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Should I consider going to the same college/sixth form as my boyfriend next year?

Q.   Should I consider going to the same college/sixth form as my boyfriend next year? Okay so me and him have been going out a year exactly, we love each other to bits. But now I'm starting to see ahead, I want to be with him for a long time yet, and...

A.   17 April 2013: I really think the best thing is for you to both find the best college for each of you. Maybe compromise a little bit so you dont end up at opposite ends of the country. Most relationships dont survive seperation but if you want it to yours will. ... (read in full...)

I like to dress up in women's clothing and then hump a pillow. Why do I do this?

Q.   My question is embarrassing and its about a sex fetish. I tried looking it up on google and i got all kinds of porn ads n than i tried to find a sex fetish forum but couldn't find one so i found dearcupid.com. i hope my question doesn't offend ...

A.   17 April 2013: I think its pretty normal for boys and young guys to get horny with womens clothing, particularly underwear. Not having a sister i was particularly fascinated and when pubescent took every opportunity when visiting with girl cousins or daughters of ... (read in full...)

Why do girls like guys with attitude? Why can't they admit they don't like swet guys?

Q.   I’m in a relationship with my current girlfriend for the last 14 months. Before that, I was in relationship twice : for two years and one year respectively and I was dumped because I was too sweet and loveable boyfriend. Before entered into...

A.   14 April 2013: If you are serious in what you write then I think it's time you turn up with some flowers and tell her how beautiful she is. Wow, you found a girl who's used to being used as a doormat and made it worse?? Just think how much more she would have... (read in full...)

Her mother caught her doing a hand job on me and I had to leave.

Q.   My girlfriend and I were at her house we were cooling about and she was giving me a hand job her parents are strict and against us doing anything however, while she was giving me a hand job her mother saw and called josie out of the room said that I ...

A.   14 April 2013: What can you do? Think yourself really lucky her father didn't see you! The next thing you can do is keep away from her house and parents for about 5 years and then if you plan to get married you can be honourable and apologise for what happened and ... (read in full...)

First time sex and a big member.

Q.   My boyfriend has an abnormally big dick and it is physically too big for me? -I've sat on it lubed up and it would take alot of force to make it go in, were both still virgins but feel ready, how do i go about making this as less painful as possible...

A.   14 April 2013: No penis is too big to fit. A baby can fit through with a head the size of a melon! The issue is lube and relaxation. Without these no size penis will fit. You have a problem with the relaxation bit clearly, hence the question. You need to take... (read in full...)

He has been texting my ex pretending to be me

Q.   A year into our relationship, My boyfriend found out I was seeing someone when we first started dating. I had been seeing this other person for a year and although I liked him he didnt want a relationship. we were more like FWB , i stopped seeing ...

A.   14 April 2013: It's not the reality of how you met and what you did between those first two dates, rather the fact that you felt the need to lie. Lying is one thing that no one can accept because then you don't know when truth stops and lies start , anywhere... (read in full...)

He has been texting my ex pretending to be me

Q.   A year into our relationship, My boyfriend found out I was seeing someone when we first started dating. I had been seeing this other person for a year and although I liked him he didnt want a relationship. we were more like FWB , i stopped seeing ...

A.   13 April 2013: OP, I am afraid I agree that you have probably blown it. Your lying and apparent guilt has made it a lot worse. At this point he needs time to realise its not the earthquake he thinks it is. And you need to be calm tell him you love him, and tell ... (read in full...)

Orgasm question

Q.   Do you think there is such a thing as an orgasm that *requires* BOTH gspot and clitoris stimulation?? I ask because I've heard of females having either a clitoris orgasm or a vaginal orgasm. I've tried having just a vaginal orgasm or just a...

A.   13 April 2013: OP I think you are over analysing the topic. Your brain has a lot to do with how you feel. From my experience vaginas only really sense hot and cold. I practice with my wife and as long as well lubed she can't really tell the difference betwe... (read in full...)

Does sex really matter?

Q.   I have a brilliant boyfriend, he really is amazing. We have been together over a year and have lived together most of that time (we met in student accomondation.)We are both twenty and lost our virginities to each other, and I can't imagine a more ...

A.   13 April 2013: OP, you are both young and still have a lot of growing to do together. Now you are realising that you could have more fun together your task is to get your boyfriend involved. First thing, don't argue! Don't argue about anything and especially don't ... (read in full...)

How can I make the best out of a bad situation? I'm worried I'm going to be depressed in my new house next year...

Q.   I need advice on how to make the best of a bad situation, I've not dealt with something like this before so please don't judge me on what i'm about to say... I've lived in halls this year at university and now we're moving into a house for our se...

A.   10 April 2013: Welcome to reality. If you dont have rats and roaches running around the floor youre doing better that a lot of students, not to mention if rain comes through the ceiling. On the positive side there is a lot you can do to make a small room very ... (read in full...)

I feel pathetic that I want to wait for the right guy.

Q.   I can't help but get rid of this feeling and stop feeling pathetic because I haven't had sex yet and i'm nearly 21! At university all my friends have already slept with more than 5 people, I haven't even slept with one and while they're getting with ...

A.   10 April 2013: Sex is far from the only fun in life and especially for young people it also brings many problems. Dont judge yourself against what your friends do or think. Instead be satisfied that you have your own mind and have not allowed others to persuade ... (read in full...)

My teenage son wears my women's underwear, what should I do?

Q.   My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to ...

A.   8 April 2013: Op I dont know how much you look at the port thete is out on the internet but I think you can find just about anything being put in someones anus. Itsa real problem for children that see this, especially curious ones. I honestly think its time for ... (read in full...)

Is a rebound relationship a good idea? He is my new Bf after my recent breakup. My new Bf recently also broke up with his former Gf.

Q.   I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years. About a month ago and I kept joking to one of my guy friends, who is also a friend of my boyfriend, about going on a rebound Then a few days ago when I went over to his place to do some revision,...

A.   7 April 2013: Thank goodness for vomiting and mums, you were lucky to have both on your side. You probably know the answer about how you feel before you asked the question. The guy you were with was just taking advantage of you, so don't worry if you never see ... (read in full...)

When is a woman at her sexual peak?

Q.   When is a women's sexial prime...

A.   7 April 2013: This question has many answers, physically I would say around 18 is the best for stamina and marathon sex. But for fulfilling loving meaningful sex? Probably anytime, depends a lot more on relationships, stress, work, children, etc. after having all ... (read in full...)

Should I make my partner be checked for STD before having sex?

Q.   Okay, so I'm 15 years old and I was thinking about the future. I'm not planning to have sex anytime soon, but when I am ready, I wanna make sure I'm being safe. I was wondering if it would be weird if I make my future partner have an STD check ...

A.   7 April 2013: You are smart to ask such questions and have good advice already and as others have said if you do some searching on DC you will get a lot of info. If you are in the UK, as it appears, you have a problem that the sexual health education in scho... (read in full...)

Should I comply with an offer from my wife's friend with full approval from my wife to impregnate her friend?

Q.   Okay! Here we go! My wife and I and our two young children are going to return to my wife's native country (not to be mentioned here) for a visit this spring and summer for about a month for me; she and the kids will stay a little longer. My wife ...

A.   7 April 2013: At 29 she has over 10 years to make a new relationship and have children with a guy who can be a real father. Possibly what she is asking now is a diversion from her grieving and is not a well thought out plan. If she really wants a child without a ... (read in full...)

Before I grew up I did wild stuff; he wants a threesome

Q.   So I was telling my boyfriend of 7 months about my semi-wild past. I've had one night stands and threesoms before, even hooked up with a hand full of girls. Those days are gone, I've grown up and gained self respect for myself. He, on the other ...

A.   6 April 2013: Well it wouldn't be cheating because you would be there and he wouldn't be lying and keeping secrets from you. However I don't think 3somes are usually very good for relationships. You would be stuck with the image of him enjoying himself with ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and his ex...is he lying?

Q.   I need advice people, here's my dilemma: I have a boyfriend of 7 months now, I met him two years ago and he did then have a gf and I had a bf, nothing came of it, just regular chats here and there. I broke up with my BF and he also broke up with his...

A.   5 April 2013: Op, you make the ex very jealous and are playing into her hand. She wants nothing more than to split you up. There is nothing that indicates your boyfriend wants to go back to this ex, he doesn't initiate meetings, etc. she was probably dominant and ... (read in full...)

I have always been conscious of how my vagina looks, and now my boyfriend has insulted the way it looks! How do I overcome this?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year now, we've had sex, taken part in oral sex on both parts. But the other day we had just had penetrative sex, so I was just led on the bed naked my legs slightly apart on my front, dozing slightly. ...

A.   3 April 2013: Why is it insulting? Guys are fascinated by vaginas but get us to describe anything about how they look or feel is pretty challenging! You boyfriends comparison to a brain is quite creative and not at all negative. Both of you should explore each ... (read in full...)

He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???

Q.   My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...

A.   3 April 2013: This is the equivalent to a girl telling a guy she's had bigger and better penises but your little one is just perfect. The logic doesn't add up. Unless you have told your bf this (in which case his reply would be totally justified) I think his ... (read in full...)

He said "I love you" after only 2 weeks and it has really freaked me out!

Q.   My boyfriend told me he loved me when he was drunk after 2 weeks...? It really freaked me out and I said nothing back. Should I confront him about it and tell him I don't think love is possible until about the 6 month mark and that it made me feel ...

A.   1 April 2013: Hmm, everyone sounds very cynical, what if he really does love you? Obviously you havent fallen head over heals in love yet! Some people can fall in love very quickly. 3 months is a good test of time though. Just how drunk was he? And was the I ... (read in full...)

I don't want kids and I'm concerned I'll end up alone

Q.   Feel like I am going to be permanently single. Been single 5 years. I don't want kids, so my dating pool is much smaller and even on online dating sites there are so few women who don't want or don't already have kids. Have lots of friends but i...

A.   1 April 2013: Maybe you should get a vasectomy so you can say you can't have kids? Most women, actually most people, expect at some time to have children, or to be in a position where they want children. For women it can become a physical need that effects ... (read in full...)

Nothing below the belt - My belt not his!

Q.   I am a 28 year old female and I am a virgin (Vaginally and Anally), Although I have given a few (2 to count them) blowjobs I have never had the desire to have full intercourse and when the option has come up I would start to shake or even cry and ...

A.   27 March 2013: Don't think of yourself as broken or having something wrong. Fear of the unknown is a totally normal response. Many young people, especially women, go through quite a few bad experiences with sex before they enjoy good ones, so don't worry about ... (read in full...)

I am concerned my boyfriend has never been sexually attracted to me

Q.   My boyfriend have been together for over a year. He was very shy in the beginning, and I was quite confident, so I was the one who initiated dating, but he was very interested and told me how much he liked me. We lost our virginity togeth...

A.   27 March 2013: This seems to be a more common problem with young guys, too much porn makes the real thing less exciting and a lot more work! Talk and ask him to involve you in his needs when you are around. But also keep it exciting, not just bedtime bedroom sex. ... (read in full...)

Is it reasonable for me to tell my wife to stop kissing other men on the lips?

Q.   I really do not like it when other men kiss my wife on the lips. These are friends - just 2 or so. They do it as a greeting, when, for example, we first meet up for the night, and then again when we say good bye. I am fairly certain it has nothing ...

A.   25 March 2013: No its not the european way. If she has always done this then maybe you shouldnt be so freaked. Does she do the same with women? I have a married friend that does this and it definately feels hot and one is tempted to linger a bit longer than a peck ... (read in full...)

How would you react to a $20 engagement ring from a well-off guy?

Q.   Hello everyone, My boyfriend proposed with a ring that he paid 20 dollars. If he was earning a low income, I would not be asking for advice. However, he drives an expensive car, has about 50 pairs of shoes, good job, etc. should I be upset? Am I ...

A.   23 March 2013: Maybe hes testing to see if you are after his money? Did you say "yes, and now can we go and buy a proper ring"? Op, there are much more important things!... (read in full...)

Do guys think experienced girls are hotter?

Q.   Do boys think girls are hotter when they find out that they have 'done stuff' with another boy ?...

A.   21 March 2013: No, far from it, especially at you age. Boys will talk and exagerate and the reputation you would get is not hot. Hot is when you look good, act confidently, yet let no one touch you. ... (read in full...)

My daughter was bullied into sending a nude photo to a boy. What should I do?

Q.   Ok, so my 13 year old daughter comes to me in the middle of the night crying because she did something really bad. She said she was pressured into sending a photo of herself nude to a boy in her class. He was being really mean and bullying towards ...

A.   21 March 2013: If you are 100% sure of your daughters account then I would approach the boys parents directly and ask them to remove the image from his phone / computer etc. It is important to be sure if the bullying was from the boy himself or other classmates. ... (read in full...)

Three days or three months, as soon as we have sex, they dump me!

Q.   I'm always used for sex. I could be with a fella 3 days or a could be with a fella for 3 months but as soon as I have sex with them they say " its not working out ". This has happened me 5 times now!!! My last fella asked me out the day after we had ...

A.   18 March 2013: The right guy is out there somewhere but you are going to have to be patient and spend a while with no boyfriend in order to have a chance to meet him. You are young and I guess the guys you are dating are the same age. Most guys aren't looking for ... (read in full...)

Does this mean that he's commitment phobic?

Q.   I've been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We haven't had sex yet, but the other night we both really wanted to. I was assuming that I'll stay at his place for the night, but he told me that he can't have me over. We go to the same ...

A.   17 March 2013: If he's been your boyfriend for nearly a year you should be close enough to talk easily and openly about what you both do and don't want. That would be much better than asking us to guess. He obviously didn't want you to stay the night. The back... (read in full...)

Resentment getting the better of me- silent treatment from husband

Q.   Hi every love guru My husband and I fight alot. And while I am usually the one to hold my temper, last night got the better of me. I said some sad stuff- like would he be open to me seeing other people and I wished he were dead. Awful, I know, but ...

A.   17 March 2013: It's very difficult with young kids. Your not getting enough sleep and he's not getting enough sex.. You have to fix this, if its not too late. Get a babysitter go away for a weekend, talk, have fun, apologise, plan a better future. And right now? ... (read in full...)

How can I tell if a man is just after sex or if he wants to start something with me

Q.   What are the signs that a fella is only after sex as opposed to wanting to start something with you. At my age i should really know but iv a friend who has been after me for years and we are starting to get closer as weve been talking every si...

A.   17 March 2013: OP, if this guy had intentions he would probably have done something by now but he probably has a lot of hopes ! Does he want sex? Almost certainly. Does he want a relationship? Quite probably , but he must be shy not to have asked you out by now.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to NEVER have fantasies about your partner?

Q.   I have a question for all the people who are either in a serious relationship, or married. Is it normal to NEVER have sexual fantasies about your partner? The reason I ask is because while I am attracted to my husband, I find myself fantasizi...

A.   14 March 2013: Op I think you are over analysing here and need to refocus your attention a bit. I think it's totally normal to imagine other people in sexual fantasy. It's the unknown bit that we make up that is exciting. Our partners don't usually fit the role ... (read in full...)

After being together for years I find out something about my wife that has shaken my trust in her to the core! I don't know how to deal with this

Q.   13 years ago, I met a wonderful woman in University who has now been my wife for 8 years. We have kids (with another on the way) and are happy however recently, during a discussion she elaborated on a story of how she hooked with one of her past ...

A.   13 March 2013: Young people do a lot of things that they probably wouldnt do with hindsight and the wisdom of age. What happened then is not unusual. In fact maybe the fact that she had just met you made her happy and horny and unfortunately she met an ex with ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...

A.   13 March 2013: This topic is a bit like religion, no one is right or better and probably better not discussed at all! Most societies pass on values or meanings about sex and it is hard to seperate these from our own values, or even to make our oun values. One thin... (read in full...)

Could I actually be held accountable for her ending her life by her own hand and free will?

Q.   Hello everyone. Well I've been getting close to a woman online for about 5 months, we got along great and were planning to continue getting to know each other and see where things lead. However, last week I found out she is married with 3 c...

A.   12 March 2013: OP, apart from your online correspondence, is there anything that confirms that this person is who you think she is? Suggest you just ignore but if you get harassed then go to the police although there probably isnt much they can do. Maybe be a bit ... (read in full...)

Do you have to look like a porn star to get your boyfriend to masturbate over you?

Q.   I've heard some men masturbate over their own girlfriends. Some don't. Do you have to look like a pornstar and be really hot before your boyfriend will masturbate to thoughts of you instead of porn?...

A.   11 March 2013: I always think of my wife even if looking at porn, and I prefer porn where the people look normal, even remind me of my wife (or an ex sometimes... Sshh....) not the tattooed silicon inflated DD+ that some film producer thinks I want to look at.... (read in full...)

No pleasure for me, Only doubted relationship with horrid sexual memories. Help!

Q.   I am currently at a loss right now. I have serious issues within my marriage its not funny at all. I have been married for almost three years will be three years on March 16th. Personally I am unsure as to where to start. First my husband and I have ...

A.   11 March 2013: I am certainly not condoning your hbs behaviour but sexual frustration can turn guys into monsters! If you don't want sex then you can't criticise him for taking care of himself. Sounds like your whole trust and respect for each other is ... (read in full...)

I'm inexperienced. How can I know if she reaches orgasm or not? What are the signs that will tell me if she has orgasmed?

Q.   Hi I’m inexperienced guy when it comes to sex, so can you help me please, with some tips of female orgasms? How do I know if she reaches it or not? What are some signs of female orgasms? What are the best ways to ask a girl? Chances are she wi...

A.   9 March 2013: To be honest, during intercourse it's very hard to tell if she's really having an orgasm or are with a good actress. If you are petting or doing oral it is fairly obvious because you can notice her hips moving a bit and if you are lucky she has ... (read in full...)

My wife cheated and I want to keep our family together but how do I get over the images in my head?

Q.   Hello. I write to you today because I recently found out that my lovely wife, best friend, and mother of my 3 lovely children has had an ongoing sexual relationship for the last 10 years. I found emails from the two of them on her laptop and they ...

A.   5 March 2013: I find it hard to believe a mother with a 6month old infant would have the interest or opportunity to start an affair. Check a bit more. If you do want to stay for the sake of the children then accept sex is just a bodily function, it doesnt define ... (read in full...)

My Girlfriend Wants to Sleep With a Guy at Work, What to Do?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend got together young - she was 17 at the time and we have been together 9 years and I'm more in love with her now than i have ever been. A few months ago i started to get the feeling that she was thinking about being wit...

A.   23 February 2013: OP I am sorry but I have to agree with the aunrs and uncles that your relationship may well be close to over. I would go further and suggest that she quite probably has already slept with this guy and she is fishing for you to condone it. I have ... (read in full...)

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