Is it normal for an attached man to pay for lapdances?
Q. Hi- I'm interested in guys' opinion on this one. Do ou think it's normal for a guy who has a gf to still go to strip clubs on the weekend with his guy friends and to pay for lap dances? I could understand the bachelor party thing and for single guys ...
A. 21 March 2012: Just as a point of order I would like to comment that as far as I have witnessed there is absolutely no physical touching but the girls are completely naked. Is it good or bad? After a few beers certainly ok! As I said earlier, all the girls I have ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to delubricate? I get wet easily.
Q. my bf and i. had a fool around kiss and touching. im scared that he finds out i get wet easily. if he kiss me i get wet easily. how will is stop getting orgasm and wet easily?? please i need some help!! and a dicharge after i get orgasm...
A. 20 March 2012: You getting wet is the most wonderful sign that you are turned on and want your man. Dont worry about it!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an attached man to pay for lapdances?
Q. Hi- I'm interested in guys' opinion on this one. Do ou think it's normal for a guy who has a gf to still go to strip clubs on the weekend with his guy friends and to pay for lap dances? I could understand the bachelor party thing and for single guys ...
A. 20 March 2012: Most men, me included, wouldn"t consider this cheating and get absolutely no guilt about it although I am totally sure my wife wouldn't approve. It is very much a guy thing usually fueled with alcohol - and lets face it, most women have done a lot ... (read in full...)
Men, would you cheat on your partner if you knew you wouldn't get caught?
Q. This is a question for the men that have been married for quite some time or are in a long term relationship. Are you truely happy/satisfied with your wife sexually? I was reading an article the other day about "spicing" your relationship up....
A. 19 March 2012: This is a very good question but I have no doubt it can be asked of both sexes, I think women also have extramarital relationships? The fundamental value to a relationship is trust and respect. These are atributes that cannot really be shared with ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my b/f of 7 years is ever going to totally commit to me
Q. Hi everyone, I would realy appreciate your thoughts on my situation as I am very confused. I have been with my boyfreind for seven years, I have two children and he has two grown up and a seven yr old. He proposed to me early on giving me a ...
A. 16 March 2012: I am not quite sure what you are saying. Does he want to rent a house for you to live in together? That sounds committed. I can understand him not wanting to move into your 'old' home. Its hard to define commitment when you are both divorced, you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell b/f in a nice way that I'm horny and want more sex?
Q. My bf and I have been together 8 months. We met on a dating site. He still lives with his parents (for various reasons) and since they are an hour away from me, he basically lives with me 3 nights a week on the weekend. The problem is that, on ...
A. 15 March 2012: I'm with Odds 100%. good sex starts with breakfast in bed, and get creative with the jam! Lose the TV, its not just sex lives it kills!... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend, but her parents cannot know!
Q. I'm 17 and love my girlfriend. We've already talked about marriage and all that stuff so this isn't some one night stand. We want to have sex (by the way she's 16 so in my state it's still legal) but her parents are VERY overprotective as far as ...
A. 15 March 2012: When you are ready you will find a way, It just happens!... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother I'm not a virgin anymore?
Q. I'm almost 17 and my mom doesn't know that I'm sexually active. I lost my virginity at a young age and I feel like I'm old enough to tell her that I'm not a virgin, however I'm scared because she had me when she was my age. How can I tell her and ...
A. 15 March 2012: Either she knows already, or doesn't want to know, you don't need to tell her. I think it is unusal to talk about your sex life with your parents. Certainly if you have questions or want advice she will want to talk, but otherwise it sounds like you ... (read in full...)
Are hospital A&E departments not supposed to give out the morning after pill?
Q. so i was with a guy for nearly 3 years, and we always practiced safe sex, but one night we had no condoms and we just could not help ourselves, so we had unprotected sex. i went to the hospital A+E the next morning and got the morning after pill. ...
A. 15 March 2012: Yes, you have the message: wrong kind of accident. I expect the A&E stocks them for rape victims. I guess they weren't too busy or you would have got a much blunter response!... (read in full...)
Does anal sex hurt?
Q. I really want to try anal, believe me but I am terrified! Every time he sticks his finger in, I freak out and pull his hand out. I don't know what to do! He isn't pressuring me or anything and I really want to...just a bit scared of the first time ...
A. 15 March 2012: Even with loads of lube its been immpossibly painful with every girl I've tried this with. A guy would have to be completely heartless to carry on knowing that its hurting. I have no doubt if you stretch you anus with suitable objects the pain will ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 14 March 2012: Good grief. I made a comment only yesterday about the problem with children having sex and you sum it up perfectly.
If every guy was like you what do you think of what you did to the other 6 girls??
Grow up, and if there is still a chance y... (read in full...)
How do men react when they get to know that their partner has been masturbating in secret?
Q. what are men's reaction to their spouse's secret masterbation? im 34 and Ive been living wth my bf almost 11 years ... its been almost four years he lost his sex derive ... we do it almost once a month ... and Im always horney ... we love each oth...
A. 14 March 2012: Since I am often away from home I would be disappointed if my wife didn't masturbate! - don't worry about looking after youself, its fine and healthy, but worry about your boyfriend - he will be a prime heart attack candidate in a few more years. ... (read in full...)
Why cant my husband forgive me for lying about fiancial matters? I have been a devoted wife in every other way!
Q. I lied to my husband of 7 years about bills I was paying for my adult/college daugther (her car payment and cell phone)who is 1000 miles away from home,and credit cards I had that I paid for my husband found out and now it has turned into all out ...
A. 14 March 2012: Its a trust and respect issue but sounds like you hb is over-reacting. If saying sorry, maybe with a tear or two, doesn't give the opportunity to kiss and make up then you have a problem with your relationship. You could surprise him one night and ... (read in full...)
How can I cover up a hickey on my breast?
Q. I am 21 and I am in a relationship with the most amazing man in the world. We have been together for 9 years (we were in the same class when we were 12)and now live together at his parents house while we save for our own place. Anyway, last night ...
A. 14 March 2012: Well beyond wearing a tee shirt or getting a new swimsuit there is notuch you can do. Btw, getting hickeys is not good, you are damaging your skin and if it goes too far can have serious complications....... (read in full...)
Scared of sex...does it hurt?
Q. help!! my boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him but i am scared to!!! does it hurt??...
A. 14 March 2012: Just keep searching on DC, you will find loads on this topic. But the thing you need to remember is to have sex when YOU want to, not someone else persuading you!... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 14 March 2012: I just don't get this never ending debate on porn. If women don't want their men using it there is a very slmple solution, more sex please!
Most women get sex when they want it, most men don't. If a woman is offended by porn then her man should resp... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 14 March 2012: OP, there may be a valid point that you are trying to make but you have probably come to the wrong place to make it! Your inability to meet the right woman is not our problem so your generalisations are not going to get you any sympathy. It is often ... (read in full...)
How can I trust my husband that he isn't lying about pornography?
Q. I have a couple questions... My husband has been addicted to porn for many years, even before we met, and he has lied to me about it. I have caught him several times both in the act and in a lie. He has lied to me so many times about it and I have ...
A. 13 March 2012: OP, you have a simple solution.... Sex at least twice a day. I will be amazed if your hb still needs porn (but he might). Otherwise Miamine says it all. Stop finding faults and just enjoy your relationship.... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 13 March 2012: None of the other aunts and uncles have picked up on the fact that you were 19 when this 28 year old mother of 3 hooked up with you. I think you are being completely unfairly berated. If the roles were reversed I am sure the comments would have been ... (read in full...)
I'm upset that g/f lied to me about knowing an old lover
Q. I have been with more girlfriend for over a decade. Recently, a (female) friend of hers found her on Facebook. They lost touch because (I am told) they had a falling out over a guy. Her friend is living in France and married a Frenchman...
A. 13 March 2012: OP you are overreacting. I am sure your girlfriend took the easiest way to avoid remembering and discussing the whole history. These are certainly bad memories for your gf, give her a break.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset about the fact that my girlfriend still keeps photos of her boyfriend who died 12 years ago?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for three years. She kept photos up of her and her deceased boyfriend (posed together) who died 12 years ago. We had none of us. After we had been togehter 2 years, I mentioned that I felt that she was living in ...
A. 13 March 2012: OP, your gf was clearly really hurt and maybe still isn't over it. However she also isn't showing you the respect you deserve. The photos of the dead ex need to be moved to a box or bottom draw but you shouldn't do that. I don't think it helps if ... (read in full...)
We get along great outside of the bedroom, but she doesn't want sex!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Ever since we have had kids she gives them 100% the attention,(great Mom). Sex was good, once a week the ritual Sunday morning.lol. Then it just stopped, we seperated for 6 months about 10 years ago. We ...
A. 12 March 2012: OP, I relate to your situation as I am sure many men do. You are stuck between the provial rock and a hard place. Your wife has been a loving spouse and mother for many years and slowly the desire or interest has waned. It is disturbing that you say ... (read in full...)
I kept pictures of my ex that still turn me on! Should I tell my husband?
Q. I know what I did was wrong, but don't know what to do now. I have some pictures of an ex-boyfriend. Some of them are not very appropriate, like he's naked in some, and even a close-up of his 'thing'. My husband knows about the pictures, and as...
A. 7 March 2012: I don't think you are being so bad. Masturbating is our own business and I think its ok to think of all kinds of things, exes as well. Its certainly not ok to let your husband know or find the pictures. If there is any chance of this then destroy ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this difficult family situation?
Q. Hai. Im not feeling like my real self right now and i dont know what to. The things is, my mother and father are always fighting; shouting at one another for some reasons i dont understand. So i kind of favoured my dad because he never started the ...
A. 7 March 2012: Oh poor you. I remember the same thing with my parents. I felt the same about my mother. The thing is that as people get older - middle aged we like to call it, our bodies stop feeling young and healthy and we annoyed and blame anybody or anything. ... (read in full...)
I've been married for 20 years and my in laws never include me in anything
Q. My mother-in-law or sister-in-laws have never included me for the past 20 years of my marriage. Im just left on the outside. Yesterday my Father-in-law was taken to hospital at 4am and she only rang my husband on his mobile at 8.20 on his way ...
A. 7 March 2012: Tisha-1 has great advice that I can't really add to. I would say though that the wife - mother in law relationship is never a bed of roses. My wife would much prefer a mil like yours! My mother was a bit interferring and caused stress in many ways. ... (read in full...)
Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: Because you started taking the pill does this mean you stopped using condon? If you use condoms you could stop taking the pill or change brands but from my experience smell and discharge from a vagina is an indication of some kind of infection. ... (read in full...)
Found husband on facebook asking to have sex with a girl and now when we have sex he goes limp
Q. i dont knw what to think please help.... one nite when my husband was sleeping i checked his facebook and he was telling all these girls they were beautiful whick botherd me but not as much as this other girl. he had been having alot of messages ...
A. 7 March 2012: It means you have a problem. If he can't / won't talk then you have a big problem. Trust and respect are fundamental to a relationship and at the moment you can't trust him and he is not respecting you. You need to fix this asap. If he won't then ... (read in full...)
How to tell him it aint working?
Q. Hey everyone =) A friend of mine has a bit of a problem and I suggested to just ask here as I've been given great advice... So here we go: She's been in a relationship with a guy for a month now and before they didn't really know each other. S...
A. 7 March 2012: Once you have had sex then the "lets still be friends" line is more of a euphamism (?? spelling, sorry!). If they were really good friends then a discussion like "the sex isn't working" would be possible. I would suggest that your friend just says ... (read in full...)
I slept with a married man thinking he was single and now he won't explain himself!
Q. I slept with a married man he acted single but now I fell for him a he is ignoring me he doesn't email, text or anything not even to apologize to me. How do I get closure? I feel so low and guilty about this plus I like him all @ the same time. I ...
A. 7 March 2012: I am sorry you have got taken advantage of, sadly I think it happens pretty often. Any decent guy would be in touch with their gf very quickly after having sex, especially for the first time.
Find a friend to talk with over a glass of wine and ... (read in full...)
Do married couples have better sex when drunk?
Q. Do you prefer sex when your drunk as a married couple?. The wife and I Always seem to have the best sex when we have a little too much red wine. The "wildness" comes out! ...
A. 6 March 2012: I don't see where the married bit plays a differencr? a glass of wine is always good for relaxing and getting in the mood. But more than that can get risky. 3 glasses of wine and my wife can transform into someone far from the girl I married, and 4 ... (read in full...)
Do age gaps really matter when it comes to good sex?
Q. Does the age gap really matter when it comes to good sex and relationships? Do you think its wrong for a 53year old women to have sex daily? why would her boyfriend of 41 tell her that love doesnt get measured by the amount of sex sessions??...
A. 6 March 2012: Sex had nothing to do with age. And you certainly can love someone without having sex, but I think its better when you do!... (read in full...)
Is it true that women never forget their first sexual partners?
Q. I'm a 30 y/o male, got married when I was 28 I have a 19 month old boy. I love my wife and child. But my question is the following: "when my wife and I had intimacy for the first time she made it very clear and reinstated that she wasn't a vir...
A. 6 March 2012: Wow, I had no idea how lucky I was. Our first time, for both of us, was stunning. No pain, my orgasm took 20 seconds, my girlfriends 2 months, but it was the best 2 months of our lives! Sex is very intimate and if you are not comfortable with that ... (read in full...)
Will I be able to have sex more than once the weekend I lose my virginity?
Q. Hi everyone! I am wanting to ask some general advice about first time sex. I am 21 years old and i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now with a man I met at univerisity. Im a virgin but hes not. basically i am going to visit ...
A. 6 March 2012: Wow, I feel sorry for young people today, so much planning, so much organising, so much to think of!! I remember the good old days when my girlfriend and I lost our viginities during a completely unexpected excess of passion, there was no pain (we ... (read in full...)
Psychic says do not have sex in the next 2months. What will you do?
Q. A psychic told me not to have sex with my man until April. Hmm my man is a scorpio and I know how much he loves sex. How can I pull this off. SO far its been working because we are in a LDR and just ended a fight that lasted with a month of silence ...
A. 1 March 2012: Annalisa says it all. I can't add more to that. Find a space to talk without feeling stress and mistrust. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 1 March 2012: The idea of being married is pretty scary to some guys, even when they have been in a serious relationship for a number of years. That is the best I can think of to explain your boyfreinds behaviour. Also I believe men don't relate to the need to ... (read in full...)
Psychic says do not have sex in the next 2months. What will you do?
Q. A psychic told me not to have sex with my man until April. Hmm my man is a scorpio and I know how much he loves sex. How can I pull this off. SO far its been working because we are in a LDR and just ended a fight that lasted with a month of silence ...
A. 28 February 2012: Thanks for the update. Yes, like I said the pyschic is reflecting your own lack of trust in this guy. I don't know how you can be so sure he's not seeing other women and in any case nothing you have said sounds like a guy in love with you. Stopping ... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 27 February 2012: I can imagine being in this situation. Sounds like too much planning going on, and if you are happy together then which moment is going to feel right? Is he a bit shy? I don't believe in the whole man proposes to woman stuff. You both have a say and ... (read in full...)
Psychic says do not have sex in the next 2months. What will you do?
Q. A psychic told me not to have sex with my man until April. Hmm my man is a scorpio and I know how much he loves sex. How can I pull this off. SO far its been working because we are in a LDR and just ended a fight that lasted with a month of silence ...
A. 27 February 2012: Hmm, Leo's like sex too. I would be happy if a pyschic was controling my sex life. The thing about pyschics is they usually say what they perceive the customer wants to hear. And they are good at that. Sounds like you need time to work out what is ... (read in full...)
Every conversation with husband turns into an argument!
Q. My husband of four years is a generally nice and kind man but has very firm views about things. I have tried over the years to put my views forward on things that I am not happy with in the relationship but my views are always walked over or ignored ...
A. 27 February 2012: It sounds like your resentment is an indication of a more fundamental lack of closeness between you. Everything in a marriage is about sharing and compromise. I remember the hurt feelings and silent car journeys in the first year or two of marriage. ... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 27 February 2012: The first thing you have to do is work out why you did it. Were you totally drunk? Most married men at some time have the opportunity to have sex with another woman, but don't. So why did you?
I am not a great believer in the guilt and forg... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he is a player. Should I walk away now before I get hurt?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for around 4 months now. I know he is a player and just sees the whole thing as fun but i have fallen for him and i dont know whether i should talk to him about it or just leave and walk away? i really care for him but im ...
A. 27 February 2012: Sorry, I don't want to sound negative but if you read what you have written then the only comment is why are you wasting your time with this guy? You should feel a bit mad with him for not showing you the respect you deserve. You will soon forget ... (read in full...)
I want to meet my LD crush but my parents don't want me to be alone
Q. Hi ! I'm a 17 year old girl and I have been talking to this 18 year old guy on Skype for the last 2 weeks because we are both in college ( I graduated highschool early ) we could meet until the summer but we talked about it a couple times we enjoy ...
A. 27 February 2012: I would just carry on enjoying each others skype company until the oportunity to meet arises. You haven't known each other long and so the logistics of meeting will force you to get too serious too quickly which usually is very bad for a ... (read in full...)
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