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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Is sex something worth breaking up over?
Q. Heyyy. I'm graduating from high school next month. My boyfriend and I aren't sexually active. But lately he's been saying that he doesn't want to be a virgin when he starts college. (I honestly don't understand the rush.) But he knows where I stand ...
A. 10 April 2011: No but that doesn't mean it might not happen. Teenage boys are not known for their rational balanced approach to sex. Partly that is because they are insensitive bastards (lets face it, he is saying he wants sex as a status symbol NOT because he ... (read in full...)
Unhappy sex life ruining relationship!
Q. Hello, Before this I never thought it would be such and issue. My boyfriend and I had been dating for a year and a half. Our sex life went from several times a week to like three times a month, and it is always me asking a being very upset. I...
A. 10 April 2011: So, something has changed. What has changed? When did it change? What was happening at the time? How long into the relationship.
What have you tried?
There can be so many reasons. Work, bad diet, stress, cheating, honeymoon being over.
T... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make oral sex taste better for my boyfriend?
Q. is there any way to make oral sex taste better for my boyfriend? he said he doesn't mind the taste but is there anything we can do to make it better because obviously you can get flavoured condoms for boys what about girls? Any help appreciated ...
A. 10 April 2011: There are lubes with taste although frankly they are horrible ariticial... mind you, condoms might be the same...
If he doesn't mind... then listen to him. Lots of people get terrible upset about their own perceived issues, penis to small, l... (read in full...)
Why do I go from guy to guy and how can I get this to go away?
Q. Anyones help on this would be brilliant! I don't know why i'm feeling like this? During the past month or so, I have literally went from guy to guy! I feel I just want to always have a guy there, whether it's texting them seeing them or ...
A. 10 April 2011: What is missing here is the before picture. You say this has been going on for about a month now? So what was it before?
If there was nothing before, you were not active on the flirting scene (which it sounds like you are doing) might you have jus... (read in full...)
I don't think we are ready for sex
Q. So me and my boyfriend are going away for a weekend I heard him talk about having sex with me to his friends but I don't mind I think we are ready. Thing is he has had sex before and I'm still a virgin, what if I'm not good enough, what if his first ...
A. 10 April 2011: You know these reasons you mention are pretty silly don't you? So, if your worries are REALLY about these issues, just forget it.
But if you think you are not ready and just making up excuses, then you might just not be ready yet. It happens ... (read in full...)
My Dad and I get on very well. So what would be the reasons I am attracted to very old men 50 plus?
Q. I'm an 18 year old girl and for as long as I can remember, I've always been attracted to older male celebrities, like men that are 50-68 years old. I have to force myself to find someone my age to be attracted to. I've even had a kind of crush on a ...
A. 10 April 2011: There is more then one type of daddy issue.
Getting along to well with your father can be an issue if it stops you from normal behavior with men your own age.
Why are you not attracted to men closer to your own age? Honestly? Maybe they are n... (read in full...)
I think my boy friend is depressed. When depression hits does the person lose their emotional feelings?
Q. Ok so I actually just posted this question like earlier: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ldr-boyfriend-is-depressed-and-yelled-at-me.html and now I'd like to know...when someone is depressed can they lose all feelings? I asked him...
A. 10 April 2011: One problem with depression is that it is often hard to tell from being an ass.
Has anyone with a medical degree diagnosed him as having a depression? There is a reason doctors study for so many years, medicine is hard.
Real depression is a ... (read in full...)
I'm a young mom but I cant get over my high school sweetheart :(
Q. ok im 19 and i just had my beautiful little girl in 2010 a year after i graduated high school with my boyfriend of 1 and a half years, BUT i still think and miss and i believe im still in love with the same boy ever since i met him when i was 13 ...
A. 10 April 2011: That chemistry? Where was it when you went out with another guy, had sex with him and carried his baby to full-term etc etc?
Couldn't this be a case of you wanting to escape back to more carefree days when you didn't have a "beautifull little g... (read in full...)
He's been lying. I just found out he has kids. Should he stay or go? what do I tell my kids?
Q. i found out my boyfriend of 3 years has 3 different babies, by 3 different women. the ages of his three children are 5, 4 and 2 i love him, he lives with me and my kids, who are aged 8 and 13. I love him and i want to be with him, but what do ...
A. 10 April 2011: Lets see... you are a mother with kids by father(s) who are no longer around. He is a father for kids he is no longer around... Is it me, or does a pattern start to emerge here? Nah... sure 4th time is a charm.... (read in full...)
Am I a booty call, or just FWB? Why does he never initiate our get togethers?
Q. Alright, how do I word this? Lets see.. I have a friends with benefits, but my friends say he's a "booty call". We don't talk for a couple of days, or even a week, and then i'll text him and we either hook up that day or the next and then go back...
A. 10 April 2011: For you to be a booty call, he would have to be calling you, for booty. And if he was your booty call, then you wouldn't be here complaining about. You don't care about booty, that is the point. This sounds more like a case "he is really n... (read in full...)
After I had sex with him he told me he was involved with another girl!
Q. Hello, So I've always liked this guy. Ever since middle school I've had the biggest crush on him. I'm in college now, and we've just started corresponding last summer. We used text each other about once a week or so. I could tell he was generall...
A. 8 April 2011: Why would he lead me on like this? Because telling a girl you don't care for her and only want to use her body for some meaningless sex tends not to work to well. I tried. This is a bit like asking "why did my cat still the salmon and eat it?... (read in full...)
How do you get away from a manipulator?
Q. How do you get away from a manipulator? My bf and I have been together over 2 years. Its long distance as he lives in the states. We met online and its definitely been a roller coaster from the jump. He's "cheated" on me with many other women on...
A. 8 April 2011: Is there anyway he actually loves me? You had to get that one in at the end, didn't you? Because despite claiming to know better, you are still desperate for... well whatever "he loves me" means to you. It probably doesn't mean the same thing a... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my online friend. I don't think he feels the same. Should I tell him?
Q. hi i am 22 years old and i finally met the guy i was talking to for over 2 years..we got to know each other online through a common friend,started as texting but then we started talking everyday!..and we finally met,he came down to my city for 3 ...
A. 8 April 2011: So, he called and you didn't answer... so what is HE thinking now? Maybe that you don't care, didn't want to talk to him after meeting him for real? Life is to short to play games and if you don't take any risks, you never get anything. Trust ... (read in full...)
Can you sleep with someone and not get attached?
Q. Can you sleep with someone and not get attached? Do you honestly think the 'friend w benefit' thing is possible?...
A. 18 March 2011: Yes.
BUT you like most people make ONE basic mistake in your reasoning.
A friend is someone you are attached to.
So, sleeping with a friend you care about without caring about this friend is a logical impossibility.
I can ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about having stopped seeing her ex when we first started dating
Q. I've been with my girlfriend about 5 years, and we're considering marriage. When we first started going out it was obvious to me that she still had feelings for her prior boyfriend, but she told me the relationship was done. The topic didn't come up ...
A. 11 March 2011: Our lives are filled with little lies. Some white, some black. And just because I might think something is a little white lie doesn't mean you have to think the same.
Why did she lie? Well, she probably WAS trying you both out. Most people a... (read in full...)
Does My Baby's Father Really Want to Be With Us
Q. I am guilty of over explaining. So I am going to try and make this short and sweet. My significant other and I have been together for three and a half years. Nine months ago we had our first son together. This is my first child and his third. ...
A. 11 March 2011: What did he tell the mothers of his other kids?
3rd time a charm? Doubt it.... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my penis is curved. I am worried that it will bend more as I grow. Any suggestions?
Q. I am a 16 year old, Asian, male, and my penis is 5.5 inches. I know it's normal, but it has a curve. I am worried if it bends more with my growth. Any suggestions?...
A. 11 March 2011: Just like most boobs are different in size to the one next to it, penisses are not always perfectly symmetrical.
It is just humans being human. Nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
My friend told me all men are really gay!
Q. Are all men GAY??? A guy who once had sex with another guy said to me that all men are gay, and that they just wont admit it, that they don't actually want women they just want to get off or have babies? He said stuff like they think the vagina...
A. 27 February 2011: Load of bull, someone read about ancient Sparta and got confused about nature vs nurture.
Just because he is that messed up doesn't mean everyone else is. Although I must admit I am no great fan of looking at the vagina. Such a hassle with the... (read in full...)
He told my uncle he wants sex with me?
Q. What are your views on men who want sex from you ?. I'd like to get different opinions on this. I met a guy tonight who my uncle knows. I was out with my uncle. He came over to say hello to my uncle , and obviously he saw me. When my uncle went to ...
A. 27 February 2011: A guy tells the brother of your father he wants you for sex...
And you are asking if that is okay...
You don't see how wrong this is? Really just wtf?... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be concerned about his porn use, and the fact that he lied about his facebook friends?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend almost a year now and everything is absolutely perfect to me. I've never loved a man the way I love him. I've been in relationships before, but we both feel we’re made for each other. He treats me very good, but sometimes ...
A. 21 February 2011: "everything is absolutely perfect to me"
oh that is alright then.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like oral sex because of the taste. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has only "gone down" on me once, and it was for about ten seconds. He had talked for a while about how the idea turns him on a lot. After those ten seconds, he never really said anything or did it again. He randomly told me while we ...
A. 21 February 2011: Well, since you checked, that excludes one option, that is really does taste bad.
One other thing, although as a girl you probably know, the various holes are really close together and two of them really do got a bad taste. Be clean. Over the enti... (read in full...)
My husband's masturbation problems...
Q. My husband has had an issue with playing with him-self at work and outside the house. Mostly at his place of work. He worked alone at night in a gym setting and got busted and didn't know it and they fired him. I asked him why and he says he does ...
A. 21 February 2011: He knows right and wrong... odd statement when he has so clearly demonstrated that he does not.
Which leads to the question, how is his general common sense? And please answer it a bit more realistically. Some people just never learned the diff... (read in full...)
After everything he says we should focus on friendship?
Q. i have a 6 month old son with a guy i met and after constant arguing and him contacting his ex that he cheated on me with in the beginning he said we rushed the relationship and we should focus on our friendship. what does that mean?...
A. 17 February 2011: Most likely, reading between the lines? He is dumping you but hopes you will be available for booty calls.... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I want to meet the guy my girlfriend cheated with?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me 7 months ago and at the time I was only able to deal with it by pretending it hadn't happened. Now I feel I will never be able to move on in my mind without knowing who this guy is. Is it wierd that I want to meet him? I ...
A. 17 February 2011: No, it ain't weird but it ain't a healthy thing to do. He has no answers for you. The answer is within yourself and it is in how you wish to deal with this, NOT by trying to find some answers like a detective but in how this is going to affect you. ... (read in full...)
Why did boyfriend lie about watching porn when I was open to it?
Q. I've been dating my BF for over 4 years. he always had the stand that he didn't get into porn and it didn't do anything for him. I was open to it, I had my own collection. I tried to introduce it into our relationship at one point and he couldn't ...
A. 17 February 2011: You are open about porn, is he?
Just because he watches it doesn't have to mean that he is comfortable with it. Plenty of people do stuff they hate themselves for doing it but do it anyway.
And it isn't uncommon for guys to watch porn but g... (read in full...)
Stingy boyfriend! Am I asking for too much?
Q. Have been with my bf for 7mths.i like buying him gifts,but he never gets me anything.he says girls are not suposed to be spoiled with gifts and money.he complains about being broke all the time,but i know he gets 2 have money most of the time.we are ...
A. 10 February 2011: Gosh... you mend his clothes? What century are you living in?
Oh zambia, the 15th century it seems then.
On a more serious note, people are the way they are. There is nothing wrong with a guy not buying gifts for a girl BUT the girl got to be o... (read in full...)
Can 2 people, of different beliefs and morals, be in a relationship?
Q. Well, I've got a problem, like everyone else on the site here, but, I'd like more opinions than my own, so, here I state my problem: Can 2 people, of different beliefs and morals, be in a relationship? Especially in High school, where people are...
A. 9 February 2011: Ah! Beliefs AND morals.
No. Morals go deeper then beliefs.
But you claim she is just such a wonderful person. Just filled with loath bile and hatred for everyone who doesn't fit in her narrow vision of the world. A bit of a contradiction? H... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's inexperience is getting to me
Q. I'm 19 and have had many relationships but my boyfriend (21)has not. He has had one relationship and it lasted 3 weeks and has not gained much experience from it. I'm very used to dating guys who are more experienced in that matter and it's really ...
A. 9 February 2011: Eh... aren't you just really experienced at NOT making a relationship work?
Think of it like this, if you were to hire a 19 year old who had been in say a dozen different jobs, would you be worried?
Or would you hire the guy at 21 who is not... (read in full...)
My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy!
Q. My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy and he asked her to terminate the pregnancy. They had many ugly fights following that. Then he finally told me yesterday that she said she isn't pregnant and just wanted to see if he cares about her. Since ...
A. 9 February 2011: Considering your claimed young age, how long into the marriage was this and doesn't this say a LOT about how he views the marriage. It seems like more then an affair and basically you are married to a guy who cheated on his wife for a long time and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a breeding sob!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend off and on over two years.We've been together 8 month this time.He's not sexually active,we have sex maybe once every three months.The other nite a mutual friend of ours came over with her boyfriend.She was talkin about ...
A. 9 February 2011: Why are you with this guy exactly? ... (read in full...)
What is it about the "popular" girls that guys like so much?
Q. Why do guys like the girl who is most populari? The very pretti girl even if she is a mean? They like the easy girl. Do they not care that this girls have had so many boy-friends? They follo them like dogs and i feel girls like me Are left in the ...
A. 9 February 2011: So, in your post you complain about guys only looking at the popular girls.
But you ALSO complain about the POPULAR guys not looking at you.
So aren't you just as shallow?... (read in full...)
Are there good guys out there? The ones I've found so far aren't
Q. Recently I have started going to a counselor because of these “mini-depression episodes” that I have. This term “mini-depression episodes” is a term that I use to describe the times that I am uncontrollably sad, irritable, and hopeless. I feel that ...
A. 8 February 2011: Yes there are. But are "good" guys looking for a girl that has a purely sex relationship with a guy while she is looking for someone else?
Odds almost touches upon it but doesn't go far enough. Simply put, good guys don't WANT to be found by you. ... (read in full...)
Do all men change after marriage?
Q. My husband and I were married this past Sept. We were engaged for almost two years and talked about everything from philosophy, religion, finance, and etc... We talked about one household, one budget, etc... but a little before we got married, he ...
A. 5 February 2011: Yes he has changed after marriage. He has given you MORE money after marriage. So what are you bitching about?
Oh, you expected him to change after marriage and give you FAR more money?
Well, that was silly wasn't it.
He showed his true co... (read in full...)
Why don't I enjoy anything sexual? How can I enjoy sex ?
Q. I am 19 and only lost my virginity a month ago. Since then, I have had sex with my boyfriend twice, both times very uncomfortable and don't feel anything unless it is pain. I know this is quite common after you lose your virginity, to be painful ...
A. 5 January 2011: You are aware that depression kills the sex drive?
And yes, sex often is emotional. A catch 22 is that if a woman is uncomfotable with sex because she fears it might hurt she will not get aroused so the sex will hurt.
There is something missin... (read in full...)
What is the 'norm' for hair down below?
Q. I don't suppose this is relationship per se but it's just something I've been pondering and can't answer it myself! Well I have been seeing this guy for a while now and we've been making out and stuff but things are starting to get a bit more h...
A. 5 January 2011: There is no norm. As for completely shaving it, the dutch playboy editor has said in an interview that they prefer a bit of fur. It helps the shots, pure naked privates ain't all that hot else Playboy would be the medical journal.
There will som... (read in full...)
In love with a bad boy: Should I give him more time to change or am I being too caring?
Q. Alright so, I figured I'd try a website like this out so I could get the opinions of people that arent biased. I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months now, and makes me happy, He's an overall good boyfriend, and never ceases to try to make m...
A. 4 January 2011: Good guy, wannabe drug dealer.
Tell me, do you actually ever LISTEN to yourself?
Yeah yeah, he got excuses. Everyone has. Not everyone does drugs or wants to sell them.
"I want to save him"
The killer line. NEVER a good idea. If you ... (read in full...)
Ladies if a guy lacks in looks but is dynamite in bed, would you still date him?
Q. Girls, If you knew of a guy who was incredible in bed, TRULY amazing, like he could give you many intense amazing orgasms and could go for as long as you needed, would that make you start flirting with him and trying to get with him on that fact ...
A. 4 January 2011: How would she know you are gods gift to women in the bedroom if she never actually dates you first?
On the whole, walking up to strange women introducing yourself as Mr Stud does not have the desired result.
I tried.... (read in full...)
I was told by my GF :"Girls don't like it when guys last long, they get sore and it hurts down there". Really???
Q. Hi, Happy New Year by the way! So, when I have sex with my girlfriend, first I pleasure her for about 7 minutes until she finishes, then we have sex and I last for about 1 minute on a good night. Now, once I kept "doing it" for a while after I wa...
A. 2 January 2011: Get some bubble gum and chew on it. Okay, now take three pieces and chew on it for 15 minutes. Still fun?
I am afraid that sex isn't about setting records. It is about having fun and doing ANYTHING for to long just ain't fun. Not all women ar... (read in full...)
Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship / a hook up (sex only), or just to be friends with a girl?
Q. Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship,a hook up (sex only),to befriend with a girl? 1. If a girl is beautiful or sexy,but she has a poor personality or she's a b**ch,would you like to have a relationship with her?or just a hook up?o...
A. 2 January 2011: If so many guys are attracted to hot girls how come so many "ugly" girls get married. If what you say is true there would be no extra sized wedding dresses.
Also there would be no single hot girls. Follow celeb news? How many sex bombs get dump... (read in full...)
Webcam Incident - scared,afraid,paranoid. help?
Q. Hello people, i was faced with two seperate incidents that happen over a year ago, close to two. Basically, i webcam-ed in msn with strangers from a chatroom. And you guessed it, i "over-exposed" myself during the short webcam session. Worst of all, ...
A. 31 December 2010: Google "cam whore"
http://www.google.nl/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=7&ved=0CDkQtwIwBg&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dw4kLuIzfseY&ei=Dw8eTY38C8Kl8QPPlKXFBQ&usg=AFQjCNErR0Fiez6XhhbAtsi_w3lbLKQp-g&sig2=XVetx7D1DF4nZWdCubcREw
A "funn... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 31 December 2010: Gosh, sometimes I HATE myself for being so good at math.
Lets see, 25 year old woman with 7 year old son. Add 9 months for the stork to land and voila, your "on my own since 18" becomes "kicked out by her parents at 17 for being pregnant with a m... (read in full...)
Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship / a hook up (sex only), or just to be friends with a girl?
Q. Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship,a hook up (sex only),to befriend with a girl? 1. If a girl is beautiful or sexy,but she has a poor personality or she's a b**ch,would you like to have a relationship with her?or just a hook up?o...
A. 31 December 2010: You are thinking the wrong way. Mostly how a guy treats a girl is guided by how she allows the guy to treat her.
It has little to do with looks or personality. If you allow a guy to use you just for sex, then by magic some guy will come along wh... (read in full...)
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