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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 4 October 2013: Hi there. Thanks for getting back to me.
I'm glad you are meeting up with this guy tomorrow, and it will be nice to catch up again.
Friendship is a start, and a good one.
When you meet up, don't have any expectations of it - oth... (read in full...)
He hasn't called after a fight
Q. My boyfriend (5months) and I had a fight the other night. The exact details I can't even remember. Basically we were suppose to meet up on Thursday because we haven't seen each other for a few days so I was waiting to hear from him when he got home ...
A. 23 September 2013: All you can do now then, is to just wait and see when he decides to call you again.
The ball is now in his court.
And so the next action needs to come from him.
And so just give him some space, no matter how long that ends up being.
A... (read in full...)
He hasn't called after a fight
Q. My boyfriend (5months) and I had a fight the other night. The exact details I can't even remember. Basically we were suppose to meet up on Thursday because we haven't seen each other for a few days so I was waiting to hear from him when he got home ...
A. 22 September 2013: Hi there. It seems very unlikely that after 5 months of already dating this man, that he would simply call it quits, just because you had a minor disagreement.
It seems way too trivial to end it over something so simple.
Perhaps the a... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 18 September 2013: Hi. She could create other new addresses, it's hard to say.
When you said earlier on that she opened and closed email addresses, or something like that, I was thinking that she might have used different addresses.
Maybe not.
In any case tho... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 17 September 2013: Hi there. Yes, with some people for sure, adding all sorts of information onto their personal Facebook page, and constantly changing their status etc., can be about getting attention, I agree.
It probably is rather handy that you are an hour awa... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 15 September 2013: I think that is a very wise idea.
Apart from anything else, visiting those social media websites, can become a bit addictive.
And it can take up a lot of your time.
You don't want to put yourself through that frustration anymore, of ... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 12 September 2013: Hi there. You're very welcome.
It probably has been too long already, and you know when you have had enough.
And it sounds like you feel that way now.
Your gut feeling is pretty much on the money here, and her actions all seem to be f... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 11 September 2013: Hi there. Is is possible that when she has got back in contact with you and is "stupidly happy" as you put it, that she was emailing you, to see if she could get a reaction from you - such as jealousy?
Because, like you, I see no reason to send ... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 7 September 2013: Hi there. No, I have never been divorced.
I'm very happily married for almost 28 years now.
As I have lived my life, I have learned things as I go along, and I have listened to my intuition, which always serves me well.
Okay, so you we... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 5 September 2013: Hi there. It must be pretty frustrating for you, being in this situation.
And the worst part of it, is the uncertainty.
And not knowing where you really stand in all this.
From what you say here, perhaps she wanted to be led by someone els... (read in full...)
I really want to talk to him but I don't know how!
Q. Ok well it's sophomore year and my friend J(first letter of his name, not gonna reveal his full name) finally is a high schooler but he's older than me by a month. Ok back to the story, we've been talking since I was in the 8th grade and he was ...
A. 5 September 2013: Hi. I think it will be a golden opportunity for you to get to know him.
And to talk in person with someone, is always much better than simply chatting online.
Although chatting online is easy to do, it is still rather limited, and can leave ro... (read in full...)
I really want to talk to him but I don't know how!
Q. Ok well it's sophomore year and my friend J(first letter of his name, not gonna reveal his full name) finally is a high schooler but he's older than me by a month. Ok back to the story, we've been talking since I was in the 8th grade and he was ...
A. 3 September 2013: Hi. I think you ought to go to that fall festive in October, as it is a chance to actually see him and have a chat with him.
Look upon it as an opportunity.
Sometimes we need to create our own opportunities, and do whatever we can.
This fri... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 3 September 2013: Hi. Although she is in a relationship with this other man, she may not like him as much as she liked you.
And she may be comparing what you had with her, to what she has with him.
Even if you didn't see a lot of each other before she met h... (read in full...)
I said I was confused, he said he was too!
Q. This boy really confuses me... Please help. I said I still really like you he says he still really likes me, yet he broke up with me. How does that work? When I said I was confused he said he was too. What is going on? ...
A. 31 August 2013: Hi. I guess it also depends on how long you were going out together.
If it was for a year or two, well then perhaps it was that he was falling heavily in love with you, and was confused by those feelings.
And falling in love, can be quite int... (read in full...)
Confused about ex girlfriend's behaviour
Q. I knew her for about a year and I would describe it as off and on. We would talk continually online, email and text. Meeting up as friends, with her eventually coming onto me by making suggestive comments and texts leading to sex. We would la...
A. 31 August 2013: Hi there. It seems that since her divorce, and actually during the process, she is very unsure of what she really wants.
When you met her, there was a lot going on with the divorce proceedings, and all that entails, so she had a lot on her plat... (read in full...)
I really want to talk to him but I don't know how!
Q. Ok well it's sophomore year and my friend J(first letter of his name, not gonna reveal his full name) finally is a high schooler but he's older than me by a month. Ok back to the story, we've been talking since I was in the 8th grade and he was ...
A. 30 August 2013: Hi there. You could use the opportunity when you are standing at the bus lot for freshman, to get to know him.
You have already broken the ice, by talking with him a bit on Facebook, and have had some interesting and fun conversations, so that'... (read in full...)
I said I was confused, he said he was too!
Q. This boy really confuses me... Please help. I said I still really like you he says he still really likes me, yet he broke up with me. How does that work? When I said I was confused he said he was too. What is going on? ...
A. 30 August 2013: Hi there. From what you say here - that he broke up with you - tells me that you were dating.
And so you were boyfriend and girlfriend.
Perhaps he felt that he was getting too seriously involved, and then realized this.
And he might ha... (read in full...)
He's been the perfect boyfriend so why do I dread hearing from him?
Q. Im so confused. Ive been with my boyfriend for six years, in the beginning we had huge problems, he cheated a number of times and because he was my first love i forgave him. however for the last four years hes been the perfect boyfriend we've gotten ...
A. 30 August 2013: Hi there. Six years together is quite a long time, and especially now that you are 22-25 years old, as it says here, this means you were 16-19 years old when you first started dating.
And that is very young indeed.
And in that 6 years of being... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 30 August 2013: Hi there. You will naturally want someone exactly like him, because he has those special qualities that make you happy to be with him and to consider in your mind, that there could be a future with him.
However in saying that, it does seem tha... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 27 August 2013: Hi. It is an automatic thing to compare new guys with the one you just stopped seeing.
Everyone is different, and no two people are exactly the same.
But you don't want someone exactly the same as him anyway, do you?
We are all unique, an... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 16 August 2013: Hi. What I meant by giving the situation time, is that you get on with your own life and see your friends.
Don't just sit around and mope.
You will never forget him, that's impossible.
So don't think that you ever could.
In any case, t... (read in full...)
He dates me and then ignores me! He's done this twice and I want it to stop
Q. So I met a guy that's 2 years younger than me last year in November, we really got along well and were going on dates till he completely stopped speaking to me at a stage, then eventually he said he couldn't be in a relationship at that time. So my ...
A. 12 August 2013: Hi there. Perhaps when you have dated before, he gets scared when he realizes he might be falling in love with you.
And so then he backs off - much like you have described here.
And no contact from him for a while, to let the dust settle a bi... (read in full...)
Is she trying to get me to make a move or what?
Q. I'm a bit confused here, there's this girl whom I've known for a long time, we've both been in and out of relationships. Now I've been interested in her for a while, but up till last night I believed she didn't have any interest in me. I mean she ...
A. 5 August 2013: Hi there. She must have feelings for you, otherwise she wouldn't have said what she did in a jealous tone of voice.
You might just have to ask her quietly, what that was all about.
Maybe you could simply ask her out for a coffee, and that... (read in full...)
My guy friend, who I have something going on with, got overly worried for me one night. What does this mean?
Q. Heyy So basically I just wanted to know what you guys think this means. I told one of my guy friends (who we got a bit of a thing going on) that I was going out drinking with a friend and he was like why you going out? Where you going and who ...
A. 3 August 2013: Hi there. Actually, it seems pretty clear to me.
Although you have been good friends up until now, and have not had sex, and have also not talked about the status of your relationship, I definitely can see that more feelings have develope... (read in full...)
Do I tell him that now that I'm not interested or do I go on a couple of more dates to see if feelings develop?
Q. I recently went on a date with someone I've been talking to for a while. We got on well, could talk for hours about anything but I'm not sure I'm feeling anything more than friendship for him. Do I tell him that now or go on a couple more dates to ...
A. 3 August 2013: Hi there. As you have only met in person once, that probably isn't enough time to really know how you feel.
Even though he seems to be developing feelings for you more quickly, it still would be a good idea to go out with him at least one more... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 2 August 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
It was wise that you realized rebounds are not a good idea.
You'll be glad that you waited until you are ready again for a new relationship.
And it will definitely be well worth the wait.... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 1 August 2013: Hi. It sounds like you are becoming clear on things a bit now, and that is a positive thing.
It isn't an easy decision to make by any means, and especially when you have such a great rapport with each other.
Did you say you are still long d... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 30 July 2013: Hi. When I said if you are meant to be together, I wasn't referring to fate.
It could just mean that although you met him now, there could be a few more things that need to happen in your lives for both of you, BEFORE the time is right for you ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 29 July 2013: Hi. It is possible you do want to stay friends with him in order to ultimately become a couple again.
However, I believe at the moment, the timing isn't right.
As his daughter is only 2 years old, it probably isn't an issue for her, as to w... (read in full...)
We decided to take a break and now he's not coming back
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months and I broke up on the 15th. He moved back to his city which is 45 minutes away. Awe broke up do to fighting a lot . We decided that we would try to work on things but not be together right yet. He moved back because he said ...
A. 26 July 2013: Hi there. I agree with what your friends have said.
Texting him is only going to annoy him, and not allow him the space he really needs to think about everything.
All he really needs is some space.
And then he can miss you, and think abou... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to get over him?
Q. Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...
A. 26 July 2013: Hi there. Even as much as you got along really well with each other, he could have been in a situation like this before.
And by that, I mean that with his daughter, each time he does meet someone he likes, his daughter might be giving him a ha... (read in full...)
Can I fancy a man without a 'crush?'
Q. Hello there. I apologise if I've contacted you before. I've been in touch with many, in the hope of finding someone who can relate to my problem. I'm a 42 year old woman. I can 'fancy' some (not many) men, and 'fancy' loads more women. I ...
A. 24 July 2013: Hi there. There isn't much you CAN do about this.
You see attractive things in both men and women, but sexually only in women.
And nothing can really take the place of an erect penis, when it comes to the sexual side of things.
Perha... (read in full...)
Would it be such a bad idea to call him?
Q. We where having too many fights, he couldn't see a problem, so I left. It was bitter. After three weeks on no contact, he called me. I missed it and text him asking what he wanted. He said to know how I was, I told him good and said nothing else. He ...
A. 24 July 2013: Hi there. I guess the breakup really depends on what kinds of things you used to fight about.
Were they serious things - big issues?
Or, were they tiny little things that were hardly worth arguing about?
Many times, couples argue over very ... (read in full...)
My husband decided he's really done. Anyone who has been in the situation please advise?
Q. I'm feeling really down. I need some advice or helpful words from someone who has been through this before. I posted on here the other day that I'm going through a separation. I'm having a hard time with it. For a lot of reasons I have to stay in ...
A. 24 July 2013: Hi there. This situation is not being helped by the fact that you are still living in the same house, even though the marriage is apparently over.
Do you really have to wait a couple of months, till you can move out?
Could you move in with som... (read in full...)
Does my bi friend have hidden feelings for me?
Q. Hey Cupids, I’m looking for some sensible advice. First off, I’m gay and my friend is bi (he hates the label). He’s one of my best friends but I’ve also come to realise that he has become very attentive and emotional around me. He didn’t see me f...
A. 24 July 2013: Hi there. It does sound like he has feelings, just from what you have said here.
He seems to get jealous when you are talking to other friends, which points towards him liking you.
And because you are gay, well then you aren't into men in a se... (read in full...)
How would you feel if your fiance talks a lot about a female co-worker? Should I be concerned?
Q. Well, I'm back. I've posted on here about this issue before and it doesn't seem to be getting resolved. I know this is a long post. So bear with me on that. I didn't intend for it to be. Kudos to anyone that can finish reading it. Thank you. ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi there. Apart from all this, how is your relationship with your fiance, generally speaking?
Do you have a lot in common, and do your genuinely enjoy being in each other's company?
And how many hours does he spend at the office?
I am ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. Sorry, it was slow sending, and it accidentally posted twice.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. It isn't an easy thing to cope with, that he needs his space, and it can feel a bit like rejection.
Don't feel that way though, this is a journey that he must take alone.
And as I was mentioning before, he is simplifying his life so that... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. It isn't an easy thing to cope with, that he needs his space, and it can feel a bit like rejection.
Don't feel that way though, this is a journey that he must take alone.
And as I was mentioning before, he is simplifying his life so that... (read in full...)
My bestfriend/love of my life is upset with me and I don't know why.
Q. I have a friend who ive known for some years now, who lived in a different state. We use to be really close, like best friends but he had a gf and we stopped talking, I heard he moved and then he got his number changed. I dated this other guy a...
A. 16 July 2013: Hi there. Perhaps he is not really over the girl he was going out with before.
And if not that, well then maybe he isn't really sure if you are interested in him now.
Because, you were really only good friends, and not boyfriend and gi... (read in full...)
She's married but we're sort of friends. Is it ok to invite her for coffee?
Q. I've got to know my next door neighbour over the past year or so. She walks her kids to school at the same time I go to work, and we spend the time chatting. I haven't seen her in a couple of months and this week we bumped into each other. We said ...
A. 14 July 2013: Hi there. Even though you speak to your next door neighbour in passing, it might not be such a good idea to go into her place for coffee, just in case something happens.
And who knows that it won't?
Keeping in mind that she is married, after a... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 13 July 2013: Hi. Just take a leap of faith.
What do you have to lose?
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. Sometimes when there are issues in our lives that remain unresolved, the only real way to work things out properly, is to distance ourselves completely.
It is nothing against you, and nor is it anything you have said or done.
Nor is ... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 11 July 2013: Hello again. Thank you, I am enjoying it very much.
And I really do enjoy helping whenever I can, on Dear Cupid.
It's really great that someone decided to start this website, as very often people think there is no-one they can turn to.
And ... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 8 July 2013: Hi. It sounds like you are finding your way, towards what you want, and that is a good thing.
Unfortunately, past relationships - and especially, bad breakups - can cause us to have some emotional baggage, which we then carry forward to future r... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. What might be happening here for you, is that you have learned to become rather skeptical, over time.
And this can happen after a few bad breakups, and so you begin to protect yourself from getting hurt.
And so it is possible, that y... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 6 July 2013: Hi there. Yes, there are a few guys in the world who tell these lies to women and actually act as though they believe the lie themselves!
I suppose they have had lots of practise to make it perfect and convincible.
But it is not always a goo... (read in full...)
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