My bf is abusive, what can I do to stop this??
Q. Im only 16 my boyfriend treats me really bad he pushes me screams and does all kinds of things. I try to breakup with him but then im afraid because when i do then he gets more mad and hits me. He then feels sorry and wants me to not to be mad. I ...
A. 12 December 2010: The key word here is "tried".
Hes tried to commit suicide; if he had wanted to die, he would have done it properly, he just wanted sympathy and attention.
You have tried to break up with him.
You need to DO IT.
There is no excuse for his beh... (read in full...)
Caught him looking at porn while I was pregnant and after giving birth!
Q. Hi, when I first found out I was pregnant I was the happiest i ever felt. I had the most wonderful fiance and then a baby on the way. things couldn't be more perfect. I was writing love quotes all over an sending him cute text messages, I was in ...
A. 12 December 2010: Is there a reason why you have a problem with him watching porn?
Him watching porn doesnt mean he loves you any less.
Remember that you are still hormonal amd things like this may appear worse than they actually are.
Have you asked him why he... (read in full...)
Women who have a Facebook account turn me off. Am I alone on this?
Q. Am I the only guy in the world that won't give a girl who has a facebook acct my time of day no matter what? I can't stomach the site. It's foolish, ridiculous, petty and childish sorta like immature teenage mentality. I can understand teenagers ...
A. 12 December 2010: "sweeping and hasty generalization"
Is exactly the right phrase for what you have just said.
I have never had any problems with my Facebook page, it helps me stay better in contact with my family and friends who live far away. It makes techno... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 11 December 2010: Have you checked that the apartment building accepts large pets? It seems a little cruel to leave a dog in a flat where he cant regulary go outside or come and go ad he wants. My inlaws have a little dog, and he's always running and needs to be ... (read in full...)
He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex....
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 6 months. We have a great relationship and a great sexual relationship apart from one thing that really bothers me. He doesn't enjoy giving oral sex. He wants oral sex at least once a day and he gets it ...
A. 10 December 2010: The only way you can find this out is to ask him.
From experience, people don't like giving oral to women if they have a strong odour, are too hairy, have stubble. Some just don't like doing it. It's the same as women not liking to give blow job... (read in full...)
Does being fat mean you've got no self esteem?
Q. Hi everyone. Well I'm overweight. My parents are annoying me all the time saying 'I have to lose weight or I'll die'. I'm not that fat, it's only them who say things like that to me. My mom also says I have no self esteem cause I'm fat and I don'...
A. 10 December 2010: Absolultely not, i am 200lbs and feel sexy a lot of the time, even if i do have a couple off days a month.
However, i have accepted that i am unhealithy overweight and am doing something about it, i have recently lost 28lbs to get down to 200 and ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like anal sex with women?
Q. Why do guys like anal sex with women? Is it because it feels different or a bit "dirty?"...
A. 10 December 2010: Not all guys like anal sex. My first boyfriend wasnt keen, my second didnt even want to try it and my current partner of 2 years isnt bothered by it, he would rather not do it than do it.
We have only done it a couple times, and this was when we w... (read in full...)
Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 9 December 2010: No, you don't sound ready for a baby. Nobody is truly ready, even 30 year olds who have been trying for a couple years can have problems accepting the fact that they are going to be parents.
You are a very young girl, under the age of legal co... (read in full...)
Is it possible I'm pregnant even though the test came back negative?
Q. ok well about six months ago i was with this guy who i just met and he was 20 at the time and i was 16. we had sex using no protection or anything and now i think im prregnant. ive taken preg test but all but 1 said no and i cnt go to my parents. i ...
A. 7 December 2010: If the last time you had sex was 6 months ago, the foetus would be approx 24 weeks and 12 inches long (about 3 times the length of a grapefruit). This may be easy to disguise if you are very overweight. But it will stick out like a sore thumb is you ... (read in full...)
Why did my teacher act like that?
Q. Hi Everyone, This is my second time posting on dear cupid. I have found yet another question and I need a answer for it. It concern my teacher and I. Please, just give me an answer. So, I am in my final year of college and I am pu...
A. 5 December 2010: I really don't think he's attracted to you, although that's obviously what you want to hear!
Don't make a move, you will end up embarrassing the both of you and could possibly ruin his career by your actions.
It's a nice fantasy to think about yo... (read in full...)
Why did my teacher act like that?
Q. Hi Everyone, This is my second time posting on dear cupid. I have found yet another question and I need a answer for it. It concern my teacher and I. Please, just give me an answer. So, I am in my final year of college and I am pu...
A. 4 December 2010: There are many answers there could be;
He didn't sleep well
He's hangover
He's not had his usual caffeine
He's had too much caffeine
Hes thinking about something important
He's stressed
He's trying to quit smoking
He's not had enough vit... (read in full...)
Sexual fantasies about my cousin...
Q. For the past few years, I have had sexual fantasies of my sexy cousin. I have wanted to do anything and everything to her. I don't care if she is blood, she is so sexy. I want to have sex with her, and i am not sure as to how i should tell her. ...
A. 2 December 2010: Why on earth would you tell her about this fantasy?
You need to get professional help before you tear your family apart.
Nobody on here is going to tell you what you want to hear.
You obviously know its wrong...
Seriously, go find another poo... (read in full...)
Adoption? Abortion? Or keeping the baby from an unplanned pregnancy?
Q. This isn't a relationship question really. But out of blatant curiosity I was wondering if people out there would share their opinion on whether they think adoption, abortion or keeping an unplanned baby is the best option and why they feel that ...
A. 2 December 2010: For me it depends how far along a person is in their pregnancy.
Although the legal limit is 24 weeks, I can't condone termination over 16 weeks because of the advanced development, unless the mothers life is at risk or he child is deformed ment... (read in full...)
Do I really not have adult rights at 18?
Q. Do I really not have adult rights at eighteen? I went to the ER and they told me they needed my mom's signature. Then my mother told me she made an appointment at the gynecologist because I have irregular periods and told me the doctor will need to ...
A. 2 December 2010: It's hard to answer this question as it is different in UK, US, Asia, India etc.
Here in the UK, we don't have a gynecologist we see regulary. I'm 21 and have never seen a gynecologist but I have had an STD smear from my GP.
My mum is 44 and th... (read in full...)
Girls, what turns you off?
Q. Girls what is a major turn off about a guy? Is it appearance? Smell? What?...
A. 1 December 2010: Smelly, dirty, vain, drink too much, interrupting me when I speak, not clued up on world affairs, not assertive, angry, not passionate about their work, not motivated, lazy, too body conscious, no life direction, bad breath, dirty nails, too long ... (read in full...)
What's with this threesome double standard?
Q. My boyfriend told me he'd like to try a threesome. I told him I'd do it but that I'd also like a threesome but with another guy. He went from totally enthusiastic that I said yes to furious. I told him I didn't want him to do anything with the other ...
A. 1 December 2010: Threesomes can be enjoyable and not a problem in some relationships, however this is clearly not one of them!
I am happy to have 3somes with another girl with my boyfriend because I'm bisexual and I can't stand the thought of another man touching... (read in full...)
Any advice for keeping calm in interviews?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm new to this and I have a problem that no one seems to take seriously. I'm a temp at work and looking for another job before my contract runs out (that and commuting 20+ miles every day is terrible) I've been looking, sending...
A. 1 December 2010: Be prepared!
Know yourself and your strengths and weaknesses.
Know everything about the job you are applying for. Dress smartly, being over smart is better than being undersmart. Feel confident that you can do the job. Take time with your answers,... (read in full...)
Why is my chemistry teacher avoiding me?
Q. im really confused. i've had a teacher for about a year now, he teaches me chemistry and i really like him! hes so funny, kind and willing to help you to understand even if it means making himself look stupid. i noticed that hes been looking at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: How do you know hes constantly watching you if you're only occasionally looking up at him? Or maybe you are staring at him and he's checking if you are still looking at him. Your body language suggests your feelings without you bring aware of it. ... (read in full...)
How can I overcompensate for my size?
Q. I'm a virgin stressing about the size of my penis. It's around 5.5 inchs long with 4.5 girth. I truly want to make love, show my affection, and give my first gf (she's not a virgin) the time of her life, but I feel that my penis may hold me back. ...
A. 30 November 2010: You don't have a small penis. It sounds like you have been watching too much porn; its not real.
Seriously, stop complaining and learn to be comfortable with you large than average endowment.... (read in full...)
Who does he like more, me or his girlfriend?
Q. Hey umm I really like this guy... But he has a girlfriend, But everytime he is with me he cheats on his girfriend with me, He flirts with me, He kisses me I think he likes me... I can see the way he looks at me, I dont know who he likes more Me ...
A. 30 November 2010: He likes his girlfriend more, otherwise he would dump her for you. He's being very selfish. He doesnt love her or you, he likes playing with both of you and getting away with it.
Wake up and never intimately see this jerk again. You're wasting ... (read in full...)
Is he going to marry me? Or not?
Q. Please help! My boyfriend of one year seems unsure if he wants to marry me. This really hurts me because at this pont am ready to be married to him. He used to be so sure about getting married--but lately he said.. we didnt get along so well that he ...
A. 30 November 2010: It sounds like you value the idea of getting married more than your actual relationship.
You can't make someone want to marry you. If you do end up getting married to make you happy, he may end up resenting you.
You have two choices; get... (read in full...)
I don't like the idea of anal sex!
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex, but i just don't like the idea of it. Is it uncomfortable, or anything? Or should i just not bother trying it :/...
A. 27 November 2010: Anal sex is only something you will enjoy if you want to do it yourself.
If it is the right situation, it doesn't have to be painful. The first time I did it, it was great. A bit weird, but enjoyable because it was taboo. We felt naughty and it w... (read in full...)
Should I be worried he wants me to be his girlfriend after our second date?
Q. I recently met a gentleman @ a local gym where I work. He gave me his email - I replied - we went on our first date saturday night, but the second date (monday) he already wanted for me to be his girlfriend. He's 48 never been married no children. ...
A. 23 November 2010: Yes, that is unusual.
Your worry indicates that you aren't in the same place as him.
Gently let him know that you aren't ready to make a decision to be in a relationship yet and you would like to go on some more dates.
I'm sure that i... (read in full...)
Why is my period late if I haven't had sex?
Q. Okay I need some help, I'm 15 and my period has been 10 days late I am still a Virgin so I haven't had sex. I don't understand why its late my boyfriend fingered me the day my period was supposed to come and now its really late. I don't know why the ...
A. 23 November 2010: You're not pregnant.
Its your unstable hormones. I'm 21 and my periods are always late/early. I came off a period a week ago and now i'm back on! And I hadn't had one before that for 2 months!
If you are worried about irregular periods it might... (read in full...)
What do men find sexy?
Q. What do men find sexy in a woman? Is it her smile, is it the way she carries herself, is it the way she looks, is it her attitude towards life, etc...? I really would like to men what men perceive as sexy in a woman. Thank you in advance. :)...
A. 23 November 2010: Ahh anonymous, you brought a tear to my eye!
I love the women out there who understand that you don't have to dress provocatively to find a nice guy, and most men are kind and soft at heart..in their own way.
My boyfriend thinks i'm incre... (read in full...)
I don't feel pretty.
Q. i am 13 im ugly with brown spots (one above my lip and one on my cheek on the other side) on my face, i have dark brown eyes, and my friends alway call me pretty, even though im sure im not. i hate how there are so pretty people and i aint even half ...
A. 23 November 2010: I can imagine how you are feeling.
I have a huge dark birth mark above my right eye brow and i hate it!! However I've accepted it and even my boyfriend thinks its cute!
I was friends with girls who i thought were much better looking than me, and... (read in full...)
Is there a way you can tell if you are pregnant or not without a pregnancy test?
Q. I'm only 15 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We've always done sexual stuff but never had sex. We finally had sex but it was only for like 5 minutes or even shorter maybe. and it hurt like hell so he didn't even get ...
A. 22 November 2010: Yes, you can wait until you get a bump in about 16 weeks, and you will deffinately know when you have a baby shooting out your vajayjay in.
Take a test when your period is due.
There is NO other way of finding out before you start getting ro... (read in full...)
How much bigger will I be in 6 years?
Q. I am 15 and i am a little bigger than 6 inched erect is that good and how much bigger do you think ill be by the time im 21...
A. 20 November 2010: 6 inches is larger than average. The likelihood is it won't get any bigger, maybe a quarter inch. Men stop growing in that area when you are 18. If I were you I would be very satisfied. Remember that the pens doesn't do all the work! ... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 19 November 2010: Ahh depo shots work in mysterious ways..
My mum was on the depo shot for 6 years and never had a period! (Lucky!)
However, when I had mine I constantly bled for 3 months!!
The ONLY way to find out is with a test. However, I suspect it wi... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me I need to lose weight and it's really hurting my feelings.
Q. OK, here's a cliche situation. I am an older, married woman with two kids. I have a demanding job and I take on the bulk of the child care responsibilities. I work out abotu 3 times a week. My husband has repeatedly told me that I need to "take ...
A. 18 November 2010: I completely disagree with Varania, your comment isn't helpful.
Firstly 20lbs isn't very much overweight, I was 80lbs overweight and have recently lost 20lbs very easily in 2 months.
He should not have told you that you were fat.
Dieting i... (read in full...)
Fiancé wishes my penis was bigger, do you think I'm big enough?
Q. I need help. Me and my fiancé been together for over a year and I have to admit...we are both sexually active. She says she loves my penis size but constantly reminds me that she wish I was bigger. My penis is 6" long with 3.5" girth but she says ...
A. 18 November 2010: What an ungrateful girl!
Tell her you wish she was tighter, that will give her a lovely shock! ... (read in full...)
Can I do anything to get bigger boobs?
Q. hello everyone, im 15 and im a 32 a and im size 6 or sometimes 8. im always being bullied about my boobs and i was just wondering if i can do anything to get bigger boobs? I've heard if i put weight on they will grow but im just confused and des...
A. 18 November 2010: I wasn't even in bras till I was 15! Now I'm 21 and a 36E!
They will grow in their own time. Ignore the other ignorant people, girls and boys can be harsh at your age. Remember they only tease because they are insecure themselves, 95% of teens are.... (read in full...)
Why don't my parents want me to grow up?
Q. I'm 23 and still living at home. I envy my cousins who are in their twenties and have children with their partners out of wedlock. My parents are really conservative and I'm not. They think that you have to be married just to leave home! I ...
A. 18 November 2010: Firstly, why are you living at home? You said that your parents don't want you to leave because apparently you have to be married to leave home, but why not just take the control of the situation and leave?
Are you employed? Do you have a universi... (read in full...)
Great gift ideas for $25 and under?
Q. okay so im 13, and my boyfriend is 13. weve been going out for almost 2 months. Ya we love eachother, but were not like oooh all mushy. I have no idea what to get him for christmas! please help! he likes quadding, candy, and mint chocolate chip ...
A. 17 November 2010: When I was your age, I bought my boyfriend a cool RipCurl wallet with a fiver in for xmas. Was £15 in total ($25)... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling so sad about this amazing holiday?!
Q. Hey all, I know this is going to sound a bit silly or immature, but.. I'm leaving my partner next week to go to new Zealand for 3 weeks. This has been booked for just over a year and we got together just under a year ago, unfortunately du...
A. 17 November 2010: It doesn't sound silly, your in a close relationship.
However, have you thought about how short 3 weeks is?!
My partner of 2 years had to go away to Germany to work for 3 months recently and that was awful, but I survived :-)
It it totally fin... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that I'm pregnant?
Q. here is the thing i am 15 almost 16 in the uk -legal age of consent is 16 - any ways . me and my boyfriend of 2 years he is 24 okay now there is a age gap i am very mature for my age and my parents now know we are in a relationship and they thi...
A. 16 November 2010: celtic_tiger what little faith in pregnant women you have!!
How do you know she will be too tired and too drained?
I'm not sure if you aware of this but students actually sit down to take classes and exams. Practically from Christams, G... (read in full...)
Proper etiquette!
Q. Hi, need advice badly. Basically am in a 3 year relationship love my boyfriend very much but cant stand his family. They have no manners. Went to family meal recently his brother made really crude jokes and had a chat about it with his mam. My ...
A. 16 November 2010: Some families just have different relationships with theirs families. My parents and I are really close and we have rude private jokes which we also talk about with my OT because he is family. I don't think this makes our manners bad. We eat with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 16 November 2010: Ahh poor love. I know that feeling, one of my exes when I was a teen had a major crush on his best friends girlfriend and she was the opposite of me; blonde, skinny, dumb..so i didn't get why he liked her.
Remember, that for him, this girl is ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that I'm pregnant?
Q. here is the thing i am 15 almost 16 in the uk -legal age of consent is 16 - any ways . me and my boyfriend of 2 years he is 24 okay now there is a age gap i am very mature for my age and my parents now know we are in a relationship and they thi...
A. 15 November 2010: Sarahh._x I don't think you have read the question properly. She is happy about the pregnancy and is not even thinking of what she should do with the baby, she just wants some advice on telling her family.
Abortions don't ruin everyones lives. ... (read in full...)
Eighteen and want to be pregnant
Q. I'm eighteen yeast old. I have a real big desire to get pregnant with my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I've tried keeping myself busy but it doesn't seem to work. We've only been together for a short while. But it's not the relationship that ...
A. 15 November 2010: I can imagine how you feel.
I'm 21 and have been with my other half for 2 years and I desperately want a child. However I have to keep reminding myself that I am too young and don't have enough life experience. I'm not earning enough money to affo... (read in full...)
Am I being too much of a tease? And how should I let him know that I want to take things slowly?
Q. ok so been on 6 dates with this guy- im 21, hes 22-- have no intention of getting more intimate until much later on in the relationship (im a virgin and believe in waiting until love)... but last night we were making out on his bed (all clothes on) ...
A. 15 November 2010: I don't think you're being a tease.
From what you said, he seems to have got the point that you don't want to be that sexually intimate yet.
I can imagine that we wont take it further unless you initiate something.
You don't need to tell him... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 15 November 2010: Why did he tell her she was gorgeous?
Was this as a reply to something or did he just write it?
Need some more details please!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 14 November 2010: This guy sounds like a bit of an idiot!
I think it is unreasonable to expect him not to still have a crush on this girl, as feeling dont just dissaperate after you meet someone else. But the fact that he has written on her facebook that she is g... (read in full...)
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