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writes:There is this girl that I have been going out with for a while and I haven't kissed her yet. It's not that I don't want to kiss her, it's just that I have never kissed a girl before. People say that it just comes to you, but things like this don't come naturally to me. I already have the perfect setting picked out (I'm a romantic) and all I need to know is what the heck I am supposed to do. How do you kiss a girl? What do you do with your lips? How do you start the kiss? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 November 2012):
 Keep the lips closed and just press them against hers. Open lips is for the advanced ones. But, always follow suit. If she opens her lips a little, then you can do the same. The kiss doesn't need to last long, maybe just a few seconds. You will surely kiss many times, so don't worry about it, just get the first kiss done short and sweet.
Test it out on your arm. Make sure no one sees you test kissing your arm.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 November 2012):
 Nervously and awkwardly.
Noses will collide.
It will be great.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 November 2012):
 Much of this does come naturally, but there are a few things you can definitely keep in mind before kissing. These should be no-brainers, but you'd be surprised at how many people (guys AND girls) forget the basics!
1. Watch your breath! The greatest kisser in the world can destroy a kiss by having nasty breath. Brush AND floss your teeth, use mouthwash, have mints at the ready (sugar free!) and avoid garlic and onion food unless she's eating the same thing you are.
2. Watch the slobber! Don't just go in full tongue right away, and don't drool on her! It does happen, especially if the kiss is going well, and you find yourself starting to become horizontal as you're making out. Nothing like a big mess of slobber during a kiss!
3. Watch the hands! DO have them on her neck, shoulders, waist, even hips, but your first kiss is NOT the time to start going Christopher Columbus on her and start feeling her up. That's for down the road, not now. Women love caresses, like running her hands on her neck softly or wrapping her in your strong arms.
4. Chap Stick is your friend! Wintertime, no matter where you are, dries and cracks lips, so use Chap Stick or some other lip moisturizer. No girl likes to kiss sandpaper!
5. Go in slowly! If you start a first kiss by nervously lunging at her lips first, it'll be awkward. Create the passion and tension by leaning in slowly and slowly build the passion in a kiss.
6. Women aren't ice cream cones or small pets! Meaning, don't start licking all over her face or lips (it happens and it's gross!), and don't caress her like you're petting a dog or a cat. Let your fingers enjoy the texture of her hair. Move them slow and seductively like you kiss...also slow and seductively.
7. Don't suffocate her! Don't mash kiss her hard enough that she can't breathe. Hint -- if the way you're kissing makes it hard for you to breathe, and you find yourself holding your breath, ease up on the pressure. Remember, it's the feel of lips on lips, not re-enacting the facehugger scene from Aliens!
And last,
8. End the kiss with her wanting more. Always have her wanting more. How the kiss ends is as important as how it begins.
If anyone else has advice to add, I'm sure I may have missed something!
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reader, tamperingtampaguy +, writes (8 November 2012):
Buy her a rose. They are usually like 2 or 3 bucks at a convenience store. Even at your age, it should be affordable. Go to the place you have in mind, giving her the rose. Compliment her and tell her you would like to kiss her. Believe me you will get signs if it is ok or she will back off. You are quite young , so do not be discouraged.
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