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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. Sorry, it was slow sending, and it accidentally posted twice.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. It isn't an easy thing to cope with, that he needs his space, and it can feel a bit like rejection.
Don't feel that way though, this is a journey that he must take alone.
And as I was mentioning before, he is simplifying his life so that... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 20 July 2013: Hi. It isn't an easy thing to cope with, that he needs his space, and it can feel a bit like rejection.
Don't feel that way though, this is a journey that he must take alone.
And as I was mentioning before, he is simplifying his life so that... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 13 July 2013: Hi. Just take a leap of faith.
What do you have to lose?
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
My ex and I spent a night together and now he says he doesn't want to get back together
Q. My ex split up with me 3months ago and I've found it really hard to get over it! I have tried to get in touch with him a few times and he hasn't got back in touch with me. A few days ago and he finally spoke to me. I asked if we could meet up as ...
A. 12 July 2013: Hi there. It is natural that two people will miss each other after a breakup.
That is no reason to go and be with them again, as it stops either of you from really moving on.
You will go on missing each other for a few months more even, and u... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to "better himself" but said he still cares - why and what now?
Q. Recently, I met a guy at school. We met in early April and traded emails back and forth. They were short but we averaged nearly 200 emails a week and would email from before classes started each day until one of us went to bed. We didn't discuss ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. Sometimes when there are issues in our lives that remain unresolved, the only real way to work things out properly, is to distance ourselves completely.
It is nothing against you, and nor is it anything you have said or done.
Nor is ... (read in full...)
Since I moved away my sister and I aren't as close and it troubles me
Q. kind of a relationship problem, my sister is my best friend, in april I moved out of state, 5 hours away. we used to be together all the time and if we weren't together we would be on the phone or texting. Well the day I moved she bail on me to come ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. Why did you move away?
Was it to go to college or in any case, to further your education?
Or did you move for work?
And from what you say here, is your sister and her husband living with your brother?
It doesn't seem that yo... (read in full...)
Are they my real friends? I can't even trust to tell them my relationship which I am so happy in?
Q. My friends hurt me sometimes but i'm afraid to let go because I dont know are they my friends? Are they my real friends? What is your opinion.? So I am in this group of 6 girls. I'm 18 and they are 16 and 17 year olds. I started school late and ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. Your tastes in socializing venues, is quite different from your friends, and so there is no use in pretending to like night clubs, if that isn't what you enjoy.
The problem here is that your tastes are in great contrast to your friends'... (read in full...)
How do I start regularly dating a man I've only sporadically dated before?
Q. I'm 28 and he's 38. We'd been in touch sporadically over the past five years and went on a date yesterday. It's not our first date ever, but before this we've mostly either been on coffee dates or hung out with other people, so dinner and a movie ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. The one thing is you don't want to come on too strong, and seem desperate.
Even though it is more than one date you have been on together.
And as he has always made the first move - in asking you out - it is probably wise to still le... (read in full...)
Is he making up an excuse not to see me?
Q. I'm a 50 year old lady. 6 years ago i met this guy in the same age group as me,we really hit it off, but after 7 months it ended. One of the reasons really was he had never been married and i think he had commitment issues. anyway after a while i ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. Unfortunately, you will just have to take him on his word.
Because, there really isn't much choice.
It is quite likely that he IS going to stay with relatives for the next 2 weeks, and it might be wise to trust him on this, and bec... (read in full...)
I know when other girls like me, but I'm not sure about this one?
Q. The girls at work seem to like me and there is no shortage of flirting. However, there is this girl who always has a go at me. Whatever she can she will disturb me. If I am playing a computer game, she will deliberately come behind me and press a ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi there. It is possible that this girl who teases you and annoys you, IS trying to get your attention.
And it seems that she has your attention, doesn't it?
Why not just walk up to her and ask her?
Or, you could wait until she goes to t... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 11 July 2013: Hello again. Thank you, I am enjoying it very much.
And I really do enjoy helping whenever I can, on Dear Cupid.
It's really great that someone decided to start this website, as very often people think there is no-one they can turn to.
And ... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for two women, not sure which way to turn
Q. I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were gre...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi. It sounds like it has given you some insight, into what is really going on in your life.
And it is always helpful to get an objective view.
Sometimes, someone else can shed light on an idea you may not have thought of yourself.
And... (read in full...)
Is he really busy or should I just say forget it?
Q. Okay so ive been seeing this guy casually who about 5 months ago broke up with his fiancé for cheating. His bestfriend told me he really liked me which is how we ended up casually dating and Everything was going fine, i hung out with his friends,we ...
A. 8 July 2013: Hi there. There is a slight chance, that he isn't fully over his fiance, as yet.
It is possible, that perhaps you came on too strong.
Because, you have mentioned here that you asked him to go out, and he said that he was busy.
And the... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 8 July 2013: Hi. It sounds like you are finding your way, towards what you want, and that is a good thing.
Unfortunately, past relationships - and especially, bad breakups - can cause us to have some emotional baggage, which we then carry forward to future r... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for two women, not sure which way to turn
Q. I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were gre...
A. 8 July 2013: Hi. Yes, it is a big decision.
And yes also, to just change jobs to something else very similar - another hotel - might not be enough of a change, I agree.
And now regards Lisa.
Although you love her and feel some obligation to stand by h... (read in full...)
We are not dating but his level of interest has dropped! I like him alot. How should I proceed?
Q. I am so lost right now, and it seems like I can anticipate the type of advice I will receive, but I think I will ask it anyway. I really have no where to turn to. So there was a phone app, and this guy that lives about a six hour drive contacted me. ...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. So there is a 6 hour drive of distance between you, and that is quite a lot.
Plus, there is an 8 year difference between you.
And judging by your age here, if you are 25, well then that makes him about 33 years old.
I guess ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or is my boyfriend dedicating poetry to another girl?
Q. Ok first of all he is currently visiting his family in colombia it's been a month since he left and there's still another month until he comes back. That being said let me continue... ok, so my boyfriend is really into poetry and stuff and always p...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. It could be that he met someone, although not necessarily.
Perhaps, he is thinking of you and how he would like to be kissing you at the moment.
Because, as you said, he is currently away isn't he?
And he has been for a month alr... (read in full...)
Is he overreacting? What can I do to calm him down?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, but the past year we have been in a long distance relationship since I had to move a few states away for school. The long distance has been hard on us, but we've managed to make it through and ...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. I think the only way to calm him down, is to come to some arrangement about Christmas and Thanksgiving.
These are two major days in the USA, and they are days when two people who love each other, would normally be together to share in... (read in full...)
Desperate for advice about living situation!
Q. Thank you for reading, I'm really struggling with this...I'll make it as brief as possible. I moved interstate 6 months ago, as I wanted a change and to live with mum (I'm 20). I have found a full-time job which I enjoy, and absolutely love liv...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. It can be lonely moving away from family and friends, that's for sure.
Was the move, only so you could find work?
Were you previously living in a country town, where there is only limited employment?
I am only assuming that you w... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for two women, not sure which way to turn
Q. I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were gre...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi. Messsage No. 2. (Sorry, I pressed the send button by accident).
It does seem like NOW is the time, for you to make some changes in your life.
And this is most likely why you met Kerry, when you did.
Remember, as one door closes, anot... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for two women, not sure which way to turn
Q. I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were gre...
A. 7 July 2013: Hello again. It is a challenging situation to find yourself in, that's for sure.
Lisa, while being sincere and she loves you, does seem to pick on your choices sometimes, just because they are not something she would do herself.
And this must... (read in full...)
My crush talked to me today and I'm so happy - how do I initiate another conversation?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles Something really great happened to me today! The guy I've had a crush on for months Talked to me! He talked to me because my friend introduced me to him, what he said was not much but I am so happy! He said my name and looked m...
A. 7 July 2013: Hello again. I agree, by all means say "Hi" and give him a nice warm friendly smile.
And he will most likely respond in the very same way.
And before you know it, you will be deep in conversation.
And you will be wondering why you ever f... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 7 July 2013: Hi there. What might be happening here for you, is that you have learned to become rather skeptical, over time.
And this can happen after a few bad breakups, and so you begin to protect yourself from getting hurt.
And so it is possible, that y... (read in full...)
My crush talked to me today and I'm so happy - how do I initiate another conversation?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles Something really great happened to me today! The guy I've had a crush on for months Talked to me! He talked to me because my friend introduced me to him, what he said was not much but I am so happy! He said my name and looked m...
A. 6 July 2013: Hi there. Well at least you have met him - face to face - so that's a start.
I am assuming that this was in a social situation, meaning that you were all out somewhere.
It is probably not up to you to chase him, but he may not have your phone ... (read in full...)
Funny Common Lies From Players & Jerks
Q. "Funny Common Lies From Jerks" Its just so funny, if you come to think of it, how people could be so tricky at times and a lot of us still believe those lies. Well, I am very inspired by women from here, there and everywhere who have the same...
A. 6 July 2013: Hi there. Yes, there are a few guys in the world who tell these lies to women and actually act as though they believe the lie themselves!
I suppose they have had lots of practise to make it perfect and convincible.
But it is not always a goo... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for two women, not sure which way to turn
Q. I've been with a girl (Lisa) since Uni, for just over 7 years. She's really a great girl who I have semi moved in with. She's a country girl who's quite shy but made the first move on me back when we started, and from that point on things were gre...
A. 6 July 2013: Hi there. It could be that you are attacted to someone you can't have - because you have a girlfiend already.
It is possible.
And she is so different from Lisa, in just about every way possible.
Keeping in mind, that for the last 7 year... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something? Should I approach him with it or keep it to myself?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years now and I love him completely. We discuss marriage from time to time once he finishes university. In the time I've dated him he has never given me true cause to doubt his faithfulness to me. However, I ...
A. 6 July 2013: Hi there. It is perfectly understandable, how you feel since reading that message, which you now know for sure, belongs to the lady Elizabeth, whose number is now stored in his phone directory.
And the only way you could say anything to him, was... (read in full...)
How can I show him I am interested without appearing too eager?
Q. I met a guy last Friday at a bar.. we had mutual friends so we chatted - at one point he even implied i was too pretty to be at the club and asked if i was there with my boyfriend. When I said no we continued to chat and at the end of the night he ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. I completely agree with you here, that you give him space to get well again, and to think about you.
You would be very wise to wait for him to get back in contact with you.
No matter how long that is.
Even if it is another week or... (read in full...)
My inlaws take advantage of my husband and I don't like it!
Q. I have a problem. I feel my inlaws take advantage of my husband and it irritates me so much. For example.he pays fees for his sister who is in university. She disrespects him. If he asks to see receipts for the payments , she will scream and says ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. It is definitely NOT your husband's responsibility to pay for his sister's university fees.
If she wants to go to university, it is HER responsibility to pay for it herself.
Or, of course, the other option is to get a student loan -... (read in full...)
Was his mother texting me an accident?
Q. Today I received a text message from my exes mother. Alas it is a holiday so I am tempted to brush it off as coincidence or a mass text. However, my ex and I broke up last Halloween and never did I receive any mass texts on Thanksgiving, Christmas, ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. Perhaps his mother, is simply trying to play cupid and get you back together again.
And you did try to make it work, but unfortunately, it didn't go well.
His mother could be still holding out, in the hope that you and her son will... (read in full...)
Bleeding after unprotected sex means ???
Q. Im 18, just moved to florida, and started seeing this guy. Weve been together for awhile, and we have been having sex, without a condom. Tonight after I got home I noticed blood when I went to the bathroom. Im scared of what this could have been ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. If there is no pain associated with this bleeding, there may not be anything wrong much at all.
When was your last period?
Could this be the start of a new period?
Whatever the popping sound is, could have even been a little air p... (read in full...)
I just feel like this guy is messing me around. Am I just being paranoid? What's he playing at?
Q. It started out with a drunken facebook hack. I was on the way back from a night out with my friend, and I used her phone to send a message to a guy she knows, telling him that I thought he was good-looking. He replied by asking her if she'd been ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. Well at least you do talk sometimes, to each other, so that's something.
Don't worry too much that he hasn't told you that you are good looking.
That's not such a big deal really.
I would say that the reason he has turned you... (read in full...)
How do I feel good about myself and show b/f a good time?
Q. Just looking for some advice, I came out of a very turbulent relationship a few months ago and have been texting a guy and met up with him a good few times in the last month, I do like him and would like to continue seeing him, but I have absolutely ...
A. 5 July 2013: Hi there. If you had a great sex life with your last boyfriend, well then there is absolutely no reason why you can't have the same with this new man.
You have said you know your body is okay, and so why worry about what he might think?
... (read in full...)
How do I learn to make passionate love to her?
Q. So I'm new to this, I'm divorced and in my 30's and completely in love with my girlfriend! This is my first and hopefully only same sex relationship. She's younger then I but way more experienced. I want to make love to her as passionately as she ...
A. 4 July 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
Hope it all goes well.
Just relax and go with the flow, and also be honest in what you like and dislike.
And you really can't go wrong, I promise you.... (read in full...)
Should I call my "friend" or write to her and tell her off..or should I just leave it?
Q. Hello Folks, A few months ago my best friend and I stopped speaking to each by my decision. She started her own busines a few years ago and I was there for her helping her all hours in the night and morning. Assisted her with her kids etc. She and ...
A. 4 July 2013: Hi. Perhaps your best course of action now, would be to just give her some space.
Don't reach out to her, to try and ask why she is angry with you or to say sorry.
Just leave it.
If she gets back in contact with you, that's okay.
But... (read in full...)
How much time do I need to get over my ex?
Q. My ex of three years dumped me. I'm trying to move on. I know I shouldn't miss him but sometimes I just can't help thinking about him.How much time do I need to get rid of him?...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi there. When you say it is over with your ex, I am assuming that it has only just happened.
Like within a week or two, or maybe even just days.
Is that right?
And so you are naturally going to miss him, because 3 years is a long time.
... (read in full...)
Should I call my "friend" or write to her and tell her off..or should I just leave it?
Q. Hello Folks, A few months ago my best friend and I stopped speaking to each by my decision. She started her own busines a few years ago and I was there for her helping her all hours in the night and morning. Assisted her with her kids etc. She and ...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi there. Perhaps your friend is a little jealous of you being free and on the loose, when she is married and tied down.
Meaning, that you can go out and socialize, where she is restricted with her business, and the time it takes, and being ma... (read in full...)
I want to make sure I get a good night of fun and then never have to see him again.
Q. Hey I am looking for some advice on how to play this situation I am in so I can snag this guy in my work before I leave next week. I started a new job like a couple of months ago but something else has come up with better money so i can leaving and ...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi again. Message No. 2. (Cont'd from last message).
And by that, I mean, that you might want MORE than just a one night stand.
You might then want to see him again, and become his girlfriend.
But at this stage of the game, you only feel ... (read in full...)
I want to make sure I get a good night of fun and then never have to see him again.
Q. Hey I am looking for some advice on how to play this situation I am in so I can snag this guy in my work before I leave next week. I started a new job like a couple of months ago but something else has come up with better money so i can leaving and ...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi there. I understand that you feel this way about your manager, and he obviously feels the same way.
But what if you did get together, and it was fantastic, but then you found you were in love with him?
What then?
I mean, once two peop... (read in full...)
My friends tell me to move on because he's an idiot, but I kinda like him
Q. Me and this guy both like each other and have been speaking for about 6-7 months. Last night we went out with our friends to a few clubs and he turned up quite drunk, we shared a kiss and that was that, until my friend came outside to see where I ...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi there. He knows you like him, although at the moment you are not officially a couple, are you?
You said you have only been speaking to each other for about 6-7 months, up until now.
And so, I am just assuming, that you mean he is a part of ... (read in full...)
How do I learn to make passionate love to her?
Q. So I'm new to this, I'm divorced and in my 30's and completely in love with my girlfriend! This is my first and hopefully only same sex relationship. She's younger then I but way more experienced. I want to make love to her as passionately as she ...
A. 1 July 2013: Hi there. As this is your first same sex relationship, it is all new to you at the moment.
Nevertheless, a clue to making love to another female, is to do the things to her, that you love being done to you.
You already know what you enjoy w... (read in full...)
Long distance love… After meeting this amazing woman everything has gone to shit. She imagined everything to be a fairytale
Q. I've been talking to this girl for 2 years online. Skype and FaceBook. I've honestly never found anyone who was as amazing as this. So, last month I went to visit her. Everything was perfect. We are very far apart. I only get 2-3 weeks of vacation a ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. What seems to be the problem here, is the loneliness of being in a long distance relationship.
And especially for her.
You had a lovely time during that 3 weeks together, and then you had to fly home, as was expected.
And... (read in full...)
My Ex asked me to marry him. I am happy but why do I feel nervous at the same time?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a middle aged woman who loved this guy sometime ago we were in a relationship on and off for sometime but now our daughter is grown now he is in another state and so am I .Now that we are getting older there are no more babies he ...
A. 29 June 2013: Hi there. You mention cheating.
And this could be what is making you feel nervous, the way you do.
And it seems that he has done this to you in the past, and so you are automatically wondering if he is still that same person, who cheated on y... (read in full...)
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