Should I be upset about planning an abortion?
Q. I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...
A. 15 August 2012: At the moment your hormones make you feel good. After the termination you may well cry a lot, you will have a roller coaster ride with those hormones! Many years ago my girlfriend terminated a pregnancy and whilst it might not have been my child I ... (read in full...)
Does her sexual past matter? Would I prefer this new friend over my GF just because of my Gf's sexual past?
Q. I have never been the jealous type and I am not sure I would define what I feel as jealousy. My new girlfriend sexual past is really affecting me. I have had quite a few girlfriends in my life and never felt anything like this before. Not even c...
A. 15 August 2012: OP I think the answer to your question has to be yes. But does that help you with your current predicament? Women often describe failed attempts at relationships as a ONS becauce it makes the guy in question less important. It doesnt sound like you... (read in full...)
I just found out my girflriend cheated on me three years ago
Q. Hey guys, I have a situation that im in dire need of some other people opinions. I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years now. Today I found out that at the beginning of our relationship when we were "exclusive" she was having sex with oth...
A. 14 August 2012: Tell her what you found out, how you feel etc. Talk nicely and ask her to explain how it was from her side. If the ex was her first serious partner then that can be hard to get over and there is a "grey zone" where she has to check he is really h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants sexual play involving her butt and I can't do it
Q. My girlfriend is great. I really love her not to mention her intelligence, sense of humor and...amazing looks. The other day we were had some shower sex that turned into regular sex -- recently she's been into 69, so that's what we did. To be ho...
A. 13 August 2012: If you shower together then you can take care of hygiene and with some lube you could certainly try exploring her gently with a finger. BUT she tried blackmail mentioning the ex and if I were you I would tell her straight that you might have tried ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my boyfriend using my past as an excuse to break up with me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for well over a year now. We attended high school together but didn't really know one another. We have a mutual friend 'Jeff' that I slept with one time almost 20 years ago after we all graduated from high school. I did ...
A. 9 August 2012: OP if you didn't think it worth mentioning then, why do you now? I would call that lying of sorts. But its not the lying that is the issue. You could have lied about lots of things and he wouldn't have cared. But you misled him about having sex with ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me, calling me in the middle of the night and has even threatened to kill himself. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Hi I recently posted a question regarding my ex threatening to die if I did not patch up with him. When I met up with him the other day to talk things over things got so bad I told him if he meant what he said I was going to report him to the ...
A. 28 July 2012: OP, you don't tell us anything about him or how you got to where you are. But have you tried the rational approach? Talk in the cold light of day over coffee. Tell him it was once fun, sorry it is now over, you both have to lead your own lives, y... (read in full...)
What can I wear to hide my tummy? I'm a little chubby. Rest is presentable.
Q. Hey everybody! I would like some help. What can i wear on a date that will hide mt tummy the most? I have a flappy tummy. I'm chubby, got a nice ass. I'm about 1.7m tall. thanks. ...
A. 28 July 2012: If you don't like your shape then, within reason, do something about it. Walk more, especially up stairs, eat more fruit and less french fries, and be proud of yourself for being in control. Wear what you feel good in and you will look good beca... (read in full...)
Can cheating be justified?
Q. if someones love interest doesnt give enough time,love, emotional and mental support the care and need and also doesnt take part in sorting such differences by mutual talk then does it give the other partner to cheat on him/her, is it justified ...
A. 28 July 2012: Sorry hit add by accident, but to fininsh my cynical comment, isn't cheating the way many people change relationships? You want a new car or tv you don't throw away the old one first and have a perood of walking or reading books whilst you decide on ... (read in full...)
Can cheating be justified?
Q. if someones love interest doesnt give enough time,love, emotional and mental support the care and need and also doesnt take part in sorting such differences by mutual talk then does it give the other partner to cheat on him/her, is it justified ...
A. 28 July 2012: Obviously cheating is wrong, thats why cheating is cheating. But what do you define as cheating? Is it just sex? For many people sex is just the physical act and separated from anything to do with love or commiment. Is touching, dating, dining, ... (read in full...)
She's my Dream Girl. But I'm consumed with jealousy over her past. Can someone help me resolve this huge problem?
Q. how do I stop thinking about my Girlfriends past and make sure its not the end of our future? I looked at many sites about guys on this subject but Wow all these dudes think they got it bad with like girlfriends having 3-4 partners more then th...
A. 26 July 2012: Dear OP, if you have already checked out other threads on this topic then you should know that you would not get a lot of sympathy, especially from the aunts! However you certainly have mine. I have been where you are, and in trumps. There are a ... (read in full...)
I am upset that I am being criticized for my parenting!
Q. My daughter is about to be a year old next week and does not walk nor try to. She just crawls and she goes to the furniture and stands up on it. She was born 2 months premature and her doctor always said that some things she might do a little bit ...
A. 25 July 2012: OP I think you need to stop comments like this. Most of these where not said to critisize you but nevertheless are really insensitive and hurtful. You need to say something, either just a bit of sarcasm or straight out tell them how they hurt you ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl out? I really need help!
Q. How do you ask a girl out? Im a tall guy and the girl i would like to have a relationship with is a shorter woman. I have never had a girlfriend before so i dont know how you ask a girl out. All i need is some good tips and advice. I would like to ...
A. 25 July 2012: How do you know her? Why do you like her? If its just she looks nice and you fancy her then your chances of getting a date are about the same as if you picked a random person on the street, ie. zero.
If you know her then talk with her and drop in a... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: Would you like someone to experiment with you? As long as you make your desires and intentions clear and find a woman that agrees then fine. Maybe a prostitute would be better for you thought. However I believe your original premise is false... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how my married lover can lead a double life!
Q. This question is directed more towards the experts in the field of infidelity because I'm really curious as to how she can live with herself. What gets me is how some of her peers and co-workers perceive her to be this classy upstanding woman...
A. 25 July 2012: I am encouraged by the moral strength of the replies so far, but I have another take on this topic. Modern society is focused much more on individuals than partnerships. We all have 'my own' stuff, job, friends, opinions, freedom to do what we ... (read in full...)
This man wants to date with no strings attached
Q. man with bagage from last relationship just wants to hang out, no commitment, supper, movie, site seeing, sex and interrested in other women also what should i do?...
A. 25 July 2012: OP you didn't say what you were looking for but will assume it is a more committed friendship than he is offering. Although he says he's not into commitment is he saying never, or just that he's not ready? It depends on how much baggage hes carrying ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a micro-penis condition and I don't know what to do.
Q. I've just come across this site because I've been researching the 'micropenis' condition. I hadn't ever heard of this up until a few hours ago. I've been going out with this amazing guy for three months now and have never been happier. As ...
A. 24 July 2012: OP this is going to test your tact and diplomacy but he needs to see a doc. I have just googled this and there are various treatments. Stress and fear can make a penis shrink remarkably, maybe it is meant to. Many
Work on getting him relaxed. Mayb... (read in full...)
Why do I have spams when I masturbate but not when I have sex with boyfriend?
Q. Ok this isn't really a problem but I'm just curious. When I masturbate and I orgasm I have spasms that I can feel. However when me and my boyfriend have sex I come just as hard, but I don't have these spasms. He thinks I'm faking, and that he can't ...
A. 24 July 2012: We all have varied reactions and I agree with your boyfriend that it is nice to get positive feedback. Don't rely on your body to spasm. Use yourmouth and tell him what feels good and when you are going to orgasm. You don't need to scream like a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's vagina is too small, and I am wondering if whether this is physical or psychological and if there are any other positions or techniques that may allow me to penetrate her more fully without hurting her.
Q. I know this sounds like a wonderful problem to have, but it isn't. My girlfriend's vagina is a bit tight, but the bigger problem is that it is too shallow to accommodate me. I have a very average-sized penis in every way, so I know it is not me. ...
A. 24 July 2012: Check out other threads on this topic. If it works ok sometimes then doesn't sound like a physical issue. But at different times of the month she will feel different and the first bit of discomfort may trigger a psychological reaction that will ... (read in full...)
I lost my bestfriend to his girlfriend
Q. I had a Friend who was one if my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had. About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mis...
A. 24 July 2012: I'm pretty openminded and unless you have known him from birth I would feel pet names like the ones you use are over the mark. Maybe your feelings for him are stronger than you acknowledge? Now such an issue has been made of it I doubt if even you ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 24 July 2012: Who is the unhappy one here? To be happy with your partner concentrate on what you have in common. If your quest for spiritual happiness is newfound then you shouldn't expect he will want to do the same. If you both grew up in N.America then there ... (read in full...)
Should I continue masturbating? is it normal for a thirteen year old like me?
Q. Hi I am thirteen and I masturbate 5 or more times a week. I've been masturbating for nearly a year now but every time i do it makes me feel uncomfortable with myself. What do I do? Is what I am doing normal? Please I don't know what to do I ...
A. 23 July 2012: You are totally normal, but dont overdo it or it will get painfully sore once a day is pretty healthy, 3 or 4 times a day probably isnt!!... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt me so much?
Q. I was reading a post about a girl that wants to lose her virginity and she got a few answers saying sex shouldnt hurt. Sex often hurts me, practically every time. Im engaged, have children both vaginal births, and am in my early 20s. I have been ...
A. 23 July 2012: OP its time for a serious visit to gp or gyno. Sounds like you have built a real stress situation that wont fix itself. Are you using condoms? They certainly make penetration less easy if you arent well lubricated. Are you absolutely sure you have ... (read in full...)
When will these feelings for my ex go away?
Q. Why Is this happening to me? I hate my life:(. Mature answers please? My ex boyfriend and I broke up 15 months ago. I loved him so much, I thought we were in love cause of the way he cared about me. All my friends and family thought ...
A. 23 July 2012: Well OP the mature answer is that you are young and the feelings will disappear when you meet the person you are meant to be with and you will look back and wonder why you wasted so much energy and emotions on Mr X. Time dilutes the painful feelings ... (read in full...)
Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.
Q. Hello, My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference. We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our futu...
A. 23 July 2012: Silly question, silly parents and friends. Maybe they have another reason but either way if you love each other then you need to show cpnfidence in youselves. Neither of you is extremely tall or short so don't worry about ot. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can change to get a boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone I'm 17 and have never really had a real boyfriend, boys tell me I'm pretty, sexy, gorgeous, beautiful, cute... They've called me everything you can imagine, but I'm still single. I've never been inlove, I just wanna know how it's fe...
A. 20 July 2012: Dear OP, I think most of us old aunts and uncles if we were honest would tell you that you are not missing a thing. When young love quickly gets bored and changes to resentment and heartache, you only have to read other posts to see how many young ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 20 July 2012: I also prefer other forms of sex than oral (at least when done to me) unless you reciprocate at the same time. Let the heavy petting turn into 69 and you will have your girlfriends orgasm to concentrate on. If you are not ready for that either then ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: Firstly stop the guilt, you needed to do what you did just to keep going. I don't think many, or any, of us can really relate to your situation. Even though you weren't married the bond and commitment is still there.
Have you thought about the futu... (read in full...)
I didn't let him touch me and now he's ignoring me. Did I handle the situation wrong?
Q. I met this guy at the weekend who I know through mutual friends and we went on a first date in the week. The drinks were flowing and we were having a smashing time, it was like the night should never have ended. I felt so comfortable. Anyway he ...
A. 18 July 2012: Whilst it might well be true to say that all men want sex it is not fair to say all men want is sex.
You should be pleased with yourself that despite a few drinks you kept your self values. Going to his place was the mistake but understandable in t... (read in full...)
Do you get turned on by tickling?
Q. I have liked tickling for as long as I can remember. I find it fun and love tickling girls, especially on their feet. Does anybody enjoy tickling or being tickled? And to make the discussion even more interesting, does anyone get turned on by it? I ...
A. 17 July 2012: Yes, I have an endearing memory of my first girlfriend having an orgasm as I gently rubbed her feet, it was great!! My wife unfortunately hates it and kicked me so hard when I tried it with her that I wanted a divorce. So use with caution!!
... (read in full...)
Does every woman queef?
Q. Does every female queef? I really want to be able to stop queefing during intercourse, I usually do the first time, for example say on a night time the first time me and my partner have sex I usually queef then if we have sex more times during tha...
A. 17 July 2012: Tell your boyfriend that you read only big penises make women do this, he will really love making you do this in the future!!
Seriously though, when you do it just laugh and ask him what hes doing to you!
I think it happens most with man on top s... (read in full...)
Can you tell the difference between love and lust?
Q. Dear all, Is it possible to be affectionate and miss someone a lot but not love them? I'm 5 months in a relationship and have developed strong feelings but I'm not sure if its love? What's the difference and how do you know? We currently on...
A. 13 July 2012: From my experience, love hits you like a freight train. But if it does just after you've had sex then it gets all mixed up! Even with friendship first, where love grows slowly, there is that first kiss or holding hands, where suddenly you get a ... (read in full...)
I told her about my past and it's affecting our relationship.
Q. I told my girlfriend about me having sex in the past and it really seems to have affected us but i keep telling her i cant change my past but she doesnt seem to be changing how angry she is at me. shes also saying that its not going to affect us and ...
A. 10 July 2012: Some, maybe most people, feel that having sex with another is somethong we do with people who are special to us. If both in a relationship have roughly equal past experiences then we accept each other easily as having similar values. Where the ... (read in full...)
I posted an ad for no strings attached sex but now I've changed my mind
Q. I went on craigslist for a NSA encounter...but now I want to back out of it. The guy has my email address (my real one) so I worried he may find me... is this silly? I do have a FB account obviouly under my own name. He wants to meet up this wee...
A. 10 July 2012: Pleased you got wise before you got used and probably hurt. Just say you have decided to be with someone you already know and trust (yourself! :) ) if he harrasses you just ask him to politely leave you alone.... (read in full...)
Why is my husband watching porn when we have sex every week?
Q. Can anyone help me out here? I accidentally click on the history on my husband's mobile and realise my husband have been watching porno films in it. In fact, quite oftenly. We have sex like every week once or twice, but I just feel very bother...
A. 8 July 2012: If he has time away from you then what he is doing is what a lot or guys do, I think. I certainly do it. OP, Please don't think its anything negative to do with you. Quite on the contrary, hes turned on, misses you, and makes do with second best... (read in full...)
Fathers in the delivery room: who should have the final say?
Q. I had an interesting conversation with my boyfriend earlier about fathers in the delivery room. I'd like to find out what others make of the issue! My boyfriend said he'd rather not be in present, but if the mother wanted him there he'd compl...
A. 8 July 2012: I can't believe there are guys that would not feel a nature urge to help the person they love, and got pregnant, in this incredibly grueling time for the woman. Sure its scarey, I think more so for the woman. Unless its a c-section and she is full... (read in full...)
Is rimming weird or fairly common?
Q. Hello fellow Cupid-ers, I have very much enjoyed reading your site, and contributing in my own small way. You all seem like wonderful open-minded people. So to ask a taboo question to as sympathetic an audience as I'm ever likely to get: ever ...
A. 8 July 2012: Maybe those that enjoy this do so because it is not "normal". I have past girlfriends who have been gravely ill because the guy at the time had an anus fetish. I agree that the porn industry is probably responsible for the popularity of anal ... (read in full...)
My friend cheated on her husband, should I tell him?
Q. I have a "friend" who has admitted to me that she has cheated on her husband before they got married last Sept. Though I do enjoy her company, I'm not close with her. I was rather shocked that she would tell me something like this because my fiancee ...
A. 8 July 2012: It will be bad for your relationship when it all comes out, as it eventually will, and you fiance finds you didn't tell him about this significant bit of gossip. He may wonder what else you don't tell him, or worse, that you condone her actions or ... (read in full...)
My partner want to try sexual positions like in "50 shades of grey" and I'm not confortable with it
Q. Hi there, sorry if this seems a bit long but here I go. I've been with my partner for 4 years now, we're in a loving relationship, lifes been good, however, the sex part's worrying me. It's not that we're having too much or too little sex, it's that ...
A. 6 July 2012: Maybe its his way of getting you more involved? If you are an active participant in your lovemaking then trying different positions should come naturally and I would be surprised he thought of this idea.
I don't know the 50 shades thing thou... (read in full...)
What are some of your ideas/experiences with having sex outdoors?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a extremely happy relationship. We have been together for 5 years and I am planning to spend the rest of my life with him (cheesy I know!) We have had sex before however we want to know places outside were we could do it. ...
A. 6 July 2012: Hey, just use your imagination. If you wear a dress you can commit the deed fairly discretely almost anywhere. As long as you don't make too much noise. With dark clothes a neighbours garden would be good. At dusk on a beach or in a park is good. I ... (read in full...)
I had a one-night=stand, he said he would call and didn't. How long should I wait before I delete him as a friend?
Q. So, I had an unplanned one night stand on Sunday. I normally never do one night stands. Only did it once before. I have heard so much from friends about guys being all nice and then never calling back and that has been my experience too last time, ...
A. 6 July 2012: Yes, you messed it up a bit. You should have left the ¨I don't usually do this" till later. Now you told him you are embarrassed that you had sex with him. Although you didn't mean to put him down I am sure he took that way. You were the one to cast ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is below average, so - does size really matter?
Q. Here's the deal. My boyfriend (whom I love very much and plan on spending my life with) is on the small size. And by small size...I mean a good deal below average (both in length and girth). And I realize that this probably shouldn't bother me, but ...
A. 29 June 2012: How big he gets is a function of how turned on he is, and that is seriously affected by how turned on you are. Just chill out, forget pills or mentioning anything at all to him. Just relax and have fun. Start with oral and 69 and just let things ... (read in full...)
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