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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Guys: What are signs that he's only into it for sex?
Q. What are some signs a girl could look for in a guy to tell that he is only interested in sex and nothing more prior to actually going out or anything? Primarily interested in the guys' responses. Thanks....
A. 6 October 2010: You can't see before dating, that is why dating was invented. And the easiest way to tell is NOT by looking at how he behaves towards you, but towards others.
You are NOT special.
If other people are to him objects to be used, then you a... (read in full...)
What's it going to be like to be an old person?
Q. Ok so have you ever thought about what it is going to be like when you are older or like to have an actual job and family etc. Or when you die? Like I've always tried to imagine my self being 18 or whatever but I never can, like being allowed to go ...
A. 4 October 2010: Like being allowed to go to parties...
Yeah... right... because as an old guy I do NOT have to be at work in the morning. I do not have a body that needs a good nights rest to function. I do not have responsibilities that demand I am not hung ove... (read in full...)
Guys, would you be reluctant to marry a virgin?
Q. I'm 16, and never had a boyfriend before... I went to an all-girls school and have just started at a mixed college. A lot of the other girls I know are sleeping around and stuff. But I don't feel like I want anything like that. Hearing about ...
A. 4 October 2010: Would you be reluctant to marry a male virgin?
Some people would, some wouldn't. Why do you wonder what GUYS think? Planning a harem? There is only one man whose opinions matters and that is that of the man you want to marry.
What every on... (read in full...)
If your fiance cheated before proposing, would you want to know?
Q. Would you want to know if your fiance cheated on you before he proposed...would you want to know before marrying, or would you rather remain "ignorant" if he is no longer cheating? Would you rather have honesty and a "true" relationship, or a rel...
A. 4 October 2010: Lets rephrase your question:
Would you rather be married to a true and honest person, or an accomplished liar.
Gosh. Let me think... I pick number one?
Ignorance is not the same as innocence. A relationship that starts with lies, I don'... (read in full...)
For the guys, do you prefer skinny or thick?
Q. This is a question for guys only:) does weight matter when your in a relashion? do you guys prefer a skiny gf or thick...
A. 1 October 2010: Well, we don't have a choice do we? All girls are a bit thick... that is why we stand a chance with them :)... (read in full...)
Should I stop sleeping with him before I get hurt?
Q. I've slept with an old friend a few times and I really like him. The only problem is that he is really bad at keeping in contact. The last time I saw him, I told him that he was pretty rubbish at keeping in touch with me and he told me that he was ...
A. 30 September 2010: Here is a secret: Men can lie.
I know, shocking ain't it?
Actions, not words. Every he says MIGHT be true, but do his actions reflect it? Not from what you tell us. What has he DONE to back up what he says?... (read in full...)
Should I stop sleeping with him before I get hurt?
Q. I've slept with an old friend a few times and I really like him. The only problem is that he is really bad at keeping in contact. The last time I saw him, I told him that he was pretty rubbish at keeping in touch with me and he told me that he was ...
A. 27 September 2010: Booty call.
Read your own post, not as a woman wanting to hear something that ain't there but as an objective bystander. Just what are you describing.
A relationship that is nothing more then he coming around now and then for sex... might be ... (read in full...)
Coould he possibly love me after all the time we've been together?
Q. Guys: Why would you not love someone after one year of liking them and 7 months of dating. For the first 6 months we only made out it never went further. He wasn't 100% for it but respected my wishes. But all he can still say is I really like you ...
A. 6 September 2010: Yet? You think that love is a matter of time? That if you just stick it out long enough, he will fall in love? That is not how it works.
In arranged marriages some couples claim that over time they have developed an affection, even love for each... (read in full...)
I thought women are fickle, so how come my man is even more fickle?
Q. Hi, Over the course of two years, I've seen my boyfriend changed from casual partner to potential life time partner. Here's the things he said to me, about me, about us throughout these two years in timely sequence, and I am pretty much level heade...
A. 4 September 2010: Do you two ever talk about what YOU are feeling?
Point 13 for instance. Did that talk about birth control include YOUR feelings on the subject?
His justification seems a bit immature. A man of 42 really should have a bit more clarity about wh... (read in full...)
I don't like when the guy I have been seeing for 4 months just shows up at my door!
Q. I am dating a guy for the last 4 months. I feel like he is already trying to mark his territory. Gave me two teddy bears with his colone sent.. three pictures of him on a frame. He left his toothbrush with his name labled. Now he is starting to ...
A. 4 September 2010: Was it 4 months until he started the teddy bears and pictures, or has it been IN the first four months?
How fast a relationship develops is personal, and relationships are about two personalities matching up.
So how fast is he going and is thi... (read in full...)
He has an "I'm always right" attitude
Q. Hey there, Just wanted some opinions on my situation. My Bf and I have been together for about 5 months and when its going good its great, when its bad, its terrible! During this time he has accused me of looking at another guy when out ...
A. 3 September 2010: Shame on you, dating a toddler. He ain't a toddler? Then why is he acting like a little kid.
Sounds to me like you are describing someone who has trouble moderating his actions and responses. He does what he wants, burtst in tears when mommy co... (read in full...)
I am 13 and no boys are interested in dating me. Is this normal?
Q. I'm a 13-year-old girl and I've never had a boyfriend. Not even a little meaningless one when I was little, and I've never heard of a guy liking me or thinking I was pretty. I'm starting to feel really uncomfortable about it because all of my ...
A. 29 August 2010: 50% of guys your age still think girls are icky (they are right), the other 50% are after boobies (this never changes as they get older).
So, who do you want to date? Someone who thinks you are icky or someone who sees you as a boob carrier?... (read in full...)
He takes forever to ejaculate!! What's wrong..is it me?
Q. help! me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and everytime we have sex, he takes forever to ejaculate. Is it me ? Am i doing something wrong! He always says he loves it when were done but still it takes awhile... Help?!...
A. 29 August 2010: Is he waiting for you?
A lot of guys train themselves to last as long as possible, sometimes to the point were women start getting bored. Pure stamina isn't what every woman wants but most guys don't know this.
Talk to each other about sex.... (read in full...)
Guys do not like me. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. (OP's suggested title) well i am 21 and never had a real relationship i have had boyfriends but they all were abusers and only wanted me for one reason. guys don't look at me though i always have to go up to them. i know im not an ugly person b...
A. 29 August 2010: Were you ever single? Or to be more accurate. Did you ever APPEAR single?
You say you are 21 and have had multiple boyfriends, so, how much of your adult life were you already taken? "Nice" guys don't go for other guys girls. YOU might not be h... (read in full...)
What age should I get my 1st boyfriend?
Q. Im 13, At what age should i get my firts boyfriend?...
A. 25 August 2010: Should?
Is there a new law I don't know about?
When you feel like it and meet someone who you want to be your boyfriend. As for 1st. Call me old fashioned but isn't the general assumption when hunting for a partner that they are the LAST one... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his sister cut my hair, but they wont own up to messing it up!
Q. dear cupid , a year ago i let my partner and his sister cut the ends off my hair , something was going on as i could tell from the way thay where giggling his sister kept goin over to the bin an putting things in , i told my friend about what had ...
A. 25 August 2010: Your boyfriend wanted to do your hair?
I got bad news for you...... (read in full...)
I was really offended. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is really great and we get on so well. Just the other night we where lying in bed as usual watching tele and he said to me “if you gave me a blow job for everytime I've watched porn you have a ...
A. 25 August 2010: Answer:
If you ate me out for every time I faked an orgasm with you, you would have a lot of catching up to do.... (read in full...)
I'm getting violent w/ my BF... but I want to stop!!
Q. I really need some advice, I've never been a violent person. But recently i've started getting violent toward my boyfriend. Not really violent, but it's bad anyway. It scares me so I don't know what it's doing to him He tends to make me fe...
A. 25 August 2010: Sounds like a toxic relationship to me. And oddly enough you put all the blame on yourself and don't ask, is he causing this behavior in you with his own?
Are your outburst of violence a sign that this relationships just ain't working, isn't he... (read in full...)
Teen boys, are they all shallow?
Q. Hey, Everyone always says that teenagers make a really big deal of romance and that they have a really immature view of love. I think this is true of some teenagers but not of everyone. Sometimes I do feel though that teenage boys are really s...
A. 23 August 2010: Compared to what? Teen girls? No.
I am sure the movie twilight would have been a hit with females if the leads had depth rather then looks.... (read in full...)
I need advice for an 11 year age difference!
Q. I am an 18 year old girl and I am extremely attracted to a 29 year old, and he is crazy about me. We haven't gone on a date yet. I know my family will go crazy when they find out his age. My sister is 20 and is dating a 25 year old and my mom didn't ...
A. 20 August 2010: Why is a school girl dating a man who left school a decade ago?
Why is an guy long out of school and well on his way to making a career (or I bloody well hope he is), dating a school girl?
If your answer is love, then that is the wrong answer... (read in full...)
Its only been 4 months since I found out he cheated and I am having a hard time trusting him, but now he is blaming me and says if I carry on he will cheat again!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5years and recently i found out he had cheated on me twice. I love him so much and i stayed with him as he promised to never do it again. But i find it so hard to trust him now and i think i am pushing him away as i ...
A. 20 August 2010: He may very well have a point. You have a hard time trusting him again and what good is a relationship without trust?
So, what do you do? Keep up with this guy who cheated TWICE (that you know of) and now threatens to do it again unless YOU forg... (read in full...)
In love with a virgin but he cant be with me because I am not a virgin!
Q. So i am about to be 20 years old in month, during my freshman year i met this guy who was out of the ordinary. Hes 22 years old, and hes a virgin for religious reasons. But yet hes messed around with girls, including myself. We are in a ...
A. 20 August 2010: Shouldn't matter? That is up to him. His life, his choices. Your life, your choices. You don't get to say how someone else should lead their life or you will have to accept someone else telling you how to lead your life.
Some people make choices ... (read in full...)
My mom found my vibrator!
Q. Okay,well just a few minutes ago I went into my parents room because I have an earache and we were looking for the special tylenol that only works for my ear and I had left the vibrator underneath my pillow the night before and had fallen ...
A. 20 August 2010: So your idea of an excuse is that you had your brothers vibrator in your room?
Kinky.
You have a brother. You mom does the washing? Then she knows about masturbation. All moms do. You will too one day. Do you REALLY think your mother who fucke... (read in full...)
Will an abusive ex boyfriend contact again after being warned by the police?
Q. Will an abusive ex boyfriend call after restraint order? i broke up with him for hitting, calling me names, cheating on me when we used to off and on, pushing me and when i decided to break up he was begging, pleading and stalking till i told par...
A. 20 August 2010: Maybe, maybe not. Hard to judge since I don't him. The restraining order worked so far, so that is hopeful as he knows enough to follow the law but you got the beware for when the restraint order ends, that might be taken as a sign you accept him ... (read in full...)
Can any men give me some insight to this please?
Q. My bf Anthony is acting strange...hes 15yrs older so I can't really guess why having noo experience with men his age :p I've known him six months and he told me he was forced to live with his folks because of the bad economic situation. But, I've ...
A. 18 August 2010: You got a guy, well into his thirties dating a girl who could still be in school living with his mom...
And you want insight on this?
RUN!
That is about it. But no doubt you have created an entire sob story in your head to explain it all. ... (read in full...)
Why is this boy sending me mixed signals?
Q. I met a boy recently, very randomly who asked me for my number while I was browsing the CD section at the library. That same boy proceeded to ask me out on a date to which i cautiously accepted as I had not been in the dating game for a year after...
A. 16 August 2010: He ain't send you mixed messages.
You just aren't capable of reading them. Rent the movie "He just ain't that into you". ... (read in full...)
Why do I always go for the older man?
Q. I feel troubled. I can't seem to get attracted to men my own age or near it. I actually feel repulsed sometimes when they try and flirt with me. I try and feel something, anything but no go. I'd never go for someone twice my age or anything, but for ...
A. 16 August 2010: What are you looking for in a man, in a relationship. And vice versa, what is a middle aged man looking for in a teenager?
You don't want to disappoint your mother... how about your father? Not around? Oh gosh, could it be that easy? looking ... (read in full...)
22 and Romantically Challenged
Q. [Mod Note: OP's Title] Hi. I'm a 22-year-old woman in Canada and I've never had a boyfriend. Ever! Not even close! In addition, I'm more than a little overweight (I've been fighting it literally ALL my life) and I have a really hard time dealing ...
A. 13 August 2010: More then a little overweight? Read trash novels. Musicals? Ballroom dancing?
A dutch saying goes "For every jar, there is a lid". Alhough perhaps it would be better to say "for every lock there is a key". Just some locks fit more keys.
... (read in full...)
Withheld Unknown number keeps calling my cell!
Q. i have a problem that has bothering me for the couple of days...i have a new number on my cell and someone has been calling me for the couple of days with the withheld number and unknown number....please i need to know the number of the person who ...
A. 13 August 2010: You can on most phones/accounts disable those type of calls.
If it is a harrasment thing, you can file a complaint with the police and they can request the records to find out who the caller is.
... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he cheated on me! Is he just selfish?
Q. Is it fair to say that a guy that has been keeping secrets from his fiancee (including that he cheated on her 4 years into their relationship) is being extremely selfish? Is someone who believes that it is "OK" to keep secrets from the person he is ...
A. 13 August 2010: He was so worried that you would leave him if he told you he cheated that he didn't tell you.
He clearly wasn't so worried that you would leave him if he cheated, that he didn't cheat.
What does this tell you?
What does this tell you about... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you rather a girl was honest about her sexual past?
Q. Would guys prefer a girl who is honest about her past sexual life or is that a bad idea?...
A. 13 August 2010: Nah, I prefer a girl whose every word is a lie.
Keeps you on your toes.
Everyones knows that lying is what a good relationship is based on.
[end sarcasm mode]... (read in full...)
Bipolar boyfriend, should I stay or should I go?
Q. My bipolar bf went manic 6 months ago. Before that, he and I were so happy. We had planned a future together. Now he's a total stranger and he's so mean! He's like the worst parts of himself. When this episode began, he said he wanted help and ...
A. 1 August 2010: Always a difficult question, especially since the western medicine, the us leading the charge, has been galloping towards diagnosing EVERYONE with a mental disorder.
You can't just be a non-talker, that must be a disorder. You can't be happy, t... (read in full...)
Blowjobs: is it weird that it's the only thing I wanna do?
Q. Hey y'all! I know this is going to sound weird. But I've had an oral fixation ever since I was young. I'd never given a blowjob until I had sex for the first time when I got to college. I was later given the nickname: BJ. I love to give more tha...
A. 27 July 2010: Don't worry, marriage will cure that :)
People got some pretty weird stuff they prefer. Think about it. Sucking toes... all the rage a while back but some people always liked it.
If there is no problem, then don't make a problem out of i... (read in full...)
Her FWB Past Scares Me - Were They Better in Bed?
Q. I'm struggling with my girlfriends past. She has had about the same number of partners as me from what she tells me, but they have been recent and FWB type relationships, whereas mine have mostly been more serious. I get the vibe that some of ...
A. 27 July 2010: If the sex was so good, why did she stop?
Apparently isn't wasn't good enough or she would still be with them.... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, the guy I cant trust or the guy from my childhood who flirts a lot with me?
Q. Ok there is two problems, the 1st one is Well im with this guy Max now but i am having a hard time trusting him. Not that he lies a lot its just that i just cant buy his story. Anyways, i like him and he says he likes me too much.but i told him that ...
A. 14 July 2010: Neither, if you have to ask, you don't love either one of them.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to come out with him on his work nights out, is it normal for couples to go out drinking without each other?
Q. This is going to be long, sorry :X My boyfriend and I have been dating since our high school days (started when we were 17, now we are 23/24). We've been living together for 2 years now and are both in university. However, lately we've bee...
A. 14 July 2010: Yes couples can have their own social lives. But his reasoning for doing so is questionable.
1. He should never have said that. That is not normal behavior for loving people. If they don't like you, then he should choose you over them.
2. This... (read in full...)
Are my breasts normal?
Q. Kind of awkward (note me doing it on an anonymous website), but I have some issues with my breasts... I'm 15 and they're shaped like a V. Technically I'm a B-cup, but you couldn't tell if you saw me without my bra. They go straight down with an ...
A. 3 July 2010: When people say they come in all shapes and sizes, they mean it.
I presume considering your age that they are still developing.
What you have to remember that right now your breasts are growing fatty tissue pushing against flat skin. That is bo... (read in full...)
I think it's a mans duty to be the breadwinner!
Q. I don't only date men who have a good bank account, personality is what matters most to me. I don't depend on men to buy me things, I work and make my own money. BUT is it wrong for me to think that it's a mans duty to look after his women. I want ...
A. 3 July 2010: Then get involved with men that agree with that statement.
Shouldn't be to hard.... (read in full...)
He left us for a younger woman, do you think he'll be back??
Q. My husband of 23 years recently walked out on me and our children (10 and 15)after behaving really badly towards us, and our extended family and friends, for a couple of months. He packed and left and moved straight in with a 24 year old he met at ...
A. 3 July 2010: He hopes no one else ever has to make the agonizing decision he had to.
Yeah, sophie's choice has nothing on this. Choosing between your marriage and a young pussy.
Agree with TimmD, if he comes back it is just because this fling didn't wor... (read in full...)
I have found out my boyfriend has been lying to me for nearly a year, I'm scared there could be even more he is hiding!
Q. Hi, I'm a little lost as to which dirction to turn. My boyfriend lied to me. Everyday, for nearly a year. He told me that he lost his licence because he never converted his international licence to an Australian one about 1 year ago. I recently ...
A. 30 June 2010: Who cares what else he is hiding?
Basically you are dating a alcoholic who has absolutely no control over his addiction.
There is no other option but to get the hell out.
But you won't take it.
Enjoy the ride.... (read in full...)
I'm scared of sex and getting married soon!
Q. Okay so I am 18 and I'm getting married soon. The problem is that I'm a virgin and I am scared to have sex. I have always thought of sex to be disgusting and I even tried to get over it by watching anime porn but I couldn't bring myself to do so. ...
A. 30 June 2010: You are getting married and haven't fooled around yet?
Why exactly are you getting married?
Where do you draw the line? Is kissing disgusting? Holding hands?
touching?
Sounds like either you are not in love, have had some bad experien... (read in full...)
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