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writes:How do I play players back who have hurt so many girls? What is their game and mindset? I want to think like them so hopefully I can hurt them when they get their guard down. Any tips or suggestions?
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (17 March 2011):
"Players" are not players nor are they bad people. Girls biologically want sex more than guys, which is why they are initially attracted to "players" or men they think will give them a good time. However, once they have pleasure, they move on to their second biological goal, reproduction, and a guy who is just used for sex is normally not good emotionally, which usually leads to the split up and hatred of said "player". But when it comes down to it, its the girls fault for selecting a guy and sleeping with him. If you dont want to be emotionally hurt, DONT DATE SOMEONE JUST FOR SEX. Its just that simple
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Just laugh at the player and make him feel small.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (17 March 2011):
Choosing to go out of your way to become hurtful to others is not a great way to spend your time on this planet. Life is short, and it would be wiser to choose more loving actions, and to make choices that will make you happy in your life. This isn't really one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): I wouldnt waste your time on them. Players arent nice people for many reasons. Most arent happy with themselves and have poor relationship skills. Alot were educated into their ways by early childhood experiences where they saw little respect, trust or value placed in women. They are generally a mass of issues and problems!
I would save your time and not try to think like them. Instead just avoid them like the plague. If enough women did that and stopped being drawn to their 'bad boy' image, that would be punishment enough.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (16 March 2011):
 I think it depends on the type of player you're dealing with and his individual game set at the time, I did the same thing when I was played
I'm not really sure on all the details though as to what type of player you are dealing with
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): All you can do is learn to spot the players and not give them the time of day. You can't hurt them and they don't really have their guard down ever b/c they have too many girls at their disposal so when one drops off she is quickly replaced with another. Be cautious when you meet a guy and he is heavily reliant on text messaging b/c he is probably messaging many people and the ones who always respond the quickest are the ones he knows he can screw with. Don't be so available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): You can't play a player. Don't even try.
You see the essence of the game is getting as many women as possible to have sex with you, to make them fall for you so you can bed them on a regular basis too.
You see playing comes naturally to some people because they don't care about the feelings of others.
How do you expect to play a player? By sleeping with him to make him fall in love with you? That's just giving him exactly what he wants and he won't fall for you.
By not sleeping with him? He won't care because he'll already have another girl or girls that he's sleeping with anyway, he'll just move on.
The only person who will get played is you because while you're there trying to play him, he's there not caring.
What is their mindset? Sex, gimme sex and make it easy for me.
Good luck figuring out how to play male players, good luck trying to hurt someone who doesn't actually give a crap. You see players don't get played, the only guys who you can play are guys that actually care about you and that makes you just as bad.
If you really want to hurt players then you'll do what the ladies before me suggested, you will stay away from them, you won't just become another pawn in their game.
Warn your friends about them too, the only thing that actually hurts a player is when girls won't even talk to him. If a player goes out and no girl will even let him to talk to her then that hurts his confidence a bit and no, flirting, teasing all of that kind of thing doesn't work because they don't mind rejection. But but being denied the chance to even talk to a girl will hurt them.
The only problem is most girls will get with a player even though they know he is, they ignore all the warning signs thinking they can either use him instead or that people are wrong about him because he "seems so nice" or they just hope they'll be the one who changes him.
The best thing you can do is just stay away from players and don't even talk to them. Don't worry about other girls, it's their own problem if they get played, there's no need to go on a crusade.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Ive had a player, and it hurts like hell to be played. I wouldnt even go there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Be careful when you fight the monsters, lest you become one.
Friedrich Nietzsche
German philosopher (1844 - 1900)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Why would you want to deliberatively hurt someone? Only bad people do that. Listen, if you happen to find someone you think is a player, and you hurt him, and he appeared to not be a player after all, just some innocent guy who never hurt anyone.. what then?
What gives you the right to revenge other girls who might have gotten hurt? What gives you the right to judge who deserves your wrath and punishment?
It is payback enough that you learn not to be used by others and take care of yourself. So in the case that a player does come along you will not bite.
Don't play around with emotions, be that of the emotions of a player or not. It's not a good thing to do in either case, and you are not on a moral high horse to judge anyone and punish them. If a man hurt you and you seek revenge on him, be that it, although also not a good act. But to try and seek revenge on all "players" is wrong. First off because there is no such thing as a general player. They are all just people. Maybe a few times they made some mistakes, maybe they didn't respect people, or maybe they hurt someone without meaning too. Whatever reason there is, they are people just like you and me, and not a stereotype easily found and that deserves any punishment.
If you were to be a player to hurt people, then would that really make the world a better place? Would hurting someone really make you feel better? Or would learning how to not be used and then find a decent boyfriend make you feel better?
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