How do I learn to talk dirty?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a year...we are both grown adults...our relationship has been sexual for a while..i'm very shy and he wants to teach me how to talk dirty for him...I am willing to but I am so shy that I can't! How can I get over ...
A. 8 February 2012: Sounds like your bf isnt very grown up even if he is an adult! He's obviously watched too many porn movies. Do and say what feels right. Don't think you have to make a show for him.... (read in full...)
A guy online sends me raunchy messages. Should I stop talking to him?
Q. Ok so i met this guy in a Chatroom and he seems really nice but he's 21 and I'm 16 he texts me kind of raunchy stuff like where he wants to have sex with me but I told him I'm a virgin and he lives in NY and Im in Ohio he says he wants to hook up ...
A. 8 February 2012: Well you asked the question because you have doubts and that was good. You know that you know absolutely nothing about him. So a stranger is telling you he wants to have sex with you? Your natural reaction is good. Now you do one more thing. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend kept all photos/numbers of his ex girlfriends but lied to me about it
Q. hi im in a new relationship but had problems already my boyfriend kept all hes exes letters photos and numnbers after telling me he had got rid of them .its only been over a month and i dont want to lose trust ....
A. 7 February 2012: I think it is totally normal to keep photos etc as memories of our lives. Clearly if one partner is constantly looking at or dreaming about their past then a current partner has some justification to complain. Also if the photos are too explicit ... (read in full...)
No double standard - I just want one off sex
Q. I'd like advice about meeting with a guy I met online. To lead up to this question, I must explain I've only been in long lasting relationships since I was 15. I've never really been single. My ex cheated on me last month and I'm still upset, but my ...
A. 3 February 2012: You have good advice. Be careful and try to get to know people first. Remember that once you take the easy and no-strings sex path you may have problems with future partners that may still value your choice of who you are intimate with. Once you ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 3 February 2012: I still contend that the porn and more general sex industry is a result of sexually frustrated men (mostly). A man in a fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationship will glance at porn like you would glace at a new car or anything else that takes ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a neighbour. Should I tell my husband?
Q. Very Sad Hello, this is long so bear with me, I have been married for 12 years with my husband for 13 years, we have two small kids, I have been happy for most of my marriage and my husband is basicaly a good man, however in our marriage he gamb...
A. 3 February 2012: Never tell your husband as it will probably destroy him. just forget what happened and totally ignore the other guy. you were lonely and he took advantage of you. You should feel some guilt but remind yourself that feeling is due to the love you and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry with me for wanting to go on a diet
Q. ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is ...
A. 2 February 2012: OP you have good advice below. Quick diets may have some effect but often end up with more weight being put on as the body prepares itself for the next time you try and starve it!! Much better to modify long term what you eat and do. Cut out some ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 2 February 2012: and as a PS to Person12345, I can confirm that the need for release definately feels biological even if it isnt. And why wait 72 hours for sperm to be absorbed when I can deal with it in a few minutes. And what happens to the new build up in the 72 ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 2 February 2012: I agree that women have sex drives and can get the same stress, frustration, etc because of it there are a few really big differences. 1. Most women are only really horny a few days a month, for men it is continuous. 2. When a woman wants sex with ... (read in full...)
Tips needed for improving my hand job technique
Q. my boyfriend says im the best hes had in bed, and unbelievable at oral.. but when it comes to hand jobs they need some work. i want to be good at giving hand jobs, i never really do it cause i feel awkward. i dont know what to do because i find its ...
A. 1 February 2012: If men want a hand job they can usually do it best for themselves. But you could always ask you boyfriend to show how he does it and take notes. Just like how to please a women all men are probably a bit different. Personally I like a firm grip and ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 1 February 2012: Wow what a lot of debate on such a simple topic. Its easy for a man to understand but obviously eludes some women (luckily not my wife!!) but the simple fact is that to a greater or lessor extent men need sex. We produce sperm continuosly ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 31 January 2012: You said it yourself OP, when women don't want sex men use porn and everyone stays more or less happy. That does not imply men prefer Porn or want a real woman less!!! In fact I find it quite the opposite. Porn can make me really horny and ... (read in full...)
Wife prefers for us to take care of our own needs rather than have sex
Q. Hi everybody. Wife and I are both around 50 with 4 kids. The youngest is 17. Our sex life is very hit and miss and has been all through our marriage. Her sex drive is low but she masturbates regularly, though she denies that she does it as much as ...
A. 30 January 2012: Your wife is probably getting hormone changes that will reduce her desire although not her ability to have an orgasm. I do recognise the ability not to discuss and I wouldnt push her on that topic. My wife is also starting menopause and its good to ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to see sex as another job/chore. My husband jokes its my "duty" but I really feel like telling him he can shove it
Q. My and my H have been together for over 10 years and have 2 children we both work full time. I am 27 and he is 35 we get on great and normally I have the higher sex drive however atm I just don't have the energy/need to have sex I haven't lost my ...
A. 26 January 2012: This is a topic that is recognised by most working parents and it rapidly polarises male and female opinion. Some of the posts show that women feel men don't understand how much work they do and how exhausting life is. From a male perspective it ... (read in full...)
My husband is against abortions but doesn't know I may be pregnant. Is it wrong to get an abortion and never tell him?
Q. How wrong would it be to have an abortion without my husband's knowledge? He is completely against abortion, but we have a 5 month old baby and I don't want anymore kids now. I misused my new birth control pills accidentally. He doesn't know that I ...
A. 26 January 2012: Check if you are pregnant first and then decide. Surprise him with the news and tell him you will need a nanny, a new car and a bigger house. He may suggest termination himself! Terminations of pregnancies is no big deal and usually allows the p... (read in full...)
"Feeling insecure about them Toys in the Bedroom
Q. Ok here it goes its my b-day and my man has surprised me yet again. He wants to buy a toy dildo and use it on me for HIS own pleasure. But its MY b-day im the one who should be getten Pleasured. Right? I was down for it at first.but started thinkin ...
A. 25 January 2012: Your husband really could have just got it for your pleasure so don't go thinking badly about him as hes not being selfish. If you havent played with one together then it could be fun and you can use it to teach him what you like best etc. I bought ... (read in full...)
How can I make my G/f feel more special?
Q. I am going out with a girl who is very quiet, i thought it was low attraction at start but it was down to her personality. i think she really likes me alot, remembers everything i say, laughs at everything and always wants to text and meet when she ...
A. 20 January 2012: Don't try to overdo it. By wanting to be with her and making her feel good is already special. Its the little things that show you care, dont shower in gifts, bring her tea, coffee, a flower, mend or replace something that is worn out or broken. ... (read in full...)
I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?
Q. Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was ...
A. 18 January 2012: Hi OP, your situation is very similar to one in my past. Girlfriend of 3 years had sex one or two times with another guy got pregnant, big mess. DNA testing wasn't an option. She had a termination and we got back together for 4 years but there was ... (read in full...)
I just found out my partner was a prostitute
Q. Just found out that my partner was a prostitute - apparently a one off that she dreadfully regrets...I love her but am at a loss what to do now...sorry so short but I'm too upset for many details. ...
A. 17 January 2012: So your partner has a friend that works in the escort agency and basically acts as a pimp? or does she just "connect" her mutual aquaintences? Is this friend responsible for your girlfriend trying this line of work? I would be mega uncomfortable ... (read in full...)
He wanted sex. I had my period. Finally I agreed to do it, as I was horny. But it all ended badly, with him freaking out. Was his reaction excessive disgust?
Q. This may gross some people out with I need some honest opinions... I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis. Well the other night he came over and I was on my period (a very light one) so I declined sex and just gave him head. Well the ...
A. 17 January 2012: You are worried about HIS feelings??!! Forget this guy and find someone who cares about your feelings.... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: Yes, I agree with advice below. 2 weeks from your period you are very likely to be pregnant. Unless you want a child with your wreckless partner you must seek help even if you you have to make him buy you an air ticket. Afterwards thing hard about ... (read in full...)
I found out my wife had 2 abortions and never told me. I don't know what to do now
Q. We have been together for 5 years and we got married a few months ago. Recently she got pregnant, however 6-7 weeks later, it turned out to be a miscarriage. During one of the visits at the gyn, the doctor mentioned that this is her third abortion. ...
A. 17 January 2012: What a shock for you. After a few years marriage we feel like we know everything about our partner and then something like this happens that makes you feel like everything you believed in was fake, a lie. You have my sympathy. I have shared these ... (read in full...)
His continued porn use is eating away my love for him!
Q. I need some male answere to understand what is going on or going wrong in our relationship. I try to make it simple. Here are the facts: We are married for a long time,still in love, have lots of hot sex (never boring!!!!), I am still very attra...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi Anonymous OP. Sorry you are getting so stressed over this. My first comment is that you need to tell your hubby to be more considerate about covering his tracks. If your husband is not over indulging in viewing extremely gross porn, especially ... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 13 January 2012: Exes can be a problem when you stay friends. You dont explain why she is an ex but I am not sure if she is as sinister and manipulative as others suggest. The most screwed up situations arise more often by chance. But you are both young and maybe ... (read in full...)
Should a married couple share almost everything?
Q. I'm asking about how much openness there should be in a marriage. Not just a relationship, but a marriage. I think that once you make that step to commit to be together for the rest of your lives, things change. My wife and I are very open with e...
A. 13 January 2012: There are no rules here, people work out their own level of information sharing. Your friend sounds a bit paranoid or at least insecure. Maybe he has reason to be as you dont know about their relationship. In my marriage there are few secrets as far ... (read in full...)
I didn't mean to, but now I'm stuck faking orgasms for my boyfriend!
Q. The first time me and my boyfriend did anything sexual, which was just fingering, I faked it. I dont know why, but I could tell he was getting tired, and frustrated, because i've never actually orgasmed before, and although it felt really good, I ...
A. 12 January 2012: Don't tell your boyfriend you were faking on purpose, it wont help. It sounds like he is a novice or he would already have noticed. You need to play with youself to find out what is best. I think guys are often too rough, and tend to go straight for ... (read in full...)
My husband, the stripper and the bouncer
Q. A few days ago, my husband came to me and told me that he had been taken advantage of by a stripper. He had gone to a strip club for lunch and a show. A stripper convinced him to go in the back room for a private dance for $20. Once there, she ...
A. 11 January 2012: I'm sorry but I had to chuckle when I read your story. Your husbands regretful state doesn't tally with the story. If he's so upset then why did he go to a stripbar for lunch, why did he pay extra for a private show? I, like many faithful husbands... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got angry because I am too small for sex! What should I do?
Q. my vagina is too small for me to have sex. my boyfriend got angry!!! what can i do? should I make it bigger? but how?...
A. 11 January 2012: Everything sounds wrong here, your boyfriend for gettfing mad, and you for believing your vagina can be too small for sex. Anyone who has witnessed childbirth will know the amazing capabilities of a vagina! !!
You don't give much info but it soun... (read in full...)
I just found out my partner was a prostitute
Q. Just found out that my partner was a prostitute - apparently a one off that she dreadfully regrets...I love her but am at a loss what to do now...sorry so short but I'm too upset for many details. ...
A. 11 January 2012: Hey, as I said on a similar topic a few months ago, many women, including my wife, had sex with strangers in exchange for a couple of beers, or less. It didnt mean anything to my wife at the time, and I expect it didnt to yours. There is an impact ... (read in full...)
My b/f says that since I have been with others, he needs to have that experience too
Q. my bf and i have been together for 3 yrs now. I was with other men before we got together but i was his first. i love him very much and he says he feels the same but he wants to be with other women. he says that since i have been with other men he ...
A. 7 January 2012: As said before, your past is none of his business, but clearly you told him stuff that has made it his business. Just as you expect him to understand you and your past you should have done the same with him. You have forgotten how significant the ... (read in full...)
1st time about anal sex and I'm worried about it being messy!
Q. hello all, i am going to be embarking into the world of anal sex starting in a few days and i'm really excited, but also worried! to be blunt i am worried about poo and that i will poo myself! i am also worried about the hygiene of it and any do...
A. 6 January 2012: This is one of those things, like getting blind drunk, taking drugs, etc where curiosity takes control. There is no doubt that the porn industry has hightened this curiosity but I am far from convinced that it has a place in a normal loving sexual ... (read in full...)
Us women want Pleasure Too!
Q. Why is it that most men ALWAYS want their Women to go DOWN on them. BUT in return Some men DONT want to go DOWN on their Women. Why is that? US WOMEN WANT TO BE PLEASURED TOO!...
A. 6 January 2012: I guess its difficult to find out in advance if a guy likes doing this as its not really a topic you would bring up in casual conversation. A woman could always make it a prerequisite before actual sex, most guys would probably do almost anything in ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting responses from my ad on dating site. Help?
Q. I have joined a dating site, being an Indian girl I am not getting much response from American and canadian guys. I really dont have any problem dating a guy other than my race. Could you guys please help me in some way. Any suggestion will be ...
A. 5 January 2012: Don't forget there are other ways to meet people. Join clubs, teams, go to night school, gym, dancing, whatever. Be proud of you and you will meet the right person. stop trying to sell youself like an unwanted sofa! :)
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I'm ashamed of my actions!
Q. Hi everyone I am asking for advice here as I can´t discuss this problem with anyone. I am so shocked and ashamed by my actions that I have no words for it. I was at a party recently with my husband and some of our mutual friends. We were havi...
A. 5 January 2012: Tell your husband if you want to break his heart and hurt him forever, otherwise forget it as a moment of drunken irresponsibility.... (read in full...)
Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?
Q. Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he ...
A. 14 December 2011: If the condom hurts then it will be a problem, otherwise, at your age, I could stay hard for a month with a naked women next to me! :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me when his kids are visiting at all.
Q. The newest idea of my live in boyfirend? We can not have sex when his kids are over (every other week) because he is afraid that they can "walk in" on us and get traumatized! They are 5 and 9. He does not want to lock the door because he does not ...
A. 14 December 2011: If the two of you make an issue of this then you will have so much stress you won't want sex anyway. He does have a point, but maybe is he not yet comfortable with you in bed with him with his kids around? Do they come into the room when you are ... (read in full...)
I'm off the pill but we are still having trouble in and out of the bedroom. Is there anything I can do?
Q. I have had a lot of troubles in the bedroom with my boyfriend. It has been going on for a few months. When i decided to go off the pill, because it was affecting me negatively emotionally and healthwise.. and it also took away all urges to eve...
A. 14 December 2011: As everyone has pointed out you do have issues in the sex department. Before you give up on the relationship how are the other aspects? Is he a good friend and companion? When it comes to sex problems seem to snowball. I know from previous girlfri... (read in full...)
Why do men focus so much on female orgasm?
Q. Why do men focus so much on female orgasm? My bf is insecure because he's only been able to make me orgasm twice orally in the 4 months we've been together and if I don't orgasm, he sees it as failure and it prevents him from being hard again to ...
A. 6 December 2011: I join with the group of men for whom it is really important that my mate has an orgasm during sex. Its nothing to do with ego, I just enjoy watching and feeling her body wriggle as she flys through the clouds or wherever she goes! Its just great. ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask of a guy to put up with my distrustfulness and help me work through to a normal relationship one day at a time?
Q. Is low self esteem a big turn off? I don't mean like to the point where you feel like hiding in the basement is all you're worth. I mean, not accepting compliments easily because you think their false. This goes in with my question. I DO NOT have ...
A. 6 December 2011: OP, you don't have a warped personality! It sounds like you are growing aware of the reality of the world. Most young people have varying degrees of insecurity, some show it more than others. Your distrustfulness is a healthy defense mechanism. Try ... (read in full...)
Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not?
Q. Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not? ...
A. 5 December 2011: I could turn this question around, why do women have sex with men before they've taken the time to discover if there is an honest bone in his body? ... (read in full...)
How can I confront my boyfriend of lying about porn?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a great relationship for the past 2 years and haven't had any big fights... except about one topic: porn. I absolutely hate it. I see it as a form of cheating. He knows I would never allow him to look another ...
A. 5 December 2011: Dear OP, your boyfriend sounds like a pretty standard red blooded male and unless you are going to make yourself very available for him he is going to spend some of his spare time masterbating cos thats what guys do. And if you had a penis you would ... (read in full...)
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