I want to meet my LD crush but my parents don't want me to be alone
Q. Hi ! I'm a 17 year old girl and I have been talking to this 18 year old guy on Skype for the last 2 weeks because we are both in college ( I graduated highschool early ) we could meet until the summer but we talked about it a couple times we enjoy ...
A. 27 February 2012: I would just carry on enjoying each others skype company until the oportunity to meet arises. You haven't known each other long and so the logistics of meeting will force you to get too serious too quickly which usually is very bad for a ... (read in full...)
My gf and I don't want to have sex anymore, is time to break up?
Q. we been together for just over 2 years now, at the start was good and we have sex all the time, after 6 months she moves into my place and the sex goes down hill right away. in the past year we hardly ever have sex, from once a week down to now once ...
A. 27 February 2012: Good sex starts with feeling good about youself (youselves). It sounds like you are sliding into a bad lifestyle. Apart from sex the other thing that is fun to do with a partner is eat and drink. It sounds like you are overindulging in the latter? ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy seeing my wife kiss another woman. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm a guy. I've been married for 2 years. Tonight my wife was out at a friends. I know she's dabbled in lesbian sex, and I'm ok with the idea, or thought I was. Tonight her friend was with kissed her while I watched. (I was at home we were on cam) ...
A. 27 February 2012: You have a valid issue. Is the kiss significant? Is there a third party relationship going on? Was it just a peck? or maybe it was just a kind of sisterhood statement made famous by pop divas? Are you being offered a threesome? that might be an ... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend get over my past?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 3 months who I am completely in love with. Everything was going great until about a week ago. He found out that I had slept with a guy in his group of friends around 7 years ago. He had always told me he has ...
A. 27 February 2012: When you say you slept with one of his friends do you mean you dated or was it a one night stand? Guys can make pretty mean jokes about girls they have had sex with. You are right you should have told him up front then he would have accepted it and ... (read in full...)
Being told you're beautiful during sex, does it mean anything?
Q. Just want to get an idea what the general consensus is on telling someone they're beautiful during sex. If during the early stages of seeing someone, they say you're beautiful, can this still be quite a casual statement, or do you think it's a ...
A. 26 February 2012: I have no doubt that the compliement was intended. But exactly what was meant? In the context of when it was said it was probably more like "what you are doing right now is beautiful". It doesn't mean he doesn't think you are beautiful at other time... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and am still grieving-but my boyfriend seems not to care, what should I do?
Q. I need some help to stop feeling angry with my bf about our abortion. I know readers might judge me for having an abortion, that's ok, I judge myself, I know I did the wrong thing, I feel guilty every day and regret my decision greatly. I'm trying ...
A. 26 February 2012: Hey, don't beat yourself up so much about the abortion but ask yourself why you were having sex with a guy who wasn't prepared to be your partner and good father to your child. Babies are a result of sex - sperm, egg, baby. We could drive oursel... (read in full...)
G/f says she has an orgasm, but how do I know if she's just saying that?
Q. Me and my girlfriend don't have sex yet but do fondle and try to give each other orgasms. I dont have a problem with mine, but do get confused about her. She does like me touching and massaging her down there but doesnt let me do it continously. She ...
A. 25 February 2012: Well, if she gasn't had an orgasm yet she won't be really sure what its about until it happens. For your part, yes, you can rub too much, too hard, in the wrong place. Women generally are a bit more tricky than us guys. One almost sure way is to ... (read in full...)
Why don't men want to talk on the phone?
Q. I'm finding this so common with men I meet now, they refuse to talk on the phone. I met a great guy, we went out on 2 dates and had a blast together but we only communicate via text. At one point, I gave him a call but he didn't answer. When I heard ...
A. 24 February 2012: Try sending a message saying " please call me when you can".....
Personally I love to talk on the phone, unless it is a particular ex, and in her case sms is fine!!
There are lots of reasons why people don't want to talk but most sound a bit nega... (read in full...)
I had sex with an old friend and now he's avoiding me. Why?
Q. I recently had sex with an old friend, and now he is avoiding me. We've been circling each other for years, had periodic make outs, and are always very touchy feely with each other, but we've never made the big move before. We're both with other ...
A. 24 February 2012: I think it is fair to say that sex usually changes the dynamics of a relationship. From what you say about him, and from my own experience, I would think that he was in love with you and now is confused what to do next. If he felt no emotions then I ... (read in full...)
I gave him oral sex on the 4th date and now he has stopped contacting me, are my fears of him never contacting me again correct?
Q. I know that getting physical too soon especially if you are just dating and the guy is not your boyfriend is not the best way to go. However, I have been on 4 dates with this guy and on the fourth date gave him oral sex. I said some stuff that may ...
A. 24 February 2012: I think you know the answer all ready. He may be in touch when he needs another blow job, if he thinks you were good enough.
I was already madly in love with my wife when we had mutual oral sex on our third date after only a couple of weeks. I don'... (read in full...)
Pregnancy risks?
Q. dear cupid, if you have anal sex and the guy cums in you, is it possible for any of his sperm to come in contact with your vagina (like, if it happens to run back out of your anus) and get you pregnant?...
A. 24 February 2012: Yes of course it is possible. You must know that. However you risk far greater health issues than getting pregnant. If you enjoy this kind of sex then you need to always use condoms. But if you check out some of the posts on DC about the long term ... (read in full...)
Is it taking advantage of a girl if you sleep with her because she's "easy"?
Q. So I know this girl who is really beautiful. Not only is she gorgeous but she's also "easy". You know what I mean by easy, right? She lets a lot of mates have their way with her. I mean, maybe she likes it too. If someone will get her a gift or buy ...
A. 24 February 2012: The fact that you ask the question indicates that you have reservations about having sex with this woman. Does she stay friends with the guys she had sex with? does she continue having sex with all of them?
If you feel you can fit in with that then... (read in full...)
My new husband is making me feel paranoid that I'm a slag because of my past! Is it really abnormal for women to be able to have guilt free casual relationships while young, purely for the sex and without any emotional connection
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, especially aunts, I am a divorcee who has recently remarried, and my new husband has a major problem with my past. We have an amazing relationship and he's the only one I've ever given my heart to, but not my body, and tha...
A. 22 February 2012: Sorry Miamine, you are comletely correct that women who look for casual sex with guys in bars are taking very big risks of getting hurt in many ways. My question to the OP was rhetorical and not without a tad of irony. The OP makes a point of diffe... (read in full...)
I don't want to die without trying anal sex, so is it cheating if I hire a prostitute as my wife refuses to do this?
Q. Just something that I've been thinking about: My wife and I have been together for years. Like any other couple, we have boundaries and red flags in sex. Anal sex is a red flag for her. But I can't get it off of my mind! I don't want to die wit...
A. 22 February 2012: No, No, there has to be a bigger life ambition than sticking your penis in another persons anus???
I have been coerced to try it but soon stopped when I realised the pain that was being inflicted. You would never do this to a woman you love. And ... (read in full...)
My new husband is making me feel paranoid that I'm a slag because of my past! Is it really abnormal for women to be able to have guilt free casual relationships while young, purely for the sex and without any emotional connection
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, especially aunts, I am a divorcee who has recently remarried, and my new husband has a major problem with my past. We have an amazing relationship and he's the only one I've ever given my heart to, but not my body, and tha...
A. 21 February 2012: Op, I was trying to explain how your husband may feel, not being judgmental. Please reread that sentence I wrote. And I used the word cheap a bit loosely, I mean cheap in emotional terms, no commitment, etc. It feels like comment is a bit unfair on ... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 20 February 2012: a bit of a chump huh? I think thats the understatement of the day. To get teh detail of the rings, nail varnish, etc, you obviosly looked far too intently and obviously far too indiscretely. There are always girls that catch a mans eye but theres a ... (read in full...)
After being raped, are women ever able to enjoy sex?
Q. Nearly three years ago I was raped, so I have never had sex other than that one time. I have started a relationship with someone and I like him and he respects me, but I don't want to have sex. Do other women actually want sex after rape or do ...
A. 20 February 2012: I'm sure you will. As a guy who had a girlfriend who had been raped I can say that yes it can be just as great, in fact possibly even more meaningful because for a long time you may doubt that its even possible to enjoy a physical relationship. My ... (read in full...)
My new husband is making me feel paranoid that I'm a slag because of my past! Is it really abnormal for women to be able to have guilt free casual relationships while young, purely for the sex and without any emotional connection
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, especially aunts, I am a divorcee who has recently remarried, and my new husband has a major problem with my past. We have an amazing relationship and he's the only one I've ever given my heart to, but not my body, and tha...
A. 20 February 2012: The retrospective jealousy label is an easy way to pass all the blame on to your husband but the reality is that you both have a sexual incompatability issue. Despite common belief and what we see in the media most people do not have casual sex. ... (read in full...)
Am I just not good at giving hand jobs, or what? Why does my B/f never ejaculate?
Q. I've given my boyfriend quite a few handjobs when were kissing. He always seems to enjoy it quite a bit, especially once i get going and he's breathing hard. However, he never ejaculates. Once his breathing gets really heavy, he generally slows down ...
A. 20 February 2012: There have been a number of similar questions recently so I am thinking that no, you are probably not doing anything wrong, but clearly your bf is not getting aroused enough. I think men are a bit more of a physical machine than women when it comes ... (read in full...)
My husband would rather watch porn and get an erection and masturbate than have sex with me! Where did I go wrong?
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years and over the last 6 months to a year I have noticed he is into his porn more than he is into me. He came home early one afternoon and asked me if I wanted to have sex with him... I jumped at the ...
A. 19 February 2012: Believe me, erections have a massive influence on a mans confidence and once it starts to fail amazing stress will ensure it always does. You have no idea how devastating it can be to jump in to bed with your wife and not be able to satisfy her. ... (read in full...)
Ex told me my penis was too small and now I have serious confidence issues
Q. Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some ...
A. 19 February 2012: OP, if you didn't prevoke this comment from her then just feel lucky that you didn't end up spending the rest of your life getting insults from her!... (read in full...)
My new husband is making me feel paranoid that I'm a slag because of my past! Is it really abnormal for women to be able to have guilt free casual relationships while young, purely for the sex and without any emotional connection
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, especially aunts, I am a divorcee who has recently remarried, and my new husband has a major problem with my past. We have an amazing relationship and he's the only one I've ever given my heart to, but not my body, and tha...
A. 19 February 2012: Neither of you are abnormal and the criticism everywhere doesn't help. You both love each other very much but you have sexual experinces that are quite different. We often make big issues about sex, well beyond the significance of the physical... (read in full...)
Bf does not pay attention to my breasts...but he does look at those of other women!
Q. I have a wonderful boyfriend (we have been together for almost a year now.) Our sex life is pretty great except for one thing... I get upset because he doesn't take my top off during sex and doesn't pay attention to my boobs. I admit that i am ...
A. 17 February 2012: 34b sounds just great. I just don't get the big boob fettish. Even after the ravages of time and quite a few children my wife's 34a's are still pert and alluring. 36dd's would be sagging round her waist by now! I think its time you just take your ... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't working out very equitably
Q. I know I'm a dick for getting frustrated about this and I know that it's my fault, but I don't know what to do. I consider myself pretty good when it comes to sex. I've only had sex with my girlfriend, but I'm usually able to make her cum lik...
A. 16 February 2012: Are you training for sex olympics or to make a full feature porn movie? I think your girlfriend may prefer some gentle carressing, nice forplay, and one good orgasm. The best sex rarely happens when you try to plan every move in advance and yes, ... (read in full...)
Painful doggy style...any advice to make it better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together around 3 months. He's been wanting to do doggy style for a while, but when we tried it was extremely painful and tugged on the bit of skin between my vagina and anus. Furthermore, my vagina seems to get ver...
A. 16 February 2012: If you don't line up it wont work. Use cushions etc to get the height right or try on the edge of the bed or on the back of a sofa. be creative, its fun. Use some lube maybe, but if it hurts just try another way.... (read in full...)
I'm lucky to "get lucky" once a week...
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven and a half years. During the past two months, he has been showing symptoms of hypothyroidism..such as hair loss in patches, dizzy spells, fatigue, and most concerning, lack of libido. We used to have sex ...
A. 16 February 2012: I can never believe a healthy man would ever prefer porn to a real woman. However if the man has erection problems then the stress to perform for his woman can be devastating and cause severe depression. In this situation a man may use porn to help ... (read in full...)
If I ejaculate after her menstrual cycle, can she get pregnant?
Q. if i ejaculate having unprotected sex after her menstrual cycle, will she get pregnant? ...
A. 16 February 2012: Ps. Its much safer for the few days before her period than after. But guessing how many is what makes it fun!... (read in full...)
If I ejaculate after her menstrual cycle, can she get pregnant?
Q. if i ejaculate having unprotected sex after her menstrual cycle, will she get pregnant? ...
A. 16 February 2012: You just need to google this to find the facts. If you understand the biology then you can have reasonably safe sex for a few days but it depends how regular her cycles are. If you do this it is very likely she will get pregnant eventually so you do ... (read in full...)
Hoping to enjoy something denied me until now. How can my Bf make my birthday really special when we make love?
Q. My 21st birthday is on Friday. And I know I'm going to have the best sex of my life. I'm probably going to be drunk, but I hope not too drunk where I cant remember it. My problem is, though, I've never had a vaginal orgasm before. My current ...
A. 15 February 2012: Well if you are around 20 then from my limited experience you have about 20 years until you have the best sex of ypur life. Until then just relax and stop trying to organise your feelings because they don't happen that way!!! Ps. Whilst waiting get ... (read in full...)
How can I improve things at home? I'm lonely. My spouse has ED issues and will not talk to me
Q. My husband doesnt talk to me. he sits in front of the TV all evening and only wants to eat. if i talk to him he says he is missing his program. but his programs go on all night. he even comes to bed and watches in the room. he cant get a erection...
A. 15 February 2012: I am sure that there is nothing more that he would rather do than have sex with you. But when it wont work there is no limit to the excuses that a man will find to avoid the subject. You do need to talk very gently and closely. Yes, a doxtor almost ... (read in full...)
Female hygiene question....
Q. hi a question for the ladies on dc. This is a question on female hygiene. How uncomfortable is it for you the day after a night of sex if you dont have time for a shower in the morning. I bring this up as my partner said she didnt want sex after she ...
A. 15 February 2012: Yes, unless you have a hot water issue whats the problem with a quick shower in the morning? sounds like a lazy excuse!!!... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to porn and masturbation.
Q. I'm addicted to porn and masturbation. Hey! I'm going to turn 18 in the next month, and I've had sex twice till now. I stopped because I felt too guilty of doing these things, (coming from a conservative family ) and wanted to be celibate. But its ...
A. 15 February 2012: Well from a guy point of view you are totally normal. You body is rushing with hormones and much better you enjoy orgasms on your own than let some uncaring guy take advantage of you. Your body is yours and it is great that you learn how it ... (read in full...)
Risk it all and ask him out?
Q. Hello Cupids EVery day for the last 5 months, I have wanted to tell my best friend of 4 years that I like him more than an friend. However, he is so shy when it comes to dating and love. I have felt strongly towards him for a while, but I don’t kn...
A. 15 February 2012: Sounds like you are going to have to make the first move!! shy guys are often that way because they fear rejection, just like you do. Maybe you are perfect for each other but you will never find out if neither of you does anything. First thing is to ... (read in full...)
Husband is obsessed with coworker who is not interested
Q. I am certain my husband has been going through a mid life crisis for the last three year. He had fallen in love with a married coworker who had rejected him very early on. Now three years later he is still "in love with her" and "obsessed" about ...
A. 15 February 2012: How do you know he is obsessed,etc, with a co-worker? It it hard to define mid-life crisis and for a man there are several contributing aspects, eg noticing you are looking and feeling old, not such good health and fitness, maybe a bit overweight, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to put my life on hold for a while is that right of him to ask?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I got a call from a former navy recruiter, and he told me of a new opportunity that would let me enlist in the military, but it is only valid for the next two months. I was very happy about it since i have been wanting to do ...
A. 14 February 2012: He is being selfish, but you should understand why? He loves you and you are a big part of his world. You go off and make new friends and he is left eating alone....... One off you will find a new love, So you decide. We all have life ambitions but ... (read in full...)
My G/f doesn't want a child, yet is against any form of birth control apart from me using a condom. She says if the condom rips then we can just put the baby up for adoption!!
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years she is 20 i am 23 we have been having sex for around 2 months, she was a virgin and wanted to wait, but a conversation we had the other day has confused me slightly. She says to me that ...
A. 10 February 2012: Condoms are fine. They don't mess up the womans hormones and sexual chemistry. Buy good quatity condoms and make sure you have plenty whereever and whenever you need them. Its good to discuss the possibility of pregnancy and what you would do but ... (read in full...)
Condom queries here!
Q. How far up is it normal for a condom to slip? Everytime after he pulls out its pretty near the top and I was wondering if it would put me at risk of getting pregnant. Also, he stays inside me for a little while after we're done, and I wanted to know ...
A. 10 February 2012: Well if you read the instructions then you know what you should do to be totally safe. Reality is always different which is way nothing is 100%. How unsafe can you be? thats hard to say. Basically if the sperm is caught in the condom its ok. If ... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed of being friends with me? Why does he lie about me?
Q. I am a mature student and I have been friends with a guy that teaches at my uni (he doesn't teach me) for about two years. We meet up frequently and email back and forth on almost a daily basis. I talk to him about absolutely everything and have ...
A. 10 February 2012: Hmm, you would be much better off asking him rather than us! what you describe can be interpreted in many ways, good and bad! It sounds like you care for him and want to be more involved? maybe he does too but is afraid to make it public from fear ... (read in full...)
I told him I'm a virgin, but I've done things with guys...it turned him off
Q. So.. I've been dating this guy for a week. Im a virgin. He's not. He asked about my past, I had done some things and it totally turned him off. But, I was completely honest with him because I didn't want to lie to him. What do I do?...
A. 9 February 2012: Hey, your bf is being childish, tell him to grow up or get out. Talking and telling about past relationships is not really a truth issue, even when asked. Just because you are asked for details doesn't mean you have to tell it. Our pasts are our ... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend pleasure without actually having sex?
Q. can someone tell me how I can make more pleasure my boy without sex?we don't have sex I am virgin. in my country it is not normal before merriag have sex.but my bf want this and i can not please help me and tell me can I make more pleasure without ...
A. 9 February 2012: If your boyfriend understands you and cares and loves you then he shouldn't be putting you under this pressure. Tell him that.
Actually the time before actually having sex is very special and many couples miss this. It is a time to spend to get clos... (read in full...)
How do I learn to talk dirty?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a year...we are both grown adults...our relationship has been sexual for a while..i'm very shy and he wants to teach me how to talk dirty for him...I am willing to but I am so shy that I can't! How can I get over ...
A. 8 February 2012: Sounds like your bf isnt very grown up even if he is an adult! He's obviously watched too many porn movies. Do and say what feels right. Don't think you have to make a show for him.... (read in full...)
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