How to stop being jealous of husband's female friend?
Q. This is a short question: How do I get passed being angry and jealous of my husband having a picture of his female friend in her underware? How do I forgive him when he assures me she didn't give him the picture, and it was supposed to be f...
A. 8 October 2011: Maybe you were surprised by this, a bit insecure, and really over-reacting. Sounds like you and most other women have no idea about the kind of crap men collect on their computers. Give him a picture of youself in some sexy underware with the ... (read in full...)
I have only had sex with my current boyfriend, am I missing out on experiencing sex with other guys?
Q. ok so i am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend. im 23 and hes the only person ive had sex with and dated! and hes 24 and i am not his first, im his 13th sex object. right now in our relationship were happy, i know he loves me, he was the ...
A. 8 October 2011: You have a dilemma, you are curious about having other sexual experiences but not until you do will you discover that they are not always good. However, it does sound like you have something missing in your current relationship. Despite what others ... (read in full...)
Am I having a mid life crisis? It seems so important to increase the number of woman I have sex with. So would paying for it be a quick solution?
Q. I am single and am no spring chicken anymore, although Im not exactly geriatric either. In my life I havent really had many girlfriends and can count the number of sexual partners I've had on one hand. Im starting to feel that 'I've missed out...
A. 6 October 2011: To balance some of the female responses I would add that women tend to underestimate how much men reflect on sexual matters. Especially in midlife there is a reminder that you are not getting any younger. That being said I would suggest there are ... (read in full...)
I thought having a boyfriend meant I didn't need friends!
Q. Hi all, I'm 27 and I have a really big problem with my mood. I didn't stay in contact with my school friends when I went to uni. I went to an inner city comp and most of them went on to get pregnant at a young age whereas I went on to become ...
A. 4 October 2011: One of the best ways to meet people is to sign up for a class, language classes are always fun and you have to talk to others, but also art or photography, or anything you can find an interest in. Sport or dance classes are probably less social but ... (read in full...)
RJ, both justified and unjustified
Q. Has anyone here ever gotten over RJ (Retrograde Jealousy) in a relationship? Both justified RJ such as a mate having slept with your friend or enemy and unjustified RJ such as mate having just slept with other people before the relationship. ...
A. 30 September 2011: RJ is a generalisation for being pissed with something your partner has done, either, recently or years ago. Discovering something you think is negative about your partner cases shock and often triggers a depresive state. Often the problem is not ... (read in full...)
I can't get hard when we try to have sex for the fourth time in a night. Should I be worried?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together about a month now and we have had sex multible times and it was amazing. ive never had a problem getting hard for her even after having sex with her to go again. but my question is after the 3rd time of ...
A. 30 September 2011: Sounds like you don't need to get checked. After 2 or 3 times you probably need a bit of a rest, some food, etc!! going down and give her a good orgasm with fingers and tongue usually invokes the desired primal response! Don't push it though, you ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 weeks pregnant but still have signs of blood when I use the bathrrom
Q. im 13 weeks pregnent and when i go to toilet ( number 2) i always have blood when i wipe myself or in the toilet sumtimes its lots other times its not but never strong enought to go onto my underwear Whats wrong with me ??????...
A. 30 September 2011: Hope you got the message by now, go to the doctor!
If you are sure its hemmeroids, however they are spelt, then its not a risk to your baby, but always best to check with the doc before taking any remedies. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
If men want their women to look like porn stars, why don't us women care that our men don't look like porn stars??
Q. I'm 25, and I'm here to discuss pornography and men. Some but not all men complain their women don't look like porn stars/models etc. but how come women don't do the opposite and ask for 6-packs/chiselled bodies / big penises etc? Or if they do,...
A. 30 September 2011: Well, the section of the male population that needs to pay for porn obviously has a specific taste, hence the stereotype, but this doen't represent all men. Porn helps when away from my wife but I seek out women that remind me of my wife. Most men ... (read in full...)
She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!
Q. I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...
A. 29 September 2011: Don't beat yourself up. If its like you describe then you're girlfriend is just as responsible for what happened. Some women need to cry after a sexual encounter, even when they are very satisfied! I never really understood that but think its ... (read in full...)
What are the after affects of anal sex?
Q. What are the after affects of having anal sex? My boyfriend wants to do it but I'm scared because I hear that you have discharge from the anus afterwards. What are the good things about anal and what are the bad? Please help me out!?...
A. 20 September 2011: This is a popular topic these days, undoubtably thanks to the omnipresent porn industry. I got a urinary tract infection and visit to doctor, my wife, before I knew here contracted serious hepatitis which has weakened her for life. I dont think its ... (read in full...)
Everything's great except ...
Q. Hello all. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, it's exciting and always fun. The only "problem" is that he can't cum through me giving him a blowjob. I've had him close several times, but it's like he can't let go enough to actually cum. It...
A. 16 September 2011: Have you tried the 69 approach? Sometimes its hard for a guy just to receive and not be able to give, excuse the pun.... (read in full...)
My husband is very particular about how he likes oral, is this normal?
Q. Hello, I have written in before and gotten excellent advice. My last posting was about a week ago about my mom objecting to the way my husband and I treat each other. We have three kids (biological), 8, 5, and 2, and have the adoption of an 1...
A. 15 September 2011: Got the mirror, great idea about the knee pads, what a husband! :) ... (read in full...)
Can you be married and fall in love with another person?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone else when you are married?...
A. 13 September 2011: Theres always a defining line, usually different for men and women, and if the line isnt crossed theres no guilt, lying, deception, etc. But once crossed the euphoria ( for the "lucky" couple) quickly chills in the cold light of day into regret and ... (read in full...)
Personality, breast implants?
Q. This is a question for guys to answer please. Imagine if you met and started a relationship with an early forties female who looked between five and ten years younger, very good looking and who had had one child when she was previously married at a ...
A. 13 September 2011: Hey, you're fine. I fall into the group of males who aren't particularly turned on by silicon superwoman breasts, or the kind of women that think they need them, but, with a wife who has reared a number of children I totally understand and would ... (read in full...)
From start to finish in 4.5 months?
Q. I'll keep this short as possible. If a couple met and dated 4 1/2 months (long distance) then got married and had a kid within a year...what are the chances it wt wil. Work? Please help...thanks...
A. 13 September 2011: Statistically the chances are probably pretty much the same as the rest of the population, less than 50%. I think often where a relationship survives being a long distance apart then it already has been tested. Now you are together with a child its ... (read in full...)
I despise my married lover...he's a liar...so how do I get out of this one?
Q. How am I going to be able to last the next 7 weeks with my boyfriend when he makes my skin crawl? He is married and I've been seeing him for a couple of years. Earlier this year we booked a holiday for november but I'm having serious second t...
A. 13 September 2011: Write the holiday cost off. We all learn from our mistakes, don't make your mistake strech out any longer. You've already made the decision now you need the resolve to carry it through. By cancelling the holiday he will realise you are serious.... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity to a cucumber??
Q. I am a 19 yr old girl who has always prided myself on the idea of being a virgin when I got married. I got super horny tonight, though, and used a cucumber. I didnt notice until afterwards that I had bled. Does this mean I have lost my virginity? Or ...
A. 12 September 2011: Of course you are a virgin. Now you have a problem though as you are going to have to be careful to wait for a guy who can match up to your chosen salad product! And not just in the size and endurence category, probably no guy will match that, just ... (read in full...)
After she gave birth she is not tight like before! What can I do?
Q. Hello all cupid users Can you please help, since she gave birth sex is not like before. Her vaginal wetness is not the same. its dry. And how can I get the vaginal tightness she had before? Thanks...
A. 11 September 2011: You want that tightness back? Ha, you better go looking for a virgin somewhere! Failing that you need to get your wife a babysitter, subscription to a gym, and hope she never finds out you asked this question. Given how tired a new mother gets you ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 2 September 2011: Sometimes I am not sure how much us aunts help the OP, lots of contradictions and philosphy! This is a complex topic, sex when you are young and unjaded builds different feelings and memories. When you have been around the block a few times its ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 2 September 2011: Ah, Yos has hit the nail on the head. Once he believed one thing, and now another. Our "beliefs" define how we value everything around us. I agree 100% with Yos but still feel sad that those with more demanding ideals have to compromise to fit in ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 2 September 2011: There is a big difference between a past with loving relationships and one with promiscuous casual sex. Since it is unlikely the OP is going to change his values and opinions overnight (as some try to suggest he should) the only way forward, if ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 1 September 2011: OP sex may be a valued intimacy to you but it certainly wont be to your future wife. If you can live with that fact and put her past out of your mind then get married and be happy. Its hard to generalise but casual relationships do change the way ... (read in full...)
Newlywed virgin not had sex yet. Shall I just 'get it over with' even though it hurts?
Q. So, my husband and I are recently married (only married about a month and a half, so far) but we're still dealing with the issue of my...ahem...virginity...I've never engaged in full intercourse/penetration and we have tried numerous times already, ...
A. 1 September 2011: Well, the first thing is that you are very normal, don't get unduly stressed over this. Has your husband got you really turned on before you try? And you can orgasm? He has fingers and a tongue which should make no pain and alot of pleasure. An ... (read in full...)
G/f gave permission to cheat since she wants to wait till after marriage to have sex
Q. I pretty much just met the woman of my dreams... except for one thing. She doesn't want to have sex until marriage. She tells me that she is a virgin and wants to stay that way until she is married. The strange thing is, she has told me that I could ...
A. 1 September 2011: Well, I don't think she really made the offer that she suggested, she didn't say the " if you don't care about my feelings bit . . ." but I am sure she thought it. If you are truly madly in love you will have sex, just take it very very slowly, ... (read in full...)
Dating and sleeping around
Q. I need some advice just like everyone else does. My girlfriend and I started as a one night stand and quickly progresses into a relationship. We met on a Sunday and went out for drinks that Wednesday and then to the movies that Friday. Each tim...
A. 25 August 2011: Its just sex. One day you were having meaningless sex with her, and she apparently also with others, and now its meant to mean something? Looks like being exclusive has different meanings to each of you and you clearly don't trust what she said. ... (read in full...)
I watch porn and masturbate most days. Should I reduce this?
Q. i am 19 and am watching porn nearly every day. I really enjoy watching it but feel as if i couldnt go a day without watching some. i do not neglect friends or anything for it but do normally watch it every night before bed. this also leads to ...
A. 24 August 2011: Hell no, daily exercise is good. Just don't confuse what you see on the screen with anything a real girl would want.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains when I eat his food!!!
Q. Hi. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years and we are about to buy a house togther. He is fronting all of the deposit and paying for most of the fees (around £20,000). However, sometimes when I go round to see him and want to eat his food...
A. 24 August 2011: Well, I was brought up to be frugal, especially with food, whilst my US wife is the complete opposite, and somehow its always food costs that bug me, even though they are relatively minor in the big picture. Buying a house together certainly taught ... (read in full...)
Please help me to accept her past
Q. I’m in my first relationship and have been rocked by a revelation from my girlfriend. I’ve been trying to deal with it myself – for reasons that will become clear I can’t discuss it with friends – but it is driving my insane. I really need some help ...
A. 24 August 2011: Poor you. A lot of guys have been in those dark places, some get stuck there. This is not something that renders to rational analysis. I think the real problem is that you know your girlfriend the way she is now, not then, and you can't imagine why ... (read in full...)
I masturbated on shemale porn. What does this mean?
Q. I have been watching straight porn quite lot for the last 2 years or so but of late gay thoughts striking my mind but when I looked at gay porn , it didn't turn me on but Shemale porn did and I masturbated like three times on watching Shemale porn. ...
A. 24 August 2011: Sounds like your a bit confused. A lot of things you can watch can fasinate and turn you on but doesn't mean you would want to be joining in in reality. I wouldn't read too much into it, nor hate anyone for who they are or their sexual preferences.... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable at being annoyed that he doesn't seem to acknowledge the fact that we've shared a bed?
Q. I have hooked up with one of my closest male friends 3 times. Last time we hooked up was June. Neither of us talks about what happened and we continue our friendship as always, except for the occasional heated look he gives me and warmer hugs. A...
A. 24 August 2011: WWhat are you expecting? Maybe he's madly in love with you but thinks you just want sex? Maybe he wonders if you "hookup" with loads of guys? You need to communicate with more than your sex organs!... (read in full...)
No pleasure from wanking conventionally - what's wrong with me?
Q. I've spent hours of my life researching this on the internet, and maybe I'm unique- or not searching for the right thing. I don't masturbate the "convential way" - I jam my penis between my thighs and then rock my legs forward and back (while lyin...
A. 21 August 2011: Check out if your parents or big sister have some ky or other lube, mine did! Borrow a bit and with your imagination you will soon work out some new methods :)... (read in full...)
Will my penis still grow at 19?
Q. This is a pretty embarrassing question but can my penis still grow at 19? I just turned 19 and my penis is exactly 5 inches. I know that is somewhat average, but it just feels really small to me. I've read a lot of studies and statistics and MOST ...
A. 12 August 2011: Relax, you're fine. It will get a bit bigger when the right girl really turns you on. But, keeping fit and controling alcohol intake helps. Remember, for most woman to feel good the penis is only a part of the solution. Take note of the comments ... (read in full...)
Why has he gone off sex completely?
Q. Hi, I really dont know where to start, and I know there are so many simular questions posted on here, but if someone has the time to answer I would be very gratefull. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years, we are planning to get married s...
A. 3 August 2011: I know that if you get out of shape, too much food, just a bit too much alcohol, lack of exercise, add to that pressure at work and a wife that wants to make you feel good, well it just gets too much for a guy! You could try doing sports or dance ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating?
Q. Is it cheating to make a profile on a dating site and chat to singles,with the intent of meeting? I cought my gf doing this and she said it was just to pass time, because she is at home all day doing nothing (I'm the only one that works). What...
A. 3 August 2011: Well, what is cheating? If it is doing something a partner dosen't like or behind their back, then sounds like its cheating. But, isn't there something exciting about cheating? Did she want you to find out? Maybe to see if you notice, react, care? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated on me. How can I get through this?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me. We've been together 10 months and the girl told me. She didn't know he had a girlfriend. I love my boyfriend soooo much. I truly thought he was one of the few people I could really trust. He was sweet and nice to me ...
A. 3 August 2011: Well, you fought, said things you might not have meant, told him you didn't want to be with him. That hurts. He went off and had sex with another woman, and that hurts. So sounds like no one is winning. Fighting is rarely a good way to solve ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be somebody who is never happy with what they have....but I dream of being with another man!
Q. I just turned 30, well, geeze, I'm not sure what's really important to outline here, but here goes: I've had long relationships throughout my life with the most recent being 5 years now, but I've never made it past 6 years... maybe that's just coi...
A. 29 July 2011: GardenLover, sorry, your initial post was a bit misleading. You clearly have an issue. When relationships form, slowly one person often becomes the life force and it sounds like that was you. I don't know if you partner has the ability or motivation ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be somebody who is never happy with what they have....but I dream of being with another man!
Q. I just turned 30, well, geeze, I'm not sure what's really important to outline here, but here goes: I've had long relationships throughout my life with the most recent being 5 years now, but I've never made it past 6 years... maybe that's just coi...
A. 29 July 2011: After a day in the office I come home and its certainly not my intellect that I like stimulating. Do you want your bedroom to become a debating chamber? I've been there in a previous life and know which I prefer. ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?
Q. Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't ...
A. 29 July 2011: Well there is some good advice below but focussing very much on the physical side of the stimulation. I don't have a vagina but know one very well for many years. One very important issue here is also mood and environment. If you have any stress its ... (read in full...)
I want to quit masturbating!
Q. I find it hard to quit masturbating I do it daily and I mean I just dont want to do it anymore. does anyone have any advice for that, other than just dont do it? because trust me I tried to quit cold turkey but it didnt work. please help...
A. 27 July 2011: Well, if you didn't want to you wouldn't do it every day! Think of it as training, when youre with a girl youll need to hold out 10 to 20 minutes, when you can do that it will be time to relax!... (read in full...)
Should I be specific and let him know that I'm looking to finish what we started the other night, sexually?
Q. Went out with a guy twice (but kind of knew him through mutual friends before that). First time, he was a perfect gentleman and only hugged me at end of night. A few days later, he invited me impromptu to hang out at his house w/a few guy friends ...
A. 27 July 2011: Sounds like you have already covered most possible explanations. If he's a bit shy then what you describe fits right in. If you like him then you could suggest going to a movie or something else. Get the opportunity to talk about feelings. Then you ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 26 July 2011: Single children often grow up expecting to be put first and are good at making you feel guilty if you do anything else. My father was like that and try as hard as she could my mother suffered a lifetime of guilt and grief. Sounds like you risk the ... (read in full...)
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