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I am 37 year old dutch male who used to think he was the mythical "nice guy" but realized that he really was just to lazy to be bad.

Worked a lot of different jobs, going where-ever the money happens to be and traveled a bit.

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Men can't read women

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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...

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Why does my b/f want a threeseome with 2 girls but won't even consider 2 guys?

Q.   hi so i need some good advise ive been with my bf 3 yrs now he watches porn which is not a problem i watch it with him but he likes to watch group sex and said it really turns him on then the other night he asked me if i would have a 3 some with him ...

A.   9 March 2012: Simple, male homosexuality is not accepted as much as female homosexuality. Just simply 2 women walking hand in hand vs men isn't the norm (in the west, other parts of the world it is perfectly normal). As for threesomes... jealousy in an u... (read in full...)

How do I bring up to my wife that I know she's using her vibrator rather than having sex?

Q.   I'm married with young kids and have been with my wife for 10 years. Over the last few years our sex life has become almost non existant which we put donw to the pressures of having young children. Recently I have discovered that my wife is using a ...

A.   9 March 2012: If I understand biology right, since you have kids, you had sex at one point at least. What changed between then and now? Talking to her is a good idea but I would first think very hard about you, her and the two of you. You might find that wha... (read in full...)

What would you do if a guy texts you but never calls?

Q.   What would you do if a guy texts you and never calls. He doesn't ask you out consistantly. For example this weekend he has not asked me out for a date. He doesn't ever call. I really like him though and when we go out we have a really good ...

A.   25 February 2012: Distance? Other means of communicating. When you are in love with someone, you want to be with them ESPECIALLY in the beginning. Granted at your age you are not teens anymore but I get the picture that between dates, you don't really chat. Ch... (read in full...)

Met a guy whilst wearing coloured contact lenses, will he think I'm fake if he finds out? What do guys think of girls who wear coloured lenses?

Q.   Honest answers from guys, I don't care if they are hurtful I need to know a truthful answer. What do you think of girls who wear coloured lenses? Do you not care so much, think they're fake, find them attractive.. what? Because I met this guy whi...

A.   9 February 2012: Awh, that is cute... a girl who still thinks men actually notice things like this. A couple years of marriage should cure it. ... (read in full...)

She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....

Q.   hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming ...

A.   16 November 2011: Well you thought wrong. Sex is about two people, together. Or three. Or four and a donkey for the advanced class. But is she is done and you are going to keep going for a while... well it is like eating dinner. You are done and someone else is ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to enjoy being single?

Q.   What is wrong with me? is this normal? will I feel better soon? I loved my ex bf so much, he said he loved me and I believed him cos he was a nice sweet guy. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship anymore. I found out after ou...

A.   14 November 2011: Doesn't sound like you are enjoying being single unless feeling numb has a different meaning then I think. Feeling numb sounds more like you are depressed. Rejecting any advances even just to flirt sounds like you are afraid of getting hurt. Sa... (read in full...)

My boyfriend insists on attending a concert while I'm in surgery

Q.   This may take me some time to write so here goes. I've just moved in to a house with my bf of two years, we've got a mortgage togther. We started to try for a baby around a year ago and in september I got pregnant with fertility treatment. After ...

A.   14 November 2011: Well, a lot of the responses are from women and a few of them might be mothers or at least menstruating. So they probably get "it". He might not. The child is inside of you, not inside of him. His feelings of loss will be different and he will dea... (read in full...)

She went from a stripper to an online web-cam model. Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable about her new job?

Q.   My brother and I were eating at a restaurant and I spotted a beautiful girl. I gestured to my brother to look at her and she noticed that. As my brother and I walked out to my car, she came outside and my brother urged me to approach her, which I ...

A.   13 November 2011: The porn industry is a pretty big employer. Somebody got to date all those models and lets face it, you didn't notice her for her mind did you? But that doesn't make it easy I suppose to deal with it. But she probably doesn't have to many oth... (read in full...)

I feel like a used rag!

Q.   i really need some honest constructive advice. over two years ago i met a guy at work. i had come out of a dreadful relationship and my confidence was low. i work hard at work but am always given a hard time for it so this guy seemed to like me and ...

A.   13 November 2011: Gosh, the women are supportive aren't they. Nothing wrong with you, it is all his fault... How many women are born a minute? Guess they are wrong, there are about 200-300 babies born every minute, half female. So there are 100-150 born a minute. ... (read in full...)

Is this a traditional FWB relationship?

Q.   A close friend of mine which I have known for the past 3 years, and I have hooked up 4 times in the last 7 months. I'm not sure if it's a FWB relationship... we don't booty call each other (which is what I've read that FWB do), or have long cha...

A.   13 November 2011: Okay, a REAL FWB relation is this. Two people that get along fairly well but are NOT in anyway in love choose to have sex together because finding someone for real is to much effort right now and they just need to get their itch scratched. It is... (read in full...)

Is being told your motherly a compliment or a complaint?

Q.   Is being told your " Mothery " a compliment or a complaint? I was out with my boyfriend last night in his car i was cuddling him and I kissed his head while stroking his hair and he said I was mothery. I wasn't sure how to respond so I just stayed ...

A.   22 October 2011: Depends, does he want to fuck his mommy? Relationships are complex things and what we want in a partner varies depending on how we feel ourselves. If you were cuddling as in sexual and he started to think of you as being motherly... then... (read in full...)

If you are with a divorced man does that automatically mean I have to have a second best wedding and a second best life?

Q.   My partner of 3 years is a nice guy, he makes me laugh, he’s good company, he cooks me dinner, we share interests. Intimacy is great. He got divorced 6 years ago. I have never been married. The problem is he has so many problems and we cannot ge...

A.   22 October 2011: When you marry you marry not just your partner but his family. And as a bonus you get his past. Why do think people find it harder to date and marry at a later age? Because the piled up baggage can be become an insurmountable hurdle. And par... (read in full...)

Do I have appendicitis?

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster, I am approving this, but PLEASE understand we are NOT doctors on here and NO ONE can make a diagnosis over the internet. You are just going to get general opinions. I think I might have appendicitis but I can't be too sure. On...

A.   22 October 2011: So... your logic for not going to the doctor is that you couldn't afford the surgery if something is wrong... If whatever is wrong needs surgery then you can't afford not to go, unless your life has no value. Nobody here can diagnose you. Ev... (read in full...)

I don't want my father at my wedding. But he's said "i had better be invited".

Q.   Im gettin married next year and while everything is perfect in the sence that im marrying the love of my life, I hav a huge problem concerning my father. Its a long story so i'll explain best i can my father suffers from a mental illness and also...

A.   22 October 2011: That is the problem with being wishy-washy. You sorta kept in touch. Probably wanting to keep the peace. "He is still my father after all" etc etc. It sounds nice but being nice never solves anything. It is the Oprah culture and that notion t... (read in full...)

Should I intervene on behalf of my boyfriend who just tossed in a good job? Is he ready for a new challenging job?

Q.   My boyfriend has been unemployed for over a year. I feel partially responsible for his situation because he moved with me so that I could start a job, and the new area does not offer many jobs in his field. In the past year, I have seen his ment...

A.   27 September 2011: Does he sound ready? If he really has depression and no, you nor me are qualified to diagnose that, then that is not something you get over easily or indeed ever totally get rid off. Thinking a bright spell is an improvement is wishful thinking... (read in full...)

I feel unfeminine. Should I get breast implants to fix this?

Q.   Ok, I have small boobs, because of my age they won't grow anymore. I have an otherwise curvy build, I have a small pronounced waist and wide hips, big butt and thick thighs. I'm slim, though. My face is well, some say pretty, I'd say average, but ...

A.   4 September 2011: Well, several good pieces of advice so let me give you a very male piece of advice. Of course big tits are more noticeable. So would a big nose or having only one eye. Go to google image search, switch of safe browsing and enter "bad boob ... (read in full...)

How else can I live alone on my income if I break up with my unreliable boyfriend? Because I need to end this relationship now

Q.   Dear Cupid, I fell in love with a drug and alcohol addict. We have been together for the past 5 years. He no longer does drugs nor drinks, to my knowledge (and he's always either at home or at work). However, he just keeps messing up... First...

A.   12 August 2011: You can't afford to live on your own. I don't know how bad American salaries are but thought housing expenses were a lot lower. Any case, what is the point of having two people pay for things if you don't pay for things? Where is the rent mon... (read in full...)

Feeling lost now I am single.....

Q.   If anyone has anything that night help me please read :) Im finding it really hard being single/on my own. For the past 7 years I have been in 3 long relationships with only small amounts of time in between. I have just recently broken up with ...

A.   12 August 2011: 7/3 is 2 years allowing for some time in between. 2 years is NOT a long relationship. If you are between 22 and 25 then basically you been running from relationship to relationship since you became an "adult". Have you EVER actually lived o... (read in full...)

Would you date a girl who had many sugar daddies??

Q.   So I met this girl. Real pretty. Grew up in Europe (Czech Rep.). Dated a few times. Then she tells me about her sugar daddies. For those who dont know a sugar daddy is an older man who gives money to young women in exchange for sexual favors. ...

A.   12 August 2011: "Says to her a friend is someone who makes life easier for her." Says it all. I would stay clear.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend earns more than me, should he pay for more once we buy a house together?

Q.   Hi. I have just had an interesting conversation with my colleague. I am about to buy a house with my bf of 18 months. He has fronted the 10% deposit for the house as he has managed to save really well over the last couple of years whereas I am c**p ...

A.   25 July 2011: Oh boy, this relationship is off to a good start.. If you start off with you both only willing to put in the same amount as the other then how are you going to deal with cleaning? Cooking? Shopping? What if one partners next job is a long way aw... (read in full...)

What do guys think of my body shape? Is it a turn off?

Q.   i am really shy about my body. its not curvy and nice like most girls. im not fat, not one bit.. but im really tanky. so i have a guys body sorta. its really embarasing and i hate wearing bakinis because i dont like my body. what do guys think about ...

A.   25 July 2011: Everybody knows about playboy and its selection of models. What fewer people know is that the magazine turning down one model for not fitting their standards saw the creation of another skin-mag. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfect_10_(magazine) ... (read in full...)

How can I stop my lack of trust towards women and the fear of unknowingly raising another man's child from affecting my relationships?

Q.   Hi guys,something has been bothering me for a very long time and has affected my relationships with women big time! From an early age among friends and family members many have accidentaly discovered that one or two of the kids they were raising ...

A.   25 July 2011: People who have some medical knowledge about genetics and how it affects things like eye color or people who access to blood type results know that the percentage of kids raised by a man different then their biological father without that guy ... (read in full...)

Opinion on a girl who has made out with 13 guys before age 18?

Q.   Guys, in complete an utter honesty. If you were seeing an 18 year old girl and she told you she's got with (kissed) about 13 guys, none of whom she was in a relationship with. What would your opinion on her be? And would you want her to tell you ...

A.   25 July 2011: Some will think nothing off it, others will call you a slut. It is a matter of personal opinion and you can't change that. Should you lie about it? You only need to lie about it to people who think you are a slut so by lying you will only become a... (read in full...)

The passion that my GF had for sex, is dead and anytime I try get it back I get shot down. Suggestions anyone??

Q.   so my lady is less and less interested in sex, she has never been one for foreplay and she hasnt let me get her to orgasm in just under a month and i am finding that my own self confidence is crashing because i feel like my gf is just going through ...

A.   25 July 2011: Go look for what caused the change to occur in the first place. She changed, something caused that change. That you didn't even consider this but only talk about the effect it has on you may be part of the issue. She isn't the one to have an ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he share his fetishes with me? Why is he hiding them?

Q.   my bf watches asian soft porn when im not with him have never discussed this and i found out by accident . im not asian by any means . he also has a pantyhose fetish and shoe fetish why dont he share this with me ....

A.   8 July 2011: Does he know that unlike some women you don't have a hangup about his fetish and/or porn in general. ... (read in full...)

Girls like jerks and reject the nice guys?

Q.   I posted this a week ago but didn't get any replies. So I am trying again today cause I want some advise. I m really down. After being dumped by my gf of 4 years for another guy 5 months ago and after most of the healing process, when I tried to ...

A.   4 July 2011: Love isn't a barter game. You can't go "I gave you X love therefor you owe me X amount in return". Any statement that starts with "but I loved him/her so much" is naive. How much you love someone has no relation to how much they feel for you. ... (read in full...)

How can I tell the difference between a nice friend and a guy who wants more?

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm currently 20 years old and still unsure of men/relationship stuff so I thought this site was perfect to ask something that's been on my mind for a while. I've been friends with this guy for about two years now, but its only bee...

A.   25 June 2011: Is there more? Before anything else, what are your feelings about him. Yes, he might be a nice guy, yes you might in your mind think that this is the guy you should be dating. But does he do it for you? Because that is what missing, there i... (read in full...)

I think I will be keeping my baby, does anyone have any advice for a young mum to be?

Q.   I've recently discovered I'm pregnant - and I'm not really sure what to do. I've been to the doctor and gotten an appointment for the termination clinic, as the doctor has said I could be 7-9 weeks and if I'm at the upper end of that, there's not ...

A.   24 June 2011: Your mother and grandmother managed well? In what? Raising their daughters not to get pregnant without planning it? Casual sex partner taking responsibility for the next two decades of raising a kid? Think you really will be able to cope wit... (read in full...)

In the past she had affairs with married men! Is this a deal-breaker?

Q.   a girl I have been dating for 6 months, and who up to now, I have liked a lot, revealed to me that in the past, not too distant, she dated a few married men. she is 28. one was when she was about 20, the other when she was 26. she slept with both of ...

A.   24 June 2011: For who? For you? It seems to be because if you were fine with it, you wouldn't be asking here would you? She is who she is, past and all. That may either be something you want or which you don't but you don't get to pick the bits about a human be... (read in full...)

I'm losing my hair. Wife not very supportive. How do I handle this?

Q.   I am 39 years old and my hair is really starting to recede and thin. It stresses me out. My younger brother's hair was even worse than mine, but he went out and got surgery to try to fix it. I am not sure I really want to go through the pain and...

A.   19 June 2011: We aren't always as sensitive as our partners want us to be. Sometimes because we just don't get what they are so sensitive about. But we also often don't listen when our sensitive areas are being criticized. Listen to what she said. "it matte... (read in full...)

Should I try being a FWB? None of my relationships work out. Need help please.

Q.   well ive recentley gotten out of two relationships the first i was with him for 2yrs. and loved him deeply but one day he just up an left without a text or call or a reason to him leaving .An i didnt know why he left i still to this day dnt know why ...

A.   19 June 2011: Basically to men a FWB is a girlfriend who puts out BEFORE any actual date, you don't got to pretend you ever want to commit to under any circumstance. It is great! Some women like them as well. The rest? Who cares, it is not like she is your... (read in full...)

Wife has suspicious browser history. Should I be worried of an affair?

Q.   My wife and I spend almost all of our time together. I set my work schedule so that I go in to work late. We usually spend our mornings together eating breakfast, running errands, and taking walks together before I head to work. She then takes ca...

A.   19 June 2011: For some reason I got a hardtime picturing a woman researching on the web how to have an affair. It would be more fitting with my stereo-type of the female mind (a dark void) that she would just do it. If she is researching the explenation ... (read in full...)

I went to a strip club and my wife suspects. Should I come clean?

Q.   I have been with my wife (dating and married) for 19 years now. We have had our ups and downs and during a down period (about 10 years into our relationship) I went to a strip club for the first time. I always had this bad idea about strip clubs an...

A.   19 June 2011: This isn't really about watching women jiggle their boobs is it? It sounds like the marriage isn't what you hoped it would be but you are sticking with it because... love but not passion? It might be affection but also, better the devil you know... (read in full...)

How do I avoid dating a serial dater in the future?

Q.   When you date someone it takes maybe a year for them to show their true selves. Everything in the beginning is just then putting on their good side, so they can get laid. I miss they way my ex was at the beginning of teh relatiosnhip, not the actu...

A.   19 June 2011: There is a really simple way to tell a person true personality EARLY on. Yes, he wants to get into your pants and will therefor be on the behavior that he thinks he is the best path to said pants. He is NOT interested in getting into pan... (read in full...)

Married for 6 months - now some disturbing things coming out about my wife?

Q.   After a drunken night of wine last night, a few things came out about my wife that I probably didnt want to hear. I have a big thing about honesty, as I have a fair few trust issues of my own, and after a few lies that she's came out with, I feel a ...

A.   19 June 2011: Our society tends to get men to increase the number of sexual partners they have had and women to decrease theirs. Considering that women often start younger, in same age couples it would be normal to expect the woman to have more experien... (read in full...)

He is happy being having his cake and eating it but I am not!

Q.   My 35 year old boyfriend seems happy with our relationship as it is. He has no plans for us to move in together or get engaged or married. He says we don't get on well enough to make a commitment. I think this is rubbish and his way of having his ...

A.   19 June 2011: Aren't you? You claim you want a serious commitment but also date a guy who has clearly stated that he does not want a serious commitment. So who exactly is wanting to have their cake and eat it to? He has stated what he wants, you have stated ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said I was like a porn director

Q.   Hi,this really sounds creapy to me but pls i need ua input. im n relationship for 7months, commited,we taked of moving together,,spent every weekend 2getha. my boyfriend lost his job and his sexual appetite went down which i do understand coz of t...

A.   19 June 2011: What we say and what we mean by it is not always what is being heard by the other side. And with sex, we often bring a lot insecurities with us into the bedroom. Look at your own reaction to being called a porn director. What did you intend t... (read in full...)

Why am I only attracted to much older men?

Q.   Okay, so heres the thing, I'm young (19), and basically I'm pretty much only attracted to men who are, on average, about thirty years older than myself (pretty much between the ages of 45-60). I've only ever been with guys my own age though.....

A.   19 June 2011: Are you? Or are you attracted to the safety net? You say that the older men do not take you serious, does this mean that you can fantasize about it without it ever leading to anything including disappointment? You are attracted to old men but n... (read in full...)

Single mom, am I being too picky?

Q.   I have a real issue with myself. I'm a 25 year old single parent of 1 child. I've recently split from a married guy and finnaly feel ready to move on and meet somebody new. I want to settle down, marry and have more children but I'm finding that guy...

A.   18 June 2011: You are looking for a man to provide stability for you and someone elses seed, because you are pretty. Forget the bleeding heart posts by the other women for a moment. THAT is what your post is saying to a male reader who still got some b... (read in full...)

My boyfriend never gets jealous! Is that odd?

Q.   This may sound like an odd question , but what do you think it means that my boyfriend never acts jealous or even shows that he's jealous? Is he just super secure , good at hiding it - or just not that into me? We've been together 6 months a...

A.   10 June 2011: I think your exes caused you to have some weird ideas about how relationships are supposed to be. If he has nothing to be jealous of why shouldn't he simply trust you? You are trustworthy, he trusts you. ... (read in full...)

Is this age gap we have really that much out of line?

Q.   Im a 40 year old divorced mother of 2. Recently I have begun dating a very nice guy who just turned 32. We seem to have a real connection to each other and have alot of fun, our sex life is great. The only problem is alot of my friends seem to ...

A.   10 June 2011: Age gaps are in my personal opinion not about the size of the age gap but the size of that gap of where people are in there lives. If he was 14 and you where 20, the age gap would be smaller but I would still punch your lights out. At 32 h... (read in full...)

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