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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Is he a player or does he really have feelings for me in this year long friendship?
Q. I recently had a serious talk with a guy I have been seeing for a year and a half. I told him I had developed feelings for him and originally went to talk about ending the relationship as I did not think he felt the same, however he shocked me. He ...
A. 21 April 2013: Hi. Well from what you say, it definitely isn't a "Friends With Benefits" type thing, which is a good thing.
Now that you have given me much more detail, I can see there is obviously more to it than just a casual fling.
So that is positive... (read in full...)
Is he a player or does he really have feelings for me in this year long friendship?
Q. I recently had a serious talk with a guy I have been seeing for a year and a half. I told him I had developed feelings for him and originally went to talk about ending the relationship as I did not think he felt the same, however he shocked me. He ...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi there. You said here that you have been seeing this guy for a year now.
Could you tell me what happens when you see him each time, over that year please?
(1) Does he take you out and spend money on you?
(2) Does he call you through the ... (read in full...)
Single for a long time now and unhappy with my life
Q. Hey everyone, I guess I am going through some sort of emotional crisis lately. I am 29 and have been single for 3 years now. Basically, I have only had only one long-term relationship in my life, which lasted for 3 years. Breaking up with my ex wa...
A. 10 April 2013: Hi. Unfortunately, you don't really begin to get emotionally close, until you have made love to someone.
It starts to build the emotional connection between two people, which is an important part of any relationship.
Don't ever lower your ... (read in full...)
If she liked me so much, why haven't I heard anything from her? Why hasn't she replied??
Q. I recently met a girl and she seemed really into me. She was constantly coming into my place of work and speaking to me whenever she had the chance. On one occasion a friend of hers had to physically drag her out and away from me! My boss was cons...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. Do you both work for the same company?
I am asking this, because you said that she used to come into your office all the time, which makes me think you must work for the same company, and in different departments.
And if you do... (read in full...)
Why can't she leave her self destructive relationship and see what a good guy I am?
Q. My life is changed.. Its so very complicated... I love a girl who stayed with me all the time but had a boyfriend and were in a relationship for almost 5 years.. Then things started to get messy in btween them... they broke up and soon they patched ...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. There is clearly unfinished business there, with this guy she keeps breaking up and making up with.
Otherwise, she wouldn't keep on going back.
I don't believe it is that she doesn't like you enough, but more that she isn't finish... (read in full...)
I want my partner to be able to tell me everything but he's keeping secrets
Q. My partners keeping secrets, I know that he doesn't have to tell me everything but I want him to be able to! he took out a loan but its got a huge repayment. I got angry because we are already swamped with bills he's just been on holiday and to ...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. First of all, was the loan he took out, especially for the holiday he has just taken?
Or was it for somethng else entirely?
And when he took out the loan in the first place, was it a much greater amount than what he actually needed?... (read in full...)
I miss my ex so much and want him back
Q. Hi. I know it's a stupid question to ask but I miss my ex so much it hurts. And I need advise. Well the short story is we have been together for six years and broke up due to cheating. We have been split up a while but still meet for certain s...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. It is natural, that you will miss your ex, after 6 years.
It's a long time.
And it's a big chunk of your life, no doubt.
Regardless of who cheated, and even though someone cheated, do you feel there is some unfinished business... (read in full...)
Should I think our hook up was just a one time thing? I'm afraid to ask him!
Q. Basically last year I ended up getting involved with my best guy mate, we spent the summer together and then it just ended for stupid reasons and we didn't speak for 8 months. Now we started messaging and we eventually met up. He was cuddling me ...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. Half of the problem here, is that before you slept together, you were best mates.
Which means friendship only.
And I also think that when you didn't speak to each other for 8 months over something silly, that it was then that you bo... (read in full...)
Why do people stay such good friends with their ex's?
Q. Hey guys, so I just wanted to kind of share my problem here and see what opinions I get. I'm a young female and have been in about 5 relationships in my life. Weird thing is is that every guy I have ever been involved with seem to still have ...
A. 6 April 2013: Hi there. Most people would be fairly concerned about a current boyfriend remaining friends with an ex, once that romantic relationship has ended.
So you are definitely not alone there, by any means.
And I have to tell you, that you have de... (read in full...)
Single for a long time now and unhappy with my life
Q. Hey everyone, I guess I am going through some sort of emotional crisis lately. I am 29 and have been single for 3 years now. Basically, I have only had only one long-term relationship in my life, which lasted for 3 years. Breaking up with my ex wa...
A. 3 April 2013: Hi there. In your earnest to find someone to share your life with, it is entirely possible, that you might be trying too hard.
And as it has been 3 years since your last relationship, and you feel that you are really missing out in the romance ... (read in full...)
How can a relationship continue without sex?
Q. I have come to terms with being a bisexual, maybe even lesbian if the future remains this way. This all started when my very close friend and flatmate told me she loved me and threw me into a whirlwind of questions. After a month of separati...
A. 29 March 2013: Hi there. It is difficult to know without doubt that you are either bisexual or homosexual - or straight.
And the reason I say this, is that you have never had a relationship at all.
And no relationship with a man, so how can you say this so ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has stopped putting forth effort!
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half, with previous friendship of over two years has completely changed. Before, he used to text me literally every 5 minutes and was upset if we were unable to meet every other day. Now it seems as though he's fine when ...
A. 29 March 2013: Hi there. It seems as though once it evolved from friendship to boyfriend and girlfriend status, that his interest seemed to fade.
It may not be that so much, and possibly that he now feels that text messages too often, takes the shine off thin... (read in full...)
Should I date him? I don't want to get hurt
Q. We have known for sometime now...i am 19,he is 18...he has been so caring and loving that whenever we hang out he puts his head on my shoulder,holds my waist and shoulder like we are already dating,but i have not said yes though he has asked me ...
A. 29 March 2013: Hi there. In what environment is it, that this guy puts his arm around your waist or around your shoulder?
Is it in a social environment?
And are you in a social group where there are a number of other people there also?
It sounds like ... (read in full...)
His snoring is keeping me from enjoying our bed with him and he has given up on his appearance. How do I tell him?
Q. Hi, am 5 yrs into marraige and my husband started balding 2 yeses after our marraige. He also snores badly tht its difficult for me to sleep next to him. And fr so many years I have been trying to tell him tht he should do something about it. But he ...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi there. Because he is snoring every night, he might also then be waking up in the morning, NOT feeling very refreshed, as he ought to be.
There are a few things around for prevention of snoring, but the most successful of all are mouth devices ... (read in full...)
Should I try to reconnect with my mother in law or not?
Q. I am having a hard time reconnecting with my mother in law and don't know if I should. My mother in law has always been pretty nice to me, even though she said something very offensive about me before we even met. She did not want her son (my now-...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi there. Is your mother in law on her own, or is she with her husband?
The reason I ask this, is that if she was on her own, she might be a bit lonely and bitter.
And even if she is with her husband, she might not be happy with her own lif... (read in full...)
Is it possible for friends with benefits to eventually have a true romance and relationship?
Q. My best guy friend is also a friend with benefits. We started off as friends, and later I crushed on him. We talked and he told me that he was not looking for a relationship. He has a child with his ex and at the time he still had feelings for her. ...
A. 15 March 2013: Hi there. As he still in the beginning, had feelings for his ex, that makes it clear as to why he didn't want another romantic relationship, so soon.
So the just friends was about all that he could offer you.
It is probably going to be help... (read in full...)
I want to be with my boyfriend 24/7!
Q. I m starting to wonder if i am normal,i've been with my bf for 4 years and i just can't get enough of him!After all this time,i still wanna just hang out with him every single second of my time...I mean i have social life and i m studying and being ...
A. 15 March 2013: Hi there. It sounds like you are emotionally dependent on him, and eventually, that can become very suffocating.
At the moment, you are living separately, so you can't be together 24/7 anyway, so that naturally gives him all the space he needs at... (read in full...)
Friendship drama...what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, hope you all are doing well. Well, I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea here and think of me as a drama queen or things like that. But there is a serious problem I have been having. To make a very long story some what shor...
A. 14 March 2013: Hi there. First of all, is this girl you are talking about, new to your area?
And are you talking about a school or college environment that you are friends, with these other people?
Or, are you talking about more of a social environment that... (read in full...)
Did my Ex really care about me?
Q. I was in a relationship for 8months we lived together and everything. We split up about a month ago three days later he was seeing somebody else. When people ask him about me he say that we were just friends and that he was just renting a room from ...
A. 11 March 2013: Hello again. Yes, it is possible for it to be a rebound for your ex, and yet it is probably impossible to prove whether it is or not.
And does it really matter?
Probably not.
In any case, as others here have also said, it is completely c... (read in full...)
Did my Ex really care about me?
Q. I was in a relationship for 8months we lived together and everything. We split up about a month ago three days later he was seeing somebody else. When people ask him about me he say that we were just friends and that he was just renting a room from ...
A. 9 March 2013: Hi there. You say you were together for 8 months, which is quite a while, for someone who says you were only a friend, don't you think?
If he says that now to people, then why did he stay living with you for 8 months?
Was it a sudden breakup f... (read in full...)
Been getting to know a long distance guy, but he doesn't seem to ask me any questions about me on a deeper level?
Q. Dear Cupid, Before I start, this question is related to a long-distance relationship, and I know that there are many people out there that criticize it and are not open to saying anything good about it, so I would appreciate logical answers ...
A. 9 March 2013: You are very welcome.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How much do you share with your significant other about your work?
Q. My bf and I have very different jobs: I work for a very large corporation in management while he has a very manual job in a construction company. We talk a lot about our jobs and what happened at work and so on. While I get the type of environment ...
A. 9 March 2013: Hi there. It's not like you are trying to shut him out, because he shares with you about his job - which is nice.
When he asks you questions about your day at work, he probably doesn't really need any nitty gritty detailed story about it, just... (read in full...)
How can I just get him to knock it off?
Q. My ex (first boyfriend that I ever had) has decided to contact me periodically. Basically, he'll just decide every few months to contact me non-stop and try to get me to go to coffee or lunch or whatever with him. The thing is that I really do...
A. 9 March 2013: Hi there. Do you think it is because he thinks you are playing hard to get?
Or, it could be that he doesn't have anyone else to go out with, and so he keeps returning to what he knows.
Which is, you and the memories of when you two dated.
... (read in full...)
Been getting to know a long distance guy, but he doesn't seem to ask me any questions about me on a deeper level?
Q. Dear Cupid, Before I start, this question is related to a long-distance relationship, and I know that there are many people out there that criticize it and are not open to saying anything good about it, so I would appreciate logical answers ...
A. 9 March 2013: Hello again. Thanks for that extra information.
Sometimes people won't ask others about themselves, because they feel they might be prying.
And no-one wants to do that.
And with him probably feeling this way - and I really feel that he does... (read in full...)
Been getting to know a long distance guy, but he doesn't seem to ask me any questions about me on a deeper level?
Q. Dear Cupid, Before I start, this question is related to a long-distance relationship, and I know that there are many people out there that criticize it and are not open to saying anything good about it, so I would appreciate logical answers ...
A. 9 March 2013: Hi there. Although you have only seen each other once, the rest of your conversations have been by chatting online, which is very different from actually being together in one room.
So for that reason, it might be that he keeps the conversa... (read in full...)
Should I not say anything when I see my boyfriend looking at other women?
Q. My boyfriend has really upset me and I think I've said things a bit hastily trying to upset him back. I bought him a few presents yesterday beacause he's moving in, took him for a drink because he's only just started a new job and hasn't got much ...
A. 8 March 2013: Hi there. First of all, how long have you been going out together?
I am assuming if he is moving in with you, it must be at least 6 months or more.
Most men do look at other women sometimes, it's impossible not to, if someone of the opposite ... (read in full...)
What would be the best way to let my mom know I am gay?
Q. Ok, so in one of my other questions i asked how to come out to my mum , ( i'm still too much of a coward to do it ) But i was thinking it was around the right time to just toughen up and do it because i just feel like it is , i'm 14 now and i know ...
A. 8 March 2013: That is great news! What a load off your mind that must be.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I want to talk to my ex again but don't want her thinking I'm needy.
Q. Okay the thing is, i had a girlfriend not in the same school but in the same town like 6 or 7 months back who i really liked a lot, we broke up in April and we were determined never to speak to each other again, and we didnt, except a couple of 5 ...
A. 7 March 2013: Hi there. It really depends on what your intention is, doesn't it?
Do you simply want to be friends, and just say hi, and catch up?
Or, are you hoping to get back with her again?
Because, once a relationship is over, there really is no... (read in full...)
Money isssues between my partner and me
Q. My girlfriend and I are having issues over finance.The circumstances are as follows: I run my own business, which has suffered a lot in the recession.I still make a profit, but not vast amounts.I probably earn just above the national average ...
A. 7 March 2013: Hi there. It would surely seem fair for your girlfriend to contribute some money towards her holidays.
Well realistically, if she is going on holidays without you, she should be paying the total amount - or else, she just doesn't go on holidays... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my boyfriend's controlling intrusive mother?
Q. Hi there. Please could you help me resolve an issue that's brewing with my boyfriend's mum. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for just over a year and she is becoming overly clingy! She is polite and courteous towards me mostly, however, I find t...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi. Sorry about the mix-up.
Well, it's not like she's on her own then, is it?
Anyway, if your boyfriend can organise with his mother at least one day or perhaps 2 days - when you and him don't see each other - and go and see her, well then t... (read in full...)
Could he have been using me for sex?
Q. Is it possible that this guy used me for sex even though we only had sex 7 times with month gaps inbetween? We were dating for 5 months and he made up a lame excuse about not thinking I cared about him and everyone tells he must have used me for t...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. When you say you only had sex with this guy, 7 times with month long gaps in between each time, are you saying that in that month long gap each time, you didn't see each other at all?
And that it went on for about 5 months.
And if ... (read in full...)
I'm not strong enough to deal with this world on my own? Who do I turn to?
Q. I'm all alone, I have no one to talk to, I feel really anxious and panicky. I'm by myself and I feel so scared. I can't survive in this world on my own, I can't cope. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I'm scared to even go to the ...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. First of all, has there been some recent major trauma in your life that has caused this extreme anxiety, that you are feeling?
And if not a major trauma, when did these feelings of fear of being alone in the house, or of going out of t... (read in full...)
What would be the best way to let my mom know I am gay?
Q. Ok, so in one of my other questions i asked how to come out to my mum , ( i'm still too much of a coward to do it ) But i was thinking it was around the right time to just toughen up and do it because i just feel like it is , i'm 14 now and i know ...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. I agree with the other poster here, that writing something so important and personal online, is inappropriate.
It is your family we are talking about here.
And even if you were coming out to your friends, it would still be much be... (read in full...)
She's been more distant ever since I expressed interest in her!
Q. There's this girl in college i'm very good friends. I had very strong feelings for her. We talked very regularly. Then i kind of let her know i liked her. She didn't say no or yes. but she went like She doesn't want to make things weird for us and ...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. A bad experience with a previous relationship will naturally make her wary of starting any new relationships, for sure.
So maybe, the next time you start a conversation with her, just apologise for making her feel a bit uncomfor... (read in full...)
Are his actions a result of me distancing myself from him?
Q. I have had very strong feelings for a guy at my school for a long time. We are close friends, but now he only talks to me when I am alone and I do not know why. I had already told him how I felt, though I am not sure if he knows that I still hav...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. You are probably distancing yourself from him, because you may have thought that was what he wanted.
And so he is treading carefully, just in case he is barking up the wrong tree.
Like, he doesn't want to tell you he really likes you... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like sex, won't let me have someone else. I'm at my rope's end!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 5 years now, she was 30 and I was 25. She wanted to wait until we were married to have sex, for religious reasons. I was ok with this because I always try to be a gentleman. I was her first boyfriend, and there ...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. Making love is a really important part of any loving relationship.
It is how two people share their love for each other. As well as show their appreciation for the other person.
And no doubt, this is affecting how you feel towards... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my boyfriend's controlling intrusive mother?
Q. Hi there. Please could you help me resolve an issue that's brewing with my boyfriend's mum. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for just over a year and she is becoming overly clingy! She is polite and courteous towards me mostly, however, I find t...
A. 3 March 2013: Hi there. Your boyfriend's mother is divorced from his father.
Then you mentioned - "and remarried" - and so from what you said after that, I am assuming that his father is the one who remarried, and not his mother.
Which then means, that she ... (read in full...)
My first partner didn't enjoy the sex -- how can I compete with experienced guys?
Q. I've been a relationship with a woman I met online for more than a year. We live thousands of miles apart but we've had two visits. The first visit, we weren't sure where we were going with our relationship, but we ended up having sex the first day ...
A. 27 February 2013: Hi. Perhaps when you first had sex together, it was a thrill to actually be together, after having chatted online for quite a while.
So there was the excitement of the first time, seeing each other, which made it more fun.
And there were some ... (read in full...)
I feel lost in this new place and miss my Bf. My Mom's new Bf tells me what to do all the time. If I returned home I'd have new problems. What to do?
Q. Hi everyone, just feeling a little lost and could use some help. About 6 weeks ago I decided to move interstate, as my mum lives up here and I wanted to try something new. I got myself a full-time job, and borrowed $5000 off my mum to buy a car....
A. 23 February 2013: Hi there. You still have to pay your mum back for the car, no matter what you do, so where you live won't really affect that at all.
It really depends on what you are the most unhappy about, with this situation with your mum and her new boyfrien... (read in full...)
Based on the rules in my workplace: If we just go out on a date here and there, would that be what they call a relationship? Could our employment be terminated?
Q. I work at a private school. There are rules of conduct for the staff. One of the rules is relationships are not permitted between staff. I am very attracted to a co worker and I can tell she has a serious interest in me. I know why these rules ...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi there. It can be a frustrating rule that some organisations have, to not allow dating between staff members.
The married couple who also work at this private school, is a little different in that because they are both teachers, there is only ... (read in full...)
I really want a baby. I'm trying IVF. But have personal troubles with my new man, who is critical of me. Is it a cultural thing? What to do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for three months, getting on really well. We both currently live in Thailand, working together and spending all our time together. Up until now it's been great. Feel very relaxed around each other and open about everythi...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi there. When it comes down to relationships and any problems or a change in one person's behaviour towards the other, there really is no better way than to sit down together and have a heart to heart chat.
As you have said here, it seems th... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things? How can I get things back to the way we were at the start, flirting and saying nice things to me?
Q. Dating advice needed! Recently my school talent show was on and I took part in it! I became really close to this boy, the DJ, and I slowly started to love him. We got so close at the show and I was disappointed when it was over because I thought we ...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi there. In a disco type environment where there is a lot of dancy type music, it's very easy to be flirtatious in that environment.
It sounds like you may have scared him off when you asked him directly, if he liked you as much as you liked hi... (read in full...)
My first partner didn't enjoy the sex -- how can I compete with experienced guys?
Q. I've been a relationship with a woman I met online for more than a year. We live thousands of miles apart but we've had two visits. The first visit, we weren't sure where we were going with our relationship, but we ended up having sex the first day ...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi there. As with everything, practice makes perfect.
It's just another life skill like anything else.
None of us are experts at making love in the very first few experiences.
With each new relationship we have, we learn new skills from th... (read in full...)
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