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Why do I shake when near climaxing? I'm embarrassed. Is it normal?

Q.   So when and my boyfriend are doing foreplay I obviously get turned up to the point of climaxing and when I know I'm nearing that I get him to stop. I do this because I tend to shake when I do. I'm worried that he'll find it weird which is why I st...

A.   11 October 2012: Dont stop yourself as he will think he is doing something wrong. If you cant find the right words to say (like thats great) then just make some approving sounds or moans. As long as your arms and legs dont flail around to the point you could injure ... (read in full...)

My guy's mother hates me. How can I get her to accept me and her grandson?

Q.   I met my bf three years ago just before he left to go over seas with the army. We didnt "offically" start dating until he came home because he didnt think it was fair to ask me to wait for him, We wrote each other almost daily and I waited for...

A.   11 October 2012: Poor you. I think it is fairly normal for mothers to resent the woman that takes her son away but I am afraid this is an extreme case. Actually physically slapping you is almost unforgivable. Your husband is right and you have to be strong fo... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?

Q.   My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...

A.   9 October 2012: OP he is taking advantage of your feelings and playing with you. So he tells you he didn'tp have feelings for 80% of the women he had sex with, is that supposed to make you feel good? And what about the other 20%? I don't think the feelings he had ... (read in full...)

Why do I ask questions knowing I will get hurt? Especially as she didn't cheat on me, it's all about before we met..

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for one year. She is 28 years old and she had an affair with a married man when she was still married few years back. Her then husband was a womanizer and that's when she got involved with this sweet talking ...

A.   6 October 2012: some focus on the jealousy angle when guys get upset about their partners past. Along with many guys I also can get pretty upset to learn that someone used, abused, hurt, or simply made fun of the woman I love and care about. Sometimes the woma... (read in full...)

Unprotected sex - how safe is it?

Q.   I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a while now. During this time I've been paying close attention to my monthly cycle and we avoided having sex during the danger-zone (even with protection, I didn't want to risk it). I feel now that I know ...

A.   6 October 2012: Yes, we used this form of birth control and have 5 unplanned children. I guess without birth control we might have had nearly 20 by now so your method must work a bit! I would expect you are pregnant within about 2 years unless you are very care... (read in full...)

How does one get past being cheated on? I'm having anxiety attacks over it.

Q.   How do you move past being cheated on? I've tried I get anxiety attacks and I don't feel good enough for anyone. I've even sat around and cried is it something I did what can I do to ensure this wont happen again....

A.   5 October 2012: Many relationships end with one partner cheating, or finding another partner, the cheater is happy and the one left behind is sad. I am sorry but this bad experience is something that most of us go through and maybe helps us find better partners in ... (read in full...)

Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.

Q.   I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...

A.   5 October 2012: No this is not cheating. It was not thoughtful of him to tell you but definitely not cheating. This is one of those guy things that guys don't understand why women get upset about. ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my husband with his best friend (out of revenge for my husband cheating on me) and had a baby which my husband thinks is his. Should I tell him the truth?

Q.   I had an affair 2 years ago with my husbands best friend who is also married and got pregnant. I had the affair out of revenge for him cheating on me. Not that its an excuse I know it was still wrong. I know its his baby cause my husband had a ...

A.   5 October 2012: The truth will come out eventually but for the sake of your children you might as well keep it to yourself for as long as possible. I saw a statistic that up to 20% of children don't have the father they think they have, so you are not alone in this ... (read in full...)

Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.

Q.   I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...

A.   4 October 2012: Well I realize from the responses that this is something women generally have strong feelings about. I am pleased I never needed to fess up to my wife on such happenings, although maybe I had usually drunk too much to really remember. I would say ... (read in full...)

I am so in love with her. But my friend's actions with her, prior to us being a couple, make me feel bad. How do I learn from this? Stay? Or breakup?

Q.   I'm in my first relationship with a girl i am madly in love with and have been dating her for nearly a year. she was the first and only person i've kissed or done anything with physically and are relationship is really really good and we have been...

A.   4 October 2012: OP, I really don't know if we can help you much but I can say that I understand where you are coming from. You have 2 issues to deal with. First, when your girlfriend met you and your friend she picked him over you. Well, that happens to most ... (read in full...)

Is it because she has already done it all? She's been wild sexually in the past with others. Now she is happy with if fortnightly.

Q.   I have a question and I was hoping I could get some insight from the females on here. I will try to keep it short, but I feel I have to give a little background so you guys know the full story. Both my girlfriend and I are pretty close to getting...

A.   3 October 2012: Your girlfriend matches very similarly with a girl I know, and girlfrienfs of friends. Her past has affected her view and meaning of sex, possibly making it quite a negative experience. She is unlikely to build a sex and love connection again. I am ... (read in full...)

I always have to prompt b/f to wear a condom. Is this normal?

Q.   Hi, Hope you can help. I have recently started a new relationship with a guy. Now I am not very sexually experienced but know we have to be careful, so am on the pill. Everytime we slept together I have had to prompt my boyfriend to wear a condom...

A.   3 October 2012: Your body is yours, you decide what you do with it and you make sure guys know what your rules are. Dont be shy or afraid to make this totally clear. Guys will always try to avoid condoms. As you take the pill your chances of getting accidentally ... (read in full...)

Interested in a guy in class, but I'm getting mixed signals from him.

Q.   Hey everybody. So, I recently had a drunken hookup with a guy I met in one of my classes. Before this thing happened, I could tell by the way we interacted with each other, he was somewhat interested...which probably explains how we ended up...

A.   3 October 2012: Some people dont like texting. Try having lunch together and talking, thats a much better way of getting to know someone. If he doesnt want lunch then you have your answer, he just wanted the sex. Generally if you want to get to know someone bett... (read in full...)

What are recommended lubes people have used. And What works best for the painful morning after stomach aches and muscle cramps?

Q.   I'm newly wed of 2 months now and so I've been exploring many new things lately as new couples do. I was wondering what the best lube is that feels warm and maybe adds to your sensitivity? One other question... What works best for the painful ...

A.   2 October 2012: Lube can be a lot of fun! True it shouldnt be necessary but still beats saliva on a clitoris!! We got some bottles of water based lube with interesting aromas like artificial pina colada etc etc. Fun on nipples too.... (read in full...)

If a man in a relationship had a choice of sex or a blow job, then why does he so often prefer the latter?

Q.   I'm trying to better understand men. Psychologically, what makes them more in the mood for a blow job over sex in the context of a relationship?...

A.   2 October 2012: Well I definitely prefer sex, maybe some guys enjoy a bj because the feeling is more intense, or just maybe because they are a bit lazy and just want to lie back and enjoy. My wife really likes giving a bj and gets very turned on so I always give ... (read in full...)

Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?

Q.   Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months ...

A.   30 September 2012: OP if it was just sex and you believe he is honestly remorseful then he may turn into a truely faithful husband who learnt a lesson and will never do that again. Or he may become a repeat offender, I m afraid only you can really decide. Men and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriends disrespectful past is stopping me from moving on with our future?

Q.   My boyfriend has been terrible in the past, staring at other women in public, buying disgusting mens magazines and putting them in plain sight where i could see them and thinking nothing of it, flirting with other girls behind my back and thinking ...

A.   30 September 2012: OP you dont give any info about your boyfriend, ie age, previous relationships, etc but what you describe sounds like pretty normal single guy behaviour. Whats behind your "dishonest" label? That sounds serious and maybe you are looking for a reason ... (read in full...)

Air trapped in the vagina during doggy style - any suggestions? Anyone else had this problem?

Q.   When my husband and I have sex doggy style - sometimes he gets so much air in there it hurts for hours! I don't know what I can do about this. I haven't told him this before - I didn't want to make him feel bad cause I know hes not trying to hurt ...

A.   28 September 2012: I think you need to tell your husband to be a bit more gentle. Apart from the air it sounds like he is being too rough and that is probably hurting you more. My wife often gets air inside her in this position and a vagina pumped up with air is not a ... (read in full...)

My threesomes have come back to haunt me

Q.   I am really in a bind and I don't know what to do. A little over a year ago I met my now fiancé. When we met we clicked instantly and became an item right away. He is charming, intelligent, attractive, educated and an all around great guy. About...

A.   27 September 2012: Well I think it is clear that you have messed up even if your reason for lying was basically good in that you didn't want him to feel bad about being compared with the other guys you had fun with. Sadly it is even worse now because now he knows you ... (read in full...)

Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.

Q.   Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...

A.   20 September 2012: OP, you know what curiosity did to the cat! Yes its fine to imagine but most fantasies are best left as that. Sex without love and confidence in your partner is just a different way of masturbating. If you went through with this it is 99% certain ... (read in full...)

His behaviour and attitudes are unsettling. Should I leave him while I can?

Q.   Before we married, my husband was really into me (always holding my hand, kissing - being intimate in every way but no actual sex). I thought our honeymoon would be non-stop, but over the course of 10 days we had sex maybe five times. I was very...

A.   20 September 2012: Good sex needs both people involved. If you are doubtful as you sound you are then your hb will sense this and not get turned on. If it was so god at the beginning then what changed? As for his comments, yes I agree with all the others that he ... (read in full...)

I cheated on him 4 times when we were first together, we are now in love and wanting to get married....should I come clean?

Q.   Hello Everyone..I need urgent help regarding this question...I broke up with a guy after being in a relationship for six years..This changed my life.. i became very careless regarding love and lusted for every single guy i knew..I started dating a ...

A.   18 September 2012: OP you don't need to be punished though if you tell him you would be forever by his sadness and what you will lose - maybe everything. Ignore the meaningless idea that you are "building a future on lies". You are who you are now and that is what you ... (read in full...)

Sex issues with my virgin girlfriend, any help would be much obliged!

Q.   Hi all again. So me and my gal have been going together over a year now and she has gotten much more comfortable with me fooling around with her. She still is really shy when it comes to reciprocating. I have two questions, one that pertains to ...

A.   17 September 2012: Hey OP, far too much analysis and stress by the sounds of things. Firstly your gf, I am sure her vagina is totally normal she is not relaxed hence the "shape" you perceive, which is very unlikely anything to do with her hymen. Has she enjoyed an o... (read in full...)

Is my self medical abortion unsuccessful?

Q.   Dear cupids, Help!!!. I recently had a strip test and found a slight second red line. By my calculation, I was 32 days pregnant. So I used the misoprostol alone procedure to terminate it for I have been taught on how to take the medicine in a two ...

A.   14 September 2012: Yes, I know its a shock but you have to be sensible, please go to a doctor and explain what happened and get looked after. Dont be shy or embaressed, doctors deal with all kinds of stuff that people do, thats their job! And talk about birth control ... (read in full...)

Why do people always say its good to be a virgin? what's so great about it?

Q.   Im an 18yr old guy, just out of school, and I'm still a virgin...I don't understand why it's so hard...why I dislike it so much...I feel like I'm missing out...like everyone else is in on something that I'm not a part of. Then people say its a good ...

A.   13 September 2012: OP you are smart enough to ask the questions but you have to work a bit on the answer. All we can do is try to explain that we all muddled through these issues one way or another. Forget the big sex issue, because the most important thing for you ... (read in full...)

I don't understand why he would leave his amazing wife for a much younger woman? Help me understand so I can talk to him!

Q.   hello aunts, never thought i would be on here. ive seen alot of people writing about age gap. im trying to understand my best friends relationship, ive known him since we were 20 years old. when he got married i was his best man, and the woman he ...

A.   13 September 2012: You didn't mention sex! Middle age guys will often go on a do or die mission to find a younger model with much more sex "miles" in her. Also it sounds like he doesn't have kids with wife#1? He is still young enough to have his "own" family. And if ... (read in full...)

Debate: Can a guy and girl really be just friends? All responses welcome guys and girls!

Q.   Simple question. Its something I've pondered for a while now. Can a guy and girl really be just friends? So many times you hear about friends getting together after a long time. I have a particular guy friend, who in my mind I'm just friends ...

A.   12 September 2012: There is always attraction. How can you be such good friends without it. But there is a line which is maintained. Neither is bold enough to cross it for fear of not getting back. And thats the crunch, once you cross that line you don't get back to ... (read in full...)

What would you think of an otherwise decent woman having a one night stand in the distant past?

Q.   If you were dating a woman of good standing, moral fibre and integrity.... what would you think of her if you found out she made one big mistake several years ago in the form of a one night stand found from the internet? Would who she is today be ...

A.   11 September 2012: Its not realy a question of right or wrong but more that you share similar values with future partners. When we were young, even virgins, who and how we have sex is given great significance. I remember only thinking sex meant love until I met a girl ... (read in full...)

Do I leave my wife over breast implants?

Q.   my wife lies to me she had a breast implants done without my permission i dont like it what will i do. leave her?...

A.   7 September 2012: OP, did you not discuss this? Did you not understand her feelings? It is very important to a woman how her breasts look and how she feels about them. Even more so after having babies. Sure if they are blown up lime balloons she and you have a ... (read in full...)

Why do people always say its good to be a virgin? what's so great about it?

Q.   Im an 18yr old guy, just out of school, and I'm still a virgin...I don't understand why it's so hard...why I dislike it so much...I feel like I'm missing out...like everyone else is in on something that I'm not a part of. Then people say its a good ...

A.   7 September 2012: OP there is always a special someone for every one of us. Give up thinking you are waiting and do things that are fun and will show your special someone that you are fun to be with. Its pretty likely you are going to meet her in the next year or ... (read in full...)

I can't get over this male model but he doesn't like me in that way. Should I lose my virginity to him?

Q.   Hi, I am a lost person at the moment. I had a thing with a male model we romanced three times with one almost leading to sex but I refused because I knew he did not like me. I still like this guy, even when I forgot him I dream about him and that ...

A.   7 September 2012: You are right it does sound silly. If you just want to have sex at least find someone who likes you a bit more, a friends brother for example!!! Unfortunately we often end up regretting many actions we take lightly and for the wrong reason. If you ... (read in full...)

Is stealing a shirt really such a horrible thing? Will this affect my job application?

Q.   Hello again, I posted a question a few days ago about a test I had to take for a job. Well I passed the test, yay! But now I am into the background check and then onto a lie detector/polygraph test. I have a couple questions about this. One, has a...

A.   7 September 2012: Tricky question. Many people could get away with this because they have forgotten it and it is so insignificant that they will show no physical response if asked about it. You on the other hand would break out in a cold sweat with your pulse going ... (read in full...)

How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?

Q.   I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...

A.   6 September 2012: If it was his best mate then its sure your friend found out about it. Whilst he may be open minded and respect your right to have sex when and with whom you like he would have to be madly in love with you to put up with the ridicule of dating a girl ... (read in full...)

How can I control my urges? They're driving me crazy!

Q.   Hi, I am 22 year old virgin male , who has a high sex drive. Is it wrong, all I seem to do is maturbate but it doesn't work. Every time I' am out, can't stop looking at girls, But feel weird because I look at breasts and other areas like Thier bums ...

A.   31 August 2012: Haha, join the club, there is already a few billion in it! Just relax but be considerate of how and where you gaze. A girl probably isnt going to want to know you if stare at her crotch and turn into one of pavlovs dogs!!! I recommend looking into... (read in full...)

I'm never turned on or want sex!

Q.   Ok so, me and my boyfriend have been together two 1/2 years. Everything about him fits me like a puzzle piece. The only problem is that...I'm like never turned on. I never want to have sex, and even if we do start fooling around I have to use lube ...

A.   31 August 2012: Are you taking the pill? This killed libido for one ex gf. Might be worth talking to your doc. I would suggest a lady doc would probably relate better. Otherwise look at your lifestyle, are you find quality time for your relationship? After a while ... (read in full...)

My husband lied about his ex for THREE years

Q.   I've know my husband all my life. We reconnected about three years ago and have been married for six months. We've had problems in the past about his ex. They were together for seven years but they don't have any children and they weren't married. ...

A.   29 August 2012: There are white lies intended to defuse and dismiss an unwanted line of questions and then there are blatant cheating covering up lies. You have to decide which they are. Not telling the whole truth is not exactly lying although it may feel like it ... (read in full...)

How can I gain more confidence in order to save my marriage?

Q.   i dont know why but im shy to strip for my husband...how can i get comfortable in my own skin? after i gave birth i got stretch marks and i dont like my body anymore.this is ruining my marriage and i hardly hv sex with my man anymr...i want to be ...

A.   22 August 2012: From a male perspective I would like you to know that your husband loves YOU. Your loss of confidence in yourself will give your hb the feeling that you aren't interested in him any more. Please talk with him and explain whats upsetting you. Then go ... (read in full...)

After ten years of marriage, I find out my husband has had an affair.

Q.   I am writing because I need advice. After 10 years of marriage and two kids of ages 8 and 2, I found recently that my husband was having an affair. I kicked him out of the house but now I want him back. My husband now blames me for our split and ...

A.   21 August 2012: OP, I am sorry you find yourself in such a situation. Many couple pass by this situation, some survive, most don't try and end up in the divorce court blaming each other for everything that went wrong. The reality is that it takes 2 to make a ... (read in full...)

Has anyone else ever felt this cramp in their toes at the point of orgasm? What is it? How is it fixed?

Q.   This is going to sound silly, but every time I get close to orgasm, I get the worst cramp ever in my toes, which kinda spoils the moment! It's never been a problem until now....and all this week, my almost orgasms (both solo and with my BF) have ...

A.   21 August 2012: I guess like everything we do that is physical we can get cramps. Try getting a mineral addative, I think it is a lack of magnesium that causes cramps, check with a pharmasist, and follow directions, of course.... (read in full...)

How can I fix this, we had sex and now she hasn't seen me much!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. And in that time, we've taken things really slow. Mainly because I'm the first guy she's ever dated. I've never minded the rate at which our relationship has moved because I love being with ...

A.   20 August 2012: Good grief, go to her, tell her you miss her, don't say sorry, don't make it sound like you did something wrong or regrettable. Just tell her you love her and want to be with her. How can you have waited so long??... (read in full...)

Should I be upset about planning an abortion?

Q.   I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...

A.   15 August 2012: At the moment your hormones make you feel good. After the termination you may well cry a lot, you will have a roller coaster ride with those hormones! Many years ago my girlfriend terminated a pregnancy and whilst it might not have been my child I ... (read in full...)

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