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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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I think my g/f is trying to get pregnant so I marry her. What do I do?
Q. I have been dating my g/f for more than 6 months now and she has been hinting about marriage. We have been having sex since our second month of dating and up until a few weeks ago I was using condoms. My girlfriend went on the pill so I would ...
A. 28 January 2010: Use a condom. ... (read in full...)
I need insight on contraceptive methods...
Q. Hy everyone. I am little bit suspicious with condoms as a prevention of pregnancy. I know that they are pretty much safe because they can also protect person form all kind of sickness, but there`s a small posibility that makes me nervous about ...
A. 26 January 2010: Condoms don't split all that easily.
But you got to buy the right size, to small or large and it can tear. Put it on wrong, and it can tear. Scratch it with a nail and it can tear.
But if you practice a bit first and get the right size, then... (read in full...)
Her ex was 'bigger' than me!
Q. well, we are a evangelic couple, and we'll have sex just after marriage, before both of us turned evangelic and knew each one, we had another partners... we don't amke sex yest but she putted her hand on my dick when i came out from the bath and...
A. 26 January 2010: A: tell her your ex's tits were bigger.
B: If size is all that mattered, she would be with him still.... (read in full...)
Am I having an orgasm when my leg shakes?
Q. So im 18 and i've had sex a few times...and im not really sure if ive ever had an orgasim...so when I have sex after about an hour my leg start to shake uncontrollably does that mean im having an orgasim?? ...
A. 25 January 2010: On the whole, if you are having an orgasm, you know about it.
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The context of an "ask out"...
Q. This one is for guys... Let's say that you are asked out by an attractive woman whom formally worked under you. You are both single to your knowledge. She sends you a casual email asking you out to a drink. How would you feel, would you think ...
A. 25 January 2010: An email? I would think it was something semi-serious. Maybe you want to talk to me about work away from preying eyes.
After all, would you think a guy was romantically interested if he used email instead of talking to you when you see each oth... (read in full...)
Is height a problem when it comes to a relationship? Should the man be way taller than the woman?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm 5'5 feet tall and my husband is only about an inch taller than me.whenever i stand next to him i feel like i'm bigger than him! or we are the same height.he's thin too.and im average.So even when posing for photographs,i tend to ...
A. 25 January 2010: Think of it like this, you are both at the right height to kiss each other.... (read in full...)
Still bleeding after having sex 3 times and bleeding lasts 1/2 a day! whats going on?
Q. Hey everyone, I am just wondering if it is normal for a girl to still be bleeding after the 3rd time you've had sex with a guy? This is the 2nd guy I have been with. The 1st guy I was with for 2years and I didn't bleed my first time. Now he (the 1st...
A. 25 January 2010: Were you wet?
Pain is relative and of course, I got no point of reference myself, but horribly painful sounds like more going on then just a hymen being torn. Especially since you are mature and you say the bleeding happens later (hymen is right... (read in full...)
Can't handle girlfriend's sexual past!
Q. Alright. So I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. She's wonderful. I believe I'm in love with her. I'm 25, she's 21. At the beginning of our dating, I asked her how many guys she had been with. The number she told me shocked me. She said, and ...
A. 24 January 2010: If you can't then move on. It is as simple as that.
We all have certain ideals in our lives and giving up on them is a lot harder then you might think.
telling you to accept her past is useless, as you clearly can't.
Nothing that can be d... (read in full...)
What kind of guy is he?
Q. I want to give some advice to my friend who is having trouble with her boyfriend.She tells me that he has a job but doesn't help her pay rent or help her out with the bills.He lives with her but doesn't like the help her with anything..like ...
A. 24 January 2010: Who cares what kind of guy he is, he isn't the problem, she is.
Say you come into my house and I punch you, who is then to blame for that punch? You, for coming into my house.
He can only do this, because she lets him and she doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
My friend said the reason boys don't ask me out is because I am hyper
Q. ok well ive been single since i was in 5th grade and i want a bf but i dont know who likes me i liked these two boys last year and i didnt know they liked me til this year cuz one of my guy friends told me and they knew i liked they so why didnt ...
A. 24 January 2010: I think it could be true.
Have you ever heard of the concept of a PERIOD? Sentences? If you talk as you write...
Just reading your post already worn me out. Hyper activity is cute in a puppy, less in a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
My mind is consumed with what she claims was drunken sex romp!
Q. So I met this girl at a party a while back and we hit it off super well. And we started hanging out.. a lot. We spent a lot of time together and were messing around, we hadn't had sex for the first 2 weeks that we hung out (On my call, she wanted it ...
A. 24 January 2010: if you keep with her, I predict you will be hurt more. Either you accept this in exchange for sex, or you don't.
Move on is the sensible advice, she is at a different stage in her live.... (read in full...)
Shes back to stripping, she says she will keep her knickers and ring on,all week I saw her for a few hours on wednesday and thats it! am I being unreasonable...?
Q. Hi, I want some other peoples on opinion on this as I don't know whether its me being unreasonable or whether I am justified in being upset. I have been going out with a girl a while and we are engaged and we are very much in love. In the pas...
A. 24 January 2010: She needs her space. She wants to do her own thing.
What are you to her except a walking dildo? Is this all there is in a marriage? Two people doing their own thing and have sex on occasion, when they happen to see each other?
What is it th... (read in full...)
He had an affair so what should I do?
Q. My husband and I have been happily married for five years and have a four year son together. Things seemed fine but then this woman shows up at our door asking for him. She made it clear to me that she would only talk to him and that since she's...
A. 24 January 2010: The truth doesn't seem to come easy to your husband. And he always has an excuse doesn't he?
If you want to save this marriage (I wouldn't, but that is me) then he will have to:
A, admit HE was wrong and that nobody is to blame but him.
B, he... (read in full...)
We have been dating over a year, I suspect he is gay, what do you think?
Q. Is it weird if your boyfriend doesn't initiate kissing? My boyfriend of over a year doesn't initiate kissing, but when I initiate it, he says he enjoys it but he thought he wasn't any good at it. Also, in the internet history of my computer...
A. 24 January 2010: It is possible, or he might be wondering what he really is. An early mid-life crisis or a late teen?
No, most straight males do not look at gay personals. But people who are unsure of themselves do tend to look around to see who they might be... (read in full...)
How do I move on from everything that has happened? I'm 32 and feel like I have nothing!
Q. Please help, I know that your think I am a fool after reading this and I know I am, at 32 I shouldn’t have wasted my life, I now have nothing, but I really need advice. Please. I am so sorry it is so long. Ok, so met guy, fall for each other...
A. 22 January 2010: "going from some Hypnotherapy."
And the silly goes on.
Things won't change until you realize how wrong you are with "but you can’t help who you love" is. While it may be true, you CAN help who you date.
Oh well, shit happens, either you... (read in full...)
He's hit me before but we have a kid and I don't want to leave him, what do I do to make this work?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 5 month old baby together.the first time he hit me was when i was a couple months pregnant i had never been in that situation before i felt as if my life was about to end thats how bad it ...
A. 18 January 2010: Classic wife-beating behavior.
Classic beaten-wife reaction.
When a shark is biting your leg off, you do not negiotate, you do not seek to analyze its motivations, you get the hell away.
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Could my lesbian friend have deeper feelings for me?
Q. I'm currently a sophomore in high school, and I met my current best friend back in 7th. We've been best friends ever since we started talking, but then I moved away for 3 years, but now I'm back so we're back in touch and able to see each other ...
A. 18 January 2010: Life is taking risks. What if you do nothing and she does have feelings for you?
See if more of these incidents happen and then talk to her about it. Ask her , "what do you think of me". Might be that she just didn't think anything of it, or maybe... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is an asshole but he is the only man I want!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles i really need help my boyfriend and i are having problems he is selfish and unaffectionate a smartmouth asshole but he is the only man i want and can think about he is my first and i care about him a lot but everyone keeps ...
A. 18 January 2010: Ask yourself WHY you want a guy like this. And no, love is not the answer, it is an excuse.
Usually there is something wrong with the person in your situation where they are attracted to the wrong kind because...
well there can be a lot of reas... (read in full...)
Could my lesbian friend have deeper feelings for me?
Q. I'm currently a sophomore in high school, and I met my current best friend back in 7th. We've been best friends ever since we started talking, but then I moved away for 3 years, but now I'm back so we're back in touch and able to see each other ...
A. 17 January 2010: It seems possible.
Or maybe she just felt lonely.
But do you have deeper feelings for HER? You don't say so. ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with my married boss?
Q. Am considering sleeping with my boss. He is married with a family, and from the outside all seems fairly happy and normal, I am single and have not been in a relationship for a while (so had been feeling rather lonely). I've known him for over 6 ...
A. 17 January 2010: So, basically you are asking:
"Should I be an always on-call unpaid hooker for my boss who can have me fired if things get inconvenient for him, but I put my life on hold for him and risk being known as a cheap home-wrecking slut to everyone... (read in full...)
What can you expect from girls in a relationship?
Q. what are some things that guys have to deal with when being in a relationship with his girl? some things that girls just do but you have to deal with....
A. 17 January 2010: A quote from the net
DrBob You'll never get it. Men weren't meant to understand women.
Odin not true.
Odin I've managed to solve for the fundamental logic operation of women.
DrBob It's just best to let them do what they want, so they'll let... (read in full...)
My boyfriend needs to chose, me or the weed!
Q. Hi...so I have a huge problem going on right now. My boyfriend of almost a year is amazing and I'm very much in lovve with him as he is me. But he has a past with drugs and is now starting to want to get back into doing them. I tell him I don't want ...
A. 17 January 2010: Amazing. Yes he is. But not in a good way.
What you got is a guy who can't handle normal life. He says he has to do drugs because he is unhappy when he is not with you. Ah... how lovely. NOT.
How is he ever going to deal with anything? Not ha... (read in full...)
Does the guy have to be hard to have sex?
Q. Ok. So I see people saying on here when their guy looses their "hardness" they don't do sex after that. So I was just curious does the guy have be hard to have sex??...
A. 17 January 2010: As pinktopaz says, if it is floppy it don't work, but a full erection isn't always needed. It depends a bit on the tightness of the hole. Obviously oral sex is always a possibility and likely to soon get it fully hard again.
... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm a lesbian?
Q. One day I went to my friends house and I was playing with her for like three hours then me and her went outside so her mother said by girls then we went out side then me and her was talking then started to wrestle so then I picked her up and put her ...
A. 17 January 2010: Nope. It probably means you are bi-curious but as a teenager your emotions are all over the place. There could be any number of reasons for the desire.
My general advice for teens regarding anything is: don't panic. Wait a bit with your lives ch... (read in full...)
What is your definition of respect?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who calls me the C word often for "acting like one". He feels this acceptable, am I missing something here? Men please describe your level of respect for and what kind of person fits the label? Ladies please let ...
A. 17 January 2010: Respect has to be earned. One way to earn it is NOT to be with a guy who calls you a cunt.
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Why did my boyfriend cheat on me with my best friend?
Q. why did my best friend cheat on me with my boyfriend they dont even know i know what should i do...
A. 17 January 2010: Because he wanted to have sex with her more then he wanted to keep the relationship with you safe.... (read in full...)
What does bootycall mean?
Q. hey there, ok simple question. This guy told my friend that she was a "bootycall". What in the world does that mean ?? Thanks alot...
A. 17 January 2010: You call someone for just sex, nothing else. It is even less then Friends with benefits which at least assumes a friendly relation.
Basically, think unpaid hooker. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is getting turned off sex with me
Q. I am only 18 and i have a huge problem... My problem is i get so wet i actually can have a puddle by the time me and my bf finish having sex and it is such a problem not only because of the mess obviously but also because my bf cant get off and find...
A. 17 January 2010: Eh... that is what women do. They leak. Who has to sleep on the wet spot is a common part of a living together.
You don't have a problem, your bf does. Women get wet and lets face it, part of the puddle is probably his, unless you use a condom. ... (read in full...)
My husband has taken a lower paying job so that he can study and I am angry about it!
Q. My husband and I Married 1.5yrs together 10. We are both nurses and we moved from one side of the country to the other 1.5 years ago. When we moved my husband worked temp jobs for a little while and I did not seek employment do to anxiety and depr...
A. 17 January 2010: So, are you working yourself or not? ... (read in full...)
Does penis enlargement work?
Q. hi iam 24years old and still a virgin.the reason being my penis is only 2 inches when erect.consequently women laugh and run a mile.can some one tell me if penis enlargement works....
A. 14 January 2010: There is surgical penis enlargement. Google it with safe search off and an empty stomach. It is NOT for the faint of heart. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_enlargement
But the extension is limited, and with your size (around 1 inch), it would... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and can't seem to get a dating life! Help!
Q. I'm 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, I have never really been on a real date. It was only a couple of months ago that I actually first (tongue) kissed a guy. It was some random guy at a party who really liked me and we talked and made out ...
A. 11 January 2010: So, you get guys who are attracted to you, and you are attracted to guys but the first group is never in the second group?
Now that could just be bad luck OR are you for some reason only attracted at guys who are unavailable?
And what are ... (read in full...)
I want to know what its like to feel safe in my own home
Q. I was with this guy for seven years, we have been split up for one year exactly. During that seven years I lost myself completely - he was abusive, controlling, manipulative, obsessive...you get the picture. If I went to the store that normally ...
A. 11 January 2010: Have you sought help to deal with the abuse? This might be to big an issue to solve yourself.
And there is always the risk that you fall into the same trap again. People who have been in abusive relationships often were in it for a reason. ... (read in full...)
Skipping rope dangerous?
Q. hey guys!!!! my girlfriends 18 ....well actually she has gained a lil weight and now wants to get rid of it!!!! before 2 years i was 85 kgs n came down to 60 kgs just by skippin (jumpin rope)..... i told my gf to do the same...bt i hav heard tht ...
A. 11 January 2010: I think this might be the same idea as that woman shouldn't ride horses, because the up and down motion would dislodge the stuff.
It is of course a load of bullshit.... (read in full...)
What do men find really irrestible in women???
Q. Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you? Im not talking about attracting a guy so you can sleep together, but the kinda love where he wants to meet your parents. What do men find really irrestible in women??? please be honest,...
A. 11 January 2010: A smile.... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a rude spoiled child?
Q. I'm 25 and I've been dating this girl who is 22 for about 2 months now and everything has been fine. However, recently she brought her five year old daughter to live with her which changes the dynamic of our relationship considerably. I stayed ...
A. 10 January 2010: Seems she hasn't been raised combined with jealousy.
Her mommy was all hers and now you are getting in between them.
The other two girls have no such problem, you aren't getting between them and their mother.
And it also seems the girl has ... (read in full...)
I like Chris but I slept with his brother who now says he loves me
Q. OK well I started the basic training for my job (Navy) about a year ago, this lasts 3 months and we are told from the start that it is the most intense 3 months you will ever have to work. What happens is you are given a date that you will be ...
A. 10 January 2010: So, you are in love with one guy, and agree to stay in a hotel room with his brother... Either you are a bit dim or you knew that sex was going to happen, with the brother of the guy you claim to love.
... (read in full...)
Smoking verses drinking
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if im being reasonable or selfish Here my husband is an alcoholic and our marriage is on the rocks, He has managed to drink less than before but alcohol is still an issue that will tear us apart. Every time he has one drink it...
A. 9 January 2010: Well, second hand smoke kills, so he has a point.
If you want him to stop drinking because it hurts you, then why is it okay for you to give him cancer (and everyone else who breathes in your smoke?)
This seems to be a case of the pot calling ... (read in full...)
She's a tomboy!
Q. i dont know from where should i start...its a long story short...i love this girl and she is a tomboy.we have been together for 2 years and have always been special and supportive to each other. we are soulmates and she is a great girl to be ...
A. 8 January 2010: I think both of you just ain't ready for a longterm relationship. You both seem to play games on the level "he/she should say it first". Cute for teens, but teen relationships rarely last.
A lot of people, especially young people have trouble ... (read in full...)
My partner is verbally abusive and my daughters are disrespectful! Am I being too soft?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've posted here before and found the advice really helpful. I'm in a distressing stressful family situation. My partner of 6 years is verbally abusive and my two daughters (19 and 22) constantly disregard my rules. My ...
A. 8 January 2010: Ever heard of the expression: Monkey See, Monkey Do?
They see that HE is allowed to walk all over you, so why shouldn't they? We raise kids NOT by being nice to them, but by showing them how they should be as adults. YOU, the way you act, the way ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has made me feel like dirt
Q. I currently live with my ex bf we have in his eyes been broken up for about 5 months. He has for the most part treated me like crap but sometimes is nice and says he loves me other times he says I don't want to be with you I'm just tolerating you. ...
A. 7 January 2010: So, as long as I love you, it is okay to treat you like crap? That is what you are asking after all.
If you were being thrown of a bridge by someone who loves you, you would be okay with that, but if someone who hates you tries to grab your han... (read in full...)
Should I deal with my abusive stepdad or leave home?
Q. Last night, while I was sitting on the couch with my mom and step dad, my step dad and i started arguing mildly. He started to raise his voice, and I asked him to stop, but he didn't, and kept raising his voice even more. He was really getting on my ...
A. 7 January 2010: You are concerned for your mother, but clearly she isn't concerned for you.
She has made her choice, you need to make yours.
It is understandable you want to protect your mother, but you can't. Get out, follow your brothers example. Your mo... (read in full...)
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