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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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My Ex asked me to marry him. I am happy but why do I feel nervous at the same time?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a middle aged woman who loved this guy sometime ago we were in a relationship on and off for sometime but now our daughter is grown now he is in another state and so am I .Now that we are getting older there are no more babies he ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. You mention cheating.
And this could be what is making you feel nervous, the way you do.
And it seems that he has done this to you in the past, and so you are automatically wondering if he is still that same person, who cheated on y... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me. why did he say he still loves me?
Q. My ex dumped me and walked out of my life without any reasons two months. Recently he found out that I have a new boyfriend and contacted me. He told me he still loves me,but he can't stand to see me with someone else. He then unfriended me on ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. He could definitely be jealous.
And sometimes, you don't know what you have until you lose it.
This could be it.
Although, he came back to you or got in contact with you, ONLY after hearing you had met someone else.
And so ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on this guy from an online dating site - advice?
Q. I signed up for an online dating site for people of the same religion as me for a laugh, and I ended up doing a search on guys for fun. There was someone whom I really fancy by looking at his pictures/profile - but he works in a different country ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. It sounds like you haven't actually spoken to him yet.
Is that true?
What I am saying, is that you have read his profile and like how it sounds, and you like how he looks.
But you have not had a conversation with him as... (read in full...)
Is he trying to tell me something, or am I reading too much into this?
Q. I am pretty much into my boss. We get along so well and in the entire office, we're the only two people who share the same interest in films, music and whatnot. There were instances in the past where I could not identify if he was into me but didn't ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. First of all, is this man - your old boss - in the same age group as yourself?
And do you know his marital status?
Like, if not married, is it possible that he is in a relationship already?
And it is possible you may not kno... (read in full...)
Could I be doing something wrong in my dating?
Q. I'm hoping someone can help me. Since I've never really been in a relationship before, I made an account on a website where you can meet and get to know new people in your area. It's like a dating site. Through out the last 5 months or so that...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. I can tell you in all honesty, that this is a very common problem in romantic relationships for a lot of young women.
And it is extremely frustrating, when you don't know why it keeps on happening.
And it is nothing wrong that you h... (read in full...)
What is wrong? I ejaculate too fast!
Q. I dont really know what is wrong. But each time i try to play with myself i usually ejaculate very fast than expected and anytime i try to penetrate any girl i usually ejaculate even before my penile draws closer to the vagina. I dont know if this ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. There is probably nothing medically wrong, so don't worry.
It is possible, that in your excitement to begin sex or masturbation, that you are just looking too far ahead into the destination, instead of just enjoying the journey.... (read in full...)
My husband and I fight all the time
Q. I cant stand my husband. I know I am lucky cause he is not a drunk or he doesnt cheat or abuse, but the problem is that we fight all the time, even more over such silly stuff or the silliest of silliest stuff. It has come to that point that I cant ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. How long have you been married?
Has it always been like this, since you were first married?
And are there any children?
And how was your relationship before you got married?
Were you happy, and did you genuinely enjoy each oth... (read in full...)
We've grown used to each other but I'm tired of the games!
Q. So this guy i know has always had this strong connection and we both confirmed we felt it. He's been curious about me for years and finally one day we were able to call each other and then started making time to actually hang out.We both have trust ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi. From what you have said now, it sounds like you are ready to trust, but he is not quite there yet.
I am getting this impression from you by how you say he is kind of okay sometimes, and then he reverts back to a-hole mode as you put it, and ... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating just a bandaid?
Q. So ive had a very complicated romantic history lately... i dated a guy off and on since 2010 (currently not together) we had a child together and moved into an apartment this year after a few months we split up because he seriously miss treated me ...
A. 27 June 2013: Hi there. When you started dating this other guy who you used to go out with, it seemed convenient, and you were not alone anymore.
Sometimes, it feels as if it is better to have someone, than to feel lonely.
Unfortunately though, it can c... (read in full...)
Is she still my friend or has she gone cold on me?
Q. I need to hear someones opinion on this. About 5 months ago I met a girl through an organization we both work for. I don't have many friends where I live, and she was friendly and we decided to meet to go see museums etc. We met several times, and I ...
A. 23 June 2013: Hi there. Her always saying she is busy, could be true or just mean that she isn't interested.
There comes a time where you have to make a decision about this on your own.
And it seems that time could be now.
You are getting very little ... (read in full...)
How do I find a woman in my own age bracket who wants a relationship?
Q. Hi Guys. I am nearly 35 but I look 25 or sometimes I even have been asked for my ID at alcohol stores. I was dating a 25 year old girl and she left cause I got serious. For me its very hard to find a girl in my age bracket, a girl who is mature a...
A. 23 June 2013: Hi there. Is the age of someone really so important to you?
Surely, it only really matters what is inside.
Meaning, your true character and your personality.
Perhaps this is where you are going wrong, that you are only looking for women a... (read in full...)
He texted me five weeks after the break-up -- why?
Q. So I broke up with my ex boyfriend about 5 weeks ago. We were together for 4 years and he texted me for the first time after 5 weeks of not talking and said "someone made me think of you today. Hope you're doing well, I'm doing great:)" what am I ...
A. 23 June 2013: Hi there. It is rather unusual, to say the least.
It seems like he did it to gloat.
Because at the end of it, he said - "I'm doing great. (And a smiley face.)"
So why bother?
It seems to serve no purpose.
I say, that you DO N... (read in full...)
Boyfriend owes me money and is avoiding me .... what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 3 years and for past 2 months he is crashing up in his mothers place as he needs to sort out few things there. He owes me some money and I was in some trouble financially and while talking to him yesterday, told h...
A. 23 June 2013: Hi there. I guess it really depends on how much money we are talking about here.
When you said you lent him some money, are you talking about hundreds or thousands of dollars?
Or is it something like $50 or less?
If you know where his mothe... (read in full...)
Do I tell my husband straight out that I want out of the marriage?
Q. I´m married for 10 years now and since 2 years ago my mother got really sick and I started to go to my country for some time.Last year I went for 3 months and when I went back to USA my husband was diferente,much loosed.Later on some of his friends ...
A. 22 June 2013: Hi there. It is possible that when your mother became very ill near the end of her life, that you were spending a lot of time with her and so he felt excluded.
Like, perhaps in your natural concern and worry about your mother's failing health, ... (read in full...)
We've grown used to each other but I'm tired of the games!
Q. So this guy i know has always had this strong connection and we both confirmed we felt it. He's been curious about me for years and finally one day we were able to call each other and then started making time to actually hang out.We both have trust ...
A. 21 June 2013: Hi there,
It is extremely clear, that the trust issues you both have, is just getting in the way - BIG TIME.
And I am guessing that these trust issues you both have, may stem from past relationships.
Perhaps you have dated guys in the past w... (read in full...)
Shy to make contact--what does that mean?
Q. If a girl behaves like uncomfortable, shy to make eye contact with u what does that mean?...
A. 12 June 2013: Hi. I am guessing that you are likely to see this young lady on many occasions, whenever you are out with your friends socializing?
And that perhaps, it is NOT the very first time you ever saw her?
And that also, you have so far, seen her on... (read in full...)
I'm tired from working so much and husband says he'll go elsewhere if I don't want to have sex!
Q. So here i am back here again... not sure what to do anymore... i been with my husband off and on for 17 yeats but have only been married 6 months .... i work all the time to support our family and hes been getting upset with me cuz im not in the ...
A. 12 June 2013: Hi again. As you are not happy, and that seems pretty obvious, well then why not just tell him you are over it, and that you are leaving?
Surely, you deserve better than that - don't you think?
You are doing all the giving and he is doing all ... (read in full...)
I'm very uncomfortable around my friend's boyfriend
Q. Me and my friend are arranging a 'double date' with myself, her, her boyfriend and the guy I like. The problem is I feel so uncomfortable around her boyfriend and I don't know why, I feel awkward and on edge. also, she's ridiculously pretty a...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi there. Perhaps you are uncomfortable around your friend's boyfriend, because you may be attracted to him, and this is why you feel awkward.
And maybe you don't realize this at the moment, and so you don't understand why you feel this way eith... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not contact me when she is visiting her mother. Should I ask her about it?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. We are both divorced, have our own kids and save for a minor hiccup in our relationship this past January we have a good strong bond. Each morning when we are waking up at our own places, ...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi there. It really seems like the reason your girlfriend doesn't contact you when she visits her mother, is that it has to do with the fact that her mother thinks she shouldn't be dating.
And of course, that is because of her previous experien... (read in full...)
Shy to make contact--what does that mean?
Q. If a girl behaves like uncomfortable, shy to make eye contact with u what does that mean?...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi there. I am guessing that you haven't actually spoken to each other yet?
You have only seen each other in a social environment, while out with your own friends, and you see this girl you would like to get to know.
I would say that she lik... (read in full...)
Date didn't even call or text to say he wasn't coming for our date!
Q. Me and a guy suppose to be going to the movies but he didn't come pick me up from my house, he told me he would come and we already made plans, I'm already dressed waiting for him but he didn't show up... He didn't even text me or call to tell me he ...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi there. From what you said in your reply to another poster here, you have been dating him for 3 weeks?
And so it wasn't a very first date, was it?
As you both had already made plans for the movies, it is possible that something happen... (read in full...)
I'm tired from working so much and husband says he'll go elsewhere if I don't want to have sex!
Q. So here i am back here again... not sure what to do anymore... i been with my husband off and on for 17 yeats but have only been married 6 months .... i work all the time to support our family and hes been getting upset with me cuz im not in the ...
A. 9 June 2013: Hi there. You have said you work 55 hrs a week, to support "our family", and so there are some children?
Did I assume this right?
Or, are you referring to your mum and dad, and his mum and dad?
Well anyway, it probably doesn't really ... (read in full...)
Why do people hold onto marriages that they don't want?
Q. Why would two people remain married after being seperated fir 3 and a half years, both be involved in serious relationships for over a year, one party having been involved for the whole three years with another person. They were only married for ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi there. It is possible, that even after the 3 years of separation, that they have decided they don't in fact love anyone else, quite as much as they did each other.
There might be something missing from these other relationships they now have... (read in full...)
Now that we live together I find that he's broke and demanding
Q. I just need an opinion on this matter, what does it take for a woman to be happy when she says my man makes me happy. Must a man be a provider financially or just to show that he love her by merely being with her. I've dated this guy for 6 years, ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hi there. And so he is also threatening you as well?
This man really sounds like BIG trouble, he really does.
He does work, so that is one positive thing.
And he is paying out child support to two children, to two different women.
That... (read in full...)
Are my husband's threats real or a bluff? What can I do to protect myself?
Q. my husband is living in the same house as I am with his girl friend. He threatened me yesterday saying that he will not give me alimony and I will either be going back to my country or living n jaiL if I do not work and move out and he will be ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi there. Are you both from another country, and living in the USA?
Or, is he an American, and you are from another country?
And are you a permanent American citizen?
Or, are you on a visa of some kind?
If your husband is theatening... (read in full...)
Is he counting the cost, despite refusing my offers to go dutch? He now says I order pricey food all the time
Q. Hi all. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months, we both go to graduate school and work at the same time. The other day we were talking during dinner and he said that I always ordered the most expensive thing in the menú and drinks! ...
A. 2 June 2013: Hi there. So it is only a new relationship - a couple of months - that you have been together.
It seems that how much money he spends on a date, seems to be more important to him than whether or not it is an enjoyable evening.
And you have ... (read in full...)
My controlling bf keeps calling. I want to leave, but feel guilty. What should I do?
Q. Dear all. Please advise. I'VE been in a relationship with a very controlling man for 3 years. I have distanced myself recently, as I keep getting hurt,and decided to stop taking his calls. I HAVEN'T seen him for around two weeks, bv this week, HE...
A. 31 May 2013: Hi there. Perhaps he didn't answer your text message straight away, because he was working and just didn't get the chance.
In any case, don't text him anymore now - just give him space.
And if he replies - well then good.
And if he doesn... (read in full...)
My controlling bf keeps calling. I want to leave, but feel guilty. What should I do?
Q. Dear all. Please advise. I'VE been in a relationship with a very controlling man for 3 years. I have distanced myself recently, as I keep getting hurt,and decided to stop taking his calls. I HAVEN'T seen him for around two weeks, bv this week, HE...
A. 28 May 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
What it will do - when you either say you are busy, or, you get someone else to take the call for you - is that he will instantly know, that he just CANNOT take you for granted anymore.
And so by not always being ava... (read in full...)
My controlling bf keeps calling. I want to leave, but feel guilty. What should I do?
Q. Dear all. Please advise. I'VE been in a relationship with a very controlling man for 3 years. I have distanced myself recently, as I keep getting hurt,and decided to stop taking his calls. I HAVEN'T seen him for around two weeks, bv this week, HE...
A. 27 May 2013: Hi. It is a good idea to not make yourself so available to him, and to have a life of your own.
And it's great that you told him you are going out.
And perhaps, you ought to do this a bit more often.
Not every night of course, just say once... (read in full...)
My controlling bf keeps calling. I want to leave, but feel guilty. What should I do?
Q. Dear all. Please advise. I'VE been in a relationship with a very controlling man for 3 years. I have distanced myself recently, as I keep getting hurt,and decided to stop taking his calls. I HAVEN'T seen him for around two weeks, bv this week, HE...
A. 26 May 2013: Hi there. You say that you love him, and so it seems that you would prefer to stay with him, if you could change the way he treats you.
And by that, I mean for him to be less controlling.
But you know, no person can ever be controlled by an... (read in full...)
When we're not arguing, things are good. But he broke my heart. Is it worth it, to keep trying?
Q. I've been with my fiance 3 years. We had an argument over some petty BS. I wasn't even fighting with him, he just escalated to anger like he always does when we argue, and then says 'F**k this' or 'I'm done' and hangs up the phone, and then usu...
A. 26 May 2013: Hi there. I guess it really depends on what it is that you both mostly argue about.
Do you find that some subject topics, always result in an argument?
And I am assuming, that you don't live together, only because you said he hangs up the pho... (read in full...)
I like him but I have a boyfriend and now he's acting weird with me!
Q. i've known this guy since i was little. He was a very notorious guy, but now he has become very quiet. He's just tryin to get himsef out of the mess he got involved in. Im a very quiet n simple person, i hardly move out of the house, im a medical ...
A. 19 May 2013: Hi there. You like this new man and the way he kisses, but is that enough?
And now he knows that you have a boyfriend already, and may be starting to wonder where he stands in all this.
He might also be wondering if he really has a chance wit... (read in full...)
I found out I'm the other girl and I'm pregnant!
Q. I went on three dates with a guy(who said he was single)I had just met. We hooked up twice, and now I'm pregnant. We tried to make things work as a couple, but he ended that after less than a day, because he said it felt forced. We both decided to ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hi there. It does make things very difficult, now that you know he is already in a relationship.
I really think that the only thing you can both do now, is to sit down together, and have a long heart to heart chat about exactly what your expectat... (read in full...)
Co-worker first extremely nice, now seems to avoid me
Q. There is this coworker at my office. First he was really nice to me. He talked to me, always stared at me and seemed pretty interested. When we had events and trips with the office, he asked me to drive with him in his car. But suddenly he ignores ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hi there. How well do you know this guy you work with?
Is it possible he is either married or in a relationship already?
Just say he was either of the above, when he was talking and smiling and being nice to you, it is possible that he... (read in full...)
Is my personality a big turn-off for guys?
Q. Most of my friends told me I'm a very nice,friendly,bubbly,outgoing,sweet,interesting,funny and genuine person.They really like me and enjoy talking to me cos I'm fun to be around with.Some of them even told me,"it's difficult for people to dislike ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hello again. You can't really change who you are, and as you have a bubbly personality, you are probably a lot of fun to be around.
Sometimes, if people laugh loudly, it could also be a release of pent-up nervous energy, or else that person m... (read in full...)
How do I stop being a pushover?
Q. Im not getting anywhere + anything I want in life. In other words, I can honestly say that I am probably a bit of a pushover - even in the eyes of others. This needs to change. For example, the other day at work, one of the managers said to...
A. 11 May 2013: Hi there. You need to stand by what you believe in.
By that I mean, if something just doesn't feel right for you, you need to say so, and be heard.
You can be assertive, and still be respectful.
It's not what you say, but how you say it,... (read in full...)
Is my personality a big turn-off for guys?
Q. Most of my friends told me I'm a very nice,friendly,bubbly,outgoing,sweet,interesting,funny and genuine person.They really like me and enjoy talking to me cos I'm fun to be around with.Some of them even told me,"it's difficult for people to dislike ...
A. 11 May 2013: Hi there. I guess we are who we are.
It is normal to laugh when something funny is said, or when something funny happens.
So don't stop laughing because someone told you that you laugh loudly.
In situations where something funny happens,... (read in full...)
Is he a player or does he really have feelings for me in this year long friendship?
Q. I recently had a serious talk with a guy I have been seeing for a year and a half. I told him I had developed feelings for him and originally went to talk about ending the relationship as I did not think he felt the same, however he shocked me. He ...
A. 21 April 2013: Hi. Well from what you say, it definitely isn't a "Friends With Benefits" type thing, which is a good thing.
Now that you have given me much more detail, I can see there is obviously more to it than just a casual fling.
So that is positive... (read in full...)
The relationship is going nowhere but I don't want to break up or break his heart yet.
Q. I knew D for 5 years. We were officially in a rship for 3 years. Things weren't easy we always Had fight which led me crying the whole night everytime. We often Had misunderstandings, arguments and I began to lose hope. He promised that he'd change ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi. It seems like there is some kind of communication breakdown going on.
Although you apologise when you believe that you were wrong, he won't do that when he is wrong.
When two people can't agree, they can often try and push their point forw... (read in full...)
The relationship is going nowhere but I don't want to break up or break his heart yet.
Q. I knew D for 5 years. We were officially in a rship for 3 years. Things weren't easy we always Had fight which led me crying the whole night everytime. We often Had misunderstandings, arguments and I began to lose hope. He promised that he'd change ...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi there. When you say you don't know if you can trust him, what is it that he has done to cause you to feel this way?
Has he cheated on you in the past?
If it is that, well then that is a good reason not to trust him, or at least to have so... (read in full...)
Is he a player or does he really have feelings for me in this year long friendship?
Q. I recently had a serious talk with a guy I have been seeing for a year and a half. I told him I had developed feelings for him and originally went to talk about ending the relationship as I did not think he felt the same, however he shocked me. He ...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi there. You said here that you have been seeing this guy for a year now.
Could you tell me what happens when you see him each time, over that year please?
(1) Does he take you out and spend money on you?
(2) Does he call you through the ... (read in full...)
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