Boyfriend is below average, so - does size really matter?
Q. Here's the deal. My boyfriend (whom I love very much and plan on spending my life with) is on the small size. And by small size...I mean a good deal below average (both in length and girth). And I realize that this probably shouldn't bother me, but ...
A. 29 June 2012: How big he gets is a function of how turned on he is, and that is seriously affected by how turned on you are. Just chill out, forget pills or mentioning anything at all to him. Just relax and have fun. Start with oral and 69 and just let things ... (read in full...)
Can I feel love for my husband again? Is it anxiety or real?
Q. Hi I am looking for advice and hopefully a way to love my husband again. I am driving myself crazy with anxiety and worry that my marriage could be over. We have been together 8 years and married for 4. We have a 4 year old boy and I am also ...
A. 12 June 2012: You love your husband, it is clear from what you write. But you sound lost in the routine of life, and getting a little depressed from it. Also your hormones are changing a lot, plus the stress from miscarrying before.
Whilst falling in love feel... (read in full...)
After seeing her ex, she called me his name during sex and now I'm very upset
Q. Ok... hopefully i can get some good advice on this and not people making fun. I have been seeing the most lovely girl for the past few months. Before she was with me, she was in a 4 year relationship with the most awful guy - he hit her, put her...
A. 11 June 2012: You have good advice already. My wife did the same thing. Just forgive and forget. Funny thing is, if I had made the same mistake, and maybe you too, I would have been crucified!!... (read in full...)
My best friend got me pregnant, and my husband is threatening to leave. Should I keep the baby?
Q. I'm 30 years old and I have been married for nearly 7 years. I love my husband very much but I do believe you can love two people at once. I am also in love with my best friend- occasionally, when we hang out, we have sex. We know it is wrong and I ...
A. 8 June 2012: By not having an abortion you are killing all the future children you would have with your husband.
Terminating a pregnancy is just having control over your body. You will other babies that you would not otherwise have had.
If you want a baby and... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to use porn to remind him of his girlfriend and the things they did?
Q. Is it possible for a man to use porn to remind him of his girlfriend and the things they did? My boyfriend claims he went through his collection to look for girls that look like me to remind him of me when I'm not there when he is masturbating, he ...
A. 8 June 2012: Yes its probably true, I chose porn with women that remind me of my wife. ...... and, err, um, old girlfriends! ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn?
Q. Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn and taking viagra when Im asleep and wake up and catch him? He doesnt give it to me when i want it enless we are off work together. He said that he will continue to do it and i told him ...
A. 25 May 2012: Well apart from the physical aspect for men there is a very strong positive psychological effect from masturbating. All men do it, and I would bet 90% of women have slept soundly next to their man wacking off, with or without porn. Just like many ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband, what do I do?
Q. hi my husband has been gone for two months in a program for people that violate there parole just the other night i slipped up and cheated on him he will be getting out tuesday iwant to tell him my question is what should i do...
A. 25 May 2012: Tell him if you want to hurt him and probably break up. If you don't tell him he may not find out but if he does he will be hurt and may break up.
Theres nothing good we can tell you about what you did. Maybe you cheated because you really want to b... (read in full...)
Why people say stop looking for love and let it find you?
Q. I have been looking love and I could not find it and people have told me to stop looking. And they say If I keep on looking for it I will never find it. So three years ago at the age of 24 I stopped looking and got on with enjoying my life and today ...
A. 25 May 2012: Sounds like you are proof that the saying is true!! Finding love is not like it is portayed in the movies. Join clubs and activities where you can meet people but don't try to hound out the first pretty girl you meet. Hundreds of guys before you ... (read in full...)
Should I go to college or stay with my current job?
Q. For the past few years i have been wondering weather or not i should go off to college, you see i have had a study job working on a farm for sometime now and it actually pays just enough for me to get by on my own, but im not sure if i want to keep ...
A. 25 May 2012: Always go to college if you can. Its not just about earning potential but also about finding yourself and new experiences. You will meet new people and undoubtedly your life will follow a new more exciting path. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn?
Q. Should I leave my bofriend of 3yrs for masturbating with porn and taking viagra when Im asleep and wake up and catch him? He doesnt give it to me when i want it enless we are off work together. He said that he will continue to do it and i told him ...
A. 25 May 2012: I am sorry but women have no understanding of the male need to test his equipment! If males only had erections when their partners wanted sex we men would all have Erectile Dysfunction (ED) at an early age. And then what would you women say? ... (read in full...)
My wife had sex with 10 guys by the time she was 19 Is that normal?
Q. I am 35 and my wife is 34, and she has had sex with 11 men in her life including me. That might not sound like a massive number of partners relative to her age, but the other 10 guys were all between the ages of 15-19. From 19-30 she was with one ...
A. 24 May 2012: No its not that men can't accept that women enjoy sex, its great when they can. What is hard to accept is when the woman you love needs to unburden her secret regrets and guilt. Then its hard to accept that she was probably treated as dirt by ... (read in full...)
What type of porn would he like?
Q. my partner and I both enjoy watching porn but we don't do it together, I know what I like but would like to know what most men would like to watch. Due to him being a tight arse and refusing to get a new phone where he could view and download ...
A. 23 May 2012: If he really wants to watch porn he would already be getting it for himself. Maybe he is happy just watching you???... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my orientation, and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and I'm having some problems with my sexual orientation. Please bear with me, this might be a little long. So, okay, around last year me and my siblings broke out of our mom's religion after the world didn't end. I didn't truly beli...
A. 10 May 2012: Being confused about stuff is the trademark of being a teenager. Feelings can get very messed up. Look after yourself. You have a risk from being told what to do by others and they can take advantage of you. Its good that you are starting to ask q... (read in full...)
Do I tell a mate that I know he slept with a girl I was seeing
Q. Question.... I met a girl about 5 months ago. She was in a loveless marriage, had random affairs etc. We used to tell each other what we were upto etc... It was very sexual. Anyway we ended up catching up for little sessions so to speak. Anyway ...
A. 10 May 2012: You have no good position to defend here. That evening you made it clear to your mate and gf that you didn't care about her. What happened just happened and the only mug was you because you messed everything up. Don't try to blame your mate or gf. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating 3 guys and having sex with them all!
Q. well im currently dating 3 guys and have sex with all, im not proud of it , but i was the average good girl who loved a guy with my all, and in return he cheated and caused lots of heart aches,anyhow i started of as friends with all and well, i feel ...
A. 10 May 2012: I can't believe that even one of these guys want to be exclusive with you or he would have realised something about what you were doing with the other two. If you are happy with yourself then carry on having fun, but if the reality is that you are ... (read in full...)
He gets his kicks from sex but I don't get mine! How can I get him to pay more attention to my needs?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been posted a question but I found no response. I am trying to know that what is missing in our love relation. My hubby is very hot for sex. He likes sex, and lots of it. I found him sexualy hot but not emotionaly.he cares ...
A. 10 May 2012: Yes, good advice below. Whatever you do avoid making him feel inadequate. Buy a copy of Cosmo or another magazine with sexual content and be in bed first reading it and when hb arrives just throw down the mag and tell him you want him to lick you. ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable Cervix! Any ideas?
Q. Hello lovely aunts and uncles. I have something rather unusual happening regarding my reproductive organs. The last week, my vagina has been feeling more sensitive than usual when having sex, kind of like it's tighter in a squishier way but n...
A. 8 May 2012: Sounds like your GP is a man so he will be able to check you out and tell you all is ok, but he won't really understand what it feels like - you would be better off talking with the family planning nurse or finding a woman doctor or gyno....
E... (read in full...)
He was watching porn when I was asleep next to him!
Q. Hey! Last night I fell asleep next to my fiancé while he was watching a movie on his computer. He left the computer on and this morning I saw that he'd been looking at porn while I was asleep next to him. I didn't say anything, but then over ...
A. 8 May 2012: Well to a guy it is pretty obvious. You get into bed with your wife/girlfriend kiss and cuddle a bit and the guy gets turned on but the girl yawns and in ten seconds is snoring. .... Now the guy is in the loneliest place on the face of the planet, ... (read in full...)
17 and pregnant. Any advice on how to tell my parents?
Q. I'm 17, 6 weeks pregnant and no clue on how to tell my parents. My boyfriend is 21. Been together for 8months and they know him very well. Mom likes him, father doesn't want me involved in anything serious with any boy but accepts my relationship. ...
A. 5 May 2012: Don't tell them. Unless you really want to be a mother already and have loads of money get your bf's credit card find a doctor and terminate the pregnancy and get on with your life. I know several friends that were in your situation and I would ... (read in full...)
My possessive boyfriend said I smelled like sex!
Q. I spent a couple hours getting ready before going over to my boyfriend's house. I showered, did my hair and make up, and put on perfume. After I got there, we sat in the living room and he said, "Can I say something kind of weird?" And I said of ...
A. 5 May 2012: Young guys can be incredibly insecure and mistrusting (and not always without reason) but this sounds way out of line. He is looking for your reaction and the best thing you could have done, or should do next time, is tell him that is not a nice ... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend understand that my no means no. I am not ready. What should I do?
Q. I think my boyfriend only wants to have sex with me and im a virgin and he is very sexual and all he wants to talk about is sex I told him im not ready but I don't think he understands what should I do?...
A. 5 May 2012: Any guy that makes you feel uncomforable is the wrong guy even if he says he loves you. Tell him this and say goodbye. You will botj benefit.... (read in full...)
I want anal again but she refuses! What should I do? I want to go with a call girl just for revenge!
Q. We did it two times but she doesn't want it anymore, the first time was painful to her but the second one she enjoyed because i did it a soft way! Now i desire to have anal intercourse again with her but she doesn't want it, we've talked about th...
A. 5 May 2012: Good grief. Hopefully by now you have grown up enough to care about your girlfriend!... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 3 May 2012: You are not alone. Many of us have missed opportunities and as you get older and look back and wonder how it might have been. Your first engagement wasnt meant to be a marriage your feelings for Alan were a useful test of the strength of you ... (read in full...)
How can people not think of pornography as cheating?
Q. I have something bothering me i've read and discussed this and people say that a boyfriend using porn is no different than him imagining someone in his head but I strongly disagree. Masturbating to porn is alot worse it is an actual picture but ...
A. 3 May 2012: There's good porn and there is bad porn, personally I find the good porn ok and so does my wife. A few of my exes masturbated to erotic novels and I am fairly sure they weren't thinking of me at the time. I am pretty sure you have no idea what your ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I love her very much!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, I love her very much and I know she loves me, she is beautiful,loyal,kind, everything I could ever want, she is the only girl I have ever had sex with, whereas she has had 4 boyfriends previous and 3 ...
A. 2 May 2012: Your problem is that you haven't had sex with anyone else! Then you would have been in a situation like your girlfriend. You would realise that you have quickly forgotten your past and who you are with now is the most special thing you have. You ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is a shambles
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. I'm 20 and he's 23. In all other respects our relationship is great but it's just the sex life that is a mess. I'll give you a bit of background on our sex lives before we were ...
A. 28 April 2012: It always a problem when you have sex with someone you can't talk openly with. What turns us each on is different, do know what does it for you? If you don't know then how will your bf? and how experienced is he really? If I were a woman the number ... (read in full...)
She's a virgin and I don't know if I can handle it
Q. This is a long one. I'm 22, she's 23, and she's amazing. We've been together for about 8 months and so far she's everything I want a woman. There are just 2 issues. 1st, she lives far away. She is currently going to school in Israel and will ...
A. 28 April 2012: You have a real dilemma. Most of us, probably including most of the aunts that criticise you, treat sex like a recreational sport. It is fun and necessary to most of us, and yes, usually better with someone you love. If you wait until marriage... (read in full...)
Despite a new love she can't get her 'first' out of her mind
Q. emergency!! Basically friend A is in love with friend B but friend A lost her virginity a few months ago to another guy (she was not with friend B at this time). She is deeply in love with B but can't help but think of this guy now and again. She ...
A. 28 April 2012: There is some science behind this effect but as others have said its more psychological. If it was good then getting over no1 can always be harder than 2 3 or 4!
If it was a bad experience then its hard to forget for different reasons. Time take... (read in full...)
I'm tired of feeling like guys just want me for sex. Should I take a virginity pledge?
Q. I've never slept with anyone before (or even had a boyfriend); I'm currently in my first year at uni and a lot of my friends are sleeping around and such or in relationships. I was considering getting a boyfriend because I feel really inexperie...
A. 27 April 2012: You sound very smart and need to know that you are not missing out. All the new experiences will come to you at the right time and be even better. What you are missing out on is many of the bad experiences that many young people fall into. The ... (read in full...)
Can anyone share any success stories after having IVF?
Q. I am 28 years old and have been with my partner for 3 years he is also 28. We have been trying for a baby for over 1 year now and have just been told that my partner has a low sperm count and we will need help to have our baby. We are going to have ...
A. 27 April 2012: I know three couples that had IVF, two suceeded first time and I think the other was 2 or 3 times. .... But then they got twins!!
Good luck, and dont get stressed, it really is a reliable procedure nowadays.... (read in full...)
Am I normal? I don't look like other women!
Q. hi there, i dont men to be crude or nasty but i have some questions the average human growth and development book wont answer. i been around various women while we change in the locker and i see them naked. i notice that 99% have a vagina that hides ...
A. 27 April 2012: Just relax, being young has lots of insecurities but when you stand naked in front of the mirror and all you worry about is how you vagina looks then you are doing ok! Just make sure any boy you let near it really loves ypu and you feel really ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong
Q. Hello everyone, I would really love some advice with my problem. You all have done greatly and I can not help but keep coming back here for more... So in advance thank you. Last week my husband and I came about to having a threesome. We both h...
A. 26 April 2012: You are young and tried something that probably wasn't a good idea and now you have learnt something. It was just a dumb moment, your hb was too drunk to remember and unfortunately he doesn't sound like a nice guy when drunk so theres another lesson ... (read in full...)
What are the top reasons for cheating?
Q. hello, thanks for ansewering me... i appreciate all advices. one question. Why girls/woman cheat? What are top reasons? Thank you....
A. 25 April 2012: Probably the biggest reason is "grass is greener...." illusion. Probably most of us try it once when young and learn to be better partners later in life.
We all have different definitions of cheating. For many it is just about sex, but for me its ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 25 April 2012: OP it wasn't clear what kind of photo were going to be taken but it sounds like you are planning a hard porn shoot with very graphic photos of one or more guys penetrating you?
Yes the porn industry is the global no 1 business but it is also no1... (read in full...)
He's stopped going down on me! What can I do?
Q. Hey there! I've been with my fiancé for a year now and we will get married in the Fall. I love him deeply and so does he. One little thing is bothering me though... at the beginning of our relationship he went down on me a lot and then he stopped. ...
A. 20 April 2012: Make sure you are nicely showered, shaved or close trimmed, and go for 69. Unless he is a real prude he wont complain. If he does you would have to wonder what his issue is. Better still, ask him, nicely. Dont get stressed over it but just tell him ... (read in full...)
Problem with girlfriend's past?
Q. So here's the issue. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 24, about to be 25. We met on a joke app (Funny Jokes) and found out we lived a couple hours away so we just started texting each other. Then we started Skyping and added each other on Facebook. And ...
A. 20 April 2012: Well I guess when you have a girlfriend 7 years older with a child you would expect she has a bit more history than you. Please don't be so judgemental about what she has done (nothing so shocking) or with whom (drop the racial issue). The main ... (read in full...)
I cum within 30 seconds of g/f touching me
Q. 24 male. I recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend, it was by choice I decided to wait.... Well now I have a problem. I can't last long at all. I mean to the point where at first I would end up blowing my load in my jeans from her grindin...
A. 20 April 2012: Yeah, there is nothing less successful than trying to stop yourself cumming! It just wasnt made to work that way. Most important is to talk with your girlfriend - have a laugh about it and dont get stressed.
This is normal for most guys I thin... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only lasts 5 minutes!
Q. My bf is 14yrs older. I notice now that I dont get more thsn 5 mins of sex with him. He lasted longer before. I dont know why. I just want an orgasm too. But I never get it....
A. 20 April 2012: Have you asked him? He may be 14 years older but maybe he hasnt learnt that women also have orgasms?? or have you been pretending? either way you need to make him slow down, do more foreplay, etc. Young guys often don't know how to make a woman feel ... (read in full...)
Can you please help me understand this insecure man?
Q. I've been with this guy 4 years and have had a child together, who's almost 3. At first he always accused me of cheating then it went away for years. Last Saturday I went to work at a fundraiser for my daughter's school to build a new play...
A. 19 April 2012: I think the worse thing you can do is take anything he says seriously. He is playing wierd mind games with you amd the best thing is to brush his dumb comments aside with a joke like "yes I managed to f**k five guys next to the tombola".
Maybe this... (read in full...)
Cant perform during sex because I have been so used to masturbating for 20 years!
Q. Hi this is more of a sex question but Im hoping someone can help. I have been single for many years, and my only sexual outlet has been through masturbation. I have of course become quite used to getting myself off and can get hard quite quick...
A. 19 April 2012: Leave your friend alone for a day or two before your next date. and don't drink too much, that doesnt help. Now you have stage fright stress as well but you will overcome it. Otherwise a visit to a doc might be called for. A doctor friend of mine ... (read in full...)
How do you initiate morning sex?
Q. How do you initiate morning sex? I always notice my fiance has morning glory like any healthy man but I have never had morning sex with him as I have to wake up about 2 hours before him for work. He comes home for a week or so in a few days and I ...
A. 19 April 2012: One of the best memories of my life was when I returned home with jetlag and passed out - in the early hours I was woken by a rock hard erection and my then fiance's warm lips rubbing up and down. Once she heard an appreciative groan from me she ... (read in full...)
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