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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm trying to help a friend. She is now 19, and with a kid and boyfriend. She came to me upset and asked me not to tell her boyfriend. I'm really not sure what to make of this, so I'm not sure how to help so here's her story. She met her boyfriend when she was 14, they were eachothers firsts. Her family is a bunch of losers and controlling so she moves in with her boyfriend she she was 16. A year and a half later, her family caused a lot of problems with her and her boyfriend, and her aunt talks her into leaving him. She moves in with her aunt, who is her only family around. Now her aunt and uncle demand her to pay rent. They have a friend in his late 30's living there. He pays her share, and she didn't know. After a couple weeks, he tells her he's paying her share and if she doesn't want to be homeless, she needs to sleep with him. I also think the pain of her breaking up with her boyfriend is still stinging then and she gives in. She told me she went to the shower and had to scrub and threw up after the first time. He pressures her for sex, and she told me she really wasn't into it, but she was afraid to say no. She said to me "it's not like I was raped, he never forced me". After about six weeks of this, she calls her ex and they get back together and they are getting married now. They seem truly happy now, but her time when they were seperated really seems to bother her. I'm not sure what she was trying to tell me bunk can see it hurts, and she made me swear to keep this from her boyfriend. What happened here, and how can I help her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Hi, OP here.
I know she was there with her aunt, if you knew these people it would all add up. She knew she was supposed to be paying, but had no job or other means to support herself, her at the time ex fully supported her. She was looking for a job and was going to pay then. I guess she thought family would help her out in a bind.
I think there is more than she is telling me, but long story short I think she was really taken advantage of by a much older man looking for an easy target at the minimum. She has nothing to gain or lose by what she tells me, I'm her friend either way. I as well don't get why she would have sex just because she thought it was expected of her, and she was scared to say no.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 So... her aunt charges her rent but doesn't tell her instead goes to someone else, unrelated, tells him she wants the rent for her niece. This person then pays it for a period.
Then her aunt demands it from her.
Then the friend demand sex for paying the rent.
Sounds like there is a plot hole or two here.
What of this story can you verify? Did she really live with her aunt? Or with someone else.
Portions of the story might be true but even people confessing to clear their heart tend to try to make themselves look good.
It simply doesn't seem likely that a unrelated male would just pay her rent for nothing. Does it? Or that her aunt would first go to a stranger to demand rent. Or that they would accept a stranger paying it without knowing that nobody does that without expecting something rather obvious back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): By being a good friend and letting her know (away from her future husband) that if she needs to talk your there.. What they did, was like grooming and blackmailing her into having sex with their lodger, disgusting of them
Her aunts a donkey, who would ask for money of a 17teen year old, ESP for rent ..
Just be there and keep your word.. Your being a real food friend
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