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writes:I haven't had sex the last 3 years and I'm not sure how I will react when my new girlfriend and I get into bed. Has any of you guys been in a similar situation and what do you suggest? Reply to this Question
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (9 November 2011):
 yes i went 3 years without sex when i was 20 till i was 23 when i got married.i did not go crazy during that time like you might think, and i did not attack her like a wild animal either .lol
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reader, moon river  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 when i got with my boyfriend he hadnt had sex in a bout 2 years, basically you will probably find it hard to get into the rhythm (literally) and may finish rather quickly
i would recommend practicing moving your hips in a sexual way and maybe masturbate to clean the pipes out.
just explain to her and she will not mind at all i assure you
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (8 November 2011):
Hi there. When you say you haven't had sex for 3 years, are you saying that you haven't been in a relationship of any kind for 3 years?
So that's making me think are you scared that you won't get an erection?
And if that's the case, there probably should be no problem if you ordinarily wake up in the morning with an erection or get a partial erection during the day sometimes. If these things are happening, well then you probably don't have a single thing to worry about.
As long as you are fit and well, and have no medical problems, well then there won't be a problem at all.
Maybe you think you won't know how. You don't forget those things, it's just like riding a bike. You've done it before today and you can certainly do it again.
Don't let it worry you that it's been 3 years since you last had sex. It's no big deal. You won't forget how it's done. It's all there in your memory.
Whatever you do, don't become anxious over it, because it's the very thing that could start a problem that was never there in the first place! Keeping aware that sex first begins in the mind.
Negative thoughts towards getting and maintaining an erection could cause you to be impotent. And it only takes once happening, for it to become an obsession, where you assume it's going to happen every single time you want to have sex. Just don't go there with your mind, at all.
Just have confidence in yourself, knowing that it will all go very well and have no doubts whatsoever.
And most of all, relax and stay calm. Don't give it a second thought. It will all just happen - when you are ready emotionally, for it to happen.
Best wishes.
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