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writes:Hi Everyone,This is my second time posting on dear cupid. I have found yet another question and I need a answer for it. It concern my teacher and I. Please, just give me an answer.So, I am in my final year of college and I am pursuing studies in all Science areas. My Biology teacher is my favorite teacher. He is really cool. At first, he wouldnt approach me at all and now at every interval in the class he would ask " Are you ok"? Sometimes he would make jokes with the other girls maybe even pinch them but with me , he did nothing. Finally like in the second year(this year), we actually started talking about many things including if I have a boyfriend or not (not sure how that came up but he asked me so I answered).He is always funny, charming, cheeky and focused. He cares about each and everyone of his students and he strives hard to help us get A's. Yesterday, I came to school and asked him to help me with the outlines for lab reports. He said yes and we went to take a seat(me sitting facing him) but then he beckoned me to come beside him. The whole time he was helping me, he wasnt focused at all, he was not the teacher I knew and liked. He was very fidgetty..like every time the door opened, he would look in that direction then he would look down, lick his lips, look at me but when i looked at him he would face the wall as if he wasnt looking. After a five minutes , the same would occur, lick the lips, look at me then look away and again and again until I asked...."Sir, are you alright" to which he replied " "Yes, am ok" but he kept doing the same things once more so , I asked again and I even throw in jokes like "Boy, you do not seem like you are here with me , you must be still savouring your lunch..but he told me that the lunch was not that good. Well, the meet did not last long and when he found out that it was only one thing I wanted to discuss in Biology, he stewps his teeth and then left for the office. I left for home immediately but gave him a quich ring asking the same question to which he then replied , "why do you keep asking that". So, I di not pursue the matter but if you ask me, he looked like a cocaine junkie (though he doesnt smoke). You should have been there... What do you think was wrong with him. Please reply with an answer!!!!
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000 +, writes (6 December 2010):
0000BraveHeart0000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes!! So true, Tisha-1. I am a Straight A student..studying is all I do. I know that having a crush on a teacher is not a good thing at all. Infact, my parents and that so called teacher all told me to FOCUS on school and study boys later so it is stuck in my head and I keep playing it back over and over. I do not have a boyfriend but I have a guy who I already have a crush on so having one on a teacher is not only stupid but redundant.
I do not stare at him unless he does it first. Because he is always looking at me in class and asking "Are you ok" when he does not need to do that. So, what is wrong if I ask him the same when the need really arises. As I already stated he looked like "a cocaine junkie", I think that is a good as any excuse for me to ask. Plus, I do not waste time or try to grab every opportunity to be with him, he was the one who asked me to make an appointment with him so that I can discuss what I didnt understand. It was short and in the end he was pissed that I only had one question, if i was a teacher ..I would have been happy as that would mean that i would not have much explaining to do.
In our country, male teachers do not get in trouble if girls are lovestruck with them. They would only get fired if they make any inappropriate moves but I do not think he is like that. I admire him but I am not inlove with him. He is cool to hang with and he treats us like we are one and the same so he is my favorite. But I will never let our student/relationship get way out of proportion. So thanks!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I had another thought. He may be acting strangely because a student keeps staring at him and asking him questions and behaving in a peculiar manner. He may be fidgety because he is so uncomfortable in her presence, that she is making him feel concerned for his career. In other words, it could be YOUR behavior that is causing him to be uncomfortable and act strangely. He's trying to avoid you, is a possibility, because he may think you have a crush on him. As you no doubt know, a male teacher who has a student with a crush on him has a very high chance of losing his job and the student could wreck his career. We've had male teachers post here about their terrible experiences with love-struck students and it is a problem for them to remain in the teaching profession.
If you have a boyfriend or a guy you like, my advice is to spend as little time as possible with this teacher, keep your eyes on your work or the board and do not stare at him.
If he is behaving inappropriately, be sure to report him to the appropriate school authorities. Consult the school's rules and regulations for guidance with that. Best wishes and remember to keep your mind on your schoolwork!
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000 +, writes (6 December 2010):
0000BraveHeart0000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Mifbla --- Tanxxx again for the extra advice. I just wanted to get as much opninion on this topic as I can. I want to know how act the next time I see him and to not think he is a cocaine junkie and there is some logical excuse. @ dmartin89, no I am not head over heels with my teacher. I must admit it does happen especially with the other but I only admire him and I must behave in a respectable and professional way. Besides, I already have someone in mind:P But I only wanted to know the reason for his weirdness since he is normally confident, boldfaced and basically macho.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Well it could be that in class there are others around so there is no way that anything can happen. And he cant act that way in front of everyone. But alone with you its more personal. The whole fidgetty thing could be that he likes you, hes nervous, he could get into trouble. Were you wearing different clothes then usual? I highly doubt you imagined his unusual attitude because you have some teacher student fantasy. he was acting weird for a reason. It sounds like he likes you, but there could be other reasons. You could always go back with another question and see how he acts. If he acts weird again then its more then "indigestion" :)
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 I really don't think he's attracted to you, although that's obviously what you want to hear!
Don't make a move, you will end up embarrassing the both of you and could possibly ruin his career by your actions.
It's a nice fantasy to think about your teacher, and is very common. However, you need to keep in touch with reality. Nothing is going to happen.
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000 +, writes (5 December 2010):
0000BraveHeart0000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the advice everyone. @ Mifbla, I really believe it could be that he is attracted to me but I do not get the whole fidgetty scene. He is usually very bold and self assured when he talks to me in class. Wonder if it was how I was in my own clothes??
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 December 2010):
Sound like a very bad case of indigestion to me. Or he was trying very very hard not to fart. Anyway, my guess is that his gastrointestinal tract was giving him sone distress. Crohns disease is a possibility, for example. a good friend of mine has that and he is very twitchy and hyperactive.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (4 December 2010):
There are many answers there could be;
He didn't sleep well
He's hangover
He's not had his usual caffeine
He's had too much caffeine
Hes thinking about something important
He's stressed
He's trying to quit smoking
He's not had enough vitamins in his diet
He's dehydrated
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (4 December 2010):
He is attracted to you. wants to be more then teacher/student. and wants u to make the first move so he doesnt feel bad. doesnt mean u have to tho.
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