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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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When I turned down his marriage proposal he went and married his ex instead!
Q. i was living with a man he ask me to marry him and i wouldn't because i was mad at him that day. so he went and married his ex. he was gone living with her for 2 weeks before he moved back home. we have been living together now for 2 years sence ...
A. 14 May 2010: What makes you think it is a good idea to be with someone who goes of and marries someone else when involved with you?
And who turns down a marriage proposal just because you are bit mad at him one day?
Seems to me both of you behave extremely... (read in full...)
Is age only a state of mind?
Q. im a 26 year old single lady.I have been friends with this guy for over two years now.i always knew that he was attracted to me but has never really asked me out.The truth is that i am also attracted to this guys and i would like to go out with him ...
A. 8 April 2010: Well no, but as said, two years is not an age gap. Granted it is commonly assumed that the male is usually older (except you can find plenty of examples were this isn't the case, even famous couples) but 2 years is nothing.
BUT since it is partl... (read in full...)
Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk ...
A. 8 April 2010: He didn't learn his lesson when you warned him 5 years ago.
He is also gutless, unable to face up to the consequences of his actions.
And that is if he is telling the truth.
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Do all boys just want sex?
Q. soo i really want to know do boys really all just want sex? becouse when i even get close to a boy they ask for sex and so this horrible pick up lines and they say stuff like "but your just soo hot i recken you would be amazing in bed" and its like...
A. 22 March 2010: Do all cats want to eat all the time? No, but the one mewing at your feet sure seems too. That is because you don't see the one sleeping in a sunbeam.
Boys that want sex tend to approach girls. Boys that don't, don't.
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Do all guys masterbate?
Q. This is just out of interest, but is it possible for a guy to reach 25plus without whacking off? ...
A. 14 March 2010: Yes, they are called paraplegics. ... (read in full...)
Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that?
Q. Hey. When it comes to girls, I’d like to know where guys draw the line. Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that? The guy I fancy reluctantly said that he’d pull me and I keep on catching his eye at s...
A. 12 March 2010: Do you have a pulse? Ever had one? Good enough.... (read in full...)
What is the limit of verbal abuse you can take from a boyfriend?
Q. Hi All! I'm looking for some brutally honest opinions/insights into tolerating bad behaviour from a partner. How many times would your limit be for verbal abuse or a partner who is on/off on/off always dumping you then coming back etc etc. I ...
A. 3 March 2010: Don't know. What is the limit you can take?
If some other woman can take it to be beaten everyday, does that make it all right?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirts and pretends to be single online. Should I dump him?
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend has a networking account on which he behaves as if he were a single guy. He flirts, he apparently texts, and his status when I checked was "looking for random hookups". I called him somewhat hysterically and ...
A. 2 March 2010: He is looking to see if their is greener grass on the other side of the fence.
Is that what you want in a husband? Someone who is always looking to see what else is available?
No, he might never actually find anything, but the message to me wo... (read in full...)
I found another man's underwear under the bed!
Q. I just found men's underwear under my side of the bed. I'd like advice on what to do. This weekend, I was searching for a pair of old sneakers and they were shoved way under our bed on my side. I have no clue how long they've been there, I usually...
A. 2 March 2010: Well, if you are sure they are not yours (and women, please, we men are not completely hopeless with our clothes we don't regonize year old underwear, we just pretend so you clean up after us... oops, ignore that... look shiny jewels!) then there ... (read in full...)
Period comes twice a month.
Q. I have my period twice a month, what should i do? ...
A. 2 March 2010: This question belongs with a doctor. ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend who cheated on me is back after almost a year apart. Has he changed?
Q. Its been almost a year since I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and all the sudden he's started calling and texting me again. We were together for 4 years, which were a mixture of good times and bad. The reason we broke up was because he cheated on me ...
A. 2 March 2010: "remembers how it felt to be in a relationship with him"
Really? The pain when you found out? Do you remember that?
Okay, so he claims he has changed. And I claim I am the emperor of China. Words are cheap. What has he done to proof it?
For... (read in full...)
Why do guys only want me for sex?
Q. everyone i meet says am really friendly and really sweet. they all say i have a great personality. guys thinks am cute and sexy..but they just want me for sex and off course i don't give in cos am not the type to sleep around.. i want ...
A. 25 February 2010: Your good personality does not matter to them.
Guys that just want sex, just want sex. They are not going to change their mind just because the girl happens to be nice.
Think of it like this, you eat a steak: do you then care whether it came ... (read in full...)
Is 4 sexual partners a high number for a 21 year old?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and we only dated for 2 months and he was basically using me for sex, I posted a question about it a couple hours ago and recieved good respones. My question now is- I am 21 and have had sex with 4 people. Is that a ...
A. 19 February 2010: Whoa, back up a minute. You waited for three weeks to have sex BUT you were LIVING WITH HIM?
How does this work?
Was he a roommate or something?... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a boyfriend of 5 years to refuse to go to my Aunts funeral?
Q. My aunt just died yesterday. I'm just wondering if it's wrong for my boyfriend of 5 years to not want to go to her funeral with me? This is pretty much all new to me. I have never been to a funeral or known someone close to me that has died. I am 27 ...
A. 18 February 2010: I think the proper etiquette in these situations, for a partner, is that it is not about you.
When you partner goes through something like this, what you do, is up to them. So, as a bf, he should have let it up to you if whether you want him to j... (read in full...)
My work colleague has left his wife for me. Should I get involved?
Q. I have been working at my work place for 11 months. It became obvious 6 months ago that one of my married work colleagues had developed feelings for me. He constantly hung around my office area during his lunch. I steadfastly ignored him. Even some ...
A. 14 February 2010: Vasectomy. Contraception is not a one way street. And nobody put a gun against his head and forced him to fuck her without a condom, or indeed have sex with her at all.
So he wasn't all that determined to get out was he?
And he is so moral, tha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants sex for Valentine's Day but I don;t know how to tell him that I think we are too young.
Q. im 15, i just turned 15, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 1/2 months, things have moved really fast for us, we kissed after 2 days, made out after one week and started 'doing stuff' after about 2 weeks, since valentines day is coming ...
A. 10 February 2010: Just say no. Not that easy, is it? But you are right, you are to young.
Boys got it easy, they can want sex, because society still views them as studs for getting laid while girls are still called sluts.
Girls are also the ones who end up pregn... (read in full...)
When it comes to nudity and porn my boyfriend has double standards
Q. I think my boyfriend has double stanards. He likes watching porn and even though he's not addicted, he'll defend his porn use until he dies! Well, I don't like him looking at other women. I don't like thinking he gets pleasure from others. I know ...
A. 8 February 2010: You wrote very clearly what the problem is. He has double standards.
The solution is also clear. Dump his sorry ass.
You don't want to hear that. You want to hear about some magical cure that will make him see the light.
There isn't.... (read in full...)
Is it true partners who hurt you are who you really want?
Q. Is it true even if someone hurt you a lot in a previous relationship and you put a lot of your time and your energy into it and than it ends. So both of you start dating again or maybe only one of you does but is it true that you miss this person...
A. 8 February 2010: Seems a silly thing to do. ... (read in full...)
What the hell do I say to his guilt-trips???
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for two years. Then we broke up for a year. And now we've been back together for two months (and counting). During the time we were broken up, I had a one-night-stand (which means I did NOT cheat as we were broken ...
A. 8 February 2010: Seems he is jealous that you had sex and he didn't.
But now he is trying to get you to agree to have sex with another girl, well so much for fidelity then.
This is about ego, not hurt feelings. ... (read in full...)
Should women make the first move?
Q. Should women make the first move? There is a guy I really like a lot. We are good friends, but I would love to have a deeper relationship with him. We are both shy, and although we flirt etc, nothing has ever happened. We are both single, and have...
A. 7 February 2010: If the woman wants something to happen that ain't happening for some reason, then yes.
You got two options:
1. Wait for something to happen that might never happen.
2. Make your own move and get your answer.
Sure, rejection is an opt... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend almost 14 months, she attracts a massive amount of attention from other males, a wee while ago she left herself logged into a social networking site, and when i realised she was still logged in i took a little look in ...
A. 6 February 2010: Why did she keep replying to him if she wasn't interested?... (read in full...)
I am worried about hair in the nether regions
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old female who is suffering from hair on my butt, not my cheeks, it's inside of my cheeks around my hole. ( I apologize for graphis terms). I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, and we haven't really gotten to the sexual area ...
A. 6 February 2010: Normal, while the media portrays women as hairless they aren't.
You can either wax or shave it (you probably need outside help and in the case of waxing no feelings. Oh your female, then that is sorted out all ready) or just accept that you are ... (read in full...)
Is a man gay if he crossdresses and uses toys on himself?
Q. Why do men use toys on themselves and cross dress and feel they are not gay? I can understand the feminine side, but the toys make me feel that I cannot satisfy him like a man could. I also have a problem with the deception and lies. A man ...
A. 6 February 2010: Lets be blunt, you claim you have a vision of your future. And that is clashes with his. Fine. Does your vision of your future include being alone?
I presume that you two cared for each other and married because of that.
For better and for w... (read in full...)
Do "mansluts" ever change or will he always be like that
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i ...
A. 6 February 2010: If he wants to change, sure. But why would he?... (read in full...)
Is it must for a girl to cum during sex?
Q. I want to ask a question. Is it must for a girl to cum during sex. and how do you make a girl cum?...
A. 5 February 2010: Nope, not if your stuck in the 1950's.... (read in full...)
I get so wet during sex I cant even feel it! What's wrong with me?
Q. i have a quick question for yall! My husband and i always have great sex......but for some reason i have been getting so wet we cant feel it! Its always been easy for me to get wet but its such a turn off when we cant feel it and we have to stop ...
A. 5 February 2010: Anything that could have upset your hormones? Diet change, pill, health?
I don't think masturbation has anything to do with it. Hormonal changes are well know to cause women to become dry, and the reverse is also true. ... (read in full...)
Guys put me on a pedestal and never see the real me.
Q. I always end up with guys who put me on a pedestal and don't seem interested in getting to know the real me. You know how everyone says when you notice the same pattern recurring in your lovelife, it's a good idea to look at the part your behaviour ...
A. 4 February 2010: Stop being afraid of people.
You don't even give the guys a chance to find out who you really are. You hide yourself, and then break up before they got a chance to dig any deeper.
You already written down the problem yourself, but not why. The... (read in full...)
Do all men only worry about how good a woman looks?
Q. How important are looks to men? The ones who show an interest in me seem to only ever care about the way I look. I had one boyfriend who even said he loved how anywhere we went together, all the guys would be jealous of him because he'd got me and ...
A. 4 February 2010: Don't know, how important are looks to women. Be honest now. Men and women ain't really all that different.... (read in full...)
I believe he has changed, but my mother says he is a jerk!
Q. Hi I am 18 years old My boyfriend is 24 We first started dating when I was only 13 After almost five years together He changed and I knew something was wrong I kind of knew he was cheating I believe that us women just know that kind of things we get ...
A. 4 February 2010: So, a 18 yr old started dating a 13yr old.
You lost me right there.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be glad he is not somebody other girls would be all over?
Q. When it comes to height and weight, I'm right smack-dab in the middle of all that is average for someone my age. I'm just under 5'5" and 117 lbs. My boyfriend of over five years, however, is not what you would call "petite". He has a foot of height ...
A. 4 February 2010: But, you are all over him, so why wouldn't other girls be?
And since you are slender, does that mean guys are all over you and he should be worried about you cheating?
If you love big guys, then so be it, but work on your insecurities bec... (read in full...)
Are any married women prepare to put up with a cheating husband?
Q. Hello! I am curious to know - are there ANY married women out there who would put up with a cheating husband? If so, do you pretend not to know what's going on behind your back? Do you take care of your children and ignore his lies and betrayals? ...
A. 3 February 2010: If you didn't care, you would ask. So you care and therefor can't ignore it.
Read the female responses of woman who are cheated on, do you want to end up like that?... (read in full...)
27 year old virgin - wondering if I need to get counselling
Q. Hi This is my first time posting a question but I figured what the hell. I am going to be 27 this year and I am still a virgin. It shouldn't be that big a deal but I feel like it is one. All my friends have had sex and some are even married wit...
A. 3 February 2010: Just a bit of advice, a pub might not be the best place to find a guy who is looking for romance rather then action.
As for counseling, well, if you feel that there is a deeper issue going on, then that might help. Sometimes one of the most bas... (read in full...)
Am I too tall? Or am I considered petite?
Q. I am 16 soon to be 17 and i'm 5'5" 120 pounds. Am I too tall? Am I considered petite? I've been told that I have quit my growth spurts....
A. 3 February 2010: Depends on the guy you are with. You would be tall to me but petite to a mate of mine. ... (read in full...)
What was so wrong with wanting to have a future with the man you love and discussing it?
Q. Me and my man have split up after a year together. I felt he didn't want the relationship to progress, and proved myself right eventually... i think? I can't get over it though. I couldn't understand why he never asked me as a plus 1 to a wedding ...
A. 3 February 2010: What I mean is that you still say you were happy together. If he was, then why did he end it?
Read your own post carefully, where do you say that he says he wants to commit?
It takes two people to make a relationship, and no matter how hard ... (read in full...)
Fiance just doesn't seem to want sex! Instead watches porn and takes care of himself!!!
Q. I am a 25 year old, my fiance really doesn't seem interested in me in bed. He kisses me all the time grabs my butt but just really doesn't seem interested in sex! Just recently I found out that he has been wathcing porn on the computer. He is 38 so ...
A. 2 February 2010: Is there any sex at all?
How long has he been single.
Why is he dating a child?
I am always a bit suspicious about huge age differences and problem relationships. To put it at its most basic, why was he left on the shelve for so long? An o... (read in full...)
Would a man forego the SuperBowl for a first date with an attractive, successful woman?
Q. I met a man that is very charming. He lives out of town. He seems to say all the right things. He claims he had tickets to the SuperBowl in Miami this weekend but would rather come out and visit me and will cancel his plans. My questions is to the ...
A. 2 February 2010: No.
Well it depends, how did he get the tickets? If he is a fan who was lucky to get them, then no. If he just got them for free or something, then maybe. He could sell them and make a nice impression at the same time.
... (read in full...)
What was so wrong with wanting to have a future with the man you love and discussing it?
Q. Me and my man have split up after a year together. I felt he didn't want the relationship to progress, and proved myself right eventually... i think? I can't get over it though. I couldn't understand why he never asked me as a plus 1 to a wedding ...
A. 2 February 2010: If you read this post carefully, there is an amazing amount of arrogance going on.
"I love this man, therefor I deserve to have a future with him."
At NO point does she ask "what does he feel for me". Almost as if it doesn't occur to her tha... (read in full...)
His porn has become a problem in the bedroom!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and weve had some problems with is porn addiction. i left him bout 7 months ago because he had such a problem with not only porn but datin sites and personals ads. i left him for about 3 months ...
A. 2 February 2010: What you got to ask yourself is, what are you trying to work with here?
This guy has been given a choice, you or masturbation and even masturbation vs sex. And he has chosen masturbation.
Clearly he does not value you, the sex or the relations... (read in full...)
I dated a known cheater and now he has cheated on me I have trust issues.
Q. I apologize if my question is long, but you must know all the details for it to make sense. I also changed the names of the people. Thank you for listening I really need advice. . Spencer and I met last year in May,(we have been together for alm...
A. 2 February 2010: So, you found out he was a cheat, but thought he was such a great guy... and now you are upset because he cheated.
So, what was your question again? How you can learn to read a warning sign?... (read in full...)
Will he leave me when he looses weight?
Q. Ive a bf who is overweight. He is planning to have a surgery but Iam little bit worried because he may cheat on me after surgery. Cause Iam thinking that oh nowhe is overweight and he thinks no girl looks at her thats why he is really into me and ...
A. 28 January 2010: You are slim now, so I presume you weren't before.
So now that your slim, did you leave him? Do you think, "Oh I can get a guy who is better looking, so lets dump this guy"?
No? Then don't sell him short.... (read in full...)
I think my g/f is trying to get pregnant so I marry her. What do I do?
Q. I have been dating my g/f for more than 6 months now and she has been hinting about marriage. We have been having sex since our second month of dating and up until a few weeks ago I was using condoms. My girlfriend went on the pill so I would ...
A. 28 January 2010: Use a condom. ... (read in full...)
My work colleague has left his wife for me. Should I get involved?
Q. I have been working at my work place for 11 months. It became obvious 6 months ago that one of my married work colleagues had developed feelings for me. He constantly hung around my office area during his lunch. I steadfastly ignored him. Even some ...
A. 27 December 2009: Well, if you get involved, you know what you are getting don't you?
Someone who leaves his wive and kids for a potential at the office.
Do you know why there are no great women scientists? Because women can't make connections. Madam Curie neve... (read in full...)
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