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writes:Can a woman orgasm too hard?I really want to push my girlfriend to the limit but I don't want to hurt her, if I kept stimulating her past her usual limit will it give her more pleasure (more orgasms) or is there only so far a woman can go?she has described feeling scared and having a little sickish feeling when I've been very intense, will that pass (which I've heard it will leading to extreme all body orgasms) or is that cuz it is her limit?I understand too much stimulation on a certain areas will make her sore but can an orgasm go on for too long or be so intense it can cause her damage to her body or mind?any help or advise will be greatly appreciated :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 November 2013):
 If a woman says NO MORE or STOP then a man must STOP
ignoring her request to stop by NOT stopping is tantamount to sexual assault and I know that's not what you want or what you are asking but I know for me once I've had an orgasm, that when I say STOP I Mean STOP... it's borderline PAINFUL for me to continue to be touched once I'm done even by myself and I know how to touch me... if a man who did not know how to touch me continued to touch me I'd be kicking without meaning to as a way to stop the discomfort.
does she say she wants you to continue and she's afraid of what she's feeling or is she saying "stop" or "no more" or anything else that indicates she does not wish to move past the point she is at.
even if her pain is emotional or mental you must respect that she knows her own body better than you do....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 November 2013):
 P.S. I'm thinking you may be on to something here... considering those several instances wherein furniture was damaged!!!!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 November 2013):
When a woman is lucky enough to share conjugal pleasures with me, I believe that there is no limit to the ecstasy that she experiences..... HOWEVER.... if an effort to provide you some useful feedback on your query.....
..I'll ask a few of them if they've ever "orgasm'ed too hard" such that it was uncomfortable for them.... and will report back to you. I will also offer them a re-do if they DID go "over the top" during our coitus....
Stand by for more....
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (27 November 2013):
 If she says that she's reached her limit, then she probably has. Dont make this a contest OP, you dont have to push yourself and her to attain better results each time you have a go at it!! An orgasm is a state of the mind and for me personally, has to do entirely with emotional bonding. I have had intense multiple orgasms with my fiance but after I know that its over, I don't want him to keep pushing me and neither will he do it. Once I've had my orgasm, I just want to collapse into his arms and let go of myself because the feeling after the orgasm is just amazing...my mind goes absolutely blank, my knees go weak and it feels like I'm literally weightless and floating in mid-air, if I can even put it that way. Its the most amazing, intense, moving feeling in the whole world but that hasn't come through pushing any limits or boundaries. If you stimulate her in the right places, be an attentive lover and let her enjoy herself, then she'll be bound to have amazing orgasms and trust me OP, you wont even feel the need to stimulate her beyond that because even you will know that her orgasm is at its peak and you wont need to do any more.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (26 November 2013):
Dear OP,
If she feels scared and sickish it's definitely time to back off! But that's not because this is her personal limit of pleasure and she's scared to burst with orgasms, it's just that YOUR technique was too harsh and made her sick.
The problem is not that you would be causing an orgasm that would be too intense for her, it's just that you're probably causing pain and discomfort instead of a really good orgasm.
Orgasms aren't epileptic seizures.. even if that's hard to believe when I watch modern-day porn. Women are depicted screaming and cringing.. but that's really not the best pleasure we can get in bed. A whole-body orgasm also doesn't have to look like the woman has a neurological disease, it can be very subtle.
Often, the greatest moments of female pleasure don't look and sound that much from the outside. That's why I find real lesbian porn very boring to look at but lesbian sex very pleasurable to enjoy.
I find it very hard to describe what I mean, you can only learn this if you let the woman be your guide. And if she also doesn't know what would give her more pleasure, I'd recommend some good quality videos on tantric massage. I learnt this technique and it gave me more insight into sexual pleasure than anything else.
It's nice of you to care. And I wish you both a lot of fun in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): I know all women are different.
But for me, all orgasms are pretty much the same. Sure, some can be a little more intense than others, especially if it's been a few days.
However, I've never heard a woman say she wishes her orgasms were better. If you're giving her any orgasms at all, you're doing a good job.
If you're talking just about the quantity…that also depends on the woman. If she says she's tired and wants to stop, you should definitely listen to her. (She won't be injured or anything, she'll just be tired/sore) I know some women who can have 10 orgasms in a row…but I personally max out around 3, and then don't have any desire to keep going.
Good luck, it's great that you care this much about her pleasure!!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (26 November 2013):
 Confused,
Your question is technical and medical on one level. On that level the answer is no. You are not going to physically damage her, with usual sexual stimulation. (disclaimer: this does not include inserting large objects, electrical stimulation, pain . . . or other things that some fools may think are usual but that really are obviously dangerous).
It is interesting that you mention mind. The mind is a different story. Simply doing something that the partner doesn't want can cause trauma to the psyche. So what you are proposing needs to be thought out more.
Congratulations to you for thinking and asking about it. It appears that you two have been talking about it. That is also good. If she is going to pass some barrier (yes they do exist) she will have to do it on her own terms. Agree in advance. Use safe words. Have control in your part. Be prepared to stop or go.
Her feelings sound pretty familiar to me. It takes me quite a bit to release control enough for the really good ones.
Wow it's been a long time since I thought about this. . . . . (wandering off into memory land)
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): About to get graphic here. When I orgasm, I can feel the muscles of my vagina squeezing and releasing and I do get sort of a hot/cold tingle all throughout my body. I'm not one to squirm around or make a lot of noise other than "mmm" or "ooo". But I've never felt anything super-intense and the one time I did, I had to pee so badly I was afraid of peeing in my partners face. It's possible taht when she's scared/sick feeling, that you're pressing on her bladder? Orgasming itself isn't going to hurt her, but if she's scared/sick and doesn't want you to keep going, you seem like the kind of guy who would stop. I don't see how orgasming can hurt her mind, but it seems like she gets physically and mentally uncomfortable at a certain point. Yes, you can make her sore - I once had my clitoris so swollen that it genuinely hurt the next day because it was rubbing against my underwear. That wasn't pleasant :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): A woman is sometimes capable of multiple orgasms. There are different parts of a woman that get stimulated. So if she says that she feels scared or a little sick maybe that is
her limit. Remember always ask her what makes her feel good
and slow down a bit. I don't believe that an orgasm can cause
any damage, but sometimes the pressure of having sex for too long or too hard may cause some soreness. The key is to make her feel good and always ask her if she is okay.
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