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I don't feel pretty.

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Question - (22 November 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2010)
A female Australia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

i am 13 im ugly with brown spots (one above my lip and one on my cheek on the other side) on my face, i have dark brown eyes, and my friends alway call me pretty, even though im sure im not. i hate how there are so pretty people and i aint even half as pretty. I want a bf but i will never get one and im certain that if i do, he wont be an amazement like eveyone else has because of my looks. If you met me would you think im pretty?

thanks please no hurtful comments

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2010):

dmartin89 agony auntI can imagine how you are feeling.

I have a huge dark birth mark above my right eye brow and i hate it!! However I've accepted it and even my boyfriend thinks its cute!

I was friends with girls who i thought were much better looking than me, and now i realize that isn't what matters.

It may be hard to imagine now, but things will get easier and you will grow into how you look; remember you are still changing. How you are now isn't what you are going to be like for the rest of your life.

Give yourself a break. Everyone has their own look and their own special quality. All the people that I've met that are stunning and know it ain't got much in the brain department and are incredibly dull to talk to! Focus on the qualities you like most about yourself. Are you kind to people? Are you good at writing stories or numbers? Do you like sport and music? Are you a good cook?

There are lots of things that make you important and special when you look for them.

You are at a special age where you get to explore and choose what you want to do in life. Experiment with cool activities and find good friends who you feel good and confident around.

Have fun, be happy :-)

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A female reader, Supple  Australia +, writes (23 November 2010):

Don't think like that, who cares if you think you are not pretty. Being pretty doesn't get you a boyfriend it's also about personality too you may think you are the ugliest person in the world though a boy/man when you grow up may come up and think you are the prettiest and nice if you are a polite person.

Anyway you are still young and you have your whole life in front of you you still have like 50 years to get a boyfriend so who cares. Like see how many people are married in the world and maybe you are like ahhh why would that women marry that ugly man? and vice versa. Well because they don't care about the looks they do it because they love each other. Many people feel like this sometimes though it will come by and go, he best way to feel happy is to say you are pretty. You should be happy with what you have because some people might have had an accident with their face and they have to get it reconstructed and they wish their face was beautiful again but it doesn't matter because they re beautiful in their own way. I hope this makes you fell better. Also at least everybody including myself doesn't like many things about themselves though that is okay and people deal with it in different ways.

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A female reader, PurityChild United States +, writes (23 November 2010):

PurityChild agony auntEveryone is beautiful in thier own way...and for the boy, if you act confident in your self then it wont matter about looks some guys look for personality...So be confident, call yourself pretty often, and smile! =)

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A female reader, Sissy 1992 United States +, writes (22 November 2010):

Sissy 1992 agony auntYou are beautiful no matter what it doesnt matter what is on the outside its what is on the inside that counts... Trust me...

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A male reader, LovelessAct1 United States +, writes (22 November 2010):

You are so so young... there is still so much time for you to develop, not only in a physical sense, but emotionally as well. The key is confidence. Don't let anything anyone says get to you, especially that girl staring back at you in the mirror!

Trust me when I say that guys love confidence. Not so much in a sense of taking control of everything or whatnot, but in who you are. Be proud of the person you are, of the things you love, and especially the way you look. The more people that see how happy you are with yourself, the more attention you'll get. Don't be that person who sits around feeling sorry for herself, creating lists of things she wants to change about herself. That is not attractive in any way to a guy.

We like to see you having fun, smiling, being happy, and most of all knowing how beautiful you are.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010):

I have dealt with the same issues, so I know where your coming from. Most of the time we are so critical of ourselves that we can't see the good things that everyone else does. I know this may be hard, but I want you to look at yourself from an outside perspective. Tell yourself everything you love about yourself (about your physical appearance and your personality). We all have something to offer the world. This may sound completely cheesy, but it's true: inner beauty is much more important than outer beauty. Would you rather have someone only like you for what you look like? Or would you like know for a fact that that person likes you for who you really are. It will happen. Just because you don't feel pretty, doesn't mean you're not. Like I said before, you are the most critical person in your life. No one else will criticize you as much as you criticize yourself.

Good luck with everything, and feel better. Also, time is on your side. You will only get even more beautiful with age.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010):

By what you have described, yes you sound like a beautiful girl. Teenage years are tough, i've been there. As you grow into yourself more you'll start to gain confidence.

Believe you ARE pretty because it's true. Nver put yourself down.

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A female reader, Adorskable  Mexico +, writes (22 November 2010):

Adorskable  agony auntYou need to think highly of yourself and the vibe that you send out is the vibe people read about you. If your positive than you will get positive feedback.

You might have an awesome personality and a strong character that will catch someone eye and than you can build a relationship.

Don't be so down on yourself start trying to get rid of all this negativity you have about you and start thinking on all your quality.

Respect yourself first and you will be a catch for someone but always love yourself first so that you can demand love from others.

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