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writes:Dating advice needed! Recently my school talent show was on and I took part in it! I became really close to this boy, the DJ, and I slowly started to love him. We got so close at the show and I was disappointed when it was over because I thought we might never get a chanve to talk because he's a year ahead of me. Fortunately for me he kept chatting to me on Facebook, and began to flirt, calling me names like 'love' or 'babe' and drop a pick-up line every now and again. Unfortunately, this was all during my important exams and I could not concentrate on studying because all I could think about was him! I had to stop it so I asked him was he as interested in me like I was in him? He said he liked me but it was nothing major. Things haven't been the same since. Now, he only chats me to send me on new music and rarely talks to me at school, he only greets me if I walk past. I wonder did I ruin things? How can I get things back to the way it was?! Its 3 months on now and I still feel the same! Someone please give me advise because I feel so desperate, I miss him so much! Much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice! I must say it has been great and I feel that it was the right thing to do because my first priority should be my education! Just to the first answer, I knew him more than just one night... It was the 3 months before it too at practised etc.but thanks so much! :)
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 February 2013):
Hi there. In a disco type environment where there is a lot of dancy type music, it's very easy to be flirtatious in that environment.
It sounds like you may have scared him off when you asked him directly, if he liked you as much as you liked him.
A lot of guys do withdraw when a girl asks a question like that - they don't seem to like it much.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change what has already happened, so you just have to accept it.
I wouldn't be initiating any contact with him now, just let him approach you, instead.
And if he does message you on Facebook, well then just keep it light and friendly, but say nothing about if he likes you, or how does he feel about you.
Just don't mention it at all, from now on.
And over the next few weeks to a month or so, see how things develop.
And if it happens that he says nothing much that's personal to you and seems to be a bit holding back, it might be time for you to move on without him.
The reality unfortunately, is that it really was only ONE night that you met him,where he was a DJ in a talent show, wasn't it?
And the rest was communication on Facebook.
It wasn't a situation where he actually asked you out, was it?
And from that one night, you developed all these feelings for him, when you really hardly knew him.
I guess the getting to know him was mainly via Facebook chatting, after that night.
To avoid getting to upset and disappointed over this situation, it would help you greatly to go out with your own friends and do stuff together and have fun, which will help distract you and put your mind onto other things.
If it is meant to be - for him to ask you out - well then it eventually will be.
Only time will tell.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (23 February 2013):
I'm guessing this was one of the first times something like this has happened to you. It's normal to feel like there is something wrong with you or that somehow you screwed things up. But the reality is that the two of you are just not compatible- not everybody is so it's nothing to worry about.
Most likely he flirted with you until he realized you weren't compatible and stopped when he realized you weren't right for each other. This doesn't mean you're too boring, talkative, fat, skinny, ugly, short, tall, etc. You're just not right for each other.
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