match.com .. the first week I got about 400 emails not counting the winks ... it was funny. I chated with couple of people that I have picked out ... I was supposed to have a date w one of them on Thursday that week ... My BF winked at me on Monday .. we went out the next day .. and we were together since that day ONE!
I know this doesnt happen often, and mostly you just have to go through couple of dates and than you hopefuly find someone you really like ...
But I would say "Do it!" ...
I have other 4 gfs that are now going out w someone, they found on match.com .. and I have 2 friends that got married w a guy that they met on match.
I hope it works out for you too!
Good luck
XOXO Lierin
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