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writes:Hi everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost a year. Started going together last April, but I moved away in August. We decided to keep things long distance. Hard. Anyway, back in December his friend that is a girl asks him to kiss her on a day when my boyfriend and I were having really bad issues.. He kisses her, she kissed back. He apologized and told me Himself, but I now am having issues when he and her hang out. My mom tells me this is normal since my boyfriend and his female friend have had relations that go beyond friendship. Everytime they hang out. Even for half an hour I get very tense.. Jealous.. Defensive.. And angry toasted my boyfriend and this girl. I hate feeling this way. I don't mind that he has a female friend really I don't.. It's just this one. How can I stop being so jealous?? How am I able to trust them when they are together?? I hate getting angry and I hate making him upset... Please help :(
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 They haven't given you any reason to trust them when they are alone together especially since she got him to kiss her while you two were dating but fighting. So what is to stop her from swooping in and "saving the day" when you and your bf have another fight?
I think it's reasonable that you feel the way you do, I would feel the same way. Would your bf be okay with you hanging out with a guy friend that kissed you when you two were fighting? Why did they kiss? What did he say when he told you they kissed? Has the girl apologized to you?
I would be very upset and mad that they are still hanging out, alone together after what they did. Its disrespectful even though he told you about it he just expects you to be okay that she kissed him and they are still hanging out.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 It sounds like this girl is trying to make to make you feel the way you do and its working. Ignore her and concentrate on a relationship with your boyfriend but tell him that that incident did hurt you.
Some girls get a kick out of feeling all guys like them and can not resist them. (They tend to be the kind that boys call slags!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Seriously, if he did that he's really not worth it. I'd find a guy in the area you are in and enjoy my time. Make a lot of guy friends first and if this relationship fails you can always have other options. But truth be told I've gone through the same experience and it's really not worth it to be in this type of relationship. If he really cares about you he would not have done something like that and on the contrary he'd try to make you feel very secure. Trust me you're better off without him.
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reader, yazanco  +, writes (16 March 2011):
The reason behind jealousy is most of the times the absence of trust.
I don't know, but i think that you don't trust your BF that much. But for me a kiss in front of you is impolite except if it is on the cheek, well, you don't have to mind if it is the cheek only.
Plus, if she asks him to be kissed, it means he is not giving it to her willingly, she asked he was forced to out of courtesy, i.e., there is nothing between them, except old memories.
This is my analysis and opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): it is normal to be jealous of some one let alone ur boy hanging out with his girl friend..but what u can do is be positive about their f/ship. and think this way she can help ur boy friend to love u threat u and care about u more i have so many best boy friends and we always discus about their love life and my love life....so be positive of them
i think it helps
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