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writes:well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and he never calls me! unless i tell him to since we started going out he only called twice and thats because i told him to. and at school we barely ever talk or see eachother because were in different grades. i want him to call because it makes me think that hes not thinking about me but i dont want to keep telling him to call or tell him it bothers mehelp? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): For pity's sake, COOL IT, young lady!You have known him FOUR DAYS and already you're calling him "my boyfriend." Wait until you've known him a few months and see how well you get on together before you start thinking in terms of boyfriend/girlfriend.You say he doesn't text or call you in class? Well, let me tell you, its perfectly appropriate for him NOT to be sending texts to you in class - or to anyone else. You're in classes to STUDY - that's the whole point of school, you know? To LEARN and to get ready to complete your education so you can get a good job when you graduate.Now: I know that at your age its very normal and natural to want to have a boyfriend, and to have crushes. Its sort of practice for when you are older and can begin dating for real. Right now, just don't take it all so seriously.If he wants to be friendly with you, then he will talk to you and want to spend some time with you. If he does not want to, then one of the hard lessons - but an important one to learn - is that you can not MAKE someone want to be your friend, if they don't wish it........
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reader, mrkhmcookie +, writes (8 April 2009):
i agree, you need to relax, four days no big deal! chill out, hyou guys are young and relationships shouldn't be at the top of your list, he is a boy and boys will be boys, they tend to not be all that into the whole obsessive thing right away. If you guys just started dating than he's not going to be calling you every day, thats completely unecessary, as for talking in school, he should talk to you when he sees you, but you've been dating for four days, no offense but you sound a bit obsessive if you want him to be by your side every minute this early in the relationship,
best advice, dont fret about it, give him some time to get attached, you shouldn't talk to him about this just yet, he'll feel drowned, let him get to know you, eventually it'll happen, he'll do all of this on his own. Now if this goes on for like 2 months, then maybe you should worry, until then calm down, if he likes you he'll call...it just might take a bit.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 All boys are immature! And they are very immature in high school. Why don't you just focus on school right now, instead of boys! And I know you think that this is an enormous problem right now (trust me, I thought my problems to do with boys were huge at your age) but you will soon realise that school work and friends are more important than a boy who doesn't seem interested in you at all! X
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (7 April 2009):
You need to relax! You said it's been 4 days? He's probably just nervous and you just started dating so just relax! Once you guys get to know each other more and start getting more comfortable around each other, then things will change. My boyfriend was the same way when we first started dating and yes, I freaked out just like you are right now but he ended up starting to call more and talk to me a lot more after we got more comfortable with each other! So just relax.
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