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*bbieloulous
writes:I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he doesn't have a pass lock which was fair enough. I then was browsing threw his phone one day because I was bored I've always trusted him and I wasn't browsing to see if he has spoken to other girls. I then find three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone, and confronted him about it. He said its cause he didn't have any pictures of me and made the excuse that he found how to pass lock his phone but when I was browsing threw he didn't have a pass lock then... I have never been in this situation before ever i feel broken about it and don't know what to do?
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (29 January 2013):
 Oh come on!! What do you think? The man's up to mischief.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): His excuses dont add up so it seems like he is being dishonest. So its understandable that your upset and dont trust him. So you could try
telling him that you know that he is lying and tell him that you want the truth. And if you still dont get the answers that you deserve then you need to decide if you want to stay in a relationship with someone that you dont trust.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 +, writes (29 January 2013):
1. If you do give pictures don't include your face on them.
2. As someone said check the date, if it was before he was with you it is not a problem.
3. The main thing is why would a man leave a phone knowing he has porn (professional or otherwise) on it lying around without a pass code, where his girlfriend can easily see it? He didn't need to say he's found out how to lock his phone, he could of just said I don't want people to see a picture of you on there, so I needed an unknown random.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 January 2013):
 So... what is upsetting you more. The other girl (talking about porn or pictures he made himself (and when did he make them)) OR that he is treating you as a fool?
Oh and in the news:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/revenge-porn-womens-private-photos-posted-online-exes-18312427
Don't make naked pictures unless you want the whole world to see.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): He's obviously been sexting a girl. Exchanging pictures and conversation. The pictures automatically get saved to the phone which he probably didn't realise. The conversation is probably long gone. Look at the dates and if it's since you've been together he's crossed the line. Sexting is a bit of a phenomenon at the moment thanks to smart phones and social networking. Especially your age group.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 +, writes (29 January 2013):
I think it's strange too, if it is a real person it is worrying, if it is profesional porn at least he has not contacted them. It would annoy me if he turned down pictures of me. It has got on my nerves in the past when they prefer a picture of some woman off the internet than me.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 January 2013):
 Once a pic is in the phone(Facebooked or IM'd) It's all around the world don't let pics of yourself get onto a phone or other media than can be sexted over the ethernet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): Hmmmm...you offered pictures of yourself for him and he refused and then you find naked pictures of another woman on his phones and then says that was because he didn't have any of you and this was after you offered in the first place. Sounds fishy to me.Like the other poster, Kenny (29 January 2013) said, you need to find out if this is real life girl he knows or if it is a porn download. I'd take a look at the downloaded photos again and see if you can't find an internet porn site address or if the pictures came from another source.The red flag is up, but until you have some concrete proof I would go quiet for now...but do your detective work silently and I caution, "very carefully" until you are able to determine who is on those photos.He has already risked the trust factor in your relationship and made up a story and lied to you. I'd always be left wondering what else he is up to and I hate to have to live like that in a relationship always questioning their every move.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (29 January 2013):
 i think the question is were these pictures of someone he know's or someone he downloaded from the internet?. If its the first there is cause for concern and he has gone over the trust barrier. Trust is one of the most important ingredients that hold a relationship together, one trust has been broken its very hard to go back to the way things were. If i was in this situation i would want to know who the person on his phone is and how did he aquire them.
Good luck
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