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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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I have given him an ultimatum to get married, but I don't want to lose him! What should I do?
Q. im in a relationship with a guy for one year.he says he like me and can also marry me but doesnt love me and not give commitment now.we both are 27.my parents are worried because i should get married now.i gave him 3 more months to tell me whether ...
A. 31 May 2010: Reminds me of a joke on bash.org:
Xizer Winzip is such a girl...
Xizer "Uh hey. 30 days are up could you stop using me? No? Well I'll just ask again tomorrow..."
Look up ultimatum. ... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on my boyfriend when everything is so perfect? What is wrong with me?
Q. First of all let me start by saying that I already am aware of what I have done, I am not looking for comfort or criticism - what I have come here for is help or insight into my behaviour. I cheated on my boyfriend, I met someone through work las...
A. 31 May 2010: You are over analysing.
People are stupid and yes that includes women. It doesn't matter how good you think you have it, most people will tend to take it for granted. And then we start doing stupid stuff because we no longer worry about losing i... (read in full...)
What should I do?? did I get the job or not?? should I ring him?
Q. I went to a job interview on wednesday afternoon. the manager basically told me what the job involves and what I would be doing at the shop. he said he called me for an interview cos I have experience in retail.(C.V) he also said he's inte...
A. 28 May 2010: Wait till Monday, that gives him the weekend to consider.
Some bosses forget how nerve wracking it can be if they don't call while others simply prefer not to call if they are not going to hire you.
Don't get your hopes up to high and remembe... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 28 May 2010: Gosh, what a load of "justification" for cheating on your husband.
And you spell justification B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T.
"I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship"
Honesty? Honesty is t... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to request he doesn't contact her on our romantic break
Q. I'm going away for the weekend with my boyfriend. He told me to bring a pen to write postcards with. He has a female friend whom he used to be in love with before he met me, and I know he will want to send her a postcard, he sent her one a year ago ...
A. 28 May 2010: He asked you to bring a pen so he can send a postcard?
I think there is a lot of wrongness hidden in that statement.
Just how fucking lazy is this guy?... (read in full...)
Hey I was wondering when guys say they don't know why two girls fooling around turn them on do they mean it?
Q. Hey i was wondering when guys say they dont know why two girls fooling around turn them on do they mean it? Iv been just wondering cause like all guys i know say they dont know why it does lol, also cause all the girls i know dont get turned on when ...
A. 28 May 2010: Simple, it is sex without a hairy ugly competing male in the picture.
Straight men tend to be more definite in their straightness then women. A lot of women would tolerate a playboy in the house. Playgirl would not find the same tolerance with the... (read in full...)
Does a man have to have a sexual release within a certain period of time or not?
Q. Is that even possible? Or does a man have to 'release' every now and then? Because it cant be ignored and its to that point? Can anyone help answer this? Or is this controllable?...
A. 28 May 2010: It is complete and utter bullshit.
And really, you never heard of the navy? How do you think they handle it?
Did the Apollo astronauts beat off with Houston monitoring everything? "Houston, we got ejaculation!"
Amazing that women st... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation.... Should I ask him to go twice?
Q. Hi this is a question about my boyfriend, every time we try to have sex he seems to come before we even get it in!! Sometimes there isn't even any foreplay hardly!! Should I ask him to come once and then go again?? He doesn't loose his erection and ...
A. 28 May 2010: I think you need to be a bit more forceful in the relationship.
He is getting what he wants, but you ain't and it doesn't seem he is making any effort at all. No foreplay, no afterplay. Doing it just once. What is the difference between you and ... (read in full...)
Should I make the first move? If he rejects me, it'll be awkward.
Q. I have a very shy boyfriend... I want him to hold my hand on the first date... He did that with quite a few of his old girlfriends... So I'm not sure if I should make the first move or not... If he rejects me, I'll create an akward atmosphere...
A. 27 May 2010: And if he doesn't reject you?
If the benefits outweigh the downsides, then take the risk. Nobody has ever died of embarrassment, but plenty have died regretting the chance they did not take.
... (read in full...)
My sister is dating someone that doesn't seem right for her. What should I do?
Q. Help! My sister is dating this guy and he doesn't seem right for her at all. What should I do? Should I tell her or shut up and pretend to be happy for her? The absolutely biggest reason that I can point out is that she really wants kids and pretty ...
A. 27 May 2010: Simple answer: Would you listen if the roles were reversed?
Just tell her plain and simple what you think about it all and leave it at that. Don't become judgemental or try to save her from herself. That rarely works.
How far you can go depen... (read in full...)
Do older men have different expectations in a relationship?
Q. I am 24, this man is 31. I've never dated someone older than 4 years and I am a little freaked out. I am used to being in control of the situation by dating guys around my age or younger. This new guy is good looking, has a job and seems like he is ...
A. 27 May 2010: Charming "puppies to lead in the woods". Now I am willing to grant that I am interested in a woman's puppies but claiming that you want your partner to be like a puppy... well that says a lot about those men doesn't it?
But this has nothing ... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: It really don't matter, if we want it bad enough, we will wait and then dump your ass the moment we got it.
What you should be looking for is not a timer but how he really is. NOT to you, he wants in your pants, but to others.
You can't kee... (read in full...)
Do older men have different expectations in a relationship?
Q. I am 24, this man is 31. I've never dated someone older than 4 years and I am a little freaked out. I am used to being in control of the situation by dating guys around my age or younger. This new guy is good looking, has a job and seems like he is ...
A. 25 May 2010: Just wondering, if you like to be in control of a relationship and you have been in such affairs, then why aren't you any more?
"After getting screwed literally and figuratively by one user after another"
How can you get screwed if you a... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?
Q. My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...
A. 23 May 2010: The reason you want to know is because you are trying to reason it out so you can find a way to excuse it so you two can get back together. So he can cheat on you again in your car.
If you want this, then you need to find out who.
If you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's practically dating this girl
Q. I'm naturally a brunette but I keep dying my hair and eyebrows red for my boyfriend of over two years. He's pretty much obsessed with red heads and it never bothered me until now. The last five months, he's been hanging out with a natural red-head...
A. 23 May 2010: You learn something every day. Never knew you could color eyebrows.
He is playing you and probably her as well.
Don't like it? Then stop being his toy.
What do you expect, that because you love him so much, he got to stop doing what he is do... (read in full...)
He went in debt and left me for a girl he met online
Q. I had a boyfriend for 7 yrs. We live separately. He lives about 5 mins away from me. We have a good relationship. He helps me and I help him. He is retired and am still working full-time. I later discovered that he gambles. At first I thought that ...
A. 23 May 2010: Are you as old as the post says you are? Then you should know by now that love should never be an excuse.
Whenever you are saying "... but I love him so much". STOP.
Love should never be an excuse. The guy is a dead beat asshole who is g... (read in full...)
How do I keep my mom from finding out I'm having a house party while she's gone?
Q. hey :) well my mum is going away this weekend and i have sort of organised a house party :D but i think i will get cought my neighbors are really strict and horrible and might end up telling my mum :S So i was wondering if you have any suggesti...
A. 23 May 2010: Simple, you do NOT post it about it on a forum anyone in the world can read.
Your mom.... (read in full...)
Did God mean for us to be together despite his current relationship?
Q. I am curious if those of faith believe that God can make a mistake in bringing two people together? I have been getting to know a man for the past 10 weeks and we are becoming very close. We are both incredibly devout Christians and are sensing that ...
A. 23 May 2010: There are millions dying of hunger and war but god is trying to get you to break up a marriage.
I think you are praying in the wrong direction.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyriend to want to hang out with other women without me??
Q. So, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years. He doesn't believe in marriage, so, we're not married but we own a house together and have always been very close; the only thing a married couple has that we lack is a ring. After all ...
A. 23 May 2010: Gosh, some guys just got it all.
I don't complain to my girlfriend that she makes me feel uncomfortable when I date other women. Because having my balls ripped off is a tad worse then uncomfortable.
Can you give me your bf's email so I can f... (read in full...)
I don't understand my body and having alot of trouble having sex
Q. I'm so upset and i feel like i'm weird or something. I'm 26, and my boyfriend is 25. We are both virgins, and want to lose our virginity together. The thing is, he goes mad at me for certain things. I feel embarrased to say this , but i dont know ...
A. 23 May 2010: The thing is, he goes mad at me for certain things.
WHOA, wait a minute. What does he get mad about? Because I think this is a major red flag. He gets upset his virgin girl friend isn't a sex expert and "just" gives him blowjobs?
That is not s... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your boyfriend never seems to want sex?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend never seems to want sex? I only see him once a week - usually determined by him. Its been 3 full weeks since we've had sex. I actually saw him 3 times in a row which is very rare and not once did he try, or r...
A. 23 May 2010: Why do you only seem him once a week and only when he wants to?
Isn't that at the core of the problem? It doesn't sound he is exactly dying to see you. Why not?... (read in full...)
Do boys prefer girls that have a tan?
Q. hello aunties and uncles. got a question that I really want answered. do boys prefer girls with a tan? I don't tan at all and I was wondering if boys do like girls who don't tan. I've tried fake tan and the colour was nice and it was a nice even ...
A. 23 May 2010: In general? Most males won't care one way or another. You might as well ask what color your nail polish should be.
And yes, the part about your skin going to look like leather is true, but think the age of 24 rather then 30. Imagine your face loo... (read in full...)
Do relationships between escorts/customers ever realistically work? Especially when the once retired escort goes back to work for financial reasons? Please give me some advice guys...
Q. I am a 30 year old woman who for most of her life has worked as an escort. I started when I was quite young and as I was a single mother, I welcomed the added finance. What I didn't realise was how quickly it would turn into a lifestyle, almost a ...
A. 23 May 2010: From your recent response, doesn't it sound like he has become suspicious of women in general? Maybe he was always like that and that is why he pays for sex, so he knows what the bill is going to be or maybe that has made him belief that all a woman ... (read in full...)
They're not fake. Really.
Q. My question involves my breasts. I was really blessed... i guess with my dads metabolism and my moms big boobs. They are 34DD and still growing. i'm 18 and 5'10" and very small waisted. People (mostly guys) think my boobs are fake... how would i get ...
A. 22 May 2010: Let them feel them.
Don't want to? Well, that is why they think they are fake, because they know they don't have a chance in hell to touch them for themselves.
People will always talk behind your back, no matter who or what you are. Either you ... (read in full...)
I lied to the man I love about the college I went to...is there anyway I can get him back?
Q. How can i get my amazing man back after lying? i am in desperate need of some help. I fell in love with the most amazing man in the world. He is 27 years old but i am only 22 years old. last spring i failed out of the university we both attended...
A. 22 May 2010: If girls that go to junior colleges are stupid and you go to junior college and he is dating you, doesn't that mean he dating a stupid girl for all this time and didn't notice it?
Seems like an elitist prick. Breaking up over this is pretty a... (read in full...)
I don't think I cheated buy my b/f is making it out like I did
Q. So let me get straight to the point. I went to a bar last night and got totally wasted and hugged on and held a guys hand that is friends with my brothers wife. Well i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 7 months and he got really mad ...
A. 22 May 2010: Your sister would not let what happen to you? Not let you drink so much you black out?
I don't think she is the guardian angel you think she is.
If something happened, surely there would be signs.
But as for smoothing things out, th... (read in full...)
Why does he keep saying all I want is sex and he has to concentrate on keeping his erection so he doesnot disappoint me.
Q. I have a friend who i have a relationship with and who i also have sex with on occasions.while i am very fond of sex he is always making a joke about it to me saying things like,all i want him for is sex,and all i want is sex. well none of this is ...
A. 22 May 2010: Considering the age involved, it could be several things.
For one, attitude. Could it be that he is still from an age where women were not really supposed to want it? Simply that he is to old-fashioned to deal with a sexually active woman?
... (read in full...)
Is cheating a genetical thing also?
Q. I have just read one article over the net: Cheating is in the genes. Somehow, I agree to this but not entirely. Coz I remember it now, the ex who cheated on me, together we used to talk about his brother before who was a player and a serial ch...
A. 22 May 2010: No, it is not genetics, it is culture.
Monkey see, monkey do.
Those men who cheated where boys who saw that this is the way you behave in relationships. So that is what they do when they grow up.
It is the reason victims of abuse often b... (read in full...)
Do relationships between escorts/customers ever realistically work? Especially when the once retired escort goes back to work for financial reasons? Please give me some advice guys...
Q. I am a 30 year old woman who for most of her life has worked as an escort. I started when I was quite young and as I was a single mother, I welcomed the added finance. What I didn't realise was how quickly it would turn into a lifestyle, almost a ...
A. 22 May 2010: Hard to say, relationships that work out after all rarely get publicity. You wouldn't get an pair like you two going on Oprah if they didn't have troubles, why would they?
But if you read your story, you can see plenty of reasons why a relation... (read in full...)
He couldn't stay hard and now he won't see me!
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I are together nearly a month. We tried couple of times to have sex, but it all end up before we even took our cloths off because his erection was gone. The last time we tried, he told me that we shouldn't see or talk to each ...
A. 16 May 2010: Erections come and go. Did you two try to get it back? Why give up so easily.
And what is his issue. Impotency happens for a lot of reasons, it could be anything but this includes the guy having far to many issues to deal with.
Being gay.
N... (read in full...)
Molested by Mum's boyfriend Continued
Q. i dont know if i was molested or if im just over reacting.. my moms boyfriend is generally too close to me. he continously touches my bum and brushes past my breasts-but i know he does it on purpose. he will like rub all along my thigh with on hand ...
A. 16 May 2010: I don't know if it counts as molestation in legal terms. But it certainly is underdesired sexual attention even if he has not touched your private areas. Yet. And that is (at least in the west) illegal. Especially since you are a child and the re... (read in full...)
Is it common for a man to lose his sex drive after childbirth?
Q. Recently, I seem to have read a lot of problems, on this website and in magazines etc, about men losing interest in sex completely after they've had kids. I really want to have kids in the future with my boyfriend and I know he wants them too. ...
A. 16 May 2010: If you ever worked in a butchery, you might not feel the need to eat meat. Not after you have seen how it is made. Same thing with child birth. There is a reason why for centuries men were kept out of the loop. Now I am not squemish, I coul... (read in full...)
I'm 22, still a virgin, never had a boyfriend yet. Is that a turnoff for guys?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a 22 year old girl. For some reason, I'm a virgin and I haven't even had a boyfriend yet. I'm not ugly; I do commercial modeling (not the big stuff though), and I do get hit on. My problem is that guys usually go too fast for me....
A. 16 May 2010: yes it is. So go down to your local dogging spot and do every passer by. That should turn the guys on. Wouldn't that make you happy? No? Why not? Because that is not the kinda person you are. Ah! You are who you are. A girl who wants to take it... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that he asked about open relationships?
Q. My boyfriend just recently approached me about open relationships.. asking what i thought of them and if i would ever be in one. This kind of bothers me seeing as i feel we are growing apart. i told him i didn't like the idea and thought they were ...
A. 16 May 2010: You are how old? Open relationships are for people who are tired of each other but have gotten to used to living together.
At your age two people really should have eyes only for each other.
No, you shouldn't be concerned. You should be dumpin... (read in full...)
Are there really guys who would stop watching porn if it really was a problem for me?
Q. I was wondering. It seems the general consensus on this website is that women who have problems with porn are insecure and that all men watch it and it's not fair to them to ask them to stop. However, I was wondering if it's fair in my case to ask. ...
A. 16 May 2010: No.
There are guys who don't use porn if they got the real thing, but then they are not giving it up for you, but they just don't have a use for it.
There are others who simply don't use it at all.
But a guy who does "need" it, will con... (read in full...)
I'm 35 with no money, no job, living with parents and a broken relationship. How do I get out of this?
Q. I'd really appreciate some advice please. After being made redundant a year ago and only managing to secure a few temporary contract jobs since, my life has seemed to have taken a downward spiral, as have my finances and relationship. I'm 35, w...
A. 16 May 2010: Buy a vibrator and a cat to replace the boyfriend and the need for a new man. Why? Because you seem to be heavily dependent on men. You still go the BF who you have evidence of cheating on you, who isn't supportive and emotionally abusive, but you... (read in full...)
He abuses me but other times treats me like a queen. Can this relationship be saved?
Q. I feel like I need to get out but my love is preventing me from doing so. I've been with him for I think about mmm 2 years and a couple of months. During that time he has been in jail for 8 months and no it wasn't all his fault. But that's another ...
A. 16 May 2010: No. "During that time he has been in jail for 8 months and no it wasn't all his fault." Denial, the rent must be cheap there because everyone want to live there. "Just recently me and him got into another fight he brings me down horribly an... (read in full...)
I told my sister I would have a baby for her but my fiance wants not part of it!
Q. Hi everyone my sister is 31 and unable to have children without ivf Soon she will be trying with ivf but the doctors say there is a very small chance of it working as she has lots of problems in her reproductive area. We have known this for many...
A. 16 May 2010: I presume you have read up on all the complexities of being a surrogate. Pregnancy ain't easy, especially the first time. Also most mothers to be claim they bond with the unborn child. But it won't be yours and you will be expected to give it up ... (read in full...)
Did we both cheat and do two wrongs make a right?
Q. I have been married for almost 7 years, About 5 years ago I caught him on a porn site doing his business in front of the computer and it really made me mad. He never takes blame for aanything. He told me since the sex was not often enough he got i...
A. 15 May 2010: Porn is the same as sleeping with someone? Either your sex life is really bad or you got some seriously good porn.
... (read in full...)
Should I stay? He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got together.
Q. Ok, I might bullet this to make it clearer I am 23, Female, been with my boyfriend for two and a half years We live and work together in a pub and I am currently finishing my degree He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got to...
A. 14 May 2010: One break-up every month? If you had a car that reliable, how long before it would end up on the scrapheap?
This isn't a relationship, it is a yo-yo.
But of course, it is also safe. Lots of drama but it is all on him. With him, you don't need t... (read in full...)
When I turned down his marriage proposal he went and married his ex instead!
Q. i was living with a man he ask me to marry him and i wouldn't because i was mad at him that day. so he went and married his ex. he was gone living with her for 2 weeks before he moved back home. we have been living together now for 2 years sence ...
A. 14 May 2010: What makes you think it is a good idea to be with someone who goes of and marries someone else when involved with you?
And who turns down a marriage proposal just because you are bit mad at him one day?
Seems to me both of you behave extremely... (read in full...)
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