Meeting up with my LDR at the airport tomorrow and I'm nervous!!
Q. Hi dear aunts/uncles! I am on a LDR for a couple of months with someone I used to know when I was younger just as friends, but we parted ways. (we knew each other personally) We will "meet" tomorrow on an airport (we both flew in to a "m...
A. 5 December 2012: Yes, kiss, kiss like there is no tomorrow. When you first meet talking can be clumsey. Let your bodies do the communication. If the tension is to much to bear have a stiff drink first. Then see what happens. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Do I let my home wrecking daughter and her man stay with me so I can see my grandchildren?
Q. dear aunts and uncles, i seem to be in a pickle here. heres whats going on my daughter started work with me last aug. in nov. she hooked up with a man i have known for a few years who also worked there. now when i say known i mean we have worked t...
A. 4 December 2012: Wow, I am amazed how tough women are on a young womsn who has her life in a mess and not completely from her own doing. I suggest you let them stay, but charge him rent and if he stops paying kick him out. Your daughter on the other hand probably ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are cheating on our new partners together, what should I do? Part of me wants to end it with both of them, part of me wants to get back with my ex!
Q. Before anyone says im a slag or idoit or whatever i know i am. Ive been having an affair with my ex behide our new partners backs. The thing is we never really broke up in the first place, we live in different areas of our city now but we would ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hey, if the sex is that good why stop now? Whatever will happen will anyway. Not too nice for the "cheated" partners though!... (read in full...)
He doesn't want anymore children and wants me to give this one up for adoption, so what do I choose, being a single mother or giving up my baby?
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years are expecting again. Unfortunately for me, he doesnt want anymore children. He has expressed this to me before even before our first child, but he knew since I was 11 years younger than him and didnt have ...
A. 4 December 2012: Do what YOU want, its your baby as well and I am afraid he is too late to blackmail you. If he really means it you are better off without him. He will have to support you in any case. Your baby would rather grow up with you, remember that and take ... (read in full...)
I don't want or feel like having sex EVER!! My husband gets grumpy & moody, and keeps dropping hints about sex.
Q. Ok,.. here is the deal,.. and I know I'm not alone here. I don't have a sex drive anymore, I don't want it, don't need it. Of course my other half says he'll be patient,... NOT! About once every month or 2 I'll give in, and even though I'm not in ...
A. 4 December 2012: OP, getting mad at your husband is no solution. If you only married him for sex then it sounds like its over and you should break it to him. If there was once two people that loved each other then you need tp decide of you want to get back somewher... (read in full...)
Porn rears it's ugly head, again!
Q. Hi everyone i have been with my bf for 6 yrs now. About 6 months back i found porn on his laptop.he apologized, we broke up and patched up again. He promised he would not watch again. I posted here regarding that and i got many answers which helped ...
A. 3 December 2012: Asking him to not look at porn when he is alone is a bit wierd unless he doesnt want sex with you afterwards. Unless the porn he likes to look at is illegal or particularly gross or perverted whats the issue? Its like asking a woman not to read ... (read in full...)
I won't see her in person for at least a year. Could it work?
Q. So my friend just confessed to having feelings of wanting to be with me. And to be honest, I'm considering it. But the thing I'm taking into consideration is that it would be long distance. She's working in another country and lately I've only been ...
A. 3 December 2012: Yes of course it can work but only if you both make it work. Agree to write long letters, and use skype, and save up for an airfare, it doesn't have to be a year till you see each other if you really dont want it to be.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I had a small argument and I haven't heard from him at all
Q. Yesterday afternoon we were on the phone and had a small argument. I wasnt aware of my tone and how I said it but he asked me where I was going (i was driving home from school) and I said "Where else would I go? I'm going home" and he got defensive ...
A. 2 December 2012: Sounds like you are both not ready for a relationship. Respect and understanding are two important ingredients that you havent mastered yet. You may have caused that argument but his childish behaviour was no better.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and it's embarrassing. Should I get a male prostitute so I can get the first time out of the way?
Q. Probably the most humiliating thread to post. So anon for obvious reasons. Well, basically I'm a virgin girl 21, and for the past year or so I have been teased by literally everyone who found out I was a virgin. It hasn't at all been for lack of ...
A. 1 December 2012: No its not safe, its not a good idea, and if you did it you would be back asking how you get over this dumb thing you did. The "problem" you have now is much easier to deal with: stop telling people about your private life. You will find the right ... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 1 December 2012: I think there are a few undeniable and unchangeable differences. Firstly men have more testicles and a lot more testosterone in our blood than most women. This enhances our competitivness and agressivness. We are designed to be hunter- gathers ... (read in full...)
Help me to be reasonable and rational about this matter please? My Bf wants me to use Birth Control Pills but I think it's risky.
Q. I have been seeing this guy almost for a year. We are thinking about starting to have a future together soon. We are no longer use condoms every time after we became exclusive and came clean to each other about STD history and all. We sometime...
A. 30 November 2012: Yes there are risks from taking the pill but from a pure statistical viewpoint the risk is less than your risk if you got pregnant and either terminated or delivered the baby. If you are healthy and checked by the dr then these risks are low. More ... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to meet jerks who only wants to sleep with me?
Q. Guys, what goes through your mind when you meet a new girl and only want to sleep with her? Why do guys I meet only want or try to sleep with me? I met a couple of guys from club online and even "friends of friends". Their only motive is t...
A. 30 November 2012: Maybe its your perception that every guy only wants to get in your pants? You can control situations as well, what you do and talk about when you meet a guy. And a lot of girls in bars and clubs do just want sex from a guy. And some guy may be ... (read in full...)
Why make happy holiday memories when we are having a hard time, and even might break up?
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and we have had a lot of problems recently with money and changing jobs and living apart after living together due to his work placement. Anyway, I have often been really angry at him and ...
A. 30 November 2012: Maybe happy holidays help you remember why you are together and give you the time and opportunity to talk about how you want to be and how youmake things better. Just blaming him for everything that troubles you doesnt really work - and if you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly brings up my past, how do I get him to see I've changed and help us move on together?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 11 months. 16 months ago I split up from my husband and went a little crazy, craving attention from absolutely any guy I met. I slept with a few guys but would also get guys numbers and constantly text them and email ...
A. 30 November 2012: If you are not the person you were then why did you tell your boyfriend anything? Apart from the obvious misleading and trust issues you caused there is the nagging fact that in the wrong situation we can easily revert to how we once were.
W... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my late husband's cousin?
Q. My husband passed away 14 months ago, we were never a big part of his family his choice...we were involved in family functions and always respected everyone....his mother stopped talking to him 6 yrs before he passed, her choice...I have been ...
A. 29 November 2012: Sure, why are you asking? If you are nervous about what people say then just use some discretion until you are ready to let people know, or realise it doesnt matter. Is there more that is making you nervous?... (read in full...)
I slept with my boyfriends friend.
Q. Hi, So this may be a bit long, sorry for that. Basically I was with a friends with benefits for a couple of months, but I knew it wasn't going any where. So I went on a dating site just to see if there would be anyone. Fortunately there was. I b...
A. 29 November 2012: Being drunk is no excuse, it just lets you do the things you want to do without questioning whether it is a good idea or not. Tell your bf what happened and say sorry. Both you and his friend were really disrespectful whilst he was being responsible ... (read in full...)
Why can't I see my husband's computer screen? Why is everything a secret?
Q. My husband and I had to live apart last year after he lost his job. He admits to having girlfriends while he was away. Now he is always reading twitter on his Ipad, and when I asked if could see what he was laughing about, he went ballistic. He ...
A. 28 November 2012: Yes, sorry for your situation, and since your last update it definitely sounds like your husband has been hit with a serious mid life crisis. We all have to deal with it, or at least get over it. His time "alone" probably reminded him of the fun hes ... (read in full...)
Any advice on ways other then oral sex or girl on top, to get my girlfriend to orgasm?
Q. I am in a loving an monogamous long-distance relationship. It's been going swimmingly even though we're both in college. When we do get to see each other (about 5 out of every 30 days) we generally have a lot of sex and its been amazing. The only ...
A. 28 November 2012: I've never known a girl get bored of oral sex but yes if you always do the same thing it will become less exciting. Use your fingers if you dont already. But learn quickly what she likes, I think most women prefer a kind of massaging rather than ... (read in full...)
What else could he do?
Q. Okay so, i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for awhile. And we haven't gone all the way yet, (soon though) and i've always gotten him to cum (sorry for the straight up term) from bj's. but when he fingers me it"s pretty stimulating yet ...
A. 23 November 2012: No there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. And whats more you have already identified the thing you have to do. You are not certain how to give yourself an orgasm so how in the world do you think your boyfriend will do it for you? so when you ... (read in full...)
Why can't I see my husband's computer screen? Why is everything a secret?
Q. My husband and I had to live apart last year after he lost his job. He admits to having girlfriends while he was away. Now he is always reading twitter on his Ipad, and when I asked if could see what he was laughing about, he went ballistic. He ...
A. 23 November 2012: I feel for your situation. I have lost 2 jobs in the last 5 years and need to travel 3 hours every monday and friday and spend thr week in a wierd lonely limbo with no way out. Has your husband found work so you are together now? if so then I a... (read in full...)
Would you stay with your husband for monetary reasons only
Q. My friend has decided to stay with her husband for monetary reasons despite not being happy with him. He makes six times as much as her and she is barely getting by at her low income job. She got laid off from a great job and so did many others ...
A. 21 November 2012: It usually takes two to wreck a relationship. If she has decided that she doesnt like her husband any more then she either takes her freedom or takes his money. Of course, if he has been unfaithful then all she needs is a good lawyer!... (read in full...)
Why can't I see my husband's computer screen? Why is everything a secret?
Q. My husband and I had to live apart last year after he lost his job. He admits to having girlfriends while he was away. Now he is always reading twitter on his Ipad, and when I asked if could see what he was laughing about, he went ballistic. He ...
A. 21 November 2012: Your husband gets used to being single and clearly doesnt revert very well to being the husband you had. But cut him some slack, his life probably feels like shit. Its bad enough to lose your job, but then to give up your lifestyle to be an ... (read in full...)
I have not had sex yet getting married in 3 weeks and I'm really scared about this part of the marriage!
Q. Hi there. I'm a week away from my 22nd birthday and three weeks away from my wedding. And I have managed to make it all this way without going any further than kissing. And the closer we get to the our wedding date, the more cripplingly nervous I am ...
A. 21 November 2012: Scared and excited go together very well. Its like a daunting fairground ride, but once you get on you wont want to get off. Stop thinking you have to be a sex object for him, you just need to be you. Ans you still have three weeksto get to know ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me that my significant other will not buy me lingerie
Q. My fiance MO use to be to buy his ex girlfriends flowers, lingerie and a card I found out. He has never done this with me. Victoria's Secret catalog arrived in the mail and he said look it's Victoria's Secret. I said and so what you going to buy me. ...
A. 21 November 2012: How do you know he did that? And what were the circumstances? Unless you have a figure like the manikin it probably wont fit properly and in my opinion most of the popular "sexy" lingerie looks cheap and slutty. Maybe he thinks you are worth more? ... (read in full...)
Not for revenge but for my own pleasure I'm thinking of cheating, nothing serious just a one night thing. Opinions please!
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years up until recently we were engaged, have 2 children and were trying for a 3rd. During this time he has cheated on me twice that I know of. The first was for the first 12 months we were together...
A. 21 November 2012: OP, I am sorry you are in this situation as there aren't many happy ways forward for you. So Very Confused sums it up perfectly.
The thing is that many people, your partner included, can easily seperate sex from love. I also can when drunk. Mayb... (read in full...)
It's not the porn as such, it's the fact that he lies to me so often. I can't stand it. What should I do?
Q. hi i need help!! i have spend 5 years with my boyfriend and he likes to watch porn all the time! he always lies to me about it, but i know, when i finally get to talk with him about it he tells me doesnt see anything and those things doesnt cause an...
A. 17 November 2012: Its not really the porn that is the problem. And you dont have to leave it to your boyfriend to decide what you do. Sounds like you need to have more sex and then find other things to do. Porn watching is more a sign of bordom. Of course if he ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to stop playing with my hair? He's caused a lot of it to fall out!
Q. Ok this is a stupid question but I need as many suggestions as possible. My boyfriend always plays with my hair and I need him to stop. He does it without thinking, in the car, in his sleep, laying in his arms watching tv, at the cinema, sitting ...
A. 17 November 2012: Touching is a form of endearment you dont really want to suppress, maybe get him to touch you somewhere else. You could shorten your hair to let it recover, use loads of conditioner to reduce the knots, and tie it up so his fingers dont get stuck in ... (read in full...)
'Making Love' versus 'Having Sex' with boyfriend.
Q. So I guess this is a question about lovemaking vs sex. I had spent the day with my boyfriend and he was helping me studying. Then after several hours I had to go out to do something else, and we were kissing a bit, and I said, I have to go, and ...
A. 17 November 2012: OP, so boring bla bla bla is more important than making love with your boyfriend? That must make him feel really loved! If you had to go to work and you would have been sacked if late you might have got some sympathy, but the message you give out ... (read in full...)
Is there anyway a doctor could diagnose me without having to touch me down there?
Q. hi all, this is going to be a weird/awkward/gross question... but, I don't know where else to ask. I vaguely remember this... when I was probably 11 or so, I found a sort of sex toy or maybe a ring thing that would go around the guy and it vibra...
A. 16 November 2012: Hi OP, cant you talk with your mother, sister, friend about it. You are making up lots of crazy thoughts in your head. Lots of women have discharges, its nothing to do with playing with yourself. Find a lady doctor, think of it as a bit of growing ... (read in full...)
Do we keep the baby and give up our dreams of going abroad?
Q. Hi, it's the middle of the night and I can't sleep. I am 32 years old, just married to the most amazing man ever: we are very much in love. Today I found out I am pregnant, despite being on birth control (how is that even possible?). Anyway...
A. 16 November 2012: If you plan to have children in the future then keep it. Children always make life a bit more complicated but dont have to stop you doing what you want to do. They test your resolve and if you really want to do it you can, pregnant or not. You can ... (read in full...)
Watching Pornography in a relationship. Is it unfair or fun?
Q. Hi, i want to ask this question and i want your opinions. I hate my boyfriends watching porn when they are having a relationship with me, what i wanted to know was is there such thing as a man who is not that fussed by it? Who would just take it or ...
A. 13 November 2012: Porn helps guys masturbate, if they prefer to masturbate than ne with you then you have an issue. If they like offensive or images of children then you have a real issue. If he is not sensitive to your feelings about porn you have an issue. If they ... (read in full...)
69 year old with a 23 year old, is this wrong?
Q. I am 69. I love a girl who is just 23. I am madly in love with her and have a full grown sexual and complete relationship with her. Is it wrong or ok?...
A. 10 November 2012: OP, why are you asking? I will cut you some slack and say if it truely is love then go for it. If you keep youself fit and healthy then sure, you still have more milage than the average modern relationship needs. Never forget what a lucky guy you ... (read in full...)
Body image ruined due to porn
Q. My partner looks at naked pics of those typical perfect bodied women. If they're not naked they're usually close to it. Although I have a good body, I have small breasts which are now a little droopier due to having given birth. Breast feeding. ...
A. 10 November 2012: I am not sure if porn is really the issue or if its that your husband doesn't give you the attention and compliments you deserve. When we feel unhappy it usually doesn't help to over analyse the problem. Usually we end up digging the hole even ... (read in full...)
Body image ruined due to porn
Q. My partner looks at naked pics of those typical perfect bodied women. If they're not naked they're usually close to it. Although I have a good body, I have small breasts which are now a little droopier due to having given birth. Breast feeding. ...
A. 6 November 2012: OP, stop beating yourself up. Guys use visual images a lot for stimulation but a photo has nothing to compare with a real live partner. I think most fathers of young children use some kind of self relief help to work off the sexual tension that ... (read in full...)
She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!
Q. Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read h...
A. 5 November 2012: Unless you want to confirm your doubts reading her emails etc is pointless.Your fiance obviously hasnt filled you with trust for her and I dont blame you for being unsure. I have known a couple of women a bit like your fiance, they are now on ... (read in full...)
After sex I feel like I have used my girlfriend
Q. everytime i make love to my girlfriend after i climax i feel really bad like i have used her a sense of failure and disgust, does every guy feel that ??...
A. 1 November 2012: No, if you make sure she has a great orgasm first then I am sure she is quite happy to let you use her and share the enjoyment.... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 1 November 2012: I agree 100% with Chigirl, this is something your future wife should not have said, whether for fun, a joke, or just being drunk. She is right that physically the sex with others might have been in some ways better, maybe more exciting or more ... (read in full...)
When do girls get past this immature rubbish?
Q. Easy one, when do girls start to mature and stop messing nice guys like me around? I only ever seem to get "friendzoned" or they lead me on for a few weeks then have the whole "im a screw up, you deserve better" talk....seriously, it's ridiculous ...
A. 11 October 2012: Its tough for the Mr Nice Guy I am afraid. As already said, you are meeting the wrong girls. Or maybe dont be afraid to talk with women a bit older. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend impregnanted another girl, but I still love him!
Q. I am a young lady aged 20 and have been dating my first boyfriend since July 2011. We were so happy but just like any other couple we also had our share of ups and downs of which mostly were about his unfaithfulness, i would see texts messages from ...
A. 11 October 2012: Some young guys really have no respect for women that fall in love with them. I really dont understand how women can be taken in, almost completely blinded, by guys that see other women, disrespect, show absolutely no signs of love or caring, yet ... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 11 October 2012: I think you are over-reacting and probably spending too much time alone. Although you come from diffrrent sides of the planet it sounds like you live a little closer now. Its very likely that he really wants to say that he loves and misses you but ... (read in full...)
Why do I shake when near climaxing? I'm embarrassed. Is it normal?
Q. So when and my boyfriend are doing foreplay I obviously get turned up to the point of climaxing and when I know I'm nearing that I get him to stop. I do this because I tend to shake when I do. I'm worried that he'll find it weird which is why I st...
A. 11 October 2012: Dont stop yourself as he will think he is doing something wrong. If you cant find the right words to say (like thats great) then just make some approving sounds or moans. As long as your arms and legs dont flail around to the point you could injure ... (read in full...)
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