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female
age
30-35,
*nlyhis
writes:hi all.... i am trapped and feeling helpless every where..OK the story starts ..i met a guy when i was in my school..he was a newcomer and i was trapped in love at first site ..wow he is super stunning just like a prince i was in love with him madly and badly..the day came i purposed him and he said OK he love and like me 2,,i was sooo happy :-) wow my prince is with me but soon after i realized that he is with other gal too i was shatteredbut i did'nt dumped him because i was sure that mine love will change him and it happened he dumped that gal because he want me..soon after sweet love story become a stage of fights we fought often,,he said he is falling more and more for me but whenever we had quarrels he abuse me use wrong words..and even though he was wrong but he never make first contact always i used to call . even in normal time he was always busy with his friends.. after 3 4 months i was totally disturbed so i hang out with a guy on fb but i never met him and i did n't crossed my limits after a month he came to know about that guy i lied to him that it was not mine account but after a day i confessed my mistake..he cried allot that time and even tried to suicide but did n't did that..he keep on crying whole days he says i broke his trust ,he trusted me blindly..but i loved him even if i was with other guy i never thought anything else than him ..i promised him that i will not do it again in life and never lie to him ..he said OK i am with you because even i can not live without u ,,but every third day he says he want breakup and in evening every thing goes normal ..i am just feed up with this fake happiness for a moment ..i just keep on crying why i did that why????? i am afraid one day he will leave me and i will loss him but i just can nt imagine my life without him ..i am totally devoted ...friend ,i need help plz help me how to avoid this daily drama ..how to gain his trust back because i am doing every thing with his permission now..but how to tackle this because i have been facing all this from 2.5months thanks all friend in advance
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 STOP. Right now. Just stop. You are doing everything with his permission now? What the hell does that mean you're doing everything with his permission? Do you haVe to ask him to use the restroom?
Ridiculous and ludacris. You talked to another guy on facebook, who you have never met (never talked sexually to?) and you never crossed the line with this guy. What is the big freakin deal? Does he shun all conversations with every female besides you?
Do you want a relationship where you constantly are walking on eggshells and second guessing yourself because he might yell at you, cry like a two year old and tell you he is going to kill himself because you didn't ask him to leave his sight? No. No. No.
It sounds like you might have some codependency issues if you are so devoted to this guy. Love is blind and you need a seeing eye dog. Get rid of him. Now. Before you get further invested in this relationship.
You can't change people. Only they can change themselves and he isn't going to change. You will be dealing with this drama as long as you are in a relationship with this guy. The fact that he was dating you and someone else would have been a deal breaker for me.
Get out. Get out now while you still can.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 January 2011):
 OH MY GOD!!! YOU TALKED TO SOMEONE ELSE!!! IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD!!!!!!!
Seriously?
You want to end the drama, ditch the drama queen. He neglects you, and when you talk to a friend he freaks out and gets suicidal? He needs serious mental help.
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