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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship / a hook up (sex only), or just to be friends with a girl?
Q. Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship,a hook up (sex only),to befriend with a girl? 1. If a girl is beautiful or sexy,but she has a poor personality or she's a b**ch,would you like to have a relationship with her?or just a hook up?o...
A. 2 January 2011: If so many guys are attracted to hot girls how come so many "ugly" girls get married. If what you say is true there would be no extra sized wedding dresses.
Also there would be no single hot girls. Follow celeb news? How many sex bombs get dump... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 31 December 2010: Gosh, sometimes I HATE myself for being so good at math.
Lets see, 25 year old woman with 7 year old son. Add 9 months for the stork to land and voila, your "on my own since 18" becomes "kicked out by her parents at 17 for being pregnant with a m... (read in full...)
Partner with intense chronic pain.
Q. I'm in a dedicated relationship with a wonderful man. We've been together for two years now and plan to get married and start a family later this year. I really struck gold with him - he is everything I could want in a relationship except one ...
A. 31 December 2010: Shit happens. Tomorrow you could slip, break your neck and be a vegetable from the neck down.
What do you do when "for better or worse" becomes worse. The answer might not be the one you rooted for when you saw the tv special. Everyone knows th... (read in full...)
Can u sleep with someone and have no feelings for them and still be in love with your wife?
Q. Im lost...I've been married to my husband for over 8 years ( and we have 2 kids tog) and i found out 2 weeks ago from a womans husband that my husband had been sleeping with his wife for the pass 5 months while he was in kuwait..hes home now and ...
A. 31 December 2010: Can u sleep with someone FOR 5 MONTHS and have no feelings for them and still be in love with your wife?
No.
Some people claim that a one night stand can happen by mistake. I don't believe them but it might be true for some. But it was not a... (read in full...)
Should I invest in a keylogger for his laptop and phone even though my heart tells me it will probably spell the end of our marriage?
Q. My husband and I have been together since we were 19, married since the age of 20. He's always been heavily into pornography and is constantly pushing me to engage in activities that make me uncomfortable. I understand that porn use is very comm...
A. 31 December 2010: He has been diagnosed with asperger? How serious? You are aware that this is a very serious mental illness that makes people incapable of functioning normally as social human beings?
Basically you are asking why a person with a disease that red... (read in full...)
Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship / a hook up (sex only), or just to be friends with a girl?
Q. Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship,a hook up (sex only),to befriend with a girl? 1. If a girl is beautiful or sexy,but she has a poor personality or she's a b**ch,would you like to have a relationship with her?or just a hook up?o...
A. 31 December 2010: You are thinking the wrong way. Mostly how a guy treats a girl is guided by how she allows the guy to treat her.
It has little to do with looks or personality. If you allow a guy to use you just for sex, then by magic some guy will come along wh... (read in full...)
Men: How do you feel about HPV?
Q. I tested positive for HPV over a year ago. It was type that increases the risk for cervical cancer, (not the strain that gives warts) I went ahead and got the vaccine for the other strains and I am now "inactive" and test negative though ...
A. 30 December 2010: Well, would YOU have wanted to know about whoever gave you this STD? They didn't think you needed to know and now you are asking for permission to pass it on.... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 26 December 2010: Before you do anything are you sure you don't just want what you can't have? ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friends boyfriend...
Q. my best friend's boyfriend and i have just recently realized that we both have feelings for eachother. hes fallen out of love with my best friend too. she doesnt know about any of this yet because were not sure how to approach it. i dont want to ...
A. 26 December 2010: You want to be with someone who is willing to cheat and lie to your best friend?
Smart move. ... (read in full...)
I feel so irrelevant, unloved and unimportant in my family.
Q. I need some advice on this! The anger is currently boiling up inside. My parents have never had much time for me - especially when my sister's around. Despite having criminal charges, doing drugs etc, she can do NO wrong in their eyes. I...
A. 26 December 2010: Okay, so you talked to your boyfriend and "ruined" his Christmas. Did he say this? Didn't he listen? Wasn't he supportive? Isn't HE your new family?
A kid can't choose his/her family. An adult can. Yes the way your parents treat you sucks but shit... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian but won't be accepted by my peers
Q. I'm a 22 year old and I think I'm a lesbian. I never had any type of.dealings with.a female but this is something that is constantly on my mind. It's to the point where I sometimes watch lesbian porno wishing it was me. But I'm afraid I won't be ...
A. 26 December 2010: Porn is not real. Might you like lesbian porn because hetero-porn is often not that nice?
Are there real life women you would want to be with? Someone you like beyond friendship. You get labelled with the gay/hetero tag for the people you date, no... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to use prostitutes?
Q. Is it normal for men to use prostitutes? Does paying for it make it any different? Basically i found out my bf had slept with a couple of prostitutes in the past before i met him. He says there is nothing wrong with it nd its just like meetin...
A. 21 December 2010: No, if it was, there would be more hookers and they would be better off financially.
The trick is that paid sex is fairly expensive, look up the rates yourself online and remember that you want girl that isn't doing it for drugs money unless A... (read in full...)
Is my wife having an affair
Q. Hi, I'm married with 2 children(2 and 6) and have been together for seven years, we met at college when I was 16 and didn't get together till I was 21. Anyway in august I came home from work and my wife told me she didn't love me, but agreed t...
A. 21 December 2010: Maybe. Apart from the possibility of an affair, it sounds like she is questioning her choices. You two got married young and quickly had one kid (7-6-9months == 3 months) tying you both down to this choice.
People tend to question things. 7 year i... (read in full...)
Do men like lingerie or women naked?
Q. So I got some realllly cute Lingerie at Victoria Secret to wear for my boyfriend the other day and I guess the thought never ran through my head but do guy's really enjoy lingerie or are most men just all for the full blown nakedness?...
A. 21 December 2010: According to Playboy, lingerie. The brutally honest truth is that naked people are not all that attractive, especially in winter. The right bit of lace or silk can cover up your weaker points and accentuate your strengths.
Plus Christmas is about... (read in full...)
40 and still a virgin...is sex painful for first timers?
Q. Hello, I'm 40 years old and have never had sex. I'm afraid of doing it because I've heard so many women say how painful it is the first time around. I want to enjoy it as much as my fiancee does but the fear is of the pain. I've had to ask my ...
A. 16 December 2010: Can it hurt? Yes. Does it take a long time for some women to start enjoying intercourse? Yes. Are the two related? No.
Simple reason why some women say it took them a long time to enjoy it was that the guys they were doing it with just didn't d... (read in full...)
Am I doomed to be the girl who passes up nice guys?
Q. Dear Cupid. I suck. There's something wrong with me! I'm in an "un-labeled" exclusive relationship with a man whose good to me but has traces of Mr Hyde..I dunno. We'll call him Angelo. But this is the bad part, I've skipped over two...three..four ...
A. 15 December 2010: Odds makes a valid point. Some women seem to think that there always be a nice guy waiting to pick them up once party time is over. But while you are dating the "bad" boys (and if they are bad, then what are you) the nice girls are marrying the nice ... (read in full...)
Who do you prefer, a good boy or a bad boy, both girls and guys opinions matters
Q. Hey this is just a short question. I've been curious, is it true that girls only go for bad boys? I'm usually considered as the good boy which a lot of my female friends told me. So it has always been on my mind for awhile. Girls and guys ...
A. 10 December 2010: From my experience, what women want is a man. But the rules of society say that women must wait for the man to come to them. So they sit, go to bars, dance and wait... and wait...
Now, who is more likely to find a woman waiting for a man to appro... (read in full...)
I'm more attracted to his intelligence than his appearance. Will this resolve?
Q. I've started seeing this guy and its going really well. He's really sweet and we have intellectual conversations, but the problem is is that I feel that I'm attracted more to his intelligance than appearance. After breaking up with someone...
A. 9 December 2010: What is the issue here?
Are you sexually attracted to him at all? Because that is what you might be suggesting by being attracted to his intelligence more then to his appearance.
Love is the mind and the body combined. We are animals who need... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive?
Q. When my boyfriend does something that upsets me, and I try to talk to him about it, he always tells me that I am "over-reacting," and then doesn't understand why telling me that makes things worse. Am I being too sensitive?...
A. 9 December 2010: Depends on what it is that upsets you.
One of the thing to remember is that men are problem solvers, not talkers. Don't talk to us about your problems unless you want a solution.
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Are there any sure signs that a guy is a sex addict?
Q. One of my guy friends is VERY flirty. We used to be FWB a few years back. He has a reputation of being a "dog". The thing is, even though we no longer sleep together, everytime i see him he always finds an excuse to touch me. He never shuts up a...
A. 9 December 2010: You had a fwb relation with a guy known to be a dog. If he is a sex addict, then what is the woman who joins in for it?
Last time I checked, it takes two. ... (read in full...)
My mum called me a whore for having sex aged 17, but she is the one with 12 kids all to different fathers!
Q. So today me and my bf had sex, anyway my mom found out because my sister is a snitch and she only looks for ways of getting me into trouble, anyway so my mom was bitching me out about having sex with my bf. She started calling me like a whore an...
A. 9 December 2010: Amazing. So you have an example of what happens when you have sex so young, point out this example and yet learn nothing from it.
Truly amazing. Oh well, guess this apple won't fall far from the tree.
She isn't a hypocrite, she is trying to pre... (read in full...)
Is this a move that alot of women put on men?
Q. So we just started to date, we're entering our 4th month now and at first we agreed to have a casual relationship, but now she is starting to fall for me (so she says) and is asking me to become exclusive with her.. I'm noticing that she's been very ...
A. 7 December 2010: What exactly is your question here?
Do women lie about their sexual past. Some do yes, especially when their partner, like you, make it so bloody obvious they wish the woman they are having sex with outside of marriage to be a virgin bride. ... (read in full...)
Where have all the good, single men gone?
Q. Ok so I'm a single mom of 2 and I'm 21. I also go to school at nights. I want to kno how I can meet a good guy and wher do u meet theese good guys? I always find assholes and cheaters I can't seem to pic them well. And I don't have much free time ...
A. 7 December 2010: You want the truth? Yes, men your age ARE hiding from a single mother of two with no job.
Being a single mom is hard work? I am sure it is. So? You didn't ask for a pat on the head did you? You asked were single men between the age 20-30 are when... (read in full...)
How do I tell my overseas boyfriend that I was raped and got herpes from it?
Q. I need advice. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for a year. He is deployed in Iraq and a month ago I was attacked and raped. I'm so depressed since this happened and I also got herpes from this. I am completely devastated. I haven't really ...
A. 6 December 2010: Contact the army, not sure how it works in the US, but most countries have arrangements for this kinda stuff so it can be handled delicately and not for instance while the guy is about to go on a mission.... (read in full...)
Where have all the good, single men gone?
Q. Ok so I'm a single mom of 2 and I'm 21. I also go to school at nights. I want to kno how I can meet a good guy and wher do u meet theese good guys? I always find assholes and cheaters I can't seem to pic them well. And I don't have much free time ...
A. 6 December 2010: 21 year old mother of two with no job being a part-time student: "Where have all the good, single men gone?"
Answer: In hiding.
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What can I do about my girlfriend's weight gain?
Q. Hi Ive been with my partner over two years now, and over that time she seems to have gained a lot of weight. When we first met, she was a 14-16, curvy, but absoloutly fine. Since then, shes gone to a size 20. And is eating lots/ not doing...
A. 3 December 2010: Why is she over-eating? Because that is clearly what she is doing. Size 14-16 is already well into obese. Size 20 is simply unhealthy.
Eating is easy and we are programmed to like it. Our ancestors had to work had to get even enough to eat, we ... (read in full...)
"He's single, he can do what he wants" I'm told. But in MY house with MY friend?
Q. I'm 20, he's 22. We dated for two years before I broke up with him. Very bad breakup because I ended up dating someone else soon after and he thinks I was cheating on him. I wasn't, he just got really hurt by everything. He has been totally ...
A. 3 December 2010: Seems somebody doesn't get the point of having an EX. It means the relationship and all that comes with it is over.
He has moved on. Time for you to do the same.
You don't have to accept someone doing this in your house BUT in a general way, a... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: There are studies with eye-tracking to see what people look at. These don't lie, because they record exactly what the eye is aimed at.
It tends to show that men do NOT stare at tits BUT do look at them, along with face, belly and such features... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I want my husband to trust me about this?
Q. Ok, to give a quick background: I've been married 6 years and it's been rocky, but we are at a great point now. I am a very social person and have kept many friends close over the years. My childhood friend / first boyfriend at age 14, mind you ...
A. 3 December 2010: Can he do the same with an ex-girlfriend. One with bigger tits and a smaller waste?
Thought so.... (read in full...)
Is the fact that he looks at porn and lies to me about an issue of incompatibility?
Q. My question concerns pornography. Context: My boyfriend and I are 23 years old and have been together for almost 2 years. I love having sex and virtually never turn him down. Really, I'm the one that gets turned down the most. We currently ...
A. 27 November 2010: If porn is a substitute for sex, then are cooking shows a substitute for eating?
No that is silly isn't it? Porn is not a substitute for sex.
Your type of post is all to common on this forum.
Girl offers sex and other benefits (blowjobs... (read in full...)
At what point do you throw in the towel?
Q. What would you suggest in this situation: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 years. We are both deeply unsatisfied with the relationship but have seem to have trouble letting go. According to him, the biggest problems are the lack of sex ...
A. 26 November 2010: "He says that even if he tries to be romantic or affectionate, he doesn't get sex, so there's no point)"
Oh boy. So the only reason to be close to someone is get laid? Doesn't that say a LOT about how he views this relationship?
At what point... (read in full...)
I don't like the idea of anal sex!
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex, but i just don't like the idea of it. Is it uncomfortable, or anything? Or should i just not bother trying it :/...
A. 26 November 2010: He wants to try anal sex? Sure, why not. try anything once. So buy a dildo and shove it up his ass.
Ah, but that is NOT what he wants to try is it.
Your ass, your choice. Anal sex is almost always better to give to then to receive.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still shares a bed with her ex! What should I do?
Q. Hi. Well I got a problem. My girlfriend and I live miles away from each other. I live alone, and she lives with her 5 bestfriends. 3 of them are guys, one of them is her ex. I'm a really jealous kind of guy, and she knows that. I really dont like it ...
A. 26 November 2010: What more needs to be said? She even takes her ex'es side of him sleeping in the same bed as her against her new boyfriend?
That is so disfunctional you wouldn't even get on Jerry Springer.... (read in full...)
Do I want to marry my current boyfriend or do I just want to get married?
Q. I apologize for how long this is but I need to give you all the details so you can give me educated advice. Let me start from the beginning: I've known my boyfriend since sophomore year of high school. Clearly, he was more into me than I was into ...
A. 25 November 2010: Better plenty of details then leaving people to guess and make things up.
When people have problems, they tend to look for escape routes. Your bf for instance wants to get away from his mother and other problems by moving.
You are dealing with... (read in full...)
Dependant on porn and worried about my fantasies
Q. I'm a 39 year old woman and a single mum. Not found a relationship that makes me happy and have become dependant on porn, but I feel sick with myself and this is the only place I feel I can share it without being judged. Problem is that when I surf ...
A. 23 November 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/stepfather-vs-daughter-with-mother-caught-in-the.html
Read her story for the alternative to masturbation.
Her daughter would be far better off is her mother just used porn instead of marrying a guy who alread... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 23 November 2010: Tell me, when you go to the pound to adopt a dog, do you think to ask about the history of the dog you are about to take into your home? Perhaps reasoning that if the dog bit its previous owners, it might not make a good pet?
So, how about me... (read in full...)
My new guy makes no effort to pleasure me, Opinions please.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months (I've known him for years) but we havent had sex. I was with a guy before and we had done everything so it took time to adjust with my new boyfriend. I know this isn't what a relationship should be about but ...
A. 23 November 2010: Does he know how to? Just because you done everything, doesn't mean he has. Is it a lack of will or a lack of knowledge. Makes a big difference.... (read in full...)
Does a girl always fall in love with the guy she loses her virginity to?
Q. is it true that when a girl loses her virginity that the boy/man she loses it to she kind of falls in love with him?...
A. 23 November 2010: Would be bad news for rape victims, wouldn't it?
Utter nonsense.... (read in full...)
For the guys, can men and women be "just friends"?
Q. Can men and women be "just friends"? Or are men only friends with women that they are attracted to or fine attractive? Speaking from a woman's perspective, I know we can have platonic friends. Let's hear it from the men. :)...
A. 22 November 2010: Sure, but I think you are thinking to much like a woman.
Most men would fuck anything if they could, it has nothing to do with being friends or not. Most men are capable of sex without any emotional connection. It is what we are. Some women cl... (read in full...)
Should I pretend I'm not a virgin?
Q. im 20, almost 21 and still a virgin. I recently dated my first real boyfriend. When i told him i was a virgin, he started treating me like a little kid. he was also a pig and would have totally held it above me, sorta notch on his belt idea. What ...
A. 22 November 2010: Yes, you should. Virginity is a terrible thing. A vile disease that turns nice guys into beasts and make them treat their gf like little kids.
OR could your bf always have been a pig and you were just lucky to find out early on?
Basically you... (read in full...)
My special needs daughter is sleeping with someone, I worry if she understands what she is doing
Q. my teenage step daughter has special needs i have just found out shes been sleeping with an older man and im worried that she may not understand what shes doing or he might be taking advance of her should i stop her seeing him or just make sure she ...
A. 22 November 2010: What is her mental maturity? Some people are mentally children but trapped in an adults body and living in an adult world.
If she is seen in other areas as being a child, then she is a child and this includes sexually. And yes, young children... (read in full...)
Dependant on porn and worried about my fantasies
Q. I'm a 39 year old woman and a single mum. Not found a relationship that makes me happy and have become dependant on porn, but I feel sick with myself and this is the only place I feel I can share it without being judged. Problem is that when I surf ...
A. 22 November 2010: Okay. Lets change your dependency. Don't want a porn dependency, then get a man dependency. There are plenty of men looking for a woman completely dependent on them so they can control them.
Ah, not really an option is it, you just got to read thi... (read in full...)
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