Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 29 October 2011: This is silly. Men will be more turned off by scars on your nipples. If you really want to enjoy some unnecessary surgery why not get your nose or ears adjusted or something that will be seen and make you feel more outwardly confident. Better still ... (read in full...)
Unexplained blood after having sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship, I say long - we live like forty minutes away on a train, but to be fair it's long enough that we only get to see each other once/twice every week at some point because of money and juggling work ...
A. 28 October 2011: My wife often does this up to a week after her period has stopped, and nearly always the first time after her period. If it continues to happen regularly go to a doctor. You can try the lube ideas first, but I cant imagine that is the problem, you ... (read in full...)
First time sex...what can I do so that it wont hurt?
Q. I'm a vigin and me and my partner want to have sex I'm scared that it might hurt from other girls I've heard it hurts I need to know what I can do so it won't hurt . ...
A. 28 October 2011: It doesnt have to hurt, just go nice and slow. Dont try to be a porn star. I remember my girlfriend and my first time together, it was very short, but no pain. The blood in my bed was a shock though!... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 28 October 2011: Well, you could just keep your bra on and avoid the surgery. Honestly, unless there is some reason your nipples wont work properly for feeding your future babies I wouldnt do this simply because of a few jokes youve heard. I think the media is ... (read in full...)
Will there ever be a 'right' time to be a mom?
Q. Okay so I have a question about life regrets. I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me? It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby. I have done a good bit of the first! You see, havi...
A. 28 October 2011: Sounds like this is your right time, so just tell him "I want to have your baby". If you get into a heated shall we/shallnt we debate then it might not be the right time. ... (read in full...)
Will there ever be a 'right' time to be a mom?
Q. Okay so I have a question about life regrets. I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me? It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby. I have done a good bit of the first! You see, havi...
A. 28 October 2011: Sounds like this is your right time, so just tell him "I want to have your baby". If you get into a heated shall we/shallnt we debate then it might not be the right time. ... (read in full...)
I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship.
Q. Hello everyone, I am not sure why, but I seem to have trouble finding a meaningful relationship. Physically, I am considered to be a very sultry girl (coming from many male friends). I am very intelligent (doing a master's degree at a to...
A. 28 October 2011: Well you are definitely not alone in this question. You sound great, stop trying to overanalyse yourself. Blind dates and dinners on a first date are not the way your going to meet mr right. In fact, stop looking and trying so hard. Do plenty of ... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: I definitely join the no, no advice. Tell the ex to take a hike and forget your past and carry on with your life. Your risk too much and almost certainly wont get the peace of mind you think you will get from fessing up.... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. Dear readers, I would like to hear your advice on my situation. To put it bluntly, I'm a 24 year old virgin male. I could try to look good and say that I've been waiting for that special someone, or I'd be honest and tell you that I've never had t...
A. 27 October 2011: Sounds like a bad idea, and may spoil your future relationships. Plus all the other good reasons not too that have already been mentioned.... (read in full...)
Is it time to ask him if he likes me or not?
Q. Hello Cupid! I've been good friends with this guy for several months, and we talk/hangout pretty often. We have a lot in common (not to mention that we are from the same state), but deep down I have a crush on him. Even though we have this connec...
A. 27 October 2011: Oh come on, this is 2011. Ask him to go to a movie or something, or bowling, etc. Don´t ask him if he likes you, he´s not going to say no! In fact he may worry that hes offended you somehow. If he feels like he could be the right guy for you then ... (read in full...)
Should I tell people I'm a virgin when I meet them?
Q. I'm 26 and still a virgin. I've not had many boyfriends, i'm quite shy and don't go out much - prefer saving money for holidays and concerts. Whenever i meet someone should I tell them i'm a virgin or not? Thanks...
A. 27 October 2011: No, but ask him if he is, and in a very shy way! His reaction will probably tell you very quickly if he is a person that is sensitive to you and someone you can trust your feelings with.
And as a PS, although hard to believe, most of the happ... (read in full...)
What is the longest you have gone without sex whilst in a relationship?
Q. What is the longest period that someone has gone without sex, While in a relationship. Without a medical reason ...
A. 27 October 2011: Everyone is different, our average is a day or two, except when apart due to work for up to 2 weeks, but then its fun getting the average down again!... (read in full...)
Husband cannot have sex and its very difficult for me living like this!
Q. What would you do, if your husband would never want sex with you for years, and you don't know why. My husband stopped looking at me, and touching me. He also wont get an erection, when we tried sex, what was not for a long time. Doctor says he...
A. 27 October 2011: Did you get to this situation slowly over the years or has something changed more suddenly? If its been sudden, and you are sure he´s not seeing another woman, then the cause of his impotence is probably a major factor. Is there stress from work or ... (read in full...)
I want to take my new girlfriend to the strip club and watch her touching other girls
Q. I want to take my new girlfriend to a strip club, but am not sure what her reaction will be. For you girls, if you have been dating a guy for a month or so and he askes you if you want to accompany him to a strip club, what would be your re...
A. 26 October 2011: This is wierd. Do you fancy touching men?... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I shaved off my pubic hair?
Q. Ok, so about a week ago, I was shaving my bikini line, but I angled the razor wrong, and shaved off a patch of pubic hair that made my area, which is usually neat, trimmed, and proper looking, look stupid, so in an effort to try and fix it, I ended ...
A. 26 October 2011: I think he will notice, just slightly! !! I also think he might just like it and you can tell him you did it as a surprise for him. I really can't imagine him not liking it, as it grows back you can experiment with different haircuts! I personly ... (read in full...)
Is she being honest about my performance in the bedroom?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months, i have a really small and thin penis and don't think i pleasure her when we have sex. she has told me she has had some huge penises before and her last boyfriend was the biggest she has ever had but tells ...
A. 25 October 2011: It would be nice if women didn't tell you about the size of other guys members. For all the crap that men get blamed for nothing compares to this.
The reality is woman dont have a lot of feeling in their vaginas. I only discovered this after I boug... (read in full...)
Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?
Q. I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...
A. 25 October 2011: Its hard to draw a line with exes, especially with children. But there is a line defined by reasonableness and consideration for ones partner. I think it is quite normal for some contact with the expartner. It doesn't sound like you have a trust ... (read in full...)
I am buying new home and the mortgage lender advised that my name does NOT go on the mortgage!!! Why?!?
Q. Mortgage lender told my hubby to NOT put my name on the title of the home, just put it in his will. That does not sound right, is this normal advice? So once again, we are having relationship problems when I thought we had worked it all out. Wh...
A. 25 October 2011: There may be a tax advantage if you have your name on the deed and your husband dies. If you are getting a big mortgage then it doesn't make much difference. If something happens to your husband then the lawyers bills would probably consume any ... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him, he gets a hard on!
Q. Hello! I am just beginning to date a new man (5 dates, its still early days and not yet 'official' in terms of being classed as bf/gf). He is a total sweetie, and a real gentleman, I really couldnt wish for a nicer man. I really do like him,...
A. 23 October 2011: Well, I think you can take it as a sure sign that he likes you. This happens, and it can be made difficult to avoid if hes got tight trousers, needs to pee, or hasn't exercised his friend recently. I wouldn't read anything negative into it. I ... (read in full...)
How does a female know what's a good odor or bad?
Q. My sisters say their vagina's has a certain odor. One says hers smell like chlorine. The other says it smells like a rubber condom. Is that normal? They both haven't been sexually active for over a year. And their last pap smear was fine. Now they ...
A. 23 October 2011: How do you know? Maybe ask a man. Ive never found a bad one, but clean is nice, dont overdo the soap though, it has its own chemistry a bit like in your mouth. I expect a lot of the special soaps etc are just marketing. A nice shower with plenty of ... (read in full...)
He said if I ever fell pregnant he would leave me if I didn't get an abortion.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, we plan to have a future together, have even spoken about marriage and kids, but kids would be at least 10 years away. (I know sometimes relatioships don't work out, but we do have a good ...
A. 23 October 2011: Well, as you have said you are both young with lots to learn. At a biological level the reason we want sex is so we get pregnant and the species continues. Today, if you are sensible an unwanted pregnancy is completely avoidable. However you both ... (read in full...)
He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him
Q. He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished ...
A. 23 October 2011: I think you meant "the things you did" in your last sentence? Remember, it is history, and the more you do together the further into the past it will go. It sounds like you are both very close and sensitive people. You can be pretty certain that the ... (read in full...)
Sex with my younger boyfriend sucks. How much time should I give him to improve?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost a year. He is a very lovely and caring guy. He is also tall, handsome, dark hair, and muscular (ok he's really my type). He just moved from Poland to US when we first met. Since I came fro...
A. 22 October 2011: Wow, at 3 times a week its going to take you 5 years. I remeber 4 to 6 times a day with my first gf and probably closer to a year before it was really making love. Sounds like you intimidate him, we all have to learn somehow, if you can't be the ... (read in full...)
He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him
Q. He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished ...
A. 19 October 2011: I'd like to remind you of something important that Yos wrote earlier, that you need to come to terms yourself with what you did, forgive yourself for doing something you regret. You can't expect your bf to get calm and collected whilst you reflect ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to give me oral sex but I feel insecure about it
Q. Hi :) So just wanted to talk about a problem im having and hope you guys can offer some reassurance.. Iv been dating a guy for about 3 months now and its all going great. we've been sleeping together for about a month now and really care about ...
A. 18 October 2011: Remarkably no one has mentioned my favorite number, 69. Both giving and getting at the same time, doesn´t get much better than that! In the good old days this happened before you ever had sex, but now oral sex seems to be something that couples ... (read in full...)
He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him
Q. He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished ...
A. 18 October 2011: Well as you say, he's going to want to dig and you have a problem. You can plain refuse to talk, you can lie, (but he will probably realise), you can say it hurts too much and cry,but all of these will fuel his fear and imagination that something ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore
Q. Are these signs he doesn't love me... maybe hates me, actually... or is abusive perhaps? He lets his friends make sexually explicit jokes about me in front of other people, not defending me. When I say it hurts my feelings he says that's beca...
A. 18 October 2011: Thanks for the extra info. I do recognise many of the characteristics of the impact of family life on a relationship. It sounds like both of you are currently going round the dark side of the moon with your relationship. I am sure your husband ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore
Q. Are these signs he doesn't love me... maybe hates me, actually... or is abusive perhaps? He lets his friends make sexually explicit jokes about me in front of other people, not defending me. When I say it hurts my feelings he says that's beca...
A. 17 October 2011: You love him but he treats you like s**t. Was he always like this? If not, and he was once loving and caring then what happened? Well, you have a child that takes probably most of your time and attention. Men can show their jealousy just like a ... (read in full...)
He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him
Q. He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished ...
A. 17 October 2011: Dear AriSa, please stop beating youself up, it really doesnt help. Read again the words of Yos, then accept what you did and why you did it. So you gave sex to strangers for money? well guess what, my wife, like many woman, did it for a beer or two ... (read in full...)
We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much p...
A. 16 October 2011: Let me add from a mans pespctive that it is totally normal for the penis to lose interest if the owner is distracted. It may look and behave a bit like a robot but it is controlled by the brain and it really doesn't help having to listen out for ... (read in full...)
Are men okay with a bra on during sex?
Q. If a girl has messed up breasts and would prefer to keep her bra on during sex and not let you see them would you be okay with that?...
A. 13 October 2011: I don't like them any time, but especially in bed. A loose teeshirt or a skimpy top will help your confiddence issue, but really, its the intimacy of being close and naked that turns me on, not the appearence, and yes low light if you want. I ... (read in full...)
What's it like to have a girlfriend?
Q. Whats it like to have a girlfriend? I never had one and I'm very curious about love and sex. I heard relationships can be stressful and can be a pain in the neck sometimes. I really want to have a girlfriend, I guess I haven't met the right girl ...
A. 13 October 2011: Yeah, I was going to say let us know when you find out but looks like its already been said. Love is one of those things you rarely find when you look for it, and them wham, something hits you like a freight train. Nothing is like the first time, ... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: If you need someone else to tell you how much you could regret this idea then here I am. Don't allow to get used like this. I know a bit of attention feels great but get it from someone who cares about you. This guy is only thinking about himself ... (read in full...)
No condom for anal sex? Is it safe?
Q. My boyfriend is my second boyfriend.. I am still virgin... and he is too. At this time, He wish something for his birthday. He wants anal sex :| at first I really do not agree about it but I love him I want to make him happy. I am a little bit ...
A. 13 October 2011: If this is what your bf has asked for I would seriously question his sincerity and intentions. This doesnt add up in my book, no virgin guy I ever new was thinking about doing this. And if he is not the virgin he claims to be you would have serious ... (read in full...)
How to keep independence once you have had a child?
Q. Hi. I have just found out I am pregnant. My bf and I have been together for 2 years and we have just bought a house together so the timing is good. I’m 38 and he is 37 and it’s our first child. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship and ...
A. 12 October 2011: Firstly congrats on getting it together and expecting a baby. Nothing matches the combined excitement and terror that having a baby and being a parent brings. Remarkably we all seem to make it through and even go back and do it again. I don't know ... (read in full...)
Neither my cousin or I are getting our sexual needs met by our partners and are thinking of meeting up once in a while to 'satisfy' each other, any opinions?
Q. Ok, I am a 28 year old married male that has a 29 year old married female cousin. I have been married for 5 years and she has been married for 1. We are first cousins and have always been very close growing up. She only has sisters and I only ...
A. 12 October 2011: Well, I think its true that cousins can share a special bond, indeed a good school friend very enjoyably lost his virginity to his elder cousin. But, Op, where do you think this will end? I don't moralize here, but others will, especially your ... (read in full...)
Neither my cousin or I are getting our sexual needs met by our partners and are thinking of meeting up once in a while to 'satisfy' each other, any opinions?
Q. Ok, I am a 28 year old married male that has a 29 year old married female cousin. I have been married for 5 years and she has been married for 1. We are first cousins and have always been very close growing up. She only has sisters and I only ...
A. 12 October 2011: Well, I think its true that cousins can share a special bond, indeed a good school friend very enjoyably lost his virginity to his elder cousin. But, Op, where do you think this will end? I don't moralize here, but others will, especially your ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's been with 25 people! I'm freaked out!
Q. I,m still a virgin and yet a guy i,ve been seeing has literally done it all and he's only 22! I asked him how many women had he slept with thinking it would only be 3 or 4 he told me its about 25 people including 3 ways and 4 ways and a ...
A. 8 October 2011: What should you do? See if he will wait a year to have sex with you, I expect within a few weeks he would be with someone else.... (read in full...)
Am I the world to my fiance, or does his heart still belong to his ex? He lies to me.
Q. I've been engaged to this guy for 6 years we share everything together he never leaves my side and works really hard for us to have everything but we have a problem and I guess its me but idont know how to let go..when I first met him he lied to me ...
A. 8 October 2011: There are nasty lies and there are white lies, and sounds like you are worrying about something you shouldn't. He could have been more careful to erase what might upset you, but if you feel happy in all other ways then this is trivial. I certainly ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my inner lips ever since one guy said they looked weird!
Q. hi, so this is more of a body issue question.. I am 21 years old and I'm a virgin. I have had oral sex once a couple years back but it has really made me isecure. I have larger inner lips 'down there' (labia minora) and the guy I had oral s...
A. 8 October 2011: Oh good grief, most men love big lips! I guess if you're talking more than 5cm then you do have a special set, but nothing that would put a guy off. But for some advice, tell your boyfriend that you really want to have sex with him but you are ... (read in full...)
How to stop being jealous of husband's female friend?
Q. This is a short question: How do I get passed being angry and jealous of my husband having a picture of his female friend in her underware? How do I forgive him when he assures me she didn't give him the picture, and it was supposed to be f...
A. 8 October 2011: Maybe you were surprised by this, a bit insecure, and really over-reacting. Sounds like you and most other women have no idea about the kind of crap men collect on their computers. Give him a picture of youself in some sexy underware with the ... (read in full...)
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